cuz u wanna sacrifice to the dead

Which remain among the graves, and lodge in the monuments, which eat swine's flesh, and broth of abominable things is in their vessels;Which say, Stand by thyself, come not near to me; for I am holier than thou. These are a smoke in my nose, a fire that burneth aehold, it is written before me: I will not keep silence, but will recompense, even recompense into their bosom,
Your iniquities, and the iniquities of your fathers together, saith the Lord, which have burned incense upon the mountains, and blasphemed me upon the hills: therefore will I measure their former work into their bosom the day.

tajulasblog: Its a very touchy subject but when i lost my dad it hurt me to see people eating and merry making without a care in the world that my dad was 6 feet under 5 steps away from them. they were even fighting for food. And were angry that the souvenirs hat people made they didnt receive theirs. We were d only ones that couldnt eat anything and were sober. There was soooooooo much drama about food for burial even before we had bought coffin sef. Life goes on[/i]. [color=#770077][/color][i]

touchy.....sad#

Because Starvation will not bring the Dead

Curious_city:

How about U take that money and do something in the community that your departed relative will be remembered for a long time. Like giving scholarship, building or equipping a library in his/her name. It is goo to entertain your guest, but not the exorbitant n arrant waste of money people do these days.

na long throat dey worri you! Community ko, community ni! Cause of doing good to community I should now dishonour my papa/mama memory abi? It seems you are lacking in your cultural upbring! Even oyinbo ppl den dey celebrate their belove departs, so how com our is different now? We alway hate everything about our heritage, and the exclaim wow!!! When white men re-introduce us to the cultural we jettison in the first place. Shor on you! When papa/mama goes home, there will be plenti plenti, orisirisi assorted dishes, especially my belove garri ijebu plus eja dindin!!!

Omo.....d funeral don turn party o,church don go dem don go bring Dj 2 cum play....bt me 1 ask sumtin o....3 tight frnds lost der dad dis yr....am der frnds bt nt dat close 2 dem....u might hv heard of Daniel Nigeria who was short at ojo early dis yr

Olodo 1: Because it is not easy to die.

abi nw,nobody won die bt dem won go heaven.

'just a waste of money, but is part of african culture.

Adufaye: My friend whom lost his dad last 2 week,funeral is holding today....and women from different homes,have been cooking since morning....

His friends who don't care about the death of his father are busy pointing at the beer and wine they will drink, and how many they will finish tonite.

I don't see any reason why we should cook, i asked someone and he said to celebrate what he did when he was alive....

i want to ask if it is encouraging to cook and dink at funerals and your reasons

. That's what Kennedy tagged ''A culture of poverty'' spending more on the dead than the living, a sine qua non for directional directionlessness in Africa.

That's because we expect to be given gifts('sprayed' cash) at d occcasion. Some kind of biz investment to some folks

Awoofawo:

na long throat dey worri you! Community ko, community ni! Cause of doing good to community I should now dishonour my papa/mama memory abi? It seems you are lacking in your cultural upbring! Even oyinbo ppl den dey celebrate their belove departs, so how com our is different now? We alway hate everything about our heritage, and the exclaim wow!!! When white men re-introduce us to the cultural we jettison in the first place. Shor on you! When papa/mama goes home, there will be plenti plenti, orisirisi assorted dishes, especially my belove garri ijebu plus eja dindin!!!

I know U are being clownish by calling me "long throat"
FYI, I am not anywhere near ya community so nothing concern me concern how U waste ya money. Culture is dynamic I guess U know. We have actually changed our culture in the negative direction. As a kid I witnessed about 2 burials of people in their 30s. They were solemn and no food or drink whatever. But in the same community today, a budget of 80K was made for food at the burial of someone younger than myself.
If U were patient enough to read through my post, U would have seen where I said U should entertain ya guest, but don't waste money. I am not surprise at ya attack, last time I checked, NLders are allergic to objective debates.

Olodo 1: Because it is not easy to die.

True this. And you better make sure you get it right the first time, cos you can only die once.

Because african tradition celebrate death. It is the transcending of the dead to the spirit world where they play the roles of lesser gods in the pantheon of gods and supersedes for the living.

The link between the ancestors and the living never sever in a typical african society. That is why people always strive to be at their best in their communities so that they can continue to be significant even long after they have gone.

Adopted cultures and whacked foreign religions like christianity and islam changed it all,hence the bastardization of africans moralities and communal spirit

its our culture bt a vry bad 1, i lost my dad exactly a mnth ago n i kip wonderin y sd we cook 4pple 2eat wn am naw fatherles, lyk my bros zd wn we wer preparin 4d final burial dt left 2hm dy sd giv pple sncks n pure water after d burial n evrybody sd go bk 2der difrnt destinatn bt my mum zd it wont speak wel of we childrn....d mst annoyin aspct is pple weh dy cm gret us b4 d burial n sm of dm dy stil dy chop...its a bad idea

seyron: its our culture bt a vry bad 1, i lost my dad exactly a mnth ago n i kip wonderin y sd we cook 4pple 2eat wn am naw fatherles, lyk my bros zd wn we wer preparin 4d final burial dt left 2hm dy sd giv pple sncks n pure water after d burial n evrybody sd go bk 2der difrnt destinatn bt my mum zd it wont speak wel of we childrn....d mst annoyin aspct is pple weh dy cm gret us b4 d burial n sm of dm dy stil dy chop...its a bad idea

Sorry for your loss.

