UjuJoan2:


I will NEVER encourage my daughters to date for money. The difference is that they can walk away when they get treated badly. Money gives you a voice.

You think the fact that a guy married a woman and took her out of poverty is some kind of victory? She should go ahead and marry the man and face whatever abuse he will definitely give her. I’ve seen women married to wealthy men without a penny to their name. I’ve seen a man give the maid money for upkeep because he doesn’t want the wife to get carried away with money. I’ve see a man buy special foodstuffs for himself and separate ones for the wife. The other day a lady posted about how her husband would buy chicken and eat alone and let them go hungry. Imagine the humiliation? When God has given you all it takes to take care of yourself!!!

Only a man will talk the way you are talking, because you know what you stand to gain by having a wife who depends on you for every single thing. Then you can have complete control over here and be free to treat her like a slave.

Only poor people think marriage is a way out of poverty, and that is why they are poor.

I can’t even imagine how degrading it will be for a woman to depend on a man for everything!!! I have never done it and my daughters will never do it.

you've seen all negative thing about women marrying rich man but you've never seen a positive one? I'm glad i share the goodness of one of the numerous positive ones that exist. The fact that you have your own money even as a lady doesn't stop a wicked man from maltreating you, expecially if you guys live in Nigeria. Osinachi was a clear case study. There are tons of women earning their income even before they met their husbands but the men are thorn in their flesh. You think those marrying rich or comfortable guys are so foolish like they can accept just anything all because he has money? No they don't. There are other character they look out in those men before accepting. Some will never date you not to talk of marrying you if you're into cyber fraud popularly known as Yahoo Yahoo or if your source of income isn't genuine.

Unless your daughters will live and marry in saner clines where MEN generally behave normal then they're free from any form of abuse from their spouses but if they live and marry in Nigeria, even if they're the ones bankrolling the man, they can still be maltreating them. The system in Nigeria give us some sort of leverage and veto power over women. We believed we're the head so we have the final say. So if you think a man cannot treat you like shit because you're bankrolling him or because you're a super woman then let me assume you don't know we men.

Poor or not poor some men are naturally inhumane. Rich or not rich some men are naturally kind

The most important thing is that the lady from poor home who got married to a Canadian man is happy. She's living happily with her lovely kids and husband. I believe your view doesn't hold water as far as she's concern.

She's a super woman.

UjuJoan2:


I will NEVER encourage my daughters to date for money. The difference is that they can walk away when they get treated badly. Money gives you a voice.

You think the fact that a guy married a woman and took her out of poverty is some kind of victory? She should go ahead and marry the man and face whatever abuse he will definitely give her. I’ve seen women married to wealthy men without a penny to their name. I’ve seen a man give the maid money for upkeep because he doesn’t want the wife to get carried away with money. I’ve see a man buy special foodstuffs for himself and separate ones for the wife. The other day a lady posted about how her husband would buy chicken and eat alone and let them go hungry. Imagine the humiliation? When God has given you all it takes to take care of yourself!!!

Only a man will talk the way you are talking, because you know what you stand to gain by having a wife who depends on you for every single thing. Then you can have complete control over here and be free to treat her like a slave.

Only poor people think marriage is a way out of poverty, and that is why they are poor.

I can’t even imagine how degrading it will be for a woman to depend on a man for everything!!! I have never done it and my daughters will never do it.

Teach your daughters to keep their virginity till marriage. Teach them not to keep school boyfriend or sleep around with multiple bodycount. Africa society do not fvcking care about your money as a woman. They're more interested how you keep and preserve yourself.

Teach them to close their legs till after marriage

Gerrard59:


Apparently, you joined Nairaland in your mid-20s. My point is that period was a glorious one in Nigeria's economic history. That period cannot and shouldn't be compared to 2015 - present.



I am not making any argument. People have the right to choose. I am stating that ladies marry out of poverty. It happens, that is my point.



Why not? It has its advantages.



While this is true, cases of it being positive also exists. There are good and bad people everywhere.

