EreluRoz:
See ehn I don't even understand how a man will start hitting his wife or any other woman.

Please no matter what I do even if I mistakenly hit you (just for description, I don't hit) , or any other thing please don't just dare hit me, jejely bundle me back home. People should learn to walk away from abusive relationship. Ordinary harsh tone sef I don begin fear you for my mind and start finding my exit.

some women do the hitting

ARISHEM:
During face off, Angry Husband will warn wife to stop been rude to him. Wife will walk out majestically out of his presence and squeal "Duuuurl" on his face and you wisely expect a possessed man not to kill her for that.

some won't walk away sef

ukaface:

Why are you guys like this?
Have you met guys with bad temper? That breathing beside them when they don’t give permission can land you slap?
Have you met men that provoke women?
Why do y’all think all men are saints and nothing good can ever come from a woman?

Character has no gender preference, bad character is individualised not gender based. Y’all should think better Biko.

*spits*

Why is he not as angry to his fellow guy friends?
Face the truth 90% of domestic abuse originates from a sturbon or disloyal wife the remaining 10% are from drunken husbands. Men normally are chill na women de provoke us and we will still be to blamed

Zyrac:
a man doesn't just slashs a womans head like that. I for k!ll my ex if i didn't take the bold step of leaving before it was too late

Tell that to a Psychiatrist.

Dikegodspower:
Nigerian women always turn lord and maltreat their husband emotionally and otherwise when ever they found themselves in the west.
Rip to her, but I think she will learn how to be humble and respectful in her next world

c'mon guys, you the op and y'all that liked this horrific comment absolutely lacks human conscience and compassion, oh y'all mean that a man who smashed the skull of his once upon a time soulmate and heartrob a good man? and probably over unsubstantiated accusation of infidelity? listen guys, my immediate junior sister never had female friends and used to hang around boys a lot and we all thought she was rotten only for her current husband to confirm her virginity when he married her, Where has all our humanity gone for Gods sake, to the dogs ? her people are currently mourning her death and her kids are now left without parents for life and y'all liking such vile and senseless comments, and y'all will still go to hoses of worships? to the dead may your soul rest in peace, ameen thuma ameen.

Zyrac:


Why is he not as angry to his fellow guy friends?
Face the truth 90% of domestic abuse originates from a sturbon or disloyal wife the remaining 10% are from drunken husbands. Men normally are chill na women de provoke us and we will still be to blamed

Have you met his fellow guy friends?
Don’t you know na only women Dey na e some guys Dey flex muscle? Wait o, which kind thinking Una get sef. Una grow up for naija Abi na abroad Una grow up, you live for mainland? To see marital happenings?
Inukwa men normally are chill…smh
I’m tired of talking ( typing)

Both of them would have contributed to this

If you are a promiscuous, hot tempered and stubborn woman, please relocate alone to abroad and leave your family here

As a man, if your wife is promiscuous, stubborn and hot tempered, please relocate alone and leave her and the children here

Vice versal, As a woman, if your man is promiscuous, hot tempered and a bully, don't follow him abroad, you may end the marriage by your reactions and he will be thrown out without any benefit.

Abroad no dey favour men in a marriage, no talk say you were not warned!

palel:
From Japa to grave,
From Japa to prison.

I dey always like all these kind news

Nigerians should please stay in Nigeria. The West cannot deal with Nigerians lack of discipline and madness. Japa no be by force

cococandy:
You guys are actually evil.

Terrible awful subhuman beings

My goodness!

You know the funny thing? Asides their justification of murder, I will bet my left buttcheek that it IS the woman that brought him to the UK not vice versa.

The clue is in her job as a carer. The UK has been granting carer visas to foreign carers during to shortages in that field..ergo it is more probable definite that SHE got the visa and brought the murderer along. Ain't no way on God's green earth will a visa be given to come work at Tescos.

She should have left him to rot in Nigeria.

Elsueno:
I really really do not understand some men.. A mean, what's even thier to hit on a woman. She's soft all over, even if l let her a woman punch me, I would hardly even feel anything.

No matter what u do, I would just ignore you, if things won't work...Would just leave house for u. Only weak a## mehn beat women... metchew

Are you married? even if you are thank God you married a good one

Some women are bullies, they can turn you to houseboy if you are weak and allow everything to slide

sulaak:


Nigerians should please stay in Nigeria. The West cannot deal with Nigerians lack of discipline and madness. Japa no be by force

They will not listen. They prefer to waste all their savings to Japa when their own country is burning

hopexter:


In this case he killed the woman which was well deserved so deal with it you hypocrite

I hope you make the same argument when a woman kills her husband.

