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Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Yvete(f): 2:58am On May 01, 2013
Just curious to know if anyone has done this.

The idea is, just as you offer your first fruit of labor to God, likewise it is encouraged, not mandatory to offer your wedding night as a first fruit of marriage. Basically, a newly wedded couple should abstain from intimacy on their wedding night and instead spend the night singing praises, and giving thanks in prayer. grin grin

My pastors wife encouraged this "oath" or "offering" at pre-marital class. Although, some guys were straight up honest, " NO!". They weren't smiling. smiley I think its a good way to start off married life (to pray against mis-fortunes, to pray for unborn children, ...etc). "Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God" (Ex. 23:19). Has anyone ever pledged to do this?

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Nobody: 3:11am On May 01, 2013
You guys should be tired from the hustle and bustle of the wedding sad, so why not relax that night with praise and worship songs cheesy, then do whatever you want to do the next morning undecided!

You should have been praying since courtship started, right? lipsrsealed

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Nobody: 3:56am On May 01, 2013
Bullshit!pple should stop misinterpretin d bible.I wonder if d apostles were to be alive today,dey will be constantly askin what dey did wrong by writin those wonderful scrolls.d bible said abstinence,I did that and one hediot is tellin me to continue as 1st fruit sacrifice! nigerians and adding so much drama into d word of God!as I do after my weddin is not her biz! Period!(Sorry,I forgot she is a woman of God,maybe d Holy spirit told her)
Everday of ur life is for God,no special day!

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Mamacita007(f): 4:39am On May 01, 2013
Most pple are too tired to do anything on their wedding night. Even to pray sef might be hard.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Techwriter: 4:49am On May 01, 2013
Never so first fruit in that light. Thanks for the illumination. I pray my prospective wife understands

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by sunnyt1(m): 7:23am On May 01, 2013
This shd be a personal opinion and nothing is wrong abt it. However, it shdnt be seen as a yardstick for evrybody, give wateva u see most precious to you to your God. Personally, i dnt see it as a 1st fruit (except u are talking abt 2 virgin couples) and i dnt think nt having s*e*x dat night has any significance.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by rezzy: 7:26am On May 01, 2013
After the whole wahala of the day, can one still have time and strenght for that? Abeg nothing like first fruit on ones wedding night except there is a revelation not to do the koko.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by kambo(m): 7:38am On May 01, 2013
how about giving the whole month off as first fruit.
or the week.
whats the big deal about s.ex anyway- if they've waited all these years/months.
they can wait a lil longer .. but!
christian churches have a way of creating arbitrary laws.
Jesus on earth fought the traditions of the pharisees- they were blinded by tradition
and this culture is crippling the church.
Dont add to God's word.
e.g in Rccg, and some other churches. Baptism ,is only performed after the ritual of attending a baptismal
class for weeks!
in the bible, baptism followd salvation.

>>
People rever servants of God (MOG) mor than God because of their larger than life image.
People have problems, they dont know how to pray to God,personally , for an answer,
it must be ,the pentecostal tradition of going to meet one "Daddy",
when the Bible says "Come, boldly to the throne of grace"
"make your request known unto God".
Now, in the bible they're cases where God told a person to go meet his servant.
But that is not always the norm.
In the new testament every believer is a PRIEST qualified to MINISTER DIRECTLY unto GOD!!
how many MOG preach this in their churches? i guess the dependency will drop.

>> Brother wants to marry, the decision must be vetted by MOG!
chei.
too many moo moo's in christianity.
Brother doesnt understand bible verse , he must go meet MOG!
whatever MOG says is law.
imagine the crap deeper life teaches ,that women shouldnt wear gold!
taking whole verses out context!!
so who did create gold for? and why does Jesus wear gold!?
It's so terrible to the extent that , most people ,can't seek God directly on any matter any more,
it must be thru the "Daddy"!.
And these MOG ,some of them aint helping matters at all, they're encouraging the dependency!!

too many stupid christians i'll say. brainless morons in the church. not created so but they dont like to engage their
minds.
no wonder in intellectual circles ,most christian are baba at carrying last-na so so church church them sabi!!!
angry angry angry
all these man-made protocols.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by FindOut(m): 7:54am On May 01, 2013
By sleeping with your lawfully wedded wife/husband, you are actually making God happy. I challenge anyone to produce evidence to the contrary. The 'fruit' anybody should be concerned about giving to God is actually NOT SLEEPING with your (intended) husband or wife BEFORE marriage and preserving your body for your husband/wife.

I don't think God can be happy with you refusing to sleep with your lawfully wedded husband/wife after keeping yourself for so long and especially on your wedding night. Infact if one spouse is not happy with such 'fruit giving' and the other one stubbornly insists, I suspect such person may be attracting God's wrath.

