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Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by udemzyudex(m): 3:34pm On Jan 23 |
obesse: Read the op post again, it has nothing to do with when the time comes. The mum was not even staying with them, they were with their dad. Is that you guy can't comprehend things? 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Kobojunkie: 3:37pm On Jan 23 |
Akhaz024:Did you bother reading OP'S story at all before commenting? 2. Wow.... there seems to be some serious issue of disconnect going on here. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Blakjewelry(m): 3:39pm On Jan 23 |
Kobojunkie:Yeah very real. You have 3 options, talk to him say what's on your mind, talk to a therapist or hang yourself choose one. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Ezzymadu: 3:41pm On Jan 23 |
My guy thank God ur Dad is still alive. i'll advice you to budget some amount of money then you will decide either to invite he 1week or 1month to ur house feed him, cloth him, call doctor to care,take he out to any cool joint etc. the rest is a story.YOUR HIS PRODUCT. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by CandidAdmin(m): 3:44pm On Jan 23 |
Ezzymadu: Sorry sir, I was reading the comments till I saw yours. What do you mean his product? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Kobojunkie: 3:46pm On Jan 23 |
Blakjewelry:A Confrontation is almost always considered a last resort and for good reason. OP'S father seems, from the story, seems content with the way he raised his kids. Op confronting him might only make things worse for OP -- open up old wounds and maybe even create new ones.. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Akhaz024: 3:51pm On Jan 23 |
Kobojunkie: I read everything Irrespective of what his father has done he should honor him. And please don't reply me, I am only talking to Op, I am only talking to OP he is the only that should reply me please. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by FFIA: 4:03pm On Jan 23 |
CarlosTheJackal: Learn to mind your business Nzale Ode |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 4:03pm On Jan 23 |
Akhaz024: Oga I don't care if as I don't have any reason. Bro. Let the man enjoy his life, while I do mine Atleast whenever he needs money and he calls, I do send to him. I get my life to face.. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 4:04pm On Jan 23 |
Akhaz024: What does it mean to. Honor one's father? I never said I was dishonouring him. I just feel bad abt the past and he cud have done better. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 4:06pm On Jan 23 |
Ezzymadu: Joker... I will rather do that for my mom and my younger brother than my dad.. Those are the people that helped me really in life.. Maybe when I marry, I fit invite am come my house.. Where the money sef |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 4:07pm On Jan 23 |
udemzyudex: They don't read to understand |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Chassy03: 4:15pm On Jan 23 |
You better be there for your own son or wife too or else nemesis will hunt you down when you born ... nonsense pikin |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:18pm On Jan 23 |
You don't need to spend more time with your dad, maintain the distance. Sending him money from time to time is enough forgiveness. Avoid him to an extent, since being close to him makes you recall the past. He has many other children from other wives, so what's the fuss about? |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Kobojunkie: 4:19pm On Jan 23 |
Chassy03:Nemesis only hunts those who choose to repeat the mistakes of the past. You can't be a nonsense parent yet expect your children not to count that nonsense you are against you. It's only wicked individuals who expect to reap where they did not sow. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by treatise: 4:21pm On Jan 23 |
Mercylike:Read your bible using Google search( possibly curses of a father in the Bible) ; inasmuch as he's your dad (blood) do everything to placate him even if superficial. May be you're seeking validation of your dispositions toward your dad. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by ariesbull: 4:25pm On Jan 23 |
Mercylike: Bitterness will lead you to depression and Yiu will either have stroke or commit suicide Why are you bitter towards your father...return hate with love ...love him ,forgive him and make life simpler 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Kobojunkie: 4:25pm On Jan 23 |
treatise:If you yourself bothered reading the same bible, you would have learned that there are no such things as curses of a father or mother. The only one with power to bless or curse in that book is God Himself. All others simply said words that had no meaning or power to them except for the power given the words by those who heard them. 2. If Op had instead complained of his mum being the deadbeat in this case, would you have equally asked him to placate her? |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by ariesbull: 4:26pm On Jan 23 |
Mercylike:your name is Mercy so act merciful ...don't be a disgrace How do you people live with bittermess and unforgiving for years Una dey try ...Na only witch fit do that |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Blakjewelry(m): 4:29pm On Jan 23 |
Kobojunkie:Op is still carrying a grudge and it is killing him from the inside, it is better you face your demon once and for all. I am not saying he ask the old to change, let him know he Bleep up big time, pour out the shit he wish he could tell him. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Ezzymadu: 4:31pm On Jan 23 |
CandidAdmin: Don't be scare of d word product what i means is ur father. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by COOL10(m): 4:42pm On Jan 23 |
obesse: They don't understand. It's only those who've lost their fathers that'll understand where you're coming from. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Kobojunkie: 4:53pm On Jan 23 |
Blakjewelry:The demon is not his dad but rather the twisted idea that he has to, against his will, love or like his father. That has nothing to do with the man who seems OK with himself as is. I think asking OP to confront the man --- Op is an adult at that --- is tantamount to suggesting Op should impose on the man his idea of what a father ought to be. |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Chinny024(f): 5:04pm On Jan 23 |
There's nothing to feel guilty at all.. The only thing u owe him is a befitting burial..That's if u want to.. Take good care of ur mom pls.. She is the only reason u are productive to the society..Imagine, if u never had the opportunity of going to school?..How life would hv been?. Lesson to men. Love and care for ur kids...U never can tell which one would look at ur face at old age..Kids doesn't forget who was there when they needed them the most. Mother's love can never be unmatched!!!! |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:16pm On Jan 23 |
Chassy03: Fixed for you |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:18pm On Jan 23 |
ariesbull: Amen for you |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:19pm On Jan 23 |
ariesbull: Yen yen yen.... Tell me. How wicked I am pls |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by ariesbull: 5:19pm On Jan 23 |
Mercylike:you can't live with unforgiviness for years and still be okay ...that's wickedness |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:20pm On Jan 23 |
COOL10: Even if I don't have a father. Notin will shake me. But a mother is wat I can't afford to lose... Deal with it |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:23pm On Jan 23 |
Chinny024: I can't spend my saving to give the dead any expensive burial. I am still hustling and won't even commit 50% if my savings for burial anytin. We go just do small prayer and do it low key when his time reaches.. But i hope not now as I want him to carry my grand kids If not for my mum effort and God, I for dey go hopeless and probably useless for street. My younger brother sponsored his own self to school as my dad didn't care abt him.... These people don't know what it feels like 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Clear This Guilt Against My Dad? by Mercylike(f): 5:24pm On Jan 23 |
ariesbull:. Unforgiveness is sending him money àbi.. Say another thing abeg |
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