One of the many complaints I hear from women is that men are scarce. Really now? Did a mysterious portal suddenly appear and take a majority of the men alive to an alternate dimension? Well of course not.

One thing many guys failed to understand is that women are well versed in a language called double speak. What they mean is not that men aren't available, it's that the type of men that they want are not available. Now who are these men? Oh that's simple, high earners.

Most women want a man that optimally earns significantly more than they do. The conscientious ones will be more than happy to play a supporting role while the indolent ones will spend his money whilst saving hers. His money is our money after all.

What women however fail to realize is that as they start to earn as much and even out earn men, they soon climb into the category of the men that they once wanted. Now that they're earning the same or even more, it is very likely that they won't want those guys anymore.

A woman earning 30k doesn't want a guy earning the same or less. You could say the same for those earning significant more, even into 6 figures monthly. Why? Hypergamy. In one word.

Now for the average woman in society, there's every chance that they are most likely to meet up with average men. How many average men in this society can boast of solid job, much less earning 6 figures? This is why women say that men are scarce. Now why do women balk at the idea of settling with a lower income man?

Using a relationship as a way of explaining the flow of resources between individuals, the individual that earns more will obviously assume the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. They'll also need to sacrifice more, take charge, be more responsible and etcetera. In the case of a (legal) divorce, they also tend to lose more.

Unlike men, most women see a relationship for what it is. Now with a lot of them being a position where they earn the same or even more than the men around them, this proposition doesn't sound too good. Most women have chosen to hold out an wait for the mythical unicorn that is Mr Right. Because seriously, what does she get out of a relationship with a guy who's below her financially? She spends more, gives more, works more etc.

Usually when I hear this, I smile and I say welcome to being a man. I know a lotta women believe that being a man is very easy but a good number are finding out that's it's not so.

For hundreds of thousands of years, when men were sole breadwinners or at least they earned more, this arrangement of whoever earns more provides more was seen as fair and justified by women.

Now that the tables are flipped somewhat, a lot of women are appalled by the idea. The fact that some women have been taken advantage of by men also doesn't seem to help issues. But I could also counter and say women have been taking advantage of men the same way as well, presumably even more.

Ladies you see that middle class earning man making 70 to 100k and possibly more monthly, a lot of you are now those men. There are guys doing sales that earn below you, private school teachers that earn below you etc. These are the men make up the bulk of society.

With equality comes equal responsibility. As Myron would say, equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose. Men and women are equal now, so go out ladies, pick a man, take care of him and the children you give him till he or you dies. Let's see if we can see this equality thing through.

I mean look at it from the point of a man. He works hard, built his empire and then marries you just to take care of you and if care's not taken, your family and friends come along for the ride. Ladies can you do that?

I hang up my pen. Let the lamentations begin.

Too lenghty

Summarize so that the lazy ones won't have excuse

Too lengthy but some of the few point I read you are wrong

when will people realize that the more the text is long the more the brain derails, didn't get anything abeg

Caaz:
Too lenghty

Crucialgem:
Too lengthy but some of the few point I read you are wrong

Ok

Ballzproblem2:
when will people realize that the more the text is long the more the brain derails, didn't get anything abeg

Ok


Thank you for keeping the post at the top of this section so that people with better attention spans can see it.

garriAndsugar:
Summarize so that the lazy ones won't have excuse

Nah. Let's separate the weed from the chaff. Don't you think?

atheistandproud:
One of the many complaints I hear from women is that men are scarce. Really now? Did a mysterious portal suddenly appear and take a majority of the men alive to an alternate dimension? Well of course not.

One thing many guys failed to understand is that women are well versed in a language called double speak. What they mean is not that men aren't available, it's that the type of men that they want are not available. Now who are these men? Oh that's simple, high earners.

Most women want a man that optimally earns significantly more than they do. The conscientious ones will be more than happy to play a supporting role while the indolent ones will spend his money whilst saving hers. His money is our money after all.

What women however fail to realize is that as they start to earn as much and even out earn men, they soon climb into the category of the men that they once wanted. Now that they're earning the same or even more, it is very likely that they won't want those guys anymore.

