The importance of children in the African society/marriage cannot be overemphassised.In the African marriage a child is placed in high esteem even above the love that exists between husband and wife,no wonder,family,friends,well wishers and neighbours always look forward to being called back for naming ceremony,some months after the couple have signed the dotted lines,frustration,hostility and anger begin to set in some months if a lady does not consumate her marriage,some mothers in-law,sisters in-law even friends and neighbours would begin to make comments that if care is not taken might affect the couple{especially the wife}no wonder some couples {especially the wife}would do anything to have a child just to keep their marriage alive. A lot of marriages had broken down all in the name of the woman not having a child,a lot of people did a lot of horrible things,visited a lot of horrible places that ordinarilly they would not have gone,all in the name of having a child,it shows the importance of children in marriage. The question now is,WHAT WOULD YOU NOT DO JUST TO HAVE A CHILD?

but i want a child. . . .later on in the coming years

you still have not answered the question,the question was,what would you not do to have a child?

I no dey go babalawo all in de name of pikin and I no fit use another woman eggs.

sista-jay:

I no dey go babalawo all in de name of pikin and I no fit use another woman eggs.

Amen!!! my sista . . . . i was thinking just exactly that

sista-jay:

I no dey go babalawo all in de name of pikin and I no fit use another woman eggs.

No?

toyinrayo:

Amen!!! my sista . . . . i was thinking just exactly that

That's assuming you can still have children. If you were infertile, (all hypothetical) you'd probably think differently.

The truth is, it's virtually impossible to imagine a reaction to any given situation, untill you're there. . .

it's virtually impossible to imagine a reaction to any given situation, untill you're there. . .

Wow!. . . nice one right there

@ Siena

You must comprehend somethings you just won't do, no matter what the situation might be. I will not succumb to what I feel is wrong.

Siena:

The truth is, it's virtually impossible to imagine a reaction to any given situation, untill you're there. . .

am always in agreement with u, not bcus u're my big brother. . .but bcus u're a sane one!!

@topic i wont sleep with my father or brothers even if they are my last resort. _{at least,this am sure of!}

I would never go through any diabolic means to get a child.

I see ladies are very much interested in having a child.

@thonia, what a lip. they look so yummy.

There is nothing a woman can not do after waiting for 5-10 years without having a child. Even if she is being ask to eat human or animal waste product she will do so as to have a child. You need to be there to know how they feel. It is not an easy experience.

The only thing the woman will not do will be to sleep with another man

My fiance wants children and lots of children, YIKES!

Babies are beautiful and they are a joy, but going through gestation is a mofo!

Check it boo!

Babalawo+prayer ministries (are they not d same?) - NOT 4 ME.

I will not go to any orisa/ dibia to go and beg for any ogbanje/ abiku child. If it happens that I can't have kids (god forbid)! I will adopt and if my husband no gree and decides to exchange me for another wife, make he carry go!

i am not desperate to have a child , the way i see it it isn't compulsory to have a child hate it or love suckers!!!!!!