Dikegodspower:
Nigerian women always turn lord and maltreat their husband emotionally and otherwise when ever they found themselves in the west.
Rip to her, but I think she will learn how to be humble and respectful in her next world

You and the 65 people (so far) that liked this comment are absolute clowns, and I hope the women in your lives know you’re trash human beings.

aswani:


The others might not but I wil respond.

These kind of horrible issues will happen, with the innocent children suffering, unless a proper discussion is allowed to be held and both sides of the story is examined as to how things got to that stage.

A man that has three children with his wife, who has no criminal record, has been married for a while, suddenly turns evil bashing her head over and over again with a skateboard and we are supposed to just accept he is epitome of evil and move on.

You are clearly not intelligent at all. The facts in the OP state that the man has been investigated multiple times in the past for domestic violence, the woman has been found in the past with signs of physical abuse including a bloodied lip, and the marriage has long been strained over financial issues.


How you’ve parlayed all that into “the man acted out of character” is quite strange.

Dikegodspower:
Nigerian women always turn lord and maltreat their husband emotionally and otherwise when ever they found themselves in the west.
Rip to her, but I think she will learn how to be humble and respectful in her next world

Stop the nonsense. Can you kill a person because they maltreated you emotionally? That's a man not in control of his mind. That's a man with a mental disorder. Do you know what African women go through in the hands of African men? A number of women ended up in psychiatric homes on account of men with under developed emotions. A lot of women suffer a lot in the hands of men because these men lack the capacity to handle progressive or women with strong personalities. Many men don't understand how abused women are. Humility means having power but refusing to use it. Respect means maintaining boundaries of other people. Are you humble? Are you respectful towards others?

dominique:



That's the hypocrisy of Nigerian men. If it was the wife that brutally murdered her husband, they'll be shouting fear women but once the husband kills the wife, it's the wife's fault. They said women don't take accountability forntheir actions but their own way of taking accountability is by blaming women for their violent actions. An American man murdered his entire family, they said it's because he found out the children weren't his even though nothing in the article implied that. One of them raped an 8 year old, they blamed the mother for not being watchful over her daughter. They're the ones committing at least 90% of all the violent crimes in the society but on the home front, they're as meek as doves and are only pushed to violence by women. Bunch of pathetic clowns

I keep saying it that 80% of Nigerian men are just beasts and animals in human flesh, I don't even care how extreme that description sounds because that's the absolute truth.

When did infidelity or lack of respect become a justifiable reason for committing this type of murder? Mind you NOWHERE in this story was it mentioned that the woman that was killed was unfaithful or disrespectful to her husband. People have even come online to say the man has always being violent to her even before relocation but you see these animals calling themselves Nigerian men? The will either ignore reality or twist the truth until they can come up with any reason to blame women in any scenario.
If a woman is raped, they blame her.
If a woman suffers domestic violence they blame her
If a woman is killed (the worst) they will still blame her.
Cannot accept responsibility or accountability for anything but want to claim to be superior and more logical. These people irritate me to no end.

Very soulless evil beings.

Lovit:


Are you married? even if you are thank God you married a good one

Some women are bullies, they can turn you to houseboy if you are weak and allow everything to slide

If you feel your wife is disrespectful to you, the law courts everywhere accept divorce petitions. Move on and marry someone else who you feel will treat you better.


How is someone who is gainfully employed being ‘treated as a houseboy’? Is it when you’re at work, doing your 9-5?

99% of the time when someone argues with this ‘houseboy’ line, the man is a layabout doing nothing while the woman is hardworking.

If you’re not the breadwinner in the house, you’re the partner with way more free time and you’re overseas where getting a maid or nanny is prohibitively expensive…the common sense thing is to pick up as much of the house chores as possible.

If your wife works 12 hour shifts as a Nurse or care worker and you’re not working at all, why will you not take care of some stuff at home if you’re not a clown?

Sapasenator:


I wish this were in Texas in the USA, They would have fried his black ass on an electric chair. No matter the level of provocation, the worst I can do is to leave the house and never return, I would only take my clothes, documents and car.

Talk is cheap.

In whatever relationship skill you imbibe.

Learn "blank"... when it gets too annoying, you can live your life as though the person doesn't exist in your world and do your own thing.

