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Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by olamilekside2: 11:05pm On Feb 28, 2015
CHANGING NAME AFTER MARRIAGE?
IS IT ISLAMICAL?

Taking The Husband's Name After Marriage - By Asma bint Shameem In our eagerness to copy the West, we Muslims have adopted many of their practices which have no basis in the Sharee’ah.

And among them is the practice of a woman changing her family name to that of her husband after she gets married.

The fact is that Islam does not require woman to change her name at marriage and there is nothing in the Sunnah to indicate that a woman should take her husband’s name after she gets married.

Actually, the Ulama tell us that this is an innovated practice that is not approved of in Islaam.

Now, I know some people will say…“ Oh, come on…What is the big deal?!!”

So read on and you will know what I mean….

The wives of the Prophet [pbuh] are the Mothers of the Believers, and the Prophet [pbuh], is the noblest of people and the best example.

And yet when we look at their example, we will realize that when the Prophet [pbuh] married any of his wives, NOT ONE of them took his name.


On the contrary, each one of them kept her father’s name even if her father was a kaafir.

Similarly, the wives of the Sahaabah and those who came after them did not change their names.


Did you ever think why they didn’t do that?

Surely, if it was a good thing, the wives of the Prophet [pbuh] would have done it and the Prophet [pbuh] would himself have instructed it and encouraged them to do it.


That is because it is Allaah’s order to keep your father’s name as an indication of your lineage.

"Call them by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah…”
[Quran 33:5]

And the Prophet [pbuh] said:
"Whoever calls himself by other than his father’s name, will be cursed by Allaah, the angels and all the people"

(Ibn Maajah -Saheeh by al-Albaani).


And he [pbuh] also said:
“Whoever knowingly claims to belong to anyone other than his father, Paradise will be denied him”
(Ahmad, al-Bukhaari, Muslim).


Now some might argue….“

But the woman is not claiming that her father is someone else.


She is just honoring her husband or she doesn’t mean it that way.

She just wants to belong to her husband out of love for him.”

To those people I say…. If it was a matter of honor to have the husbands name attached to the wife’s, wouldn’t our Ummahaat have done that??

Isn’t it the biggest honor in the WORLD to have the name of the Prophet [pbuh] attached to yours??

And yet the wives of the Prophet [pbuh] didn’t do that. Ever wonder why??

And if it was a matter of expressing love for the husband, no relationship between a husband and wife on the face of this earth was better than the relationship between the Prophet [pbuh] and his wives.

And yet none of the Mothers of the Believers expressed their love for the Prophet [pbuh] by changing their last names.

It doesn’t make any sense The last name is an indication of the father of the person and represents the person’s lineage.

Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd said:
“This is one of the beauties of Sharee’ah, because calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart…..”
(Tasmiyat al-Mawlood, 30, 31).


Originally, the woman is ‘the Daughter of So and so’, and NOT ‘the wife of So and so’. Since there is no blood relationship between the husband and wife, how can she take his last name as if she is part of the same lineage?

And surely, she is not claiming that he is her father!!!!

Also what happens if she gets divorced, or her husband dies, and she marries another man?

Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man?

In addition to this, there are rulings attached to the woman being named after her father, which have to do with her inheritance, spending and who is her mahram, etc.

Taking her husband’s last name overlooks all that.

Also, if you think about it, the husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husband’s father?

This goes against common sense and true facts. Besides, the husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife’s father.

So why should she give up her father’s name and take her husband’s last name??

And why does the man get to keep his father’s name and not the woman??!!

It just doesn’t make any sense.

Sheikh Salih Al-Munajjid says:
“A woman changing her family name to that of her husband after she gets married is Haraam and is not allowed in Sharee’ah, because it is not permissible for anyone to claim to belong to anyone other than his or her father...


Not only is it so in this world, but, we will also be called by our father‘s name in the Hereafter as well.

The Prophet [pbuh] said:
“On the Day of Resurrection, each betrayer will have a banner raised beside him, and it will be said, this is the betrayer of So and so, the son of So and so.”
(Bukhaari, Muslim).


So, all you single females out there, don’t be in such a hurry to change your maiden name after you get married.

And those of you who have already done that, it is never too late.

Take back your maiden name and reclaim your identity.

It is part of the Sharee’a.

