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| What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 11:24am On Aug 14, 2012 |
Guys how would you react if your girlfriend suddenly tells you she no longer wants to be having 5ex with you? Her reason being that she wants to stay chaste,a decision she and her inner man has made and is determined to see it through. Will you get all angry and accuse her of cheating on you? Will you leave her and go get another girl? Will you remain with her but will start getting it elsewhere? Someone i know is on the verge of losing her relationship because of the above reason,she says he got really angry saying she shouldn't have given it to him in the first place and that her decision seems to him like she's just experimenting with him, that her reason doesn't make sense to him, a fight ensued,he accused her of cheating and finally asked what he stands to gain from the relationship,which infuriated the lady and has left her confused. You know given the way many guys and ladies alike think in this country, they think a guy foots some bills for a lady and then he gets 5ex and what have you in return,well this lady says that's not the case with them,she doesn't depend on the dude for anything and he hasn't been spending much money on her(except on very few occasions when he spends,she reciprocates btw). Now was she wrong to have made that decision? Does her boyfriend getting angry and asking what he stands to gain mean he doesn't love her? Ladies if you were in the lady's shoes what would you do? will you walk away or reconsider your stand on your decision? P.S I would seriously consider leaving the dude cos it seems to me like he's in it for the 5ex or what to gain,hence that question,i see nothing wrong with her decision even though her boyfriend was affected but since its something she really wants, then i think he should respect that. Let's read your opinion. |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 11:29am On Aug 14, 2012 |
Lol. 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 11:34am On Aug 14, 2012 |
^The thing funny sha but e no too funny o  .It just goes further to show how many men make 5ex a priority in relationships. |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 11:44am On Aug 14, 2012 |
freecocoa: ^The thing funny sha but e no too funny oIt is funny to me because i already know that most so called relationships are based solely on sex. . . It makes more sense for people to stop using the the word boyfriend/girlfriend and replace with sexmate as the case may be. When someone believes that a relationship is non existent without sex you don't expect him/her to accept such terms when presented with it. Funny that most people still don't know what a relationship really means/entails and still confuse and intertwine different kinds of relationships mainly because they woefully fail to define the relationship from the onset. Midway into the relationship, they finally define it and the consequence is the experience you just related. . . |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Chanchit: 11:47am On Aug 14, 2012 |
Go back and ask ur frnd the true reason for her decision... If i'm the guy, i won't have to be angry, all i have to do is keep her on the bench, then find a good major signing... 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by mykejones(m): 11:47am On Aug 14, 2012 |
She shdn't have started in the first place... |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 11:49am On Aug 14, 2012 |
sexkillz: It is funny to me because i already know that most so called relationships are based solely on sex. . . It makes more sense for people to stop using the the word boyfriend/girlfriend and replace with sexmate as the case may be. When someone believes that a relationship is non existent without sex you don't expect him/her to accept such terms when presented with it.True talk my brother,seriously i blame it on the orientation many people have about relationships,its a pity sha. 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 11:51am On Aug 14, 2012 |
Chanchit: Go back and ask ur frnd the true reason for her decision...This is exactly what we are talking about here,so that reason she gave is not sensible enough? In other words,you only date girls for 5ex or you can't do without 5ex?smh  |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 11:52am On Aug 14, 2012 |
This situation... Mhen... The right decision is to stick to her moral convictions... Its the right thing... God dey look for pple like her... The situation however get webs sha... Trust me, she may loose the guys trust & loose him totally while she wud feel like having s3x next week. Its nt easy to stop s3x. Christ can help her sha. On the other hand, the guy leaving her doesnt mean he doesnt lov her & is in it for s3x, bt dey started dat way, so confusing a situation dat wud b... So many people av psychosis, following Christ 2day going bak to it tomorro... She shud be firm & nt fall into dis category. Life goes on. She will get a beta guy... Well life sha, u neva know... She may nt get a beta guy too. Best bet, she shud follow her heart & trust Christ. Either way, it pays to follow Christ. 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 11:56am On Aug 14, 2012 |
mykejones: She shdn't have started in the first place...I totally agree with this too but hey does it mean a man can't abstain from 5ex? I thought the only person one owes that obligation is a spouse,will it kill a man to wait till he's married?na wa o |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by DICKtator: 12:01pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
@Op: the guy is not/never hit the P. Right.If he did,she would always be on that oliver twist level thing. My 2 cents advice: he shld ask for the last cultery(fork) and fork her brains out. (Alomo would be useful here!!!)."cutlery" that P. And wait for the feedback. If after a week, she is still forming celibacy,he should wake up and smell d kitten!!!, I mean,coffee. |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by 190: 12:02pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
no sex no more demands from her. . end of . . make we dey love with mouth like that and she dare not complain if she catches me wif another lady 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 12:05pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
freecocoa: ^The thing funny sha but e no too funny oof course sexx is a priority in relationships and you girls should try to stop feeling guilty or disadvantaged cos of it. that's so 90's. just use protection and have a good time. life's short. can't blame dude for going apeshit. girl springs such selfish and manipulative stunt and says her 'innerman'. wth, is she borderline .....? |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by jonath0012(m): 12:05pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