I use it, and it works.

Zyrac:


Why is he not as angry to his fellow guy friends?
Face the truth 90% of domestic abuse originates from a sturbon or disloyal wife the remaining 10% are from drunken husbands. Men normally are chill na women de provoke us and we will still be to blamed

Many men in Nigeria have undeveloped emotions, what they want is to walk all over their wives without any confrontation or need for accountability as long as they feed her or other responsibilities they provide her, as if her Father wasn't doing that untill they met her at 25 years upward. What is causing problems now is that, women are waking up and rejecting their maltreatment but the men think it's their right to do as they please to their wives, and so it turns to fights. Guess what?!! Those with undeveloped emotions now resort to using violence to maintain dominance instead of analyzing the situation and make adjustments where necessary.

Mindlog:


Reason it is important to have a grip of your emotions, when you get overwhelmed do reach out to someone to share what you are going through, it helps in releasing repressed emotion better.

He was aware his wife triggers him and with a history of having been investigated by the police a number of times over alleged domestic violence incidents , warned to stay away from his wife...he was already a ticking time bomb waiting to diffuse. Already working, he should have gotten himself a room in a shared house which a week pay can cover the rent while he sorts himself, well that is too late.



I have a mental picture of what might have transpired between them as I have worked with such prisoners as a psychotherapist in regular prisons and maximum prison in a psychiatric hospital......the rush in his head is now over, he is now numb and with time he begins to break, he would cry requesting to see his children, he would desire to apologize to his late wife's family, suicidal thoughts would set in.....the mental journey ahead is going to be very rough.



The murdered woman is a nurse who came to the UK on healthcare skilled worker visa, the husband and children depended on her visa, her visa brought them to the UK....I know based on the architecture of minds like yours, you will redirect and say the man trained the wife from primary school, secondary school and through nursing school!

Failed architecture. Dilapidated structures.

There are so many demented guys on this forum. And poverty is their driving force.

shaybebaby:


You know the funny thing? Asides their justification of murder, I will bet my left buttcheek that it IS the woman that brought him to the UK not vice versa.

The clue is in her job as a carer. The UK has been granting carer visas to foreign carers during to shortages in that field..ergo it is more probable definite that SHE got the visa and brought the murderer along. Ain't no way on God's green earth will a visa be given to come work at Tescos.

She should have left him to rot in Nigeria.

From other social media accounts of the story someone said her 3 kids were in Naija with the husband and he threatened that she would never see them again, if she didn't include him in the travel/relocation plans.

The threat of not seeing her kids again was hanging over head, like any good/responsible mother she gave into the threat for the sake of her kids. The narrator said she was also a nurse in Naija and she single handedly sponsored herself to UK before all of this drama.

I have been appalled by the comments of many male users here who have condemned and blamed the dead woman without knowing the full story. Even when presented with the facts on this thread one guy persisted in his foolishness.

There's a deep seated hate and darkness in most men on this forum that I can't wrap my head around, they are usually gleeful and malicious at the tragedy of others even without knowing them personally. I saw that hate and darkness in the wake of Herbert Wigwe's passing.

May God help their souls because this is irrational insanity.

Nawa oooo

texazzpete:


You are clearly not intelligent at all. The facts in the OP state that the man has been investigated multiple times in the past for domestic violence, the woman has been found in the past with signs of physical abuse including a bloodied lip, and the marriage has long been strained over financial issues.

How you’ve parlayed all that into “the man acted out of character” is quite strange.

Not sure of the need to insult before making your point but nothing new there I suppose.

Things went from a bloody lip which is bad enough to repeated hammering on the head with a skateboard and we are supposed to just accept the man decided to do that solely being evil without investigating how things got to that stage to avoid it happening to others.

Being investigated multiple times in the UK or US for domestic violence, without a subsequent court restraint at some point, suggests they repeatedly had arguments and she called the police who temporarily removed him from the premises to allow things to cool down before he came back again to the family home with her blessing I might add, rinse and repeat.

The man, despite his so called violent history was released on bail, would they release a typically violent offender on bail or keep him in custody?

You want us to believe the man just beats the wife up when he feels like it, whilst he shouldn't put his hands on a woman, the woman has a responsibility to her children at least, to know when to back off during heated arguments (as does he) in order to avoid stories that touch.

Unlike you, there are people on here that have had cause to intercede in relationships, found out the true cause of friction rather than taking things on face value, giving advise as to whether the marriages can be salvaged or not and more importantly, put forward a solution that ensures things don't degenerate to a situation where children have lost one or more parents.