As for those usually tired to do anything on wedding night, well i think that woud apply to those couples who have slept with themselves very well while dating so there's nothing novel about each other's bodies to discover on wedding night. But couples who abstain whie in a relationship, I don't think any amount of wedding partying will prevent them from 'unwrapping' their gifts that very night. I may be wrong sha & I cant speak for myself since I'm not married. Besides, its not surprising when you attend some weddings & when its time for dance dance dance, you'll see the couple dance for just some minutes & after that, they'll be nowhere to be found grin

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Cupidkc(m): 8:02am On May 01, 2013
Like the saying goes...different strokes for different folks!!!

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by alfaman2: 8:08am On May 01, 2013
Me and my wife didn't consummate on our wedding night. But that's alright because we have been having Satanic sex for years previously.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by rezzy: 8:21am On May 01, 2013
@kambo, you woke up on the wrong side of your bed, right?

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by WeddingFever: 11:09am On May 01, 2013
This doesn't apply to couples that have been fornicating during courtship. If there's intimacy a day b4 the wedding, no intimacy on the wedding night is just like fooling themselves.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Nobody: 1:08pm On May 01, 2013
yellowpawpaw: Bullshit!pple should stop misinterpretin d bible.I wonder if d apostles were to be alive today,dey will be constantly askin what dey did wrong by writin those wonderful scrolls.d bible said abstinence,I did that and one hediot is tellin me to continue as 1st fruit sacrifice! nigerians and adding so much drama into d word of God!as I do after my weddin is not her biz! Period!(Sorry,I forgot she is a woman of God,maybe d Holy spirit told her)
Everday of ur life is for God,no special day!

I don't think you were patient enough to read the OP...if you had read it, you would know that what was up there was basically an advice and really has nothing to do with what is or not scriptural...scripture misinterpretation does not come to play.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Nobody: 1:12pm On May 01, 2013
Yvete: Just curious to know if anyone has done this?

The idea is, just as you offer your first fruit of labor to God, likewise it is encouraged, not mandatory to offer your wedding night as a first fruit of marriage. Basically, a newly wedded couple should abstain from intimacy on their wedding night and instead spend the night singing praises, and giving thanks in prayer. grin grin

My pastors wife encouraged this "oath" or "offering" at pre-marital class. Although, some guys were straight up honest, " NO!". They weren't smiling. smiley I think its a good way to start off married life (to pray against mis-fortunes, to pray for unborn children, ...etc). "Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God" (Ex. 23:19). Has anyone ever pledged to do this?

Your post makes sense...it can be a good thing to do based on the intentions of the couples but this should not be forced on ether of the partners...

If a wife or husband do not buy the idea then I will advice that the couples go ahead and consumate their marriage...

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by nenergy(m): 2:14pm On May 01, 2013
You're joking right? Singing praises.hahahahaha What will you say when your friends asks, "how was last night", especially if you're a 'learner'?hahahahahaha

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by nice4life: 4:18pm On May 01, 2013
yvete hmmn,well I think it depends on what each couple considers as first fruit, if the couple apply abstinence during courtship they might also consider the intimacy on the wedding night a first fruit holy and acceptable unto God. Abi no be first fruit be that grin grin

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by WeddingFever: 4:37pm On May 01, 2013
nice4life: yvete hmmn,well I think it depends on what each couple considers as first fruit, if the couple apply abstinence during courtship they might also consider the intimacy on the wedding night a first fruit holy and acceptable unto God. Abi no be first fruit be that grin grin

Exactly! Nowadays many beautiful brides are pregnant on their wedding day. Will their abstinence still count as first fruit? we all make mistakes and intimacy is a beautiful thing created by God do why should a pregnant bride worry about first fruits?

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Yvete(f): 6:14pm On May 02, 2013
Find Out!:

I don't think God can be happy with you refusing to sleep with your lawfully wedded husband/wife after keeping yourself for so long and especially on your wedding night. Infact if one spouse is not happy with such 'fruit giving' and the other one stubbornly insists, I suspect such person may be attracting God's wrath.

I may be wrong sha & I cant speak for myself since I'm not married. Besides, its not surprising when you attend some weddings & when its time for dance dance dance, you'll see the couple dance for just some minutes & after that, they'll be nowhere to be found grin

Haha! Very very funny, but true. I don't think God will be unhappy, but he might just be like, "its the things I didn't ask my children to do that they worry about lolz ". I always think that a missing couple went to eat away from the cameras. cheesy

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by FindOut(m): 9:44pm On May 02, 2013
Yvete:

Haha! Very very funny, but true. I don't think God will be unhappy, but he might just be like, "its the things I didn't ask my children to do that they worry about lolz ". I always think that a missing couple went to eat away from the cameras. cheesy

Lol. I agree. Many have introduced their own teachings which they feed to the 'flock' who in turn swallow hook line and sinker & treat with all seriousness while not bothering to study or obey the teachings contained in the Bible the 'Shepherd' ostensibly preaches from, a copy of which the flock members also own and can study. & this is also not uncommon in Islam tho frankly, one is more than the other.