The difference now is that people want quick money. Do you know what it takes for a graduate to serve food and wash plates in a restaurant? And learn how to braid and sew? Only months before then I was sitting in the front seat of a handsome dude’s car forming “babe” Do you think it was easy to walk away from that kind of luxury to face hardship? How many young girls of nowadays can do that? But even in the relationship I face oppression that I knew would only get worse in marriage!!!

The advantage they have now is even more than what we had back then. Now everyone makes money through tik Tok and YouTube. Lots of IT and STEM opportunities that we never had then. Now people work in Nigeria and earn in foreign currencies from providing services online. There are now very organized importation and exportation businesses. The girl I buy foodstuffs from to ship abroad is only 24. You think she will marry an old man out of desperation?

I have nephews and nieces who are recent graduates and already working, some are into businesses. The way we were raised, no offspring of ours will ever see hook up as a means of income.

My boss made her daughter learn make up, nails, hair, sewing, all while she was in the university. Even though she knew she was sending the girl abroad after graduation.

My point is that, you are what you make of yourself. Rich people stay rich because they plan their future. Poor people plan based on other people’s benevolence!

My daughter braids at 13 and she does it for fun now, but this is a skill that can earn her money in the future.

I pray I don’t teach them that things are hard now and it’s okay to follow men for money. What kind of mother would I be?

UjuJoan2:


The difference now is that people want quick money. Do you know what it takes for a graduate to serve food and wash plates in a restaurant? And learn how to braid and sew? Only months before then I was sitting in the front seat of a handsome dude’s car forming “babe” Do you think it was easy to walk away from that kind of luxury to face hardship? How many young girls of nowadays can do that? But even in the relationship I face oppression that I knew would only get worse in marriage!!!

gs are hard now and it’s okay to follow men for money. What kind of mother would I be?

You have done well for yourself and family. Well done.

I agree with the bold too. People want it quick quick whereas legitimate wealth takes time to build.

UnfairLife7:
Teach your daughters to keep their virginity till marriage. Teach them not to keep school boyfriend or sleep around with multiple bodycount. Africa society do not fvcking care about your money as a woman. They're more interested how you keep and preserve yourself.

Teach them to close their legs till after marriage

You are just lying to yourself. I was not a virgin but I had my pick of suitors.

I will choose financial independence over virginity anytime any day. A man will only pamper a virgin for a while but if you have your own money you will have your husband’s respect.

You men should stop deceiving young girls.

You are a liar if you say Africa men don’t care about a woman’s money. As a matter of fact, only an abuser will intentionally choose to marry a woman without her own money, just so he can subject her to emotional and physical abuse.

Any self respecting man will want a wife who knows her worth and is able to impact quality standards on the kids.

UjuJoan2:


You are just lying to yourself. I was not a virgin but I had my pick of suitors.

I will choose financial independence over virginity anytime any day. A man will only pamper a virgin for a while but if you have your own money you will have your husband’s respect.

You men should stop deceiving young girls.

You are a liar if you say Africa men don’t care about a woman’s money. As a matter of fact, only an abuser will intentionally choose to marry a woman without her own money, just so he can subject her to emotional and physical abuse.

Any self respecting man will want a wife who knows her worth and is able to impact quality standards on the kids.

where did i say she shouldn't have her own money? Of course she can but that wouldn't stop a wicked man from maltreating his wife.

UnfairLife7:
Teach your daughters to keep their virginity till marriage. Teach them not to keep school boyfriend or sleep around with multiple bodycount. Africa society do not fvcking care about your money as a woman. They're more interested how you keep and preserve yourself.

Teach them to close their legs till after marriage

You don’t have to have to be a virgin to preserve yourself. When I met my ex I was a virgin, but I still left him, despite the emotional blackmail and threats. He said I will regret it and no man will ever marry me because I wasn’t a virgin, but they were all lies. I still got married to a man that respects me, I still had my kids abroad, I still gave myself a life he could never have given me.

Only a woman who knows her worth can do that!!

I will teach my girls to know their value and never let a man dictate what they are worth.

UnfairLife7:
where did i say she shouldn't have her own money? Of course she can but that wouldn't stop a wicked man from maltreating his wife.

