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My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 4:41pm On Jan 26 |
Straight to the point, I'm someone who doesn't like to bore people out with my problems so whatever is happening to me I just keep to myself and find a respite or just die in it if I can't fine my way outta the problem My fiancee appear nice but tbh I really can't tell cuz ion ask her for things. so I decided to play a quick test on her to understand her further; but the result further came out confusing. What was this test; So I just thought to myself one day, paradventure (godforbid) life turn against me, will she be there for me?? I kinda lied to her I had IPPIS issue at work and I might not be paid for bout 3 month (wanted to see if she would support me thr that 3 month or not) and stuffs will be kinda hard for me. Tho she condole with me and was maybe sad for me idk but thr these 2 months now she has never for once told me take, I know things are not easy with you at the moment how can I assist or take this little amount. Does she work? Oh yes. How much does she earn? 85k roughly (does work remotely often and only report to work on Mondays alone) so yeah thinking of giving me 10k should not be an issue for her. Tbh guys I was really heartbroken, I wished she passed the test cuz I really had good plans for her, cuz my trust for her would have been elevated and I was to surprise her with another phone cuz ion like the fact she uses Tecno (tho she isn't complaining sha) she doesn't really bill me to. Now ion know if I should see her as a wife material or someone I can marry. So, I've come to ask if I'm really overreacting since I didn't really ask her to help me with money. Secondly, was that a wrong test to have done?? I'm confused. Dominique mynd44 oam4j nlpfmod 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Odin13: 4:54pm On Jan 26 |
Ask first.. before you mark her test script.. People like me.. if you don’t ask.. mind fit no reach say you need am.. As long as she still loves you and cares as your woman.. We’re all wired differently 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by almarthins(m): 4:54pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: She no give you money but u no ask na. However, if no begin act drama within the 3 months, na beta person. Some women when things are bad, dem go just Ben Johnson. She no want shalaye. Man is the only creature that doesn't get unconditional love. I love you, no be wetin u think. 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Patented: 4:55pm On Jan 26 |
she probably thinks if you need you will ask. that you have enough savings to carry you. you ask first if you wanna be sure 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by EreluRoz: 5:01pm On Jan 26 |
Even though it's not enough to call it off, I think she's selfish and inconsiderate especially towards someone who has been there for her. She needn't be told to do the needful if she isn't selfish I do not support you asking her for assistance because she's just being unreasonable but you should call her attention to it after everything then test her again after sometimes so as to really know whom you are settling down with. You may use another dimension next time. Hope she chose you first(the only redpill language I agreed to) and not you forcing yourself on her. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 5:02pm On Jan 26 |
Odin13: Patented: But if I was the one, I wouldn't have allowed her ask bfr I give her money monthly for the space of that 3month knowing her predicament so she wouldn't really feel it Or was I expecting too much?? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 5:05pm On Jan 26 |
EreluRoz: This is exactly what's running on my mind atm |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by budaatum: 5:06pm On Jan 26 |
Also note that your test involves lying, for which she is likely testing you. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Odin13: 5:08pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Na man you be bro... responsibility is what you came to earth with.. Women and men don’t think alike.. especially when money is involve... their earned money.. no play reach there. They think so different.. not knowing. If you tell her.. her brain will reboot and won’t even mind giving all. But on their own.. lol.. unless she put you for budget.. say she wan dash you or buy something for you 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by EreluRoz: 5:11pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng:Continue to watch her action till the very end after everything call her attention to it and express your disappointment. After sometimes try her again with something else kos I believe in giving people second chances and after that you will know the best decision to take. The word marry your friend is very important because friends are meant to help during difficult times and she's defaulting in that aspect. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by GreatAchiever1: 5:14pm On Jan 26 |
EreluRoz: Na small small e dey start, afterall na from clap e go enter dance. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by ikeno(m): 6:14pm On Jan 26 |
Better dump her sorry as*s.for you to give her even when she didn't ask, she should reciprocate same gesture by offering to help you that's what love is all about.don't even call her attention to it cause she has a brain in that kolo she call a head so she can reason. I dumped my leeching girlfriend cause of this and i never regretted doing so 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Error401: 6:15pm On Jan 26 |
