A good friend of mine has been dating a nice guy for a few months now,
he is not usually her spec, as in,
*she looks down on his career
*she constantly compares him to her exes
*she is taller than him
BUT, my dear friend is saying all the right things, acting the right way, being sweet, kind, God fearing, patient, even-tempered, why?
she wants to get married.
the guy is head over heels in love and does everything for her, in turn, she does too.
her real plan is to marry him, get her papers as she is currently on a student visa, have one child, divorce him and move back to nigeria.
she never wanted to be married for life, but she wants a child and also wants her papers.
she is extremely clever by the way, currently doing her PHd in Business Administration at a top 20 school and stunning.
this guy by the way IS making plans on marrying her thinking he has found the one.
Na wa oooooooooooooooooooooooo

that is an example of how devious some women can be

Its unfortunate, I hope the guy finds out before its too late. . .why would she want her papers then divorce him to go live in naija?

debosky:

that is an example of how devious some women can be

Its unfortunate, I hope the guy finds out before its too late. . .why would she want her papers then divorce him to go live in naija?

she'll have a better life there i guess with the nannies, cooks and drivers,
as per papers, want flexibility for her future as she will probably end up working for the oil companies or international consultancies.

God direct my steps away from such a devious woman!

This is why I insist people go out enough to get past the honeymoon stage and see the real person. . .often times even if you're pretending, you can't do so forever, true colours begin to shine through sooner or later.

I hope for his sake that he realises before he falls for her trap.

Why do the right ones keep meeting the wrong ones.
I pray the guy finds out in time, before the stupid woman leaves him heart broken.

well dat a very bad thign 2 do why person go get such evil
plans 4 such a nice guy,well the only thign wey i pity na
the innocent pikin wey she plan 2 born
becuz na dat one go suffer part of hm mama sins
latter,if na male or female somebody will do samethign,
and the sad thign be say the mama fit don change then(born again)
well sha God dey.

hmmmn, well ive tried to talk to her but no she no wan hear word,
but the way these things happen, maybe the guy is even paying for some previous sins, who knows!

wow, that's horrible

londonlady:

maybe the guy is even paying for some previous sins, who knows!

You have a point there.

londonlady:

maybe the guy is even paying for some previous sins, who knows!

You have a point there.

Guys it's born to happen, have 1 girl like that too i Luv her but she play games with me, in my own case i know but i pretend as if i know nothing, what u guys thinks i can do?

londonlady:

A good friend of mine has been dating a nice guy for a few months now,
he is not usually her spec, as in,
*she looks down on his career
*she constantly compares him to her exes
*she is taller than him
BUT, my dear friend is saying all the right things, acting the right way, being sweet, kind, God fearing, patient, even-tempered, why?
she wants to get married.
the guy is head over heels in love and does everything for her, in turn, she does too.
her real plan is to marry him, get her papers as she is currently on a student visa, have one child, divorce him and move back to nigeria.
she never wanted to be married for life, but she wants a child and also wants her papers.
she is extremely clever by the way, currently doing her PHd in Business Administration at a top 20 school and stunning.
this guy by the way IS making plans on marrying her thinking he has found the one.
Na wa oooooooooooooooooooooooo

You think she is cleaver?, then you watch and see remember what goes around comes around.

how unfortunate

debosky:

that is an example of how devious some women can be

Its unfortunate, I hope the guy finds out before its too late. . .why would she want her papers then divorce him to go live in naija?

This guy may never find out. When a woman is set to be bad, she could be bad indeed.
I only hope and pray that she ends up falling in love with him genuinly and forgetting this crazy plan.

londonlady:

A good friend of mine has been dating a nice guy for a few months now,
he is not usually her spec, as in,
*she looks down on his career
*she constantly compares him to her exes
*she is taller than him
BUT, my dear friend is saying all the right things, acting the right way, being sweet, kind, God fearing, patient, even-tempered, why?
she wants to get married.
the guy is head over heels in love and does everything for her, in turn, she does too.
her real plan is to marry him, get her papers as she is currently on a student visa, have one child, divorce him and move back to nigeria.
she never wanted to be married for life, but she wants a child and also wants her papers.
she is extremely clever by the way, currently doing her PHd in Business Administration at a top 20 school and stunning.
this guy by the way IS making plans on marrying her thinking he has found the one.
Na wa oooooooooooooooooooooooo

so what makes u any different from your friend? u know the saying, 'birds of the same feather flock together'.
u prolly brought your friends issue here because u wish the guy was your boy friend.

OMO IBO, dnt be harsh.

i think i agree wt Yimi, i pray she falls in love along the line.

Oga o.
What am gonna say is that things like this have a way of coming back and biting people in the backside.
Leave her cause i know a couple that the same thin happened to - she succeeded sha and got her red pali, but she totally wrecked the man.