Source: http://www.farhathashmi.com/articles-section/women-and-family/taking-the-husbands-name/

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 2:50am On Mar 01, 2015
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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by dejt4u(m): 9:37am On Mar 01, 2015
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by tbaba1234: 7:53pm On Mar 01, 2015
dejt4u:
may God bless you for this..

There is different between Arabian culture and Islamic religion.. You dnt mix the two..

The op is correct, changing last name is not islamic.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Empiree: 3:29am On Mar 02, 2015
hum, some people among the Muslims are going to say "Islam is Arab religion", eventually. Astagfurllah!

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by olamilekside2: 8:49am On Mar 02, 2015
pls let get fact b4 we conclude, it is not Arab culture, it is islamic. Prophet muhammad (SAW) was sent to the whole world not Arab only. He never said any of His doctrine/sunnah is for Arab culture but for the whole world.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Empiree: 8:50am On Mar 02, 2015
olamilekside2:
pls let get fact b4 we conclude, it is not Arab culture, it is islamic. Prophet muhammad (SAW) was sent to the whole world not Arab only. He never said any of His doctrine/sunnah is for Arab culture but for the whole world.

Jazakallah khayran
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by dejt4u(m): 9:45am On Mar 02, 2015
Astagfrullah
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by maclatunji: 7:07am On Mar 06, 2015
The OP is right but there's a small distinction I would make in Nigeria. For administrative reasons, a woman might add her husband’s name to her father’s such that it becomes a compound name.

It is sad because in our society you might face a lot of stress arising from people assuming you are not married to your husband because you don't bear the same surname. We are so enmeshed in the Mr. and Mrs ABC culture.

I can't write for other countries because I don't know what obtains there.

It is wrong to drop your surname for your husband's as a Muslim woman. The compound name indicates your father’s surname and the family you married into, people get it instantly most times in Nigeria.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Mubbyleey(m): 2:25pm On Mar 06, 2015
The Op is very Correct... The best way is to bear both ur father's and husband's name 2geda...

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by umarc19: 2:25pm On Mar 06, 2015
Subhanallah..@ OP, Jazakallahu Khairan.
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Pavore9: 2:29pm On Mar 06, 2015
Though not a moslem but am learning something from the write-up.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Zaen: 2:30pm On Mar 06, 2015
may Allah be merciful unto us.
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by olaolayink(m): 2:36pm On Mar 06, 2015
jazakallah airan.....i understand what you mean clearly but lemme remind us here that,sometimes culture determine what we do or how to do what we intend doing.....sometimes we use culture to determine punishment for an offence vis a vis......women changing name might not be in Islam and it might also be harram but it's our culture.Africa culture,Nigeria culture.....it's been happening long enough before the western invasion. Google it to confirm. some of our forefathers usually married alot of wives not for anything than to command respect, to show their class and mostly for the pride......so tell me how all dis is possible if those women refuse to change deir name.....culture and religion are 2 different things,that's why you find a Christian man in Nigeria having 2 or more wives. may Allah increase us in knowledge

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by petitmonde(m): 2:48pm On Mar 06, 2015
Please,spread no confusion!
Unchange/Change of name is has NOTHING TO DO WITH ISLAM.it has nothing to do with faith,ibadah,piety,and religion.that a woman changes her last name to her hussie's is a culture issue,neither faith or religion.That does make her someone elese's child.For God sake she wud be a MRS(title showing one is married woman) and not Miss.
BTW,aside marriage issue,how people are being called by their father's name?.we tend to use our family name as last name.does that make one someone else's child too just bcuz one does use family name instead of one's father's first name as last name.
And what has West got to do with ds?

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Ideasroole: 2:51pm On Mar 06, 2015
Justfollowit:
undecided undecided undecided

That is an Arab culture not Islamic culture
Yes.. Very true

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by maclatunji: 2:51pm On Mar 06, 2015
olaolayink:
jazakallah airan.....i understand what you mean clearly but lemme remind us here that,sometimes culture determine what we do or how to do what we intend doing.....sometimes we use culture to determine punishment for an offence vis a vis......women changing name might not be in Islam and it might also be harram but it's our culture.Africa culture,Nigeria culture.....it's been happening long enough before the western invasion. Google it to confirm. some of our forefathers usually married alot of wives not for anything than to command respect, to show their class and mostly for the pride......so tell me how all dis is possible if those women refuse to change deir name.....culture and religion are 2 different things,that's why you find a Christian man in Nigeria having 2 or more wives. may Allah increase us in knowledge

