In the last one month, two of my exes have suddenly, out of the blues practically tracked me down to my place of work simply to ask me for forgiveness. These are guys i dated in 2004 and 2008 respectively. Of course they hurt me which led to the end of the relationship but i have long moved on and even forgotten they exist!

I just find it funny, if not a bit silly why they will now be asking for forgiveness for hurting me in the past. I mean,what if they did not see me or set eyes on me ever again? Would they still be asking for forgiveness and from whom?

For the guys, would you ask an ex for forgiveness if you hurt her lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng after you guys broke up?
For the ladies, what would your reaction be if your ex tracks you down to beg for forgivness?

typical!
They always come back to ask for forgiveness just because of[b] the guilt eating them all up![/b]
Forgive if you like but i got NOTHING on my exes and NOTHING for them...including forgiveness!

Gbammed - slimyem d girl with d iron nyash
Has sed it all

Co signed and co sealed and co buried

Therez notin more 2 add

190: Gbammed - slimyem d girl with d iron nyash
Has sed it all

Co signed and co sealed and co buried

Therez notin more 2 add

DUH!

But seriously whyz ur nyash Iron

Like Boneyems has said, a guilty conscience needs no accusser.

So 2 put dier ever beating conscience to rest, dey will continuously ask such question.

You just put your question as if it only boys that ask for forgiveness. Girls also do the same! And I don't see any biggie in asking for forgiveness . . Thats part of the break up strategy, just to make the dumpee feel good . lol.

In my case, when i broke up with my Ex, I have to ask her for forgiveness 4 months later through writing, also in the same letter, I have to tell her the reasons (her flaws) that made me to bail. i did that not because I want her back (hell no!), but because I feel pity for her. She loved me soooo much, but some of her flaws made it difficult for me to love her as much, talk more of marrying her. For me, asking her for forgiveness is more like trying to soothe a crying baby.

Secondly, I believe that failed relationships shouldn't bring animosity between Exes. All relationships cant lead to marriage;hence, if we were friends before we started dating, we can still remain friends if the relationship didn't work out. So therefore, if it means asking for forgiveness so that we can remain friends, i will keep on asking for forgiveness. And that doesn't mean that I wont keep on dumping them girls in future.

You girls should learn not to be sore losers!!

Utter rubbish

Them ex's always come running back after thinkin d grass is always greener on d other side
Thinkin their next partner would be all perfect not knowin that everyone gat their own flaws
Thinkin ure d worst being in d world and snap dey evade u and head into a wicked world

Months or yrs later, they start gnashin their teeth

Trust me, I've maltreated good girls in d past and today I regret my actions so maybe 2me I tot
D grass was greener on d other side but clearly it wasn't despite bin d man but oh well - too late
I wudnt apologize cos I got lots of pride in me

I am 190

Sure, why not? They say what goes around comes back around; I believe this goes in line with Karma.

Asking for forgiveness also helps heal old wounds. Some females are hurt deeply because of maltreatment, getting them to forgive you restores their self-confidence, reassuring them of their worth.
I believe that’s why some repeatedly date people who mistreat them as they feel they deserve it/that’s their lot. Telling them you were in the wrong would reverse this trend hopefully, and help them make better choices.

KINGwax: you don't get, most of you bitchez are fuckin witches, alwys wishin d other guy and his new mate nothing but bad wishes!

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Idowuogbo:

U sabi rap o! Join Mavin records na!

LOL.....abi na. Man must start from somewhere o!

Idowuogbo:

U sabi rap o! Join Mavin records na!

i'll rather join dbanj up there than wastin my time wit 'em bitter-end-clicked- assez down here. Marvin my shittie asz

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Metalgoong: You just put your question as if it only boys that ask for forgiveness. Girls also do the same! And I don't see any biggie in asking for forgiveness . . Thats part of the break up strategy, just to make the dumpee feel good . lol.

In my case, when i broke up with my Ex, I have to ask her for forgiveness 4 months later through writing, also in the same letter, I have to tell her the reasons (her flaws) that made me to bail. i did that not because I want her back (hell no!), but because I feel pity for her. She loved me soooo much, but some of her flaws made it difficult for me to love her as much, talk more of marrying her. For me, asking her for forgiveness is more like trying to soothe a crying baby.