If she has her own money she will never marry a wicked man. She CHOOSE who she will marry. And even if she makes a mistake, she can walk away wi the her head held high!

Only money can give a woman that kind of power!!

UnfairLife7:
you've seen all negative thing about women marrying rich man but you've never seen a positive one? I'm glad i share the goodness of one of the numerous positive ones that exist. The fact that you have your own money even as a lady doesn't stop a wicked man from maltreating you, expecially if you guys live in Nigeria. Osinachi was a clear case study. There are tons of women earning their income even before they met their husbands but the men are thorn in their flesh. You think those marrying rich or comfortable guys are so foolish like they can accept just anything all because he has money? No they don't. There are other character they look out in those men before accepting. Some will never date you not to talk of marrying you if you're into cyber fraud popularly known as Yahoo Yahoo or if your source of income isn't genuine.

Unless your daughters will live and marry in saner clines where MEN generally behave normal then they're free from any form of abuse from their spouses but if they live and marry in Nigeria, even if they're the ones bankrolling the man, they can still be maltreating them. The system in Nigeria give us some sort of leverage and veto power over women. We believed we're the head so we have the final say. So if you think a man cannot treat you like shit because you're bankrolling him or because you're a super woman then let me assume you don't know we men.

Poor or not poor some men are naturally inhumane. Rich or not rich some men are naturally kind

The most important thing is that the lady from poor home who got married to a Canadian man is happy. She's living happily with her lovely kids and husband. I believe your view doesn't hold water as far as she's concern.

She's a super woman.

I have never seen a positive one. Maybe they exist, but I have never seen.

My husband is still the head of the family. He is in charge and takes decisions concerning our family and the kids. That is our culture and I respect that. But he respects me enough not to treat me like I am insignificant.

Osinachi is a victim of the Nigerian culture that makes women believe without a husband they are nothing. Me I would have remained single if I didn’t meet the kind of man I wanted. That’s how serious I was about my freedom.

You think your so called friend marrying a Canadian makes her free of abuse? Look at what that lady dancer’s husband is putting her through, and she’s a celebrity oh. Imagine if she were poor!!!

Have you not see Nigerian men marrying white women behaving properly? But when they marry us they try to misbehave. You cannot deny that women always have to have some kind of advantage if they want to be relevant in their marriages. This is why I had my kids in the states.

Most women will walk away from their marriages if they could afford to. The joy comes is knowing you can walk if you have to, but choosing to stay out of love and mutual respect.

UnfairLife7:
where did i say she shouldn't have her own money? Of course she can but that wouldn't stop a wicked man from maltreating his wife.

You said they should forget about money and preserve their virginity, that African men don’t care about women’s money?

I know for a fact that having money will stop a man from maltreating you. Money gives voice, except in rare case like Osinachi.

Do you think Mercy Chinwo’s husband will do anyhow?

Anyway, I’m done with this argument!!

UjuJoan2:


The difference now is that people want quick money. Do you know what it takes for a graduate to serve food and wash plates in a restaurant? And learn how to braid and sew? Only months before then I was sitting in the front seat of a handsome dude’s car forming “babe” Do you think it was easy to walk away from that kind of luxury to face hardship? How many young girls of nowadays can do that? But even in the relationship I face oppression that I knew would only get worse in marriage!!!

The advantage they have now is even more than what we had back then. Now everyone makes money through tik Tok and YouTube. Lots of IT and STEM opportunities that we never had then. Now people work in Nigeria and earn in foreign currencies from providing services online. There are now very organized importation and exportation businesses. The girl I buy foodstuffs from to ship abroad is only 24. You think she will marry an old man out of desperation?

I have nephews and nieces who are recent graduates and already working, some are into businesses. The way we were raised, no offspring of ours will ever see hook up as a means of income.

My boss made her daughter learn make up, nails, hair, sewing, all while she was in the university. Even though she knew she was sending the girl abroad after graduation.

My point is that, you are what you make of yourself. Rich people stay rich because they plan their future. Poor people plan based on other people’s benevolence!

My daughter braids at 13 and she does it for fun now, but this is a skill that can earn her money in the future.