Dikegodspower:
Nigerian women always turn lord and maltreat their husband emotionally and otherwise when ever they found themselves in the west.
Rip to her, but I think she will learn how to be humble and respectful in her next world

Am not a Yoruba, neither do I know this couple,but if that's what you got to say,May all your female offspring learn this way too,so in their next life they won't have an idiot like you as blood

The man was wrong and should suffer the punishment for killing his wife. Now, how can we avoid such coming up again?

Someone up there said 80% of Nigerian men are beasts and animals in human skin. Looking at that number, I believe it's high time we start a Huge campaign and start encouraging Nigerian ladies not to get married to Nigerian men... Let them rather stay single than get entangled with beasts in human skin

The same applies to Nigerian men. We don't want to hear cases like this again, so we need to start a advising young men to just live their lives without settling down...who ever called it settling down... Let them enjoy their lives as bachelors and succeed

I believe it both genders start doing this, men stop getting married to Nigerian women, and women stop getting married to Nigerian men, such stories will stop

Mariangeles:


What difference would that have made?
A violent person is a violent person, no matter where they are.

So, you mean if he had stayed back, he wouldn't have committed the crime, or he would've gotten away with it? Which one?

Ask him again, that's how they always think, like they got no sense, Let's say women in Nigeria react like this,how many men will still be alive, women here gets tortured emotionally, physically, phychologically and instead of hitting their men with skateboard they die silently and some end up killing themselves

1Sharon:


I hope you make the same argument when a woman kills her husband.

Wouldn’t that be better than taking advantage of the law by putting the man through emotional trauma and abuse, disrespect, exploitation and blackmail?

I remain my stan that; The institution of marriage Is definitely not for everyone, marriage Is a mental home. Are you ready for that?

If no, better remain single and enjoy your sanity... Because Love Is never enough for this for better or for worse forever journey👌.

Klass99:


From other social media accounts of the story someone said her 3 kids were in Naija with the husband and he threatened that she would never see them again, if she didn't include him in the travel/relocation plans.

The threat of not seeing her kids again was hanging over head like any good/responsible mother she gave into the threat for the sake of her kids. The narrator said she was also a nurse in Naija and she single handedly sponsored herself to UK before all of this drama.

I have been appalled by the comments of many male users here who have condemned and blamed the dead woman without knowing the full story. Even when presented with the facts on this thread one guy persisted in his foolishness.

There's a deep seated hate and darkness in most men on this forum that I can't wrap my head around, they are usually gleeful and malicious at the tragedy of others even without knowing them personally. I saw that hate and darkness in the wake of Herbert Wigwe's passing from the comments some of them made.

May God help their souls because this is irrational insanity.

My sister e tire me.

Funny enough, I wasn't even aware of the insights from those who knew her, I deduced it from the narrative and seems I was right.

My only regret apart from the fact that it happened at all, is that it happened in UK. Far better for it to have happened in a US state where there is capital punishment. Uk prisons are more lenient so will not treat this crime as it should be.

One small comfort for me is that kids will likely obtain citizenship on compassionate grounds. If that happens, and they are able to make right choices despite this trauma that has befallen them, then her lineage never has to face or make the same sacrifices that she did.

For the rest of the animals yapping nonsense, it's times like this I wish nairaland wasn't so anonymous. I for send their deets to all embassies to never allow them leave the Nigerian borders.

Hopefully then, they will rot and decay in their own filth until the land is cleansed of them.

hopexter:


Wouldn’t that be better than taking advantage of the law by putting the man through emotional trauma and abuse, disrespect, exploitation and blackmail?

What are you on about? Are you the only ones that can be disrespected, exploited and blackmailed?

otipoju:
Painful to see. A man must learn to manage his temper especially in this western world where the system can drive any body to despair and quiet desperation.

I have been mocked, taunted, abused, ridiculed, derided , scorned by very prayerful very religious christians that I almost turned my back on God if not that I knew him so well before migrating.

He said I should " be still" and not confront anyone and let him fight for me.
It was extremely tough and painful to keep quiet when all sorts of wicked lies and false malicious gossip were being peddled against me....but I did and the results were amazing.

He vindicated me in many beautiful ways and I sometimes pray that he forgives those people...because of the punishment he meted put to them.

There is a difference between being religious and being human. Some people are evil but hide under being religious. That's humans for you.