Ujujoan:

It's only Nigerians, as far as I know, that struggle to send money home to their parents and long- distant relatives.

It's only in Nigeria that a man will house his children, his sister's children and his brother's children in his one room apartment, in the name of 'helping'.

Just because Nigeria's donor-figures are low you concluded that Nigerians are the worst givers

Interesting!

afam4eva:
You're right. people take cheerful givers for granted. They respect people that make them suffer before they give them money. Something similar happened to me.

chucky234: For its GIVE GIVE GIVE and when I don't expect anything in return I just give as it makes me happy knowing full well that I just touched someone's life in my own little way.

afam4eva:
You're so right. But we should not because of these baggage that come once in a while not assist people in need. Though it's advisable that if you must help just try as much as possible to keep the person away from you. For instance, i don't support the idea of getting a job for someone that's close to you in the same place that you work except there's not alternative.

Kobojunkie:

um . . . again, please read. Nigerians ARE SOME OF THE WORST GIVERS . . . . go check the tables . . . there is a table for this information.

Ujujoan:

I've always had a problem with you and your figures/tables!

They work better in politics, not in real life experiences! I really have to spell everything out to you.

Kobojunkie:

I hate arguing with facts pulled from the air. I prefer facts that can be verified, if not, they might as well be beer parlour gossip passed around as facts, as many of us are used to here.

Kobojunkie:

Is this universal or are you speaking of Nigeria?

Ola Advert: HELPing people financially is like giving them fish, Why can't we start teaching them how to fish

Oleros: Why is it so hard for people to stick their necks out and help a fellow Nigerian in need except if there is a direct benefit being derived from such people. When the needies are pushed to the wall, they take to social ills, and when the arm of the law catches up with them for commiting such offences, the people that could have made a difference in such lives by giving N1,000.00 or so begin to blame the needy.

Ola Advert: HELPing people financially is like giving them fish, Why can't we start teaching them how to fish

Ujujoan:

Verified on the basis of what? On the basis of how much fund goes into foreign help

Your basis for verification is way off base madam.

Back to expecting something in return. . . . You are right, when I give I expect something from the receiver, I expect him/her not to turn around and bite my finger for feeding him!

PS: Ever asked yourself why begging in Nigeria is a very lucrative business? People even form deformities just to be able to beg on the streets. I wonder why they would if Nigerians were so stingy!

acidtalk: Personally, I will speak for myself.
I learned something from experience and noticed the successful people also make use of, and that's " the power of giving".

I try never for be miserly/stingy and also never extragavant /wasteful. No one comes with a problem and leaving without having at least some of it being solved. Be it financial, moral or emotional.

I have gotten to realize that the more you give the more you get.

The sad part is, people always always and always take you for granted when you give. Also people respect and adore people who make them suffer before rendering any form of assistance to them. They hardly value those who help them without making them go through any form of suffering.

Inshort, blackman likes things the hard way as that's the only way he appreciates it, and as such people only help after putting someone on the burning furnance.

Also don't forget an average black man thinks if he helps you to be successful then who will be there to slave for him and his family.

lola.luv:
I remember the time I went to buy airtime outside the hostel and saw the airtime salesboy shivering in the Northern harmattan cold.
I went back to the hostel to get my brother's expensive leather jacket that was with me and I lent it to him. I didn't know his name, we weren't friends, but I did it out of human pity for a guy out in the cold in a threadbare shirt. He was supposed to return it before closing. The guy ran off with the jacket and as it turns out, it was his last day at the place.
Though it wasn't financial help but that was what I had to give and I did it whole-heartedly. I have been stabbed a few times for my good deeds. Would you blame me for now being more sceptical?

Now I still help, but I know it's not the way it used to be! But I pray to go back to the original me! Cos it's good to give!

SlyIg: People rarely give out arms on d road side which happens to be d most popular way d needy takes to. Many help d poor in d church cos of how dangerous our society is now. Many needys are not truly in need. Many of them are lazy. Eg. I saw a healthy young girl wit two legs and hands wit a child on her back using small basin in begging on d road. On that same road were small children selling snacks and pure water. Can you give out help to Such?

kpolli: Still dunno what this poster is asking

naijababe: Because majority of Nigerians are perhaps the most selfish set of people on earth. The more civil and empathic you are to a Nigerian, the more he takes you for granted and treat you like a 'mugu'.

lola.luv:
@kobojunkie
You're laughing at me, ba?