I pray I don’t teach them that things are hard now and it’s okay to follow men for money. What kind of mother would I be?

God bless you ma!

You have stated many points on this thread that I really love.

UjuJoan2:


What would you think I’m in my early 20’s. I’m almost 40 and I’m speaking from experience . I have a teenager at home so do the maths.

I didn’t make money through the internet, I got my first job in 2006, through the old school hustling and God’s grace.

I made a choice a lot of my friends wish they made. Most of my friends who got married for money come to me for hand outs now. Many are planning to leave the marriage once they make sufficient investments!

I rejected early marriage as a means out of poverty and took the hard way out, and today I’m so proud of who I am and what I am.

Based on my experience, the path I took is batter off!!

I don’t know if you making this argument to keep deceiving young girls into becoming semi-slaves in the name of financial freedom. I know for a fact that it NEVER works out.

Are you seriously trying to convince me that a woman marrying for money has ANY advantage? Aside from temporary relief? In the long run it always backfires. I have never seen it work out, except in cases where they both started out with humble beginnings!!!

I drive a car my husband bought, but I’m happier knowing I can afford to buy any car I like and he knows it. Do you think he can ever ask me to drop the keys to that car for ANY reason? I’ve seen that happen to women who are beautiful and smart, all because they thought marrying for money was a way out!!

Yen yen yen
I was watching a video on Femi Babs Facebook page this evening and something he said sums up your attitude.
"The man who has found mercy will always think his neighbors are lazy"
You've not seen people who knocked on the same doors you did and they just refused to open.
I understand the place of tenacity, hard work, and perseverance but I can bet that there were advantages in your background, great or small that OP probably did not have, advantages that made it possibe for you to do whatever it is you did.
If you were exposed to the same educational, mental, environmental, familial, and even spiritual circumstances as the OP, are you sure your outcomes would have been different from hers?
In his book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell explains that achievement is a function of what we do as much as where we're from.
A quote from the book: ''Success is not exceptional or mysterious. It is grounded in a web of advantages and inheritances, some deserved, some not, some earned, some just plain lucky."
My point: some people are dealt a bad hand from the start. We must always factor this in when bragging about our "accomplishments."

UjuJoan2:


You don’t have to have to be a virgin to preserve yourself. When I met my ex I was a virgin, but I still left him, despite the emotional blackmail and threats. He said I will regret it and no man will ever marry me because I wasn’t a virgin, but they were all lies. I still got married to a man that respects me, I still had my kids abroad, I still gave myself a life he could never have given me.

Only a woman who knows her worth can do that!!

I will teach my girls to know their value and never let a man dictate what they are worth.

You have to be a virgin to preserve yourself.
God chose mary for that reason alone...
Your ex you said...
I'm very sure you cheated on your ex before leaving completely... IT'S YOU LOSS STILL.
Virginity is the only special thing you can give a man.
You can give multiple men sex, love, marriage, children etc, but you can only give one man your virginity, who else deserves such gift like the man you want to she the rest of your life with?
Now you have another chance to train yourself daughters well. Don't let them be like you.

UjuJoan2:


You are just lying to yourself. I was not a virgin but I had my pick of suitors.

I will choose financial independence over virginity anytime any day. A man will only pamper a virgin for a while but if you have your own money you will have your husband’s respect.

You men should stop deceiving young girls.

You are a liar if you say Africa men don’t care about a woman’s money. As a matter of fact, only an abuser will intentionally choose to marry a woman without her own money, just so he can subject her to emotional and physical abuse.

Any self respecting man will want a wife who knows her worth and is able to impact quality standards on the kids.

Keep fooling yourself
You never picked any suitor, THE SUITORS ACTUALLY PICKED YOU.
You only had the option from the few that you were messing around with.
Why didn't you pick Otedola's close friends, Dangote's close cousins, Don jazzy etc?
You only picked from the list of people who picked you first, AND NOT HIGH VALUE MEN THAT YOU WANT OR DESIRE.
You only picked from YOUR LEVEL, and guys you can attract, AND NOT HIGH VALUE MEN.
You think someone of value will pick a girl that has been used, dumped and passed around FOR A GOOD REASON?
DEY PLAY

UjuJoan2:


What would you think I’m in my early 20’s. I’m almost 40 and I’m speaking from experience . I have a teenager at home so do the maths.