A woman earning 30k doesn't want a guy earning the same or less. You could say the same for those earning significant more, even into 6 figures monthly. Why? Hypergamy. In one word.

Now for the average woman in society, there's every chance that they are most likely to meet up with average men. How many average men in this society can boast of solid job, much less earning 6 figures? This is why women say that men are scarce. Now why do women balk at the idea of settling with a lower income man?

Using a relationship as a way of explaining the flow of resources between individuals, the individual that earns more will obviously assume the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. They'll also need to sacrifice more, take charge, be more responsible and etcetera. In the case of a (legal) divorce, they also tend to lose more.

Unlike men, most women see a relationship for what it is. Now with a lot of them being a position where they earn the same or even more than the men around them, this proposition doesn't sound too good. Most women have chosen to hold out an wait for the mythical unicorn that is Mr Right. Because seriously, what does she get out of a relationship with a guy who's below her financially? She spends more, gives more, works more etc.

Usually when I hear this, I smile and I say welcome to being a man. I know a lotta women believe that being a man is very easy but a good number are finding out that's it's not so.

For hundreds of thousands of years, when men were sole breadwinners or at least they earned more, this arrangement of whoever earns more provides more was seen as fair and justified by women.

Now that the tables are flipped somewhat, a lot of women are appalled by the idea. The fact that some women have been taken advantage of by men also doesn't seem to help issues. But I could also counter and say women have been taking advantage of men the same way as well, presumably even more.

Ladies you see that middle class earning man making 70 to 100k and possibly more monthly, a lot of you are now those men. There are guys doing sales that earn below you, private school teachers that earn below you etc. These are the men make up the bulk of society.

With equality comes equal responsibility. As Myron would say, equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose. Men and women are equal now, so go out ladies, pick a man, take care of him and the children you give him till he or you dies. Let's see if we can see this equality thing through.

I mean look at it from the point of a man. He works hard, built his empire and then marries you just to take care of you and if care's not taken, your family and friends come along for the ride. Ladies can you do that?

I hang up my pen. Let the lamentations begin.

ur conclusion about what women want is wrong

Genders with no agenda

HellVictorinho6:
ur conclusion about what women want is wrong

So women do not want a man that earn more than they do?

this is true and it will only prove counterproductive to women in the long run because they will be at the receiving end of things.

women are being deceived that appearing masculine and giving off independent vibes is attractive to men but quite the opposite... there's a big difference between being masculine or having a bossy attitude and being a liability... men want women who are comfortably feminine and confident.. not women who are masculine... they are repelled by them..

Reminderz:
this is true and it will only prove counterproductive to women in the long run because they will be at the receiving end of things.

women are being deceived that appearing masculine and giving off independent vibes is attractive to men but quite the opposite... there's a big difference between being masculine or having a bossy attitude and being a liability... men want women who are comfortably feminine and confident.. not women who are masculine... they are repelled by them..

It's the appearance that they like.

I'm yet to see a man claim to be independent. Nature is nature, if one has to force something and repeat it to themselves all the time then it's not real.

atheistandproud:
One of the many complaints I hear from women is that men are scarce. Really now? Did a mysterious portal suddenly appear and take a majority of the men alive to an alternate dimension? Well of course not.

One thing many guys failed to understand is that women are well versed in a language called double speak. What they mean is not that men aren't available, it's that the type of men that they want are not available. Now who are these men? Oh that's simple, high earners.

Most women want a man that optimally earns significantly more than they do. The conscientious ones will be more than happy to play a supporting role while the indolent ones will spend his money whilst saving hers. His money is our money after all.

What women however fail to realize is that as they start to earn as much and even out earn men, they soon climb into the category of the men that they once wanted. Now that they're earning the same or even more, it is very likely that they won't want those guys anymore.

A woman earning 30k doesn't want a guy earning the same or less. You could say the same for those earning significant more, even into 6 figures monthly. Why? Hypergamy. In one word.

Now for the average woman in society, there's every chance that they are most likely to meet up with average men. How many average men in this society can boast of solid job, much less earning 6 figures? This is why women say that men are scarce. Now why do women balk at the idea of settling with a lower income man?

