I have been dating this gal for quite a while now. We're both currently in our finals in one of these federal universities.
I have had a good number of dating experiences with several women in time past; so i can possibly say im not a newbie in these Whole dating thing.

It all happened i met this gal sometime in 2022 and we got talking, she seems too good to be true. Talking about someone who's extremely pretty, sincere to the core,very intelligent, religious but rationale (not stupidly religious), Neat, soft-spoken. Talking about someone who despite she came from a struggling backgroung wouldn't collect money from a guy even when the offer is on a platter(when i ask her why so, she always tells me she would wait on her family till they can send something across. That she's contented even with her brokness even if she is starving).
Just too many good virtues i just cant mention omo. Just too many of them...

At first, as a real nigga i felt all these where just facade asper she's trying to impress me or something (possibly i've always been with fvcked-up gals in time past the reason all these attributes looks too good to be true).
Months after steady texting and stuffs, we started dating... At this point i realize a lot about her. She's actually not just what i thought about her earlier. She possesses all that good virtues and mooore.
She sincerely for the first time made me see women in general from a different perspective of how soft and loving they can be.
I also need mention how transparent and all she is. Her phone is never for once passworded, she's not active on any social media but just watssap. Even the guys that texts dont go out of context because they all know she dont entertain all those shit. If you try going beyond boundaries she put you in your place asap... like, it was after meeting this gal i realized how much trauma i suffered from past relationships and insecurities of maybe my women cheating or something...


As a guy, when you meet someone like her. You already know she's for keeps. But here is my problem.

Her dad somehow found out about me and he's strongly against watever it is we have.
Threatening to arrest me if i dont abstain from his daughter. He claims i jinxed her or something. To set records straight. This gal is an adult. She is 21 while i'll be clocking 25 in couple of days. I believe she's old enough to make some decisions for herself.

I love this gal and she feels crazily same way about me (possibly the reason the dad feels i jinxed her) ... its been one year plus of dating and watever beautiful thing we share seems to be waxing stronger as the day goes by.

N.B
Im still a young guy who is not anywhere close to being stable just yet. But still she chose to stick and build with me. I'm striving and hustling but still hasn't found stability.

I have so much more to say but i think i need cut it short here.

Please my question; Is it proper for her dad to do all that?? The threatening and all. It hurt so much realizing the much effort he's investing to ruin the beautiful thing i and his daughter share. She's an adult and i personally think he should at least not dictate everything that goes on in her life at this point.

Please how best can i handle this?? I need all your suggestions please.
I will spend a good time lurking around the comment section for your inputs.
Thank you

Dominique
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Bro!
If the girl is everything you say she is and is ready to stick by you through thick and thin, then it's up to her to make her dad see reason why she wants to build her bus stop with you. Her dad owes her the explanation of why he believes you have jinxed her so let her get to work with her dad.

Then, in it all, you have not said anything about the girl's mother. Is she late or does she agree with her husband about you being bad luck to their daughter?

Bankowner:
Bro!
If the girl is everything you say she is and is ready to stick by you through thick and thin, then it's up to her to make her dad see reason why she wants to build her bus stop with you. Her dad owes her the explanation of why he believes you have jinxed her so let her get to work with her dad.

Then, in it all, you have not said anything about the girl's mother. Is she late or does she agree with her husband about you being bad luck to their daughter?

Thanks so much my Bro.
The girl's mum is still alive.

They both claim they dont want her to venture into anything such as relationship untill she's ready to settle down. That she's too young and whatnot.

But the funny thing is; this same Dad saying the daughter is too young for dating actually got married to his wife(my gal's mum) when she was actually same age my gal is currently.

And how do you possibly expect your daughter to just get married without dating to atleast know this person she is wanting to spend her life with

Are you ready to marry her now? Or immediately after she graduates? If not, then i see no reason why you should bother yourself about her father accepting you or not.

As you have said she's loyal and the love is mutual so, Just keep up with your relationship and most importantly focus on your studies. After graduation, there is still life ahead. Pray to get something doing asap, so that she don't slip away from you.

On the other side, her dad been protective of her, might have someone arranged waiting for her. Just keep your fingers crossed and let nature take it place.

at 24, you have no direction in life yet, no stability, and you're worried about if a girl would leave you...? you still have a lot to learn in life... but I will tell you one thing, women are not going anywhere!... focus on yourself first.. you think there's no one like her? that's how emotional investment, oneitis and scarcity mentality begins... the next thing you know, you're trying so hard to impress her, trying so hard to convince her while losing yourself slowly... and when the time comes, she will tell you what you will never be able to recover from... you think because she's 21, she's still young abi? lol don't worry, let an established man or a man who see beyond the facade handle her first, your eyes go clear...

all these things you're feeling now is just an infatuation, a temporary feeling, an illusion... women are not going anywhere!

Fathers can be overprotective sometimes especially towards their daughters who are of good virtues and character.You know success is the best revenge; focus on your studies for now, come out with good grades,earn a well paying job and if your girl still maintain those refined qualities,seek for her hand in marriage. That time,her father will openly accept you but for now,he will still see you as a threat.

Since the lady is sticking with you, you have no problem. The only challenge here is if you will not make the lady regret it. I encourage young adults to have committed relationships before they venture out of school because it becomes really difficult for you to make a good choice when faced with life's daunting challenges. If you know that you will not make the lady lose focus of her own dreams and ambitions, pls. ignore the father. He may even be testing your resoluteness.

If you break the girl's heart, 10,000 thundering barnacles will infect your pompom.

Forget about that girl

Babe wey her eyes never open. E go shock you. Anyone can change.