Hi people,
now we all know how we love to protect our girls. We don't send them to the homes of ''uncles''; we don't allow them go out late at night; we install iron bars on the windows of their rooms; I mean we are almost too protective of them.
But has it ever cross ur mind that we need to protect our boys with the same measure of caution?

About a month ago, I was entertaining my neighbours kids. There were two boys aged 8 and 6. We were having a discussion(I know, sounds funny) on quite innocent matters when I noticed how one, the youngest for that matter tended to be vulgar.
I was quite interested and so went deeper into the matter only to find out that he had been sexually assaulted by his former house help, at age six!

This really shocked me and made me realise that we really do need to reflect on some issues.
That wasn't all. The elder one was also vulgar and they told me how there ex house helps used to enlighten them on sexual matters, or to put it well, CORRUPT THEM.

I also recently read about a case where a toddler was assaulted by his househelp.
And I think we all remember the horrible video of an 11 year old girl having sexual intercourse with a 4 year old.

What am I trying to say people? we need to open our eyes.

Do u know that in america more boys are sexually assaulted under the age of ten than girls?

I recently watched a documentary were a pastor was molesting his nephews even though he had lots of wives.

And there are countless of other cases to be mentioned of priests, important figures, uncles, family friends, molesting young boys.

Its surprising I know, but its true. There are lots of predators, men and women alike. I don't know what they see sexy in little boys but what matters is that they would use any chance they have to molest ur sons.

And it will affect them bigtime. Not only would they have physical injuries especially at the rear but psychological ones, which is the most dangerous.
They might become secluded, depressed, they might have problems socializing with girls, have horrible sex lives or might even end up being rapists and peadophiles themselves. They might become drug addicts and failures and so end up commiting suicide like in the documentary I watched.

So please, there are so many things that could happen to them. We have to realise boys are as vulnerable as girls. Protect them.

Becareful with who u put in their care, the places they play in....

More importantly, make sure u are close to them and have frequent and meaningful discussions wit them.
Be watchful so if u notice any strange changes in their behaviour, u would be able to pick it up early and hopfully save a lot of stress.

If ur child has been molested whether boy or girl, pls make sure u give them utmost care and love. Dont push them aside but go closer to them so with ur loving warmth they could heal both mentally and physically.

If anything, remember this: THERE ARE PREDATORS IN THIS WORLD, PROTECT UR LOVED ONES FROM BEING PREY.

I have always maintained that our society has changed and what used to be is no longer the norm. Perversion has been imported well and true and the consequences of it is the horrible sad stories we hear. Parents must become extra extra careful of who comes in contact with their kids. Boys as well as girls are at risk. Many more experiences in this thread here:
http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/topic,58.0.html

smartmom: I have always maintained that our society has changed and what used to be is no longer the norm. Perversion has been imported well and true and the consequences of it is the horrible sad stories we hear. Parents must become extra extra careful of who comes in contact with their kids. Boys as well as girls are at risk. Many more experiences in this thread here:
http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/topic,58.0.html

thanks, it's really good to know someone appreciated this.
the world is getting weirder everyday.
we must be more observant and careful.

You bet I do appreciate this. A mom came to give us pep talk on the ills pervading and ruining our moral standards and some of the shocking info she gave us is the high and prevalent stats on the issue of male kid sexual abuse. It was scary and a real eye opener I tell you. No wonder we are talking about gay rights in naija. It is rooted in sex abuse in childhood with our boys. It spreads and scans all sections of our soceity, the rich, poor, educated, priviledged and is a monster that is growing rapidly. Methinks we should mount a campaign against this!

Too much of hollywood is perverting our society the more,even ghanawood and its so suprising how poarents will leave under 9 year old kids to watch ghana movies where they show sexuallu explicit scenes.so its d parents that hold larger part of the responsibilities to protect their kids irrespective of their genders

Signs of the times!
Boys are just as endangered as girls!
True that!
You can't be too careful.

ALWAYS TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW TO REPORT FOUL PLAY WITHOUT FEAR OF INTIMIDATION!!!

My dear,I guard my boys jelously.No matter how friendly you try to be with them,I won't let you take them out of my sight.The level of perversion in this world baffles my senses.its one of the reasons I can't stand a live in relative or househelp.

I remember when i was preparing for my wedding, one of d things my mum told me is not to employ a househelp, she said none of them cant molest, her words......."if you employ a male help, there is tendency for your girl child to be molested, if you employ a female help, there is also tendency for your male child to be molested, so, dont try it, do what you can when you can, thank God you are not a lazy person" then, i asked........how can a male child be molested? She said, when we were young, one of her maids, then, was always asking my elder brother to be playing with her nip....ples and her clitori...s, that it was her friend who came to pay her visit that caught them, and she decided to sack d three of them instantly, then, my elder brother was around 5 yrs old, while i was around 1+..........that was in early 197's....not to talk of this time where disordeliness, perversion and waywardness are d orders of d day.
As for me,i always tell my kids, bole male and female....if anybody ask you to do any wierld thing, first of all tell dad or mum or even both of us.....awww, d level of perversion these days is scary.
May God help us all.

I used to be ignorant of male child sexual abuse till 4 years ago when a friend opened up on what he faced in the hands of their female househelp. Really we need to be extra vigilant and careful.we also need to be prayerful, listening attentively ro what this kids have to say
God help us all

Dear parents, it even goes beyond just females molesting little boys. The vigilance watch has to be on high alert. We were told about how a houseboy asked the little boy in the house to masturbate him with soap and he would do thesame to him. The innocent boy would oblige him and he was being introduced to what eventually led him to homosexuality. Yes the boy confessed to the root of his declaration of being gay as a teenager.

smartmom: Dear parents, it even goes beyond just females molesting little boys. The vigilance watch has to be on high alert. We were told about how a houseboy asked the little boy in the house to masturbate him with soap and he would do thesame to him. The innocent boy would oblige him and he was being introduced to what eventually led him to homosexuality. Yes the boy confessed to the root of his declaration of being gay as a teenager.

My course mate's 1yr old son has been continually fingered anally by his 11yrs old babysitter.it was discovered when the kid started having difficulty passing stool.The doctors diagnosis is that someone has been probing the kiddo's anus with either finger or an object.Omo!!!students nearly murdered the babysitter while physically exorcising him of the gay spirit.

**The babysitter nah boy**

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My course mate's 1yr old son has been continually fingered anally by his 11yrs old babysitter.it was discovered when the kid started having difficulty passing stool.The doctors diagnosis is that someone has been probing the kiddo's anus with either finger or an object.Omo!!!students nearly murdered the babysitter while physically exorcising him of the gay spirit.

@ op I totally agree with you my son is 30 months and since teh age of 18 months i have been telling him about his private parts we call it his "peee pee" i am building this foundation with him so i can continueree to build on this knowledge as he grows older. Both me and his father will let him no that no one is suppose to touch his pee pee or any other private part on his body. Boys and girls need to be protectied all the same with pedophiles running around left right and center.