I didn’t make money through the internet, I got my first job in 2006, through the old school hustling and God’s grace.

I made a choice a lot of my friends wish they made. Most of my friends who got married for money come to me for hand outs now. Many are planning to leave the marriage once they make sufficient investments!

I rejected early marriage as a means out of poverty and took the hard way out, and today I’m so proud of who I am and what I am.

Based on my experience, the path I took is batter off!!

I don’t know if you making this argument to keep deceiving young girls into becoming semi-slaves in the name of financial freedom. I know for a fact that it NEVER works out.

Are you seriously trying to convince me that a woman marrying for money has ANY advantage? Aside from temporary relief? In the long run it always backfires. I have never seen it work out, except in cases where they both started out with humble beginnings!!!

I drive a car my husband bought, but I’m happier knowing I can afford to buy any car I like and he knows it. Do you think he can ever ask me to drop the keys to that car for ANY reason? I’ve seen that happen to women who are beautiful and smart, all because they thought marrying for money was a way out!!

how can you help your fellow woman please? Or you're here just to blow your trumpet? Or your self acclaimed money is for you and your family alone? No dying soul will have a taste of your money? You do this, you do that, your nephew did this, they did that. Does that negate the fact that poor people are bound to exist amongst us? I personally know of a young girl that lost her father when she was an infant and lost her mother when she was 7. She currently live with a family. Poverty is written all over this girl. Out of her zeal and steadfastness. She learnt fashion design, she can make hair but she doesn't have money to get machine or start up something. A very young girl. I'm sure someone like you will tell her she hasn't done enough to remain in that level. Someone like you will tell her she's not serious with her life. People like you are just plain myopic who believes anyone that isn't successful or lagging behind has probably waste away their time or didn't do the right thing. There are virgin that got married and didn't have a single child in marriage. There are some that had several kids but lost them all before old age.

Help your fellow woman

Interesting thread, interesting perspectives.


You guys should not degenerate the thread to insults and keep the arguments sane, I find it amusing when peeps try to resort to snide remarks when you cant relate with another's perspective. State your counter opinion simple.

Everyone has his or her own truth pls.



My own opinion on this topic is doing hookup is bad shikena, no point trying to glorify it.

So Moshybear don't regret not joining hookup pls.

I am also of the opinion that women shouldn't settle for less in their choice of husband AND they should also have their own money. E get why.

Nice one, Ujujoan2 👍

You've done a great justice to this thread.

Forget those naysayers & folks trying to counter your comments with non-reasonable ramblings.


If the OP, Moshybear likes, she should continue wallowing in regret.


People who always indulge / wallow in self-pity don't amount to anything great in life. 💯

ThothHermes:

Yen yen yen
I was watching a video on Femi Babs Facebook page this evening and something he said sums up your attitude.
"The man who has found mercy will always think his neighbors are lazy"
You've not seen people who knocked on the same doors you did and they just refused to open.
I understand the place of tenacity, hard work, and perseverance but I can bet that there were advantages in your background, great or small that OP probably did not have, advantages that made it possibe for you to do whatever it is you did.
If you were exposed to the same educational, mental, environmental, familial, and even spiritual circumstances as the OP, are you sure your outcomes would have been different from hers?
In his book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell explains that achievement is a function of what we do as much as where we're from.
A quote from the book: ''Success is not exceptional or mysterious. It is grounded in a web of advantages and inheritances, some deserved, some not, some earned, some just plain lucky."
My point: some people are dealt a bad hand from the start. We must always factor this in when bragging about our "accomplishments."

I agree with the bolded. I may have mostly spoken in absolutes, but the truth it, nothing is cast on stone.

My point is that tenacity and hard work goes a loooong way in making a person successful, just like laziness and entitlement contributes a lot to poverty. There are no short-cut in life and there are some principles that are just true, there’s no way around them!

It’s true that some people end up struggling all their lives with nothing to show for it, but I can assure you that a lot poor people are just plain lazy!