Secondly, I believe that failed relationships shouldn't bring animosity between Exes. All relationships cant lead to marriage;hence, if we were friends before we started dating, we can still remain friends if the relationship didn't work out. So therefore, if it means asking for forgiveness so that we can remain friends, i will keep on asking for forgiveness. And that doesn't mean that I wont keep on dumping them girls in future.

You girls should learn not to be sore losers!!

Lol at the bolded. I am not being a sore loser o! I just find it silly afterall, i have long moved on and forgotten about them.

I would rather i see my ex and we behave cordially like two matured people without referring to the past than for apologies to start flying around!

Metalgoong: You just put your question as if it only boys that ask for forgiveness. Girls also do the same! And I don't see any biggie in asking for forgiveness . . Thats part of the break up strategy, just to make the dumpee feel good . lol.

In my case, when i broke up with my Ex, I have to ask her for forgiveness 4 months later through writing, also in the same letter, I have to tell her the reasons (her flaws) that made me to bail. i did that not because I want her back (hell no!), but because I feel pity for her. She loved me soooo much, but some of her flaws made it difficult for me to love her as much, talk more of marrying her. For me, asking her for forgiveness is more like trying to soothe a crying baby.

Secondly, I believe that failed relationships shouldn't bring animosity between Exes. All relationships cant lead to marriage;hence, if we were friends before we started dating, we can still remain friends if the relationship didn't work out. So therefore, if it means asking for forgiveness so that we can remain friends, i will keep on asking for forgiveness. And that doesn't mean that I wont keep on dumping them girls in future.

You girls should learn not to be sore losers!!

if you are NOT guilty,you wouldnt ask for forgiveness!
If your[b] deserve[/b] to be and remain a friend,you needn't ask it before your ex puts you in that place!
Most guys ask for forgiveness because they need to rid themselves of GUILT!!!

Forgive an Ex? YES Go back to him for hurting me? NO.

~duchess~:
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Lol at the bolded. I am not being a sore loser o! I just find it silly afterall, i have long moved on and forgotten about them.

I would rather i see my ex and [b][b]we behave cordially like two matured people[/b] without referring to the past than for apologies to start flying around!

Well, I think your Exs must have asked for forgiveness based on your attitude towards them. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have asked for forgiveness if you were in a cordial relationship with them after the break up . .lol

KINGwax: i'll rather join dbanj up there than wastin my time wit 'em bitter-end-clicked- assez down here. Marvin my shittie asz

Kai! see rhyming

Dude no waste bars na! Ur reply on its own sef na 27 bars

It's ur calling o! Answer to ur destiny.

~duchess~:


LOL.....abi na. Man must start from somewhere o!

Yes boss! Dats y I dey encourage hin talent na!

Metalgoong:

Well, I think your Exs must have asked for forgiveness based on your attitude towards them. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have asked for forgiveness if you were in a cordial relationship with them after the break up . .lol

If you will call my cutting myself off COMPLETELY from them ( not picking of calls, not replying text messages, moving to a new city, getting myself new phone numbers, putting the past behind me and generally moving on with my life ), a negative attitude which made them uncomfortable enuff to want to ask for forgiveness, then na wao! what else was i supposed to do na? Hang on and continue to beg and suffer for love?
I have also hurt some of my exes but i just dnt see myself looking for them to say sorry! I mean, life has moved on for both parties concerned so why should asking for forgiveness be like one of the first statements to come out of his/her mouth?

Idowuogbo:
Yes boss! Dats y I dey encourage hin talent na!

heheheheheh...........could end up charting the list someday o! Just think of the millions you stand to make from just encouraging his talent!

i only hope he will remember us when that comes o! as per me the OP and you the encourager..lol

But come o idowuogbo, you nefa answer the kwesion na?

slimyem: if you are NOT guilty,you wouldnt ask for forgiveness!
If your[b] deserve[/b] to be and remain a friend,you needn't ask it before your ex puts you in that place!
Most guys ask for forgiveness because they need to rid themselves of GUILT!!!

Ok, let me just speak for myself . . I do my because I felt pity for her, not because I want her back!

Am I trying to rid myself guilt when I know that the probability is veery high that I will still dump more girls who don't meet my taste in future.


Actually, My Ex and I were good friends for about a month after the break up ( I guess she might be thinking that I will call her back within this period ), before she decided to put a halt to our communication. . . . It was obvious that she couldn't handle the fact that we were no longer dating, but instead, that we were now mere friends. . . . And this is one of the main reason why I felt pity for her.

