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Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Wawelexy(m): 7:44pm On Mar 24 |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Mraaz(m): 7:46pm On Mar 24 |
One thing I hate is meddling into people's private matters but the thing to consider is the child affairs if you divide your friend from the mum how do you expect the child to cope People are wicked sha!!! |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by LOVEGINO(m): 7:50pm On Mar 24 |
MadeINchenzen2:U re the father of that bast@rd |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 7:51pm On Mar 24 |
MadeINchenzen2:You forget the details of your friend's marriage such as whether he married his wife in customary court— traditional marriage Laws — or at the registry. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by TheGift: 7:53pm On Mar 24 |
SIMPonPatrol: Which African Culture in particular? And that would only apply if they got married under native Law and Custom and not under Common Law and the Marriage Act. If they did both, and there is a conflict of laws, then the Marriage Act will take precedence. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Wawelexy(m): 7:53pm On Mar 24 |
Scholace: That's not what we are saying here, we are suspecting infidelity here, and that's not safe for the man. Let DNA decide |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Jayhome24: 7:56pm On Mar 24 |
Hhmm I will suggest don't tell him because trouble will burst and you may be shock after trelling him and he tells you straight he is aware of it then the shame will be massive on you. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Sleekfingers: 7:58pm On Mar 24 |
SIMPonPatrol: Which African useless culture? As a full-fledged Yoruba man....we have a popular saying... Ile ti o n ba toro, Omo ale ibe oti d'agba. My people strong frown against paternity fraud. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Bongadu: 8:01pm On Mar 24 |
GloriousGbola: That's Eunoiaa behind that account 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:03pm On Mar 24 |
TheGift:... Wawelexy:... Sleekfingers:He is actually very right. Traditional marriage laws which most Nigerians hold on to make allowance for what you now consider paternity fraud in marriage. So long as people continue to cling to traditional marriage, they accept it as part and parcel of their particular marriage agreement. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Orlu13: 8:05pm On Mar 24 |
Scholace: see if u don't get out of my mention ee...seems something is wrong with u may ur wife give u a child dat is not urs 1 Like |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:06pm On Mar 24 |
Scholace:So long as the marriage was bound under customary laws in Nigeria, that is exactly the situation. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:09pm On Mar 24 |
ExudeLoveToAll:What the one you responded to said is the case with customary law in Nigeria. Has been that way since the time of your fathers and remains the case for all married under customary law. Typically, It is Nigerian men who prefer traditional marriage over registry marriage given the polygamous benefit, not realizing they equally accept what they now consider paternity fraud by it. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Acidosis(m): 8:10pm On Mar 24 |
Kids get their genes from their 4 grandparents (about 25% each). In other words, 50% from their father's side and another 50% from their mother's side. Nobody in the world understands how these genes combine to form a new human. If you share the same feature with your parents, then you are simply an exemption. That's not the norm for everyone. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:10pm On Mar 24 |
ogbe88:He is actually very very correct. Customary/Traditional Marriage laws in Nigeria have almost always allowed for paternity fraud in marriage. Your ancestors designed it that. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by MASTERMIND04(m): 8:11pm On Mar 24 |
Mind your business. Nothing concern you |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by finallybusy: 8:11pm On Mar 24 |
All these stories are fake. They are penned by the mods doing that guy’s bidding. One can’t convince me otherwise. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:12pm On Mar 24 |
Ashirioluwa:What he described is customary Law in most all of Nigeria. So if you choose to be married under Traditional marriage laws, that is what you accept as part of the agreement. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Desusi: 8:13pm On Mar 24 |
Dikegodspower:I guessed devil want to use him as a tool to scatter the family. Sometimes its always good to let sleeping dog sleep,but some people take delight in other people wahala and sorrows. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:13pm On Mar 24 |
CuriousX:The same African traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions is the very same one that allows the woman bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:14pm On Mar 24 |
gigabyte13:Indeed! The very same African traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:15pm On Mar 24 |
psalmsjob:The same African traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions is the very same one that allows the woman bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by SPAMBOX7: 8:15pm On Mar 24 |
How can you observe it but he can't. Are you saying your friend is that blind/foolish that he hasn't noticed the child doesn't carry any of his traits and his wife's? Also what if he's already noticed and secretly done the DNA test and the child belongs to him? These are the questions you should ask yourself. I bet if you have asked yourself these questions you would know you are out of place to talk him about this. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:16pm On Mar 24 |
afadi2410:The same African traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:17pm On Mar 24 |
LibertyRep:The same African traditional marriage laws you bow to in Nigeria that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:17pm On Mar 24 |
Omoapena:Even if! The same African traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:18pm On Mar 24 |
hansomb:The same Nigerian traditional marriage laws — Customary Laws —that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Livingstone124: 8:22pm On Mar 24 |
Ashirioluwa:supported. Not for me and my unborn children. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:25pm On Mar 24 |
Livingstone124:You don't get to make the law for yourself. The same Nigerian traditional marriage laws that allow men to engage in polygamous unions are the very same one that allows the woman to bring children from outside into the marriage. Your ancestors designed it that way. If you do not want to accept the agreement according to your ancestors, the simple solution is not to be married in the customary courts but under the National marriage act. |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by psalmsjob: 8:26pm On Mar 24 |
Kobojunkie: There's no laws or custom in yoruba that allows for married women to engage in adultery talk more of bringing children into her marriage but people engage in it howbeit secretly before they are found out oftentimes through legal "instruments" of the yoruba custom so that does not then mean that because some "omo-ale" yoruba do it that yoruba custom permits it even just by what it's called you'll understand that yorubas abhor it. It's really unfair to raise a child that's not yours without knowing so from the get go.....the "noth knowing" is the deal breaker for me personally if not there's nothing bad in raising a child that's not yours even if the child is your wife's ....I need to know |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by BrighterSyde: 8:29pm On Mar 24 |
SIMPonPatrol: May all your children born under your roof be the offspring of different men |
Re: My Friends First Son Doesn't Look Like Him Or His Wife, Should I Tell Him? by PAQ(m): 8:32pm On Mar 24 |
Before you decide to destroy your friends family and cause serious issues to not only them but your self too, pls read about this - "scientists at the University of South Wales observed an instance of telegony – physical traits of previous sexual partners being passed down to future children. The researchers found that, for fruit flies, the size of the offspring matched the size of the first male the mother mated with – not its biological father. It is thought that molecules of the semen produced by the first partner might be absorbed by the mother’s immature eggs". This research shows that when a woman has had unprotected sex with a couple of sexual partners in the past, deposits from the semen may actually make the baby look like one of her ex or ex's relative. Even if this is not the case or not possible, there are some other factors that may make a baby not resemble the parents. Either way, i dont think you should be meddling in your friends family matters. If he feels the child aint his, DNA test is there, and you are not the one to tell him to take it. |
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