The missing couples who went to eat would still show up na cheesy, but those who have more 'serious business' to 'attend to' may not be seen till after the honeymoon.lol

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by tspun(m): 5:11am On May 05, 2013
i have notin to add.
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by scobaba: 5:19am On May 05, 2013
rezzy: @kambo, you woke up on the wrong side of your bed, right?

Rezzy has a 'daddy'.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by supaeagles(m): 5:26am On May 05, 2013
if you do not "deliver the goods on" your wedding night, you new wife might beging to wonder if you are maybe gay...... grin
Power to any couple that decide to do so sha.
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Pretyangel25(f): 5:27am On May 05, 2013
Hahahahahahaha!!! This is so funny. I think i wil try it on my wedding night if only my husband wil agree to that.
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Gboliwe: 5:33am On May 05, 2013
@Kambo, remind me to buy you lunch. You got it piim!so many moo moo in christendom. Some can't breate except pastor gives the order. Smh.
@topic, very funny.
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by femiero: 5:38am On May 05, 2013
Why not give your first day ay=t your new job as offering to God by singing praise and worship at work all day long? The first day of marriage is not a fruit!! You pple keep bringing extraneous materials into Christianity!!!!!!

Yvete: Just curious to know if anyone has done this?

The idea is, just as you offer your first fruit of labor to God, likewise it is encouraged, not mandatory to offer your wedding night as a first fruit of marriage. Basically, a newly wedded couple should abstain from intimacy on their wedding night and instead spend the night singing praises, and giving thanks in prayer. grin grin

My pastors wife encouraged this "oath" or "offering" at pre-marital class. Although, some guys were straight up honest, " NO!". They weren't smiling. smiley I think its a good way to start off married life (to pray against mis-fortunes, to pray for unborn children, ...etc). "Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God" (Ex. 23:19). Has anyone ever pledged to do this?

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Amjustme: 5:54am On May 05, 2013
Make u dey there!
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by cold(m): 5:56am On May 05, 2013
Hmmm...orisirisi things wey pesin dey read for this forum.Which one be first fruit of marriage again?Religion gone mad

Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by Cross007: 5:59am On May 05, 2013
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!! Me nor be that kind christain fa!! All this religious people that are not Godly,God designed marriage now 1woman of God has Come with a remodel...oya na
Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by vickkyspassion: 6:04am On May 05, 2013
kambo: how about giving the whole month off as first fruit.
or the week.
whats the big deal about s.ex anyway- if they've waited all these years/months.
they can wait a lil longer .. but!
christian churches have a way of creating arbitrary laws.
Jesus on earth fought the traditions of the pharisees- they were blinded by tradition
and this culture is crippling the church.
Dont add to God's word.
e.g in Rccg, and some other churches. Baptism ,is only performed after the ritual of attending a baptismal
class for weeks!
in the bible, baptism followd salvation.

>>
People rever servants of God (MOG) mor than God because of their larger than life image.
People have problems, they dont know how to pray to God,personally , for an answer,
it must be ,the pentecostal tradition of going to meet one "Daddy",
when the Bible says "Come, boldly to the throne of grace"
"make your request known unto God".
Now, in the bible they're cases where God told a person to go meet his servant.
But that is not always the norm.
In the new testament every believer is a PRIEST qualified to MINISTER DIRECTLY unto GOD!!
how many MOG preach this in their churches? i guess the dependency will drop.

>> Brother wants to marry, the decision must be vetted by MOG!
chei.
too many moo moo's in christianity.
Brother doesnt understand bible verse , he must go meet MOG!
whatever MOG says is law.
imagine the crap deeper life teaches ,that women shouldnt wear gold!
taking whole verses out context!!
so who did create gold for? and why does Jesus wear gold!?
It's so terrible to the extent that , most people ,can't seek God directly on any matter any more,
it must be thru the "Daddy"!.
And these MOG ,some of them aint helping matters at all, they're encouraging the dependency!!

too many stupid christians i'll say. brainless morons in the church. not created so but they dont like to engage their
minds.
no wonder in intellectual circles ,most christian are baba at carrying last-na so so church church them sabi!!!
angry angry angry
all these man-made protocols.
you're 100% correct my Bro. Those are just man-made rules nt frm the Bible. Christians should knw that we are not under the Law again but under the Grace of God. Therefore,its ur wedding nite and u can do watever u want with it.Shikena.

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Re: Giving Your Wedding Night To God As A First Fruit Of Marriage? - No Intimacy by warrikid(m): 6:05am On May 05, 2013
nenergy: You're joking right? Singing praises.hahahahaha What will you say when your friends asks, "how was last night", especially if you're a 'learner'?hahahahahaha
Lmao guy d matter taya me seff ooo,hoor.
Y'all don't get it twisted,the first fruit is actually the product of the intimacy of d marriage. #period.

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