Using a relationship as a way of explaining the flow of resources between individuals, the individual that earns more will obviously assume the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. They'll also need to sacrifice more, take charge, be more responsible and etcetera. In the case of a (legal) divorce, they also tend to lose more.

Unlike men, most women see a relationship for what it is. Now with a lot of them being a position where they earn the same or even more than the men around them, this proposition doesn't sound too good. Most women have chosen to hold out an wait for the mythical unicorn that is Mr Right. Because seriously, what does she get out of a relationship with a guy who's below her financially? She spends more, gives more, works more etc.

Usually when I hear this, I smile and I say welcome to being a man. I know a lotta women believe that being a man is very easy but a good number are finding out that's it's not so.

For hundreds of thousands of years, when men were sole breadwinners or at least they earned more, this arrangement of whoever earns more provides more was seen as fair and justified by women.

Now that the tables are flipped somewhat, a lot of women are appalled by the idea. The fact that some women have been taken advantage of by men also doesn't seem to help issues. But I could also counter and say women have been taking advantage of men the same way as well, presumably even more.

Ladies you see that middle class earning man making 70 to 100k and possibly more monthly, a lot of you are now those men. There are guys doing sales that earn below you, private school teachers that earn below you etc. These are the men make up the bulk of society.

With equality comes equal responsibility. As Myron would say, equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose. Men and women are equal now, so go out ladies, pick a man, take care of him and the children you give him till he or you dies. Let's see if we can see this equality thing through.

I mean look at it from the point of a man. He works hard, built his empire and then marries you just to take care of you and if care's not taken, your family and friends come along for the ride. Ladies can you do that?

I hang up my pen. Let the lamentations begin.

atheistandproud:
One of the many complaints I hear from women is that men are scarce. Really now? Did a mysterious portal suddenly appear and take a majority of the men alive to an alternate dimension? Well of course not.

One thing many guys failed to understand is that women are well versed in a language called double speak. What they mean is not that men aren't available, it's that the type of men that they want are not available. Now who are these men? Oh that's simple, high earners.

Most women want a man that optimally earns significantly more than they do. The conscientious ones will be more than happy to play a supporting role while the indolent ones will spend his money whilst saving hers. His money is our money after all.

What women however fail to realize is that as they start to earn as much and even out earn men, they soon climb into the category of the men that they once wanted. Now that they're earning the same or even more, it is very likely that they won't want those guys anymore.

A woman earning 30k doesn't want a guy earning the same or less. You could say the same for those earning significant more, even into 6 figures monthly. Why? Hypergamy. In one word.

Now for the average woman in society, there's every chance that they are most likely to meet up with average men. How many average men in this society can boast of solid job, much less earning 6 figures? This is why women say that men are scarce. Now why do women balk at the idea of settling with a lower income man?

Using a relationship as a way of explaining the flow of resources between individuals, the individual that earns more will obviously assume the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. They'll also need to sacrifice more, take charge, be more responsible and etcetera. In the case of a (legal) divorce, they also tend to lose more.

Unlike men, most women see a relationship for what it is. Now with a lot of them being a position where they earn the same or even more than the men around them, this proposition doesn't sound too good. Most women have chosen to hold out an wait for the mythical unicorn that is Mr Right. Because seriously, what does she get out of a relationship with a guy who's below her financially? She spends more, gives more, works more etc.

Usually when I hear this, I smile and I say welcome to being a man. I know a lotta women believe that being a man is very easy but a good number are finding out that's it's not so.

For hundreds of thousands of years, when men were sole breadwinners or at least they earned more, this arrangement of whoever earns more provides more was seen as fair and justified by women.

Now that the tables are flipped somewhat, a lot of women are appalled by the idea. The fact that some women have been taken advantage of by men also doesn't seem to help issues. But I could also counter and say women have been taking advantage of men the same way as well, presumably even more.

Ladies you see that middle class earning man making 70 to 100k and possibly more monthly, a lot of you are now those men. There are guys doing sales that earn below you, private school teachers that earn below you etc. These are the men make up the bulk of society.

With equality comes equal responsibility. As Myron would say, equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose. Men and women are equal now, so go out ladies, pick a man, take care of him and the children you give him till he or you dies. Let's see if we can see this equality thing through.