Ask her first Offpointng: 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Karleb(m): 6:51pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: The girl does not love you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Demigod22: 6:54pm On Jan 26 |
Ordinarily, she should have given you freely, and even ask how you have been coping without salary. I have dated girls that will subscribe my phone, DSTV, and all that sometimes even when I am earning. I have female friend that offers financial assistance too. People enjoy giving excuse for failures, that is why they are saying you didn't ask. Your man wasn't paid for three months and as a loving partner, you don't care how he survived because he didn't ask? She is just inconsiderate, perhaps, little stingy, like most of them. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by OKOATA(m): 7:07pm On Jan 26 |
This your girl still try small, if na my ex na she go end am straight because I no get paid for 3 months. Men aren't meant to be loved, as long as say she no throw tantrums and she no show you sege make you manage am till you find someone better but I doubt cos all these Naija girls na case. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by talk2hb1(m): 7:14pm On Jan 26 |
Karleb:Woman no dey love my brother, know this and know peace. They only care about their survival, if it doesn't pay them they don't invest in it 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by tellwisdom: 7:46pm On Jan 26 |
Wetin be ion? Na ur mates de here?? 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 8:12pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: There are so many things to consider here, 1. Maybe you didnt sound convincing enough 2. There are people that people can't just believe they are broke, you say you are broke, she is watching and properly see your lifestyle no drop or change 3.Since you never asked her for help you can't conclude, they say a close mouth is a close destiny some people are like that you no talk dey assume yu are fine Bro if she is a good girl just let it slide, just pray God keep blessing you and you play your role 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by SenecaTheYonger: 8:15pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Did you ever tell her you need money and she said no? You’re lucky she no even cheat and her attitude didn’t change. Oga just talk say you no wan marry am. Werey wan disguise |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Aaaaarghmed(m): 8:19pm On Jan 26 |
Women are naturally stingy,they cant just assist you without asking .ask first to confirm fully,she never fail yet. Ask |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 8:24pm On Jan 26 |
EreluRoz: You can't just assume she is inconsiderate, there was a time i told my babe i was broke, infact i was broke for real, buh base on one or two gigs i was till able to maintain some lifestyle ... when i called her nd challenge her why she couldnt offer help, i got to know she was watching me and she deduce these one wey still dey get drink for fridge, On gen down no need help Women are not wired to give boyfriends money, exceptions to few 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Patented: 8:26pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Yup, you were, women generally don't operate the way men do, it would hv been nice for her to offer but as I no ask she believe say I dey ok. Now ask and see her reaction, that would be the real test of character 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 8:40pm On Jan 26 |
Demigod22: I've also seen my guy's girl pray and always support Micheal when he was low, infact the support she showed him those times, if I could duplicate her for myself I could have. But mine isn't fiancing at all I feel if I ask, she'd start loosing respect for me reason why I feel she should have just done it for me without me asking |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Geovanni412(m): 8:44pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Has she brought food from her house to cook for you during this period? Did she refuse to help out in cleaning your house like she normally does during this period? If both of these are negative, use ya head and do what is best for your long term survival. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 8:46pm On Jan 26 |
Geovanni412: We live far apart actually. I was bout using this as a yardstick to know my stand |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by nlfpmod: 8:50pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Please what's the meaning of ion? 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Geovanni412(m): 8:52pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: It doesn't matter My stepmum lives in America. When she and my pops were still talking not dating, my aunt passed away. This lady sent well over $300 cash to my pops, even though he didn't need it to handle any of the logistics. If someone cares, they no go fit hide am. Anything else na wash. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by fyzaila: 8:55pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: She's stingy, selfish and doesn't love you. Love is sharing. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Jman06(m): 8:56pm On Jan 26 |
nlfpmod:It's a shorter way of writing "I don't" |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by drimzsmoke(m): 9:04pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 It might just be that your babe "doesn't have initiative". Call her up tomorrow, tell her you're very sick and won't be able to go to work, act like person wey dey seriously ill. Then watch how she reacts!!! |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by nlfpmod: 9:08pm On Jan 26 |
Jman06: Thanks 1 Like |
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