Almost all the single people I know have plans for marriage.  Women start panicking when they are approaching 30 and suitors are no longer there, while the men are pressured by family members to "settle down". 

You probably want to get married.  Yes, I mean you!  Why do you want to get married?
- It is because you want children?   If so, why not just adopt a baby?
- Is it for social recognition or respect?  Why not just make some money and flaunt it to get respect?
- Is it for love?  Is there any guarantee that his/her love wont evaporate after marriage like that of your five to ten former lovers?
- Is it because the society demands it?  You'll be surprised that when you 'bone society' and keep doing your thing the rumors will eventually die down because people have their own problem to worry about.  Nobody complains about the dressing Charly Boy anymore.

Ok, I still want to get married.  I think it's love I'm looking for; love in all dimensions.

What about you?

uhmm, I am not eager to be married. All i want is someone to Love me, and cherish me.

Infact if the guy i intend to marry is talking to much about how many kids he want, what name he'll give them and blah blah..kid kid, i will start thinking whether or not i really want to marry him. I don't like it when guys talk too much about how they want their kids, what they want, names they want, when i would get pregnant, and so many other things. It makes me sick seeing a guy talk about stuffs like that, I know it's not a crime for a guy to talk about things like that, but please don't over-do it.

Well... Marriage is one of the last thing on my mind prolly because i haven't seen anyone i wanna love forever. I remeber when i was 13..marriage was my Number One priority. Weird but true. I loved the guy so much and infact it looked like we were husband and wife..so i thought marriage was gonna be fun. .

hot angel wants to marry a football who has nice looking legs.....

How will i marry a football?? You meant soccer player? Anyways no, i don't wanna marry him.

Getting married I guess makes me fulfilled as a man, happier, fun thus making my life better and worthwhile.

i need 3 beautiful kids, that's why I'm getting married..

Ha, why do people want to get married?

Hmm, I figure that people want to get married for a few reasons.

One, family: Once a woman/man reaches a certain age, their family starts putting pressure. "won't you get married?" and so on and so on.

Secondly, every woman wants the security of marriage, of having a guy she can call her own. Someone that could do all the odd jobs at home and someone she can lay her troubles on at the end of the day or stuff like that.

Men like about the same thing I guess. Well almost.

Do you know that you get the best out of a babe when you are still dating. Once married the whole relationship changes. All those things she used to tolerate and accept now become big issues to nag and quarrel over. So why get married eh...Just food for though

Don't get me wrong I love married life, just that people need to go into it with the right frame of mind, forget all those fairy tales, "hapilly ever after" it doesn't happen that way there are ups and downs, temptations, trials, fights etc, In fact true love is what you see after many years of marriage when all the issues have been worked out and the couples are more like brother and sister.

Hmmn, well said @CalabarMan. I agree totally with you.

I think one should get married to someone he considered a friend and wants that friendship to continue on a marital basis. If both are friends, they can always sort themselves out after every major and minor issues that crop up in marriage.

Well well, getting married at first would afford you (the new couple) opportunity to enjoy yourselves. Very sweet at first but I think it's will be right to get married to someone you truelly love and would want to spend the rest of your life with pledging to yourselves to stick together during the ups and down.

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of course everyone which to get married one dy and that is it
well the reason i am getting married is because i will love my husband and my kids just to have 4 or 3 of them any ways

Because I want to get screwwwwwwwwweeeeeeedddddddd

tayo... i like ur answer. i wanna get married to have me own family,have got love already so i will say to keep being loved etc. everyone wants to get married so it is more of a custom only if he or she does not want it (becos they might get bored or cheat)but will rather not get married to hurt the person

A lot of people get married for different reasons. In many cases, those reasons change with time, age, society pressures, etc. Its easilly understandable when people say they married for love, but is that really the reason? What happens if for some medical reasons the couple cant have a child, thats when the real reason will come out. Or when your wife becomes flabby after having 3 kids, you suddenly realized " you are stll a strong man kakaraka" and you started chasing those long legs.......Most 35+ men are in this category, while women in the 30+ suffer most because its at this age that men discover what they want and the woman, being trapped in the marriage suddenly discovers the "reason" why the man married her................


"Trials bring out thr true colour in you".................................

twinkledew:

tayo... i like your answer. i want to get married to have me own family,have got love already so i will say to keep being loved etc. everyone wants to get married so it is more of a custom only if he or she does not want it (because they might get bored or cheat)but will rather not get married to hurt the person

good one twinkle

i for one am not eager to get married actually i am not looking forwards to getting married i mean if there was a way for me to have kids without getting attached and feeling good about it i would do that. i mean i know there are ways to do that but at the same time i would want my child to know who her/his father is. but if there was a way that i would feel good having kids but yet no strings attached then i would do that.

at the moment i feel that marriage is stressful... it is just a lot of work.