I mean look at it from the point of a man. He works hard, built his empire and then marries you just to take care of you and if care's not taken, your family and friends come along for the ride. Ladies can you do that?

I hang up my pen. Let the lamentations begin.

Bro .so are u sayin Yor wife have a priiick sir?(no offenscce)

MechanicMike:



Bro .so are u sayin Yor wife have a priiick sir?(no offenscce)

Please put aside your ego and read to understand.

Women want men that make money, now women are making money, sometimes more than men.

Since we're all claiming to be equal, now that women have money, why are they not marrying men and taking care of them?

That's the question.

Because men do it all the time (mostly) without complaining.

atheistandproud:



Please put aside your ego and read to understand.

Women want men that make money, now women are making money, sometimes more than men.

Since we're all claiming to be equal, now that women have money, why are they not marrying men and taking care of them?

That's the question.

Because men do it all the time (mostly) without complaining.

exactly and since they are now at the same level with men and they won't also use their money to upgrade the men they are with unlike what the men does, then they will have to face the consequences.. you can't eat your cake and have it.

and since few men make it to the top, this makes their options very limited... and even men at the top are not looking for equals they are looking for one that will easily submit to them and the type they can handle... these career women in most cases doesn't have that kind of character.. men date down, women date up... a rich woman won't look a broke man's way unless she doesn't have other options or just looking for a sperm donor..

Reminderz:

exactly and since they are now at the same level with men and they won't also use their money to upgrade the men they are with unlike what the men does, then they will have to face the consequences.. you can't eat your cake and have it.

and since few men make it to the top, this makes their options very limited... and even men at the top are not looking for equals they are looking for one that will easily submit to them and they type they can handle... these career women in most cases doesn't have that kind of character.. men date down, women date up... a rich woman won't look a broke man's way unless she doesn't have other options or just looking for a sperm donor..

In a nutshell

atheistandproud:


So women do not want a man that earn more than they do?

what they want can change.she can seek my money or attention or both today,then tomorrow, she says she is fine but that only means she wants the same thing 4rm another guy in addition to a guy that she calls her husband who should give her permanently.the husband was not earning higher 4rm day one . he met her in school ,and their drama started 4rm there. the attention of the other guys can be seen as a disturbance at anytime but the husband's attention is always welcome. that never means the woman cannot be unhappy with her husband . yesterday ,she was satisfied with just getting 15,000 naira for dinner. today, she thinks he has to also participate in the dinner or she feels neglected.that is a case of change too.their desires can also be unrealistic. you want someone to spend on you just because you are a woman and he is rich. does it mean you can spend on him just because he is a man and you are rich? there must be some other reason but you will mistake his generosity to you for weakness and expect him to see it as nothing ,you actually want him to always be the one giving, does it mean your head never produces anything he can use, or that your heart is hopelessly hardened towards him as a fellow human being?

atheistandproud:


In a nutshell

apart 4rm those meeting in school, rihanna was richer than asap when she ..,google the rest. just as their desires can be unrealistic, it can also be realistic. it is usually realistic when their compatibility with you is above average.

HellVictorinho6:
what they want can change.she can seek my money or attention or both today,then tomorrow, she says she is fine but that only means she wants the same thing 4rm another guy in addition to a guy that she calls her husband who should give her permanently.

The husband was not earning higher 4rm day one . he met her in school ,and their drama started 4rm there. the attention of the other guys can be seen as a disturbance at anytime but the husband's attention is always welcome. that never means the woman cannot be unhappy with her husband.

Yesterday ,she was satisfied with just getting 15,000 naira for dinner. today, she thinks he has to also participate in the dinner or she feels neglected.that is a case of change too.their desires can also be unrealistic. you want someone to spend on you just because you are a woman and he is rich. does it mean you can spend on him just because he is a man and you are rich? there must be some other reason but you will mistake his generosity to you for weakness and expect him to see it as nothing ,you actually want him to always be the one giving, does it mean your head never produces anything he can use, or that your heart is hopelessly hardened towards him as a fellow human being?

I took the liberty of paragraphing your comment.