I would rather focus of helping people see the advantages of hard work, than say “there’s nothing you can do about your situation, just pray for luck”!!

You see the billionaire Obi Cubana, he was a hustler from day one. He started with odd buying and selling businesses, washing peoples clothes etc. Today people look at him and call him “lucky”. Maybe if he didn’t do those odd job, if he was waiting for a rich uncle to bless (or a rich husband in our case), he wouldn’t have come into the opportunity that has made him the billionaire that we admire

I’m sure a lot of his peers who must have felt too proud to be dry cleaners back then, are depending on him for financial support today.

Being a billionaire is NOT the standard here, but basic financial freedom should be a norm, rather than a novelty. It’s the belief that we are helpless that makes us unwilling to try!!!

Abraham Lincoln says “I will study and wait, the opportunity will come”. You have to be prepared for the opportunity when it comes, otherwise you are just living in fantasyland.

UnfairLife7:
how can you help your fellow woman please? Or you're here just to blow your trumpet? Or your self acclaimed money is for you and your family alone? No dying soul will have a taste of your money? You do this, you do that, your nephew did this, they did that. Does that negate the fact that poor people are bound to exist amongst us? I personally know of a young girl that lost her father when she was an infant and lost her mother when she was 7. She currently live with a family. Poverty is written all over this girl. Out of her zeal and steadfastness. She learnt fashion design, she can make hair but she doesn't have money to get machine or start up something. A very young girl. I'm sure someone like you will tell her she hasn't done enough to remain in that level. Someone like you will tell her she's not serious with her life. People like you are just plain myopic who believes anyone that isn't successful or lagging behind has probably waste away their time or didn't do the right thing. There are virgin that got married and didn't have a single child in marriage. There are some that had several kids but lost them all before old age.

Help your fellow woman

“Someone like me” will tell her to keep at it, she’s on the right path. It’s just a matter of time for her, her success will come!!! She may not have money to buy a sewing machine today, but she will one day. Like you said, she’s young, she’s hardworking, she was dealt a bad had in life, but she is committed to her success. Come back in five years time and tell me her story, I’m sure it will be something different, if she doesn’t get side tracked!!

I myself wasn’t always comfortable. I lost my dad early too and he was my sole provider. There was a time when I didn’t know where my next meal was coming from, and yes I was poor!!!

I am a very strong believer of humble beginnings, and that’s the point of my whole contribution on this thread.

If you are not open minded enough to see that, then go ahead and attack me personally if that makes you feel better!

Moshybear:
Good news is that you are not my God and will never be. Abeg rest

If you weren't Created to be an ashawo, it will never profit you, find what you are made for and liberate that entitlement mentality, nobody will ever validate this your tight corner induced choice.

UjuJoan2:


I agree with the bolded. I may have mostly spoken in absolutes, but the truth it, nothing is cast on stone.

My point is that tenacity and hard work goes a loooong way in making a person successful, just like laziness and entitlement contributes a lot to poverty. There are no short-cut in life and there are some principles that are just true, there’s no way around them!

It’s true that some people end up struggling all their lives with nothing to show for it, but I can assure you that a lot poor people are just plain lazy!

I would rather focus of helping people see the advantages of hard work, than say “there’s nothing you can do about your situation, just pray for luck”!!

You see the billionaire Obi Cubana, he was a hustler from day one. He started with odd buying and selling businesses, washing peoples clothes etc. Today people look at him and call him “lucky”. Maybe if he didn’t do those odd job, if he was waiting for a rich uncle to bless (or a rich husband in our case), he wouldn’t have come into the opportunity that has made him the billionaire that we admire

I’m sure a lot of his peers who must have felt too proud to be dry cleaners back then, are depending on him for financial support today.

Being a billionaire is NOT the standard here, but basic financial freedom should be a norm, rather than a novelty. It’s the belief that we are helpless that makes us unwilling to try!!!