why now? I agree with Sexkills. they started with sex, now she wants to stop. No way! It's either she continues giving him d cherry or quit d relationship; it's not d guy's fault. Another consequence of pre-marital sex! |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 12:07pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
of cos if the Guy is not doing her right she should come out and say so  |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by kolaoloye(m): 12:43pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
freecocoa: I totally agree with this too but hey does it mean a man can't abstain from 5ex?Yes my dear. You can't give honey to your child to lick and try retrieving it.  |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by tobechi74: 12:44pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
I wi tel her am disapointed,tel her she waz selfish for makin dat decision witout considerin me. ,.she would have told me b4 makin such conclusion fuly aware dat it affects me. If she insists, i wil play along.she wil stil be my gal but i wil gradualy withdraw from her. Financialy, materialy,afectionately etc. I would respect her decision and reduce touches,kises since it tempts one to saaeeeex i might start looking elsewhere to deposit my S P E R M A T O Z O A since she has giving me no choice. 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by 190: 12:51pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
all these na story if she says no more sex hurayah hurayah young wild and free - time to run and chase d girls and she dares not complain no more alloweee for her cos im spending it on those other girls satisfying me make no offence, i still love her but my body nor be firewood now man shall not live on bread sorry love alone but on those kitten to reliquish the stress in our every day lives na blood dey work me, not engine oil, phuck is a must for me, else i start loosing it havent u heard dat little or no sex kills faster than cancer and HIV joined together 2 Likes |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by jhydebaba(m): 12:57pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Some girls and their tiny upstairs *SMH Why can't her decide this early enough in life and turn to a nun. She stupidly waited till she put a man's "konji" on the line before applying her upstairs on what she wanted in life, too bad. She can't eat her cake and also have it back. |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Caracta(f): 1:17pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
SMH |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by 190: 1:17pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
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| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 1:19pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Caracta: SMHwhy you dey shake your head na? |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Caracta(f): 1:29pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
My dear. I tire for the way people dey reason these days o? Is se.x food? Is it a priority? I'm beginning to believe there are no saints out there anymore. It's appalling. 1 Like |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by 190: 1:31pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
smh |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by freecocoa(f): 1:42pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Caracta: My dear. I tire for the way people dey reason these days o? Is se.x food? Is it a priority? I'm beginning to believe there are no saints out there anymore. It's appalling.My sister the thing shock me sef,I no even fit talk again. Imagine,almost all the guys on this thread are in support of the dude,its really appalling. |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by 190: 1:47pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
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| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by pcicero(m): 3:48pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
It once happened to me. One of my ex told me we should abstain from having sex for some time. I could only conclude that she was cheating, and perhaps she wanted to quit the relationship. But She kept insisting that she wanted to be chaste for a while and was baffled that I couldn't trust her enough to understand her. I really loved her but since 'man shall not live by bread alone', I just looked around for a freebie without emotional attachment. I was so mad and heartbroken that I decided not to have another relationship. And that was the end of the relationship. Call it immaturity. But the fact is, guys don't really trust women enough when it comes to such things. Don't ask me why cos I don't know! |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Konnektions146(m): 3:50pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Caracta: My dear. I tire for the way people dey reason these days o? Is se.x food? Is it a priority? I'm beginning to believe there are no saints out there anymore. It's appalling.people who never has a good s.ex ask as u just asked. freecocoa: My sister the thing shock me sef,I no even fit talk again. the truth of the matter is that in dis 21 century, it almost look like its a tit-for-tat kinda stuff. if u as a lady makes a guy know yu dont care abt his money and think abt building a relationship thats amiable, he will respect u. ladies make sex look like a favour to de guys and de guys knowing that de only reciprocating act are the spendings, take it as a weapon. let us face facts, HOW MANY RELATIONSHIPS NOWADAYS ARE DEVOID OF SEX?...... there is a decay in our culture and way of thoughts and thats why things turn to be this way. OP. let your lady friend sit down and talk with the guy and have a resolve, right now, she may be the 1st LADY for the guy, if anythin happens and she breaks up and make up, there will be some psychological effect on the guy as de way he thinks abt de lady and thus treat her like a piece of trash.... let her be guided wisely |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
yes, sex is food.  |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Nobody: 9:30pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
The power of a cockpit should NEVER be undermined!,and should never be taken off the table |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by ayobase(m): 10:20pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
freecocoa: why you dey shake your head na? U shook urs first! . She should simply quote I Corinthians 5:17 for the guy instead of those jargons! |
| Re: What Would You Do In This Scenario? by Idowuogbo(f): 10:28pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Na cocoa get thread? Impossicant! Wetin d gal chop? Who does dat? She has no say. U don't go yanshing and decide to put a stop to it all of a sudden expecting d other party to accept ur stance jus like dat! Abegii... Get real jare. If na u nko? U and ur guy dey run collabo steady, all of a sudden d koboko press pause for no good reason.wetin u go think? It's eida he ain't filling u anymore or bros don turn GAY. Get real! 2 Likes |
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