Am concerned cos am contemplating filling for divorce n av told ma in laws about ma intentions but am not com4table wit her in d house cos she is capable of so many tins. She has destroyed ma car n fones n said in her family's presence dat she wud av killed me long ago but for d children as she can't cater for dem alone.

Okay.

So now you've told us, what do you want us to do for you?

Or better still, what do you want?

Lol at Efemena. Op is there no other option? Have you exhausted all means to bring back peace into your home? Anyway to your question, i don't think its ok. You should probably look for a place to be putting up for now till when the divorce is finalized before you break each other's head.

Av tried ma best but as they say u can take d horse to d stream but can't force it to drink. I don't tink as an ambitious man I want a woman who wud just fold her hands monin to nite for evrything to b provided. Av made efforts to av her educated to no avail, I av also impressed on her to do biz n she stil is not interested. Worse still, I enrolled her in a computer school n drivin school to drop d kids in school yet she is not serious. All she knows in lying to my inlaws n arresting me wit police whenever she likes n wen my inlaws n d police finds out d truth, she wud beg for 4giveness. Ma son lost d better part of d last 2 terms because she absconded wit him.

If you know all this about her, then you realize that living together while the divorce is on is dangerous right?

Well did You get married i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ church/registry? If yes, d court will not want †☺ grant ɑ̤̈̊ divorce if it Ȋ̝̊̅§ aware that the parties still live together. If it wasn't i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ church/registry U̶̲̥̅̊ can stay with ha. But your ground for divorce Ȋ̝̊̅§ hard except U̶̲̥̅̊ can get copies of the police reports filed. Finally why don't U̶̲̥̅̊ just move out or chase ha out or send ha without the kids †☺ ha parents? Call ♏ε̲̣̣̣̥ on 08053779782.

Divorce can only be legally granted when a couple has been seperated for a while. So No, if you have exhusted all avenues of peace and you are bent on a divorce then you can't live together. You can move out or ask her to leave.
I am worried about the Police aspect, do you beat her? Why else will Police be involved? Anyway, don't kill each other, it is not do or die

Tanks 4 all ur responses. We married at d registry cos as we were dating she became pregnant n got no other option to make it legit cos of d child while I told her to get issues wit her xter sorted out. Now she is insisting dat until d divorce is done she won't leave d house. I no she is desperate to stay in d marriage n if she realises its goin to end she mite do crazy tins. I live in Abuja n wud appreciate if I can get a lawyer, we married @ d registry in bayelsa. I used to beat her but stopped long ago.

Do I also need witnesses to succeed in my case. I av evidences including photos of my car she damaged and audio recordings n want to ask if they are tenable. Also, in Nigeria how long is it going to take. Tanks.

llade: Do I also need witnesses to succeed in my case. I av evidences including photos of my car she damaged and audio recordings n want to ask if they are tenable. Also, in Nigeria how long is it going to take. Tanks.

Do you also have witnesses and evidence of beating her up?

Yes there are witnesses cos she has also beaten me up too. in november last year long after i promised i wont retaliate or lay hands on her she beat me n spoilt my car and even attempted suicide.

it is never a man's wish to abuse or beat his wife but when she refuses to even breastfeed ur child, prevent d child from going to school and even beating u and spoiling ur properties. should a man just stand and watch.

She is a kinda person wen u stay quiet she goes crazy. Like nov last year I left d house wen she started quarelling. Wen I returned she became beserk, beat me packed her tins n took d children to d village she even threatened to stab herself after damaging ma car b4 she left. Wen she got to d village she told ma inlaws I drove her out of d house. It was wen I became angry n said d marriage cud b over dat she begged for d lies n behaviour. But wen she returned n wanted to spoil ma tins again I threatened to beat her up mercilessly n she immediately stopped.

Its obvious the both of you are not on the same page. You both started out wrongly. Beating a woman will never make her submit. Am not a fan of divorce but have you exhausted all options on reconciliation. Have you really taking time out to sit your wife down and really know what her problem really is? Coz even the toughest woman can be broken down with words of concern.
You know it takes two to tangle,would have love to hear your wife's part of the issue coz no good woman will open her eyes and use her own hands to destroy a good home.

At ilade, u can call me on 08053779782. Although You can apply for divorce while staying i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ the same house, the Court might not grant it on the ground of Condonation,

llade:
Am concerned cos am contemplating filling for divorce n av told ma in laws about ma intentions but am not com4table wit her in d house cos she is capable of so many tins. She has destroyed ma car n fones n said in her family's presence dat she wud av killed me long ago but for d children as she can't cater for dem alone.

If it's a rented apartment, I suggest you leave asap and inform your landlord to he doesn't drag you for the next rent.

If it's your own house, I suggest you stay away for a while. Find a friend to stay with and save your life.

Its so unfortunate that you're passing through this phase. I wish it never happened to anyone.

I can't imagine wooing someone, spend on marriage, vacations and thereafter decides to dissolve. The thought really makes me weak.

llade:
Am concerned cos am contemplating filling for divorce n av told ma in laws about ma intentions but am not com4table wit her in d house cos she is capable of so many tins. She has destroyed ma car n fones n said in her family's presence dat she wud av killed me long ago but for d children as she can't cater for dem alone.

good evening sir. I noticed this is a 2012 post which means it's been 8 years now.
I hope the divorce didn't actually pull thru? And if it did, how has it been, have you been in constant touch with your ex-wife?

1stHooligan:
good evening sir. I noticed this is a 2012 post which means it's been 8 years now.
I hope the divorce didn't actually pull thru? And if it did, how has it been, have you been in constant touch with your ex-wife?

They are still married. I got to know from a post he made in 2017.

Ganjafama:
They are still married. I got to know from a post he made in 2017.

eeya that's a good decision

llade:
Am concerned cos am contemplating filling for divorce n av told ma in laws about ma intentions but am not com4table wit her in d house cos she is capable of so many tins. She has destroyed ma car n fones n said in her family's presence dat she wud av killed me long ago but for d children as she can't cater for dem alone.

You can't be filing for a divorce and still be living with her

It's not safe that way

If she doesn't want to leave the house, leave the house for her and inform the landlord that you are no longer a tenant there

As for your kids, keep paying their school fees and keep the receipts

You can be sending a particular certain amount to her for the kids
If you want to see them, go to their schools

When her rents expires,
the way and manner she will handle it,
Is her business not yours

Atimes separation helps in determining the value of the relationship

Happiness and love is what married couples need not depression

If you still insist on divorce, the court will set things right