Abraham Lincoln says “I will study and wait, the opportunity will come”. You have to be prepared for the opportunity when it comes, otherwise you are just living in fantasyland.

even a dumb person knows that Obi cubana source of money is shaddy and questionable, he doesn't come close amongst top billionaires in Nigeria, yet, he lavish money recklessly unlike others that are far ahead of him and prudent in spending. No one has a good source of income and throw money like paper about. Just like you blowing your trumpet since morning here. How many lives have you touched with your so called money? Where is your foundation for the less privileged? They're talking about personality with legal source of income you're calling Obi Cubana. No go teach your daughters to close their legs. Let them be keeping boyfriend in school like their mother and enter into marriage with broken hymen and multiple bodycount

UjuJoan2:


I agree with the bolded. I may have mostly spoken in absolutes, but the truth it, nothing is cast on stone.

My point is that tenacity and hard work goes a loooong way in making a person successful, just like laziness and entitlement contributes a lot to poverty.

I agree.

There are no short-cut in life and there are some principles that are just true, there’s no way around them!

Strongly disagree. There are short cuts o.

It’s true that some people end up struggling all their lives with nothing to show for it, but I can assure you that a lot poor people are just plain lazy!

We'll leave that to the philosophers.

I would rather focus of helping people see the advantages of hard work, than say “there’s nothing you can do about your situation, just pray for luck”!!

Having this information is also part of the advantages you have. Many people are not fortunate enough to stumble upon mind-shifting ways of thinking.

You see the billionaire Obi Cubana, he was a hustler from day one. He started with odd buying and selling businesses, washing peoples clothes etc. Today people look at him and call him “lucky”. Maybe if he didn’t do those odd job, if he was waiting for a rich uncle to bless (or a rich husband in our case), he wouldn’t have come into the opportunity that has made him the billionaire that we admire

I’m sure a lot of his peers who must have felt too proud to be dry cleaners back then, are depending on him for financial support today.

From drycleaning to billionaire. Hmm...I can bet you that that is not the full story. The major variable in that equation is not known to you or I.

Being a billionaire is NOT the standard here, but basic financial freedom should be a norm, rather than a novelty. It’s the belief that we are helpless that makes us unwilling to try!!!

Abraham Lincoln says “I will study and wait, the opportunity will come”. You have to be prepared for the opportunity when it comes, otherwise you are just living in fantasyland.

Having the right paradigm (way of thinking) is also an advantage. Most people are born with the wrong one and are not exposed to sufficient mindset-altering information to effect a change in their circumstances. This is what I'm saying.

UjuJoan2:

My daughter braids at 13 and she does it for fun now, but this is a skill that can earn her money in the future.

I pray I don’t teach them that things are hard now and it’s okay to follow men for money. What kind of mother would I be?

Omoh, You Must Have Come from Poverty Soaked Background to Breakthrough because This Kinda Wisdom You are Blasting is Solely from Deep Core of a Brain That Has Ransacked Itself to Manifest Glory .... You Have Ruminated the Universes before Blasting it all !

Even Dangote Daughter Must not have this Kinda IQ cuz It takes someone hell bent to be successful to Troubleshoot His/Her Mental Horizon This Way ..... .... This Head go don Hot like Craze during Its Growing Days .... Nevertheless, It Breakthrough laslas ....

Well-done & More Oil to Ya Head ...

Don't Worry, Once You Climb on God, You & Your Generations are Never Coming Down, It's a Stated Covenant 😉 👌 👍!

I am wiser now. Experience is really the best teacher.

Thanks for the advice guys. Sadly I can't reply to all but lessons have definitely been learnt.

Moshybear:
I am wiser now. Experience is really the best teacher.

Thanks for the advice guys. Sadly I can't reply to all but lessons have definitely been learnt.

Wiser for where?

The conclusion of your post is your friend did RUNS, you refused to join her, she succeeded in life & you did not. Therefore you realised you should have just DID the RUNS and also succeeded like her. Your post is one of the many reasons why I stopped going close to Churchy ladies, y'all believe that the universe owes you. Your IQ is really low & you would have been better at using your body because your head is not correct. You have 2 options in life, you either use your body to make money, or your head. Since you know you aren't intelligent, why did you opt to use your head that is already empty. Thousands die from doing RUNS, it is a 50/50 career path. You either become successful or regret it. You had a teenage pregnancy, do you not know that life is easier without a child. Your IQ is what you need to fix. The girl doing the RUNS has a higher IQ than you not doing the RUNS. Please go back & do the RUNS you refused to do initially.

