Hi I'm best friends with this amazing woman for about 5 years now. I've been deeply in love with her for a long time (with her knowing that, and not willing to be my girlfriend, saying she doesn't feel the same way as I do). Plus she wants to go out and date but hasn't found anybody yet. Anyways, I'm almost 100% sure that if she agrees to go on a date with me just once to try and that if she only gave me that one chance, I can make her fall in love with me.

One problem: How do I ask her out? Without creating tensions? We've had fights about our relationship before and everything gets well because we're too good friends. I just need to find a way for her to give me a shot at dating her once. I need to find an original, innocent, and unselfish way to ask her out for dinner for example. How do I do it?

Please, I'd love to get your ideas because I'm really out of them! Thanks in advance!

How about dating another girl and see how she reacts to it? I know you are in love with her and that there my friend, is the problem. You have to put that feeling on the shelf and move on for now. If she changes her mind and you are still feeling love fine. If not, let it go and move on jack.

I hate to break your heart, but this situation is hopeless at best. I don't want to discourage you from asking her, but I would not put alot of thought or energy into pursuing her still if she has known you already for 5 years and still does not see you as the man she'd like to be with.

Focus on yourself. Devote your time and attention on improving yourself! Come up with clear, realistic goals about further becoming the person you want to be, and maybe after transforming over the following months, she'll have changed her mind about you. If not, you'll find someone.

Get a job punk:-|

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U mean all these while u guyz hav been together u neva took her out?

even as a friend? well i wonder what u guyz do as friends

jst take her out as a frnd to a very good joint.

no tricks no WAYO the rest is left to u

Move on. She doen't want you.

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peroxide:

( saying she doesn't feel the same way as I do). Anyways, I'm almost 100% sure that if she agrees to go on a date with me just once to try and that if she only gave me that one chance, I can make her fall in love with me.

You can't make anyone fall in love with You . . . .Just be some1 lovable
and if at the end she still doesn't dig You, no be force.
If there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry.

Respect the truth that she feels nuffin for You and move on.
She'D be lucky if by the time she starts feeling sumtin You're still single . . . . .
If not, Life goes on. Amici come prima!

peroxide:

Hi I'm best friends with this amazing woman for about 5 years now. I've been deeply in love with her for a long time (with her knowing that, and not willing to be my girlfriend, saying she doesn't feel the same way as I do). Plus she wants to go out and date but hasn't found anybody yet. Anyways, I'm almost 100% sure that if she agrees to go on a date with me just once to try and that if she only gave me that one chance, I can make her fall in love with me.

One problem: How do I ask her out? Without creating tensions? We've had fights about our relationship before and everything gets well because we're too good friends. I just need to find a way for her to give me a shot at dating her once. I need to find an original, innocent, and unselfish way to ask her out for dinner for example. How do I do it?

Please, I'd love to get your ideas because I'm really out of them! Thanks in advance!

Men I understand your situation completely. Though everyone that's replied to you so far may be right one way or another, I know you need very practical advice. I'm a consultant and I'll help you.

Check my profile, and add me to your Yahoo! Messenger chat list. Let's talk, okay?

Cheers! (You'll get her to that date, anyway!)

this is a difficult one oo.

i know becos i had been in this situation b4, whereby a guy was madly in love with me but i felt absolutely nothing for him.

at the end of the day, i didnt see myself being with him in a relationship.

my advise, just keep being her friend but try and move on with ur life, ok.

darkgoddes:

this is a difficult one oo.

i know becos i had been in this situation b4, whereby a guy was madly in love with me but i felt absolutely nothing for him.

at the end of the day, i didnt see myself being with him in a relationship.

my advise, just keep being her friend but try and move on with your life, ok.

No, no! It's not as difficult as you paint it, you know. @darkgoddes (cute handle), the problem you had with your "friendly" friend is that eventhough he was in love with you, he didn't play his part to make you feel attracted to him. Therefore, you felt nothing "deep" for him at all. Friendship is a very different ball game from dating. It is possible; only that the guy is supposed to lead and pilot the transition.

Cheers! 

OP, how abt growing some balls and telling her wts up instead of acting like a primary school kid

Guy, you are stuck in the friend zone! You have to break away and be mean then only 2 things can happen; she hates you more than the devil or she begins to fall in love because she sees another you.
Either is better than the friend zone where life expectancy is low.

@ngel0v3:

No, no! It's not as difficult as you paint it, you know. @darkgoddes (cute handle), the problem you had with your "friendly" friend is that eventhough he was in love with you, he didn't play his part to make you feel attracted to him. Therefore, you felt nothing "deep" for him at all. Friendship is a very different ball game from dating. It is possible; only that the guy is supposed to lead and pilot the transition.

Cheers! 

Trust me, he did tried his possible best to make me feel attracted to him and also fall in love with him, but it just wasnt happening.
Sometimes, i go on dates with him and try to see if my heart can race faster at the thot of him but for where, the thing just do standstill. We are still friends though and i must confess i enjoyed his friendship cos he proved to be a friend indeed.

@ngel0v3:

eventhough he was in love with you, he didn't play his part to make you feel attracted to him. Therefore, you felt nothing "deep" for him at all. Friendship is a very different ball game from dating. It is possible; only that the guy is supposed to lead and pilot the transition.

I believe he has a great and valid point

Guy don't mind the doubters, sometime luv is not fireworks it just build slowly. You can take her to nice places, not necessary eating joints, look for place both of you can play together.