Na wa  for una,the thread says why do u want to get married.not what is marriage. so i wonder y some people is just giving us the definition of marriage instead of answering the question.


i want get married cos i want to have a family,and i also want to have a man i can call my own

Ask jogego and aun why they are married?
i think the reason why i want to get married is that i want the tradition to contiune and probably to have kids.

tayotina:

Because I want to get screwwwwwwwwweeeeeeedddddddd

You don't have to be married to get that, infact variety is more and quality is better when you are not.......

Oohh.....calabarman.....

Chigszy:

at the moment i feel that marriage is stressful... it is just a lot of work.

Hey chigszy, what's there in life that's not stressful? I think it's because of what you see other people go thru in their own marriage.

I advise you tell yourself, yours won't be like theirs. And oh! don't 4get the originator of marriage is there to help you out, so consult him b4 you go into it.

i want to get married cos i am in love,hahaha....
Marrige is fun.
i always see myself in it but with the right person

Amen to your wish Latoya.......

Halleluyah on your behalf "jare" Latoya.

i wanna get married cos i want someone i can share everything with, someone i can learn to love unconditionally whether i want to or not. someone i can always forgive. someone that will do all these back to me. tell you the truth - i'm lonely, and i need someone that would be there for me all the time. and for heaven's sake, i cant wait to see what my kids will look like!

hey De-king and Bibi,it was just my say,y r u guys acting all up?

Latoya not acting up but I guess you've got a right perception and I think that's okay. Nothing more gal.

Ive seen the diffrent reasons y you guys want to get married, some of them funny though

let me take a little leverage and digress a bit with this true story

This was a conversation that i overheard in one of the fedral universities in nigeria b/w 3 female lectures.Two of them are married while one is not. they are all around 35 or 36 years. This conversation took place just after the weeding of soccer star Kanu Nwankwo.

UL: Imagine what Kanu has done. He has finally gone and married a small girl. Men are heartless. After going out with so many girls he has settled for a small girl of 18yrs that does not know much.

MW1: I think it is a case of who he wants and loves

UL: No, i think he has gotten what he wants from all those girls and he has now settled for a small girl. There was a time he was even flaunting miss world(the one from nigeria) everywhere he went but that he must have gotten what he wants and had dropped her immediately and has denied any romantic link ever. INFACT I THINK MOST, IF NOT ALL MEN DONT MARRY ANY GIRL THAT THEY HAVE TASTED B/4.

MW2: i disagree with you there. My husband and i have rocked life since our university dayz and he still wanted me to marry him and was alwayz on his knees begging when ever i opted to leave. The fact that we had been having sex did not make him want to leave me.

MW1: Me too, back then i used to spend some weekends at his place, now we are still happily married. infact he is the kind of a man that would not marry you if you guyz have not been intimate.

UL: But i think most men still don't want women that they had ever dated.

MW1: NO. i think it comes from maybe the kind of guyz you have been meeting. Most of the men i know marry there ladies even if they have been together for a long time.

UL; Most men to me are devils..............................


     I left the conversation at this stage. They never knew i was hearing what they were saying.

THE REAL PROBLEM OF THE UNMARRIED LADY(WHO BY THE WAY HAS A PHD), which her married lady friends were not bold enough to tell her but they knew, as did every other person in the dept and faculty, was that the lady was TOO AGRRESSIVE, ASSERTIVE, AUTHORITARIAN AND INTIMIDATING, and would virtually scare off any man who came near her. I could not blame any guy who did not want to settle with her b/because it would take you only 30 mins with her to see that bringing her into your life might be burning urself with fire. She is bitter with guyz 4 reasons i could understand. She may have had it rough with them but as aguy i could see y most guyz would take off despite the fact that she is well educated and earns big money. The bad boys she might have dealt with might have noticed her very fiery diposition and then might have just taken advantage of her and then take off as fast as there legs could carry them.
  If i were in a situation were i was dating her, i would simply opt out without getting physically intimate so she doesnt feel too bad. Not many men could stand that


Should i have posted this in pinkys thread of how to find your man?

sage i must say u are good or should i say u eavdrop a lot , so tell me which one do u prefer.

"For this reason shall a man leave his parents and cling unto his wife."

I'll get married for 'multiplication' ( and companinship as well)

I want to get married because of all the sweet things that come with marriage.
Companionship, Sex, Children of my own, etc.

I want to get married in order to spend my life with person i can share the rest of my life with and not for material things e.g children, money etc all these things are necessary but not compulsory.

So, if u are gonna marry, marry someone u can spend the rest of ur life with and someone that can be there for you no matter ur situation.