Kelechi009:


Wiser for where?

The conclusion of your post is your friend did RUNS, you refused to join her, she succeeded in life & you did not. Therefore you realised you should have just DID the RUNS and also succeeded like her. Your post is one of the many reasons why I stopped going close to Churchy ladies, y'all believe that the universe owes you. Your IQ is really low & you would have been better at using your body because your head is not correct. You have 2 options in life, you either use your body to make money, or your head. Since you know you aren't intelligent, why did you opt to use your head that is already empty. Thousands die from doing RUNS, it is a 50/50 career path. You either become successful or regret it. You had a teenage pregnancy, do you not know that life is easier without a child. Your IQ is what you need to fix. The girl doing the RUNS has a higher IQ than you not doing the RUNS. Please go back & do the RUNS you refused to do initially.

Say what ever you want my dear, na you get your mouth but i have since moved on. I think you should too.

Moshybear:
Say what ever you want my dear, na you get your mouth but i have since moved on. I think you should too.

People who have moved on do not create threads complaining about their friend who did RUNS regretting and wishing it was them instead. I hope that your friend stays far away from you, you might end up poisoning her out of envy.

Moshybear:
Thanks alot for the uplifting comment sis. God bless you.

But you are basically saying same thing with the previous commenter and my response remains same

You are welcome... no-one had made that comment before i commented. It was after I clicked submit and refreshed the page that was when i saw that many people had said same thing.

Your response to their posts is also noted.

My greetings to your lovely daughter.

bolseas:


You are welcome... no-one had made that comment before i commented. It was after I clicked submit and refreshed the page that was when i saw that many people had said same thing.

Your response to their posts is also noted.

My greetings to your lovely daughter.

Thank you very much.

I really appreciate.

DonroxyII:
Omoh, You Must Have Come from Poverty Soaked Background to Breakthrough because This Kinda Wisdom You are Blasting is Solely from Deep Core of a Brain That Has Ransacked Itself to Manifest Glory .... You Have Ruminated the Universes before Blasting it all !

Even Dangote Daughter Must not have this Kinda IQ cuz It takes someone hell bent to be successful to Troubleshoot His/Her Mental Horizon This Way ..... .... This Head go don Hot like Craze during Its Growing Days .... Nevertheless, It Breakthrough laslas ....

Well-done & More Oil to Ya Head ...

Don't Worry, Once You Climb on God, You & Your Generations are Never Coming Down, It's a Stated Covenant 😉 👌 👍!

Hathor5:


You were not foolish, you still are for asking very stewpid questions. Who asked you to get pregnant out of wedlock and without resources to care for a child? It`s only a rich husband that can give you a comfortable life? You can`t do it for yourself? Maybe if you had been reading your books instead of following boyfriends, we would read something sensible today.

I don`t particulary enjoy being hard on people but I don`t believe you are who you say you are. I think you want a thread that creates some heat. You`re welcome.

helo my millionaire uncle is loookin for a beautiful womens who can do housegirl work.he ready to pay u a cool 30k (N30,000 nIara..cash) a months which will including housegirl uniform plus cool cap & u will all so get breakfast & diner..this is a shance for u to make extra moiney.are u intaresssted please?

Hathor5:


You were not foolish, you still are for asking very stewpid questions. Who asked you to get pregnant out of wedlock and without resources to care for a child? It`s only a rich husband that can give you a comfortable life? You can`t do it for yourself? Maybe if you had been reading your books instead of following boyfriends, we would read something sensible today.

I don`t particulary enjoy being hard on people but I don`t believe you are who you say you are. I think you want a thread that creates some heat. You`re welcome.

helo my millionaire uncle is loookin for a beautiful womens who can do housegirl work.he ready to pay u a cool 30k (N30,000 nIara..cash) a months which will including housegirl uniform plus cool cap & u will all so get breakfast & diner..this is a shance for u to make extra moiney.are u intaresssted please?