Anyways, I do not disagree with you but the issue you've raised is outside the context of this post and I do not give our resident people something outside this topic to attack. Because they do not read to understand, they read to attack and their silence means that there's nothing to attack.

In the context of this post, we're talking about settling down and not casual relationships in general. In a casual relationship, a woman can be with anyone but when push comes to shove, serious marriage things, na who ready (who get Money) na ladies dey go with. It's a tale as old as time.

HellVictorinho6:
apart 4rm those meeting in school, rihanna was richer than asap when she ..,google the rest. just as their desires can be unrealistic, it can also be realistic. it is usually realistic when their compatibility with you is above average.

Bro, how old is Rihanna? That's one.

Two, how many high earning, high value men of her station do you think want her?

If you can answer those two questions then you'll see why she settled for ASAP Rocky.

Again, this is derailing from the subject matter at hand. Please stay on topic.

atheistandproud:


I took the liberty of paragraphing your comment.

Anyways, I do not disagree with you but the issue you've raised is outside the context of this post and I do not give our resident people something outside this topic to attack. Because they do not read to understand, they read to attack and their silence means that there's nothing to attack.

In the context of this post, we're talking about settling down and not casual relationships in general. In a casual relationship, a woman can be with anyone but when push comes to shove, serious marriage things, na ready (who get Money) na ladies dey go with. It's a tale as old as time.

. it is wrong to say women marry just because the man earns higher. you cannot really settle down if you are just after the money. you can only deceive yourself or stay confused.

atheistandproud:


Bro, how old is Rihanna? That's one.

Two, how many high earning, high value men of her station do you think want her?

If you can answer those two questions then you'll see why she settled for ASAP Rocky.

Again, this is derailing from the subject matter at hand. Please stay on topic.

who says she wanted anyone except asap?

HellVictorinho6:
. it is wrong to say women marry just because the man earns higher. you cannot really settle down if you are just after the money. you can only deceive yourself or stay confused.

Alright, so why do a good majority of Nigerian women sing that they date who they love but marry who is ready (who has the money to settle down). It's almost an anthem in itself.

Why is that?

HellVictorinho6:
who says she wanted anyone except asap?

You've answered none of the above, try again.

atheistandproud:


Alright, so why do a good majority of Nigerian women sing that they date who they love but marry who is ready (who has the money to settle down). It's almost an anthem in itself.

Why is that?

those they love include those that had money 4rm day one and those without money 4rm day one. those with money include those they love and those they do not love. marriage can involve them helping you to get richer. they can also marry and cheat on you with as many other guys richer than them.

atheistandproud:


You've answered none of the above, try again.

there is no need 4 me or rihanna to answer since she wants asap. she rates him above jay z , mark zucker, elon musk,lebron, tiger woods,kanye,drake, etc because she wants him. u think her age made her desperate, why she no near don jazzy?

HellVictorinho6:
there is no need 4 me or rihanna to answer since she wants asap. she rates him above jay z , mark zucker, elon musk,lebron, tiger woods,kanye,drake, etc because she wants him. u think her age made her desperate, why she no near don jazzy?

HellVictorinho6:
those they love include those that had money 4rm day one and those without money 4rm day one. those with money include those they love and those they do not love. marriage can involve them helping you to get richer. they can also marry and cheat on you with as many other guys richer than them.

At this point, what you're discussing is a different subject matter entirely. Let's not derail this one.

This below is the point I was trying to make with a Nigerian audience in mind. Rihanna is not Nigerian.

atheistandproud:



Please put aside your ego and read to understand.

Women want men that make money, now women are making money, sometimes more than men.

Since we're all claiming to be equal, now that women have money, why are they not marrying men and taking care of them?

That's the question.

Because men do it all the time (mostly) without complaining.

If you want to pursue this topic of yours further, create a new topic and tag me.

atheistandproud:




At this point, what you're discussing is a different subject matter entirely. Let's not derail this one.

This below is the point I was trying to make with a Nigerian audience in mind. Rihanna is not Nigerian.