You are confusing yourself. Changing of name by a married woman is not our culture in Africa, it is borrowed from the West.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by maclatunji: 2:55pm On Mar 06, 2015
petitmonde:
Please,spread no confusion!
Unchange/Change of name is has NOTHING TO DO WITH ISLAM.it has nothing to do with faith,ibadah,piety,and religion.that a woman changes her last name to her hussie's is a culture issue,neither faith or religion.That does make her someone elese's child.For God sake she wud be a MRS(title showing one is married woman) and not Miss.
BTW,aside marriage issue,how people are being called by their father's name?.we tend to use our family name as last name.does that make one someone else's child too just bcuz one does use family name instead of one's father's first name as last name.
And what has West got to do with ds?

And you are typing this on what authority?

#Laughing.

A Muslim woman should never drop her father’s name, if many have done it ignorantly in the past, we understand but for those coming in the future, they should be informed.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by cutezain(f): 2:59pm On Mar 06, 2015
Wow I never new. OP thank u very much my ALLAH (SWA) bless n uplift u
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by yusufbida(m): 3:04pm On Mar 06, 2015
Justfollowit:
undecided undecided undecided

That is an Arab culture not Islamic culture
FOR ALLAH SAKE CAN U EXPLAIN ISLAMIC CULTURE FOR US? RUBBISH IF U WAT TO PRACTICE ISLAM PRACTICE IT TO THE CORE AND AVOID MISLEADING MUSLIMS.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by AKJA(m): 3:08pm On Mar 06, 2015
British civil law takes position of dominance in Nigeria. The law in the Quran is not without context. If a woman does not assume the husband's name after marriage, she will likely face many problems in working environment. This is not aimed at falsifying parentage. Action is judged by Allah according to your intention. Allahu Alam.
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Bimpe29: 3:10pm On Mar 06, 2015
The religion of Islam has been wholly perfected by Allah, the Lord of the worlds. Hence, no modification nor remodeling. Is either you comply and do yourself good, or you disobey and have yourself to be blamed forever.
Islam is absolutely complete way of life.
Alhamdulillah for Islam.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Destinygrl(f): 3:15pm On Mar 06, 2015
never knew but wasn't actually planing on dropping dads name for any other name
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by abdulkayus(m): 3:20pm On Mar 06, 2015
Yes, the OP is very very correct. Its unislamic to change ur surname to ur husband own just cos u got married. Changing of surname after marriage is a western culture and not even Africa culture. Even when I get married In sha Allah in future, I will tel my wife to retain her father's name cos that is d right thing to do. Although some ppl do combine both sha.
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by petitmonde(m): 3:25pm On Mar 06, 2015
maclatunji:


And you are typing this on what authority?

#Laughing.

A Muslim woman should never drop her father’s name, if many have done it ignorantly in the past, we understand but for those coming in the future, they should be informed.
to start with,are u sure u've not dropped ur own father's name?
If i ask for ur full name now,i'm sure u will give me tunji as ur first name and ur family name as ur surname.y not change that family name to ur dad's real name(his own first name),and we take it up from there.

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Jaydee009: 3:29pm On Mar 06, 2015
Culture and religion has to be separated...

We were first humans before we became Muslims, Christians, Hindus, etc
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by petitmonde(m): 3:41pm On Mar 06, 2015
olamilekside2:
pls let get fact b4 we conclude, it is not Arab culture, it is islamic. Prophet muhammad (SAW) was sent to the whole world not Arab only. He never said any of His doctrine/sunnah is for Arab culture but for the whole world.

it still does not change d fact that there is culture and there is faith
Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 3:57pm On Mar 06, 2015
yusufbida:
FOR ALLAH SAKE CAN U EXPLAIN ISLAMIC CULTURE FOR US? RUBBISH IF U WAT TO PRACTICE ISLAM PRACTICE IT TO THE CORE AND AVOID MISLEADING MUSLIMS.

You do not have to shout *cringes*

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Re: Why It Is Not Islamic for a Muslim Woman to Change Her Surname After Marriage by deeptechcool(m): 4:07pm On Mar 06, 2015
The write up is perfect. The example perfectly fits in Yoruba culture where a woman could be addressed as 'Ajoke omo Adele, aya Lasisi' ( Ajoke the daughter of Adele, the wife of Lasisi). What we are witnessing today s as a result of western colonization.

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