By the grace of God, her plans will come to nothing, on their wedding day, lightning will strike and that guy will wake up from his slumber and abandon her at the alter. (ase ti gun)

well,  she is just like her mother who wanted nothing more but to be financially independent and have two kids, which she got only she made her ex-husband (my friends dad) a broken man in the process.

i on the other hand, my parents met when my dad was 22 and she was 18. they married after 5 years of courtship and are celebrating almost 40 years of marraige together,  so i cannot fathom any thing less for myself,

my friend is not a bad person really, just misguided.

That's a load of hard work and for what? have paper? one child? and move to Nigeria? lol in pursuit of happiness or getting her arse whooped

Abi @Debosky, @Yemiton, and @efuah have said it all, stay away from those devious, heartless woman is NOT WORTH into relationship to wreak man emotionally and financially!

it begs the question, how well can u really know someone?

londonlady:

it begs the question, how well can u really know someone?

Knowing someone you do really like or love very much based on the following characteristics at below:
[list]
[li]Trust[/li]
[li]Spirituality[/li]
[li]4 Characters[/li]
[list]
[li]Humility[/li]
[li]Kindness[/li]
[li]Responsibility[/li]
[li]Happiness[/li]
[/list]

[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]
[li]Communication Skill[/li]
[li]Personal Habits[/li]
[li]Strong Connections[/li]
[list]
[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]
[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]
[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]
[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]
[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li]
[li]Agreed Financial Obligations/Compromise Equally[/li]
[/list]
[/list]

That will blossom into the strongest foundation of the marriage where both each other belong together. Evenually both will do accepting only few flaws to work out that shows both are ready for marriage, NO PROBLEM! NO WAHALA! NO LONG THING!

londonlady:

it begs the question, how well can u really know someone?

as well as you really want to learn!!

I personally think that we are all, according to our inquisitive and curious natures, able to dig into the depths of the human psyche. But because of our fear of the unknown we subconsciously stop ourselves from learning more than we are presented with.  _{its just a theory that i have}

If i have any suspicious feeling about someone close to me, I will go as far as possible to prove myself wrong or right!

I only have one heart and i cherish it.

@topic

A Mugu-fied person has more sense than the guy. Almost all the guys in London have wwisen-edup a  long time ago. By the way how old is the guy because young guys  will not fall for that kind of crap at all.

Then again the guy may just be playing the same game. He's going to marry her for his own sinister reasons which neither of you know about. LOL!

NaJa HaJe:

Then again the guy may just be playing the same game. He's going to marry her for his own sinister reasons which neither of you know about. LOL!

what possible sinister reason?

u need to see the babe, she deserves an Oscar.

what goes round comes around. Man proposes, God disposes, devil opposes. If the guy is the God fearing type God will expose the girl. As for the girl, she obviously cant eat her cake and have it. He cld succeed in wreckin the boy, her own purnishment will def. come, most times, our now, determines our future and its obvious she's playin with her future. God forbid bad thing.

She may neva have the child she wishes for. Not a curse, but with such plans in mind, only God can judge. wish her and the lover boy good luck

, and cm to think of it, the boy cld equally be playin a game as Naja Haje noted. what a funny word we leave in

londonlady:


u need to see the babe, she deserves an Oscar.

My point exactly!!!! You don't know how men think. He may have an idea as to what her goals are but because he has his own goals as well; he's glad to play along. (am saying this from experience) ----- It wasn't until the lady married him that she realised it wont be one smooth ride.

Bear in mind you only know one side of the story/relationship.

@poster

Wetin concern you with your friend matter? Stop poking your nose in people's business since the guy in question is not in anyway related to you.
You are just a jobless amebo!

*hisssssssssssss*

michelin89:

@poster

Wetin concern you with your friend matter? Stop pucking your nose in people's business since the guy in question is not in anyway related to you.
You are just a jobless amebo!

*hisssssssssssss*

michelin, who begged u? abeg carry ur hypocitical arse off here jare! i know ur type!

You don't know anything. If you did, you'd know better than to address me as a hypocrite. Get yourself a job and start being a real friend who doesn't go narrating about her friend's private life.

You are the worst friend a person can have. Even if you are anonymous here, you have still lacked your so called friend of respect.

I am out of here.

Follow my advise: Mind your bleeping business!

michelin89:

You don't know anything. If you did, you'd know better than to address me as a hypocrite. Get yourself a job and start being a real friend who doesn't go narrating about her friend's private life.

You are the worst friend a person can have. Even if you are anonymous here, you have still lacked your so called friend of respect.

I am out of here.

Follow my advise: Mind your bleeping business!

michelin, dalu, thanks alot,
now, goodbye!

You are welcome!