Girls are sore losers, and I have to soothe their pains by asking for forgiveness after dumping them

Not all relationships end up leaving a sour taste in the mouth. I still am in good terms with all of my ex,so really don't have to

go asking for forgiveness. It's only when a relationship is malnourished that it becomes nothing more than a wasted pregnancy.

And that's when you go asking for forgiveness.

DaShyGuy: Not all relationships end up leaving a sour taste in the mouth. I still am in good terms with all of my ex,so really don't have to

go asking for forgiveness. It's only when a relationship is malnourished that it becomes nothing more than a wasted pregnancy.

And that's when you go asking for forgiveness.

But my point is, why must one ask for forgiveness? Cant he /she just move on, guilty conscience or no? Its not like one is interested in going back to the relationship or that the person wants you back and thats why he/she is asking for forgiveness in the first place na?

slimyem: if you are NOT guilty,you wouldnt ask for forgiveness!
If your[b] deserve[/b] to be and remain a friend,you needn't ask it before your ex puts you in that place!
Most guys ask for forgiveness because they need to rid themselves of GUILT!!!

Abi o! Must i remain friends with an ex just because we were friends before we started dating.

They are quilty n they know what they did.

~duchess~:



heheheheheh...........could end up charting the list someday o! Just think of the millions you stand to make from just encouraging his talent!

i only hope he will remember us when that comes o! as per me the OP and you the encourager..lol

But come o idowuogbo, you nefa answer the kwesion na?

Loolzzz! Joker!

I answered ur question na

See below!

Idowuogbo:
Like Boneyems has said, a guilty conscience needs no accusser.

So 2 put dier ever beating conscience to rest, dey will continuously ask such question.

~duchess~:



If you will call my cutting myself off COMPLETELY from them ( not picking of calls, not replying text messages, moving to a new city, getting myself new phone numbers, putting the past behind me and generally moving on with my life ), a negative attitude which made them uncomfortable enuff to want to ask for forgiveness, then na wao! what else was i supposed to do na? Hang on and continue to beg and suffer for love?
I have also hurt some of my exes but i just dnt see myself looking for them to say sorry! I mean, life has moved on for both parties concerned so why should asking for forgiveness be like one of the first statements to come out of his/her mouth?

But why should you undergo all those process just to cut off from a supposedly cordial friend . I mean, you can still move on with your life, find a new boy friend, without going through all those changes just to avoid a friend. . lol.

I think those actions were borne out of anger and bearing of grudes. And if you are one of those sisters that claim to be a strong christian woman , please take another look on the Bible chapters below .

Psalm 37:8

Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil

Ephesians 4:31-32

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Utter rubbish

Dutchess u я so rite on dis one

All this fornications going round,break-ups,break down,forgiveness,unforgiving,Exes and what have you. Heaven is watching all of you. Canal men has rewritten God commandments to suit their worldly acts. JESUS is coming soon.

Metalgoong:

But why should you undergo all those process just to cut off from a supposedly cordial friend . I mean, you can still move on with your life, find a new boy friend, without going through all those changes just to avoid a friend. . lol.

I think those actions were borne out of anger and bearing of grudes. And if you are one of those sisters that claim to be a strong christian woman , please take another look on the Bible chapters below .

you dnt seem to be getting my point at all. I stopped picking calls cos at that moment i was in love and hurt by their actions and realised that no matter how much i loved the person at that MOMENT, i could never consider going back cos, how was i sure i would not get hurt again?, hence the need to cut off all contact to avoid temptation!i dint trust myself not to say yes, i forgive you at that MOMENT. I moved to a new city cos of youth service and subsequently, work and hence, the new numbers as well. Does that mean i was running away from them? By moving on with my life without keeping intouch with them, does that mean i`m keeping malice or bearing grudges against them? Must i remain friends with my ex just because we once dated? My point is, of all the things to ask like how is work, the family, life generally etc...why must he bring up the issue of forgiveness for something he had done eons ago? what if he had not found me? would he carry the burden of that guilt for the rest of his life? I know we are all entitled to our opinions but to me, its really quite silly!Life has moved on the past should be left where it belongs .IN THE PAST!!!

Sorry, i am not one of those sisters that claim to be 'strong christian women'.