If you want to pursue this topic of yours further, create a new topic and tag me.

i think it is because of competition. the guys are making money too or the guys want to make money too. the guys do not want to be treated as dependants. the women are not finding even the poor men submissive. how do you propose to someone that sees the proposal as his responsibility? they know the guys want to be in charge of the wealth of the family. the guys want the authority and the guys see it as a duty to control things.the women will cheerfully spend on those they love but they can't force them(the men) to be satisfied with that.

atheistandproud:



Please put aside your ego and read to understand.

Women want men that make money, now women are making money, sometimes more than men.

Since we're all claiming to be equal, now that women have money, why are they not marrying men and taking care of them?

That's the question.

Because men do it all the time (mostly) without complaining.

what money are they making or u mean the one they make sleeping with men around in the name of hookup? Why not engage in other risky jobs men do if they claim they want to be equal to men. The mining industry is there, why are female phcn agents only destribute bills but the males one carry ladders around. My take is with the rise in hookup women now feel there’s an option to take money from men without being under them but talk about making money without the men, that’s just a smokescreen.

Bro that is mostly women from a certain part of the country... We all know that part

atheistandproud:


Alright, so why do a good majority of Nigerian women sing that they date who they love but marry who is ready (who has the money to settle down). It's almost an anthem in itself.

Why is that?

Alll i see is women who are not maturedfor a reasonable relationship. High earner or low earner does not matter in a relationship. If she marries you because you earn more what happens when you don't bring home those amounts again or you lose your job. The truth is simple marry a woman not a gold digger, women must learn contentment

atheistandproud:
One of the many complaints I hear from women is that men are scarce. Really now? Did a mysterious portal suddenly appear and take a majority of the men alive to an alternate dimension? Well of course not.

One thing many guys failed to understand is that women are well versed in a language called double speak. What they mean is not that men aren't available, it's that the type of men that they want are not available. Now who are these men? Oh that's simple, high earners.

Most women want a man that optimally earns significantly more than they do. The conscientious ones will be more than happy to play a supporting role while the indolent ones will spend his money whilst saving hers. His money is our money after all.

What women however fail to realize is that as they start to earn as much and even out earn men, they soon climb into the category of the men that they once wanted. Now that they're earning the same or even more, it is very likely that they won't want those guys anymore.

A woman earning 30k doesn't want a guy earning the same or less. You could say the same for those earning significant more, even into 6 figures monthly. Why? Hypergamy. In one word.

Now for the average woman in society, there's every chance that they are most likely to meet up with average men. How many average men in this society can boast of solid job, much less earning 6 figures? This is why women say that men are scarce. Now why do women balk at the idea of settling with a lower income man?

Using a relationship as a way of explaining the flow of resources between individuals, the individual that earns more will obviously assume the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. They'll also need to sacrifice more, take charge, be more responsible and etcetera. In the case of a (legal) divorce, they also tend to lose more.

Unlike men, most women see a relationship for what it is. Now with a lot of them being a position where they earn the same or even more than the men around them, this proposition doesn't sound too good. Most women have chosen to hold out an wait for the mythical unicorn that is Mr Right. Because seriously, what does she get out of a relationship with a guy who's below her financially? She spends more, gives more, works more etc.

Usually when I hear this, I smile and I say welcome to being a man. I know a lotta women believe that being a man is very easy but a good number are finding out that's it's not so.

For hundreds of thousands of years, when men were sole breadwinners or at least they earned more, this arrangement of whoever earns more provides more was seen as fair and justified by women.

Now that the tables are flipped somewhat, a lot of women are appalled by the idea. The fact that some women have been taken advantage of by men also doesn't seem to help issues. But I could also counter and say women have been taking advantage of men the same way as well, presumably even more.

Ladies you see that middle class earning man making 70 to 100k and possibly more monthly, a lot of you are now those men. There are guys doing sales that earn below you, private school teachers that earn below you etc. These are the men make up the bulk of society.

With equality comes equal responsibility. As Myron would say, equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose. Men and women are equal now, so go out ladies, pick a man, take care of him and the children you give him till he or you dies. Let's see if we can see this equality thing through.

I mean look at it from the point of a man. He works hard, built his empire and then marries you just to take care of you and if care's not taken, your family and friends come along for the ride. Ladies can you do that?

I hang up my pen. Let the lamentations begin.