Am I crazy or what? My boyfriend and I planned to go to the UK for masters together and also know possibly further our relationships, get engaged and married this time frame. I hate long distance relationship, infact I do not want to try it again. He got an interview for Shell, which I am happy for but I now have mixed feelings, that if he gets it, he would not go again or start travelling about and I may be tempted to start another relationship close to me.

He said if he gets it, he would engage me or better still continue with the job, i'm presently working with that i detest and he also said he could get a study leave next year for his masters. I don't know if I'm crazy for having mixed feelings about this or what would you advise me?

start another relationship with your aboki when he goes to shell.

Come on, I asked for advice not insult

I understand how u feel ok, long distance relationship could be messy, take it from someone who has been there. But again love conquers all! If u guys love each other and are ready to make sacrifices, compromises and put in extra efforts then you stand a chance of making it work. But if you know deep down in ur heart you can't then pls don't!

Good luck!

This girl again, i hope you don't kill yourself thinking about relationships.

I wonder if someone like you can ever be alone(without a relationship) even for one week.

Na wa o.

Him never get the Job you don dey Para up and dowm..Ok, calm down. I think both of you need to sit, talk and align your intentions.

freecocoa: This girl again, i hope you don't kill yourself thinking about relationships.

I wonder if someone like you can ever be alone(without a relationship) even for one week.

Na wa o.

some people are like that

Wish him goodluck

if he gets the job he can afford to come every 2 weeks or once a month

and you will ne engaged anyway, Your masters is only 1 year!!

some gals no go allow person breathe sef

Go to white garment church pray and fast as long as they tell you to that he dosen't get it. After all that's what you in your heart want but you are afraid of saying it.

You berra set your priorities right and wish him, whatever will make him happy. You think masters abroad, will miraculously spin good jobs your way right? . You go ahead and see for yourself. If you do not feel like his plans for the future, will accomodate yours, and you cannot have it another way, then it's a no-brainer that you're incompatible, and both of you should go your seperate ways.

@ OP:
I am sorry to say but, your relationship is not on solid foundation and you are clearly not truly in love with this guy because if you are, the possibility of cheating during your short period of separation wouldn't even cross your mind.

As your committment/fidelity towards this relatiohship is evidently questionable, I would therefore strongly advise that you recosider your decision to go ahead with this union. I would also advise you to pls free this guy now in order save him from future heartache should you by chance be tempted to cheat on him in marriage, at the slightest opportunity of separation - especially if he should get the job at Shell and if it should involve frequent travelling, as I would imagine.

TBH, you came across as a kind of 'out of sight out of mind' kind of girl - well, at least as far as this relationship is concerned.

Sorry if I was brutally honest.

Rocktation: You berra set your priorities right and wish him, whatever will make him happy. You think masters abroad, will miraculously spin good jobs your way right? . You go ahead and see for yourself. If you do not feel like his plans for the future, will accomodate yours, and you cannot have it another way, then it's a no-brainer that you're incompatible, and both of you should go your seperate ways.

point @bolded.. Well poster, why are u people committing californication? It is as a result of your californication everyday that can make you do without the something everyday, thus.. You have to be in a steady relationship were the yoghurt flow always.

@OP, I wonder if you have discussed these fears with him. How can you be more comfortable with sharing things bothering you in a relationship with strangers and you can talk to your partner about it?