Guys it is just rubbish. It is a proof that we are made of limited intelligent. We cannot be morning and be celebrating at the same time.

The greed and hunger in us have taken better part of us. Wake up guys

It's the tradition we met I believe, but to me, it dosen't really make sense when you see the family of the dead mourning while some folks are busy enjoying themselves.

I just wish the pope and bishops can do something about this, madness puff puff and cabin biscuit and water will do,highest mineral. If you love your father so much,throw a party for him while he was still alive so that he could partake in your bigmanism,just like they cut women to size during August meeting,china white and their church wrapper. I believe they can stop this madness.

tajulasblog:

Hmmmmmmmmmm am sorry for your loss!. Its just soo wrong.

Thanks dearie. I'm sorry for your loss too. May their souls continue to RIP.

redsun: Because african tradition celebrate death. It is the transcending of the dead to the spirit world where they play the roles of lesser gods in the pantheon of gods and supersedes for the living.

The link between the ancestors and the living never sever in a typical african society. That is why people always strive to be at their best in their communities so that they can continue to be significant even long after they have gone.

Adopted cultures and whacked foreign religions like christianity and islam changed it all,hence the bastardization of africans moralities and communal spirit

well said bro, you be proper africa man, not one of those oyinbo zonbi! Our culture is our culture. And until we realize this, we'll be zonbi for the white men to manipulate as they wish. Among the chinese, korean, japanese their death departs were threat more better than we are doing here, yet these countries are well developed technologically, socially. So what is big deal. In Yoruba culture, death of young were not celebrate, but as for the ages....if you have the means you do it the way culture dictated, oku otosi ti koni omo, ni ki ri omo ra adie irana e!

is this not Africa mentality?

food is not necessary in the funeral, food is mainly for pple from far distances aiming to stay for one or two days. it has now become our pattern even if we couldn't take care of the person when alive

This post just echoes what I have been thinking about for a long time. I think its a very annoying 'tradition' that we have created. When my parents do die (may I be around to bury them), I have promised myself that we will not cook nada. I do not care whose ox will be gored. Anyone who wants to eat, should bring his/her food. Most of the people who will be clamoring for food will be those who have given no hoot while they are alive, so why will I also give any care as to what they will think. Change has to start from somewhere and honestly I have had enough of this stupid idea, be it African or not. On the invite I will send by SMS, it will be clearly stated that there will be no party or reception of any kind. This thing just annoys me, really! All the money that is wasted on funerals, if a portion of it had been appropriated towards the dead while they live, would pobably have done them a lot more good. There are cases of the children going to family members to plead for money to take their folks to hospital and they are turned away, only for the person to die, and the same relatives turn up to tell you how to bury your dead, properly! SMH We even go as far as buying new clothes?! Why do we do these things?

It is unwise to lavish money during a burial. Nowadays, people attend burials with empty bottles in exchange of drinks they'll pack @ d burial, they'll go as far as come with take away packs to loot foods and other food item. They always hope on what they'll eat and drink 4getting is a burial. Like in place, a burial can last up 2 a week. Different people will come on a given date like umuada, umunna, age grade, in-laws, home branches, etc. As they come, if u dont meet up with their demands, they'll cause trouble for u, especially d umuada. U can hardly satisfy them.I blv d money dat'll be spent during burial can better d lives of families of d deceased!

Curious_city:

How about U take that money and do something in the community that your departed relative will be [size=14pt]remembered for a long time. Like giving scholarship, building or equipping a library in his/her name.[/size] It is goo to entertain your guest, but not the exorbitant n arrant waste of money people do these days.

Thank you so much for this post which I will say is one of the best on this thread if not the best.
For how long do we think people will remember the money wasting burial ceremonies Probably until someone else spends more or does a bigger party!

This is one of the reason black people are still undeveloped compared to others, especially the whites. Wasteful, unproductive spending while we remain beggars to others and willing go to Europe and America on second slavery of under-employment.

Is a big primitive culture. My own dad was buried last week, and we spent close to N2million.

Olodo 1: Because it is not easy to die.

Correct!!!!

engrtee: if item 7 no dey any gathering , people no go come.

w@'s is d importance of many people 2 attend d party sone will go 2 an extent of being in debt. Aseju

Curious_city:

I know U are being clownish by calling me "long throat"
FYI, I am not anywhere near ya community so nothing concern me concern how U waste ya money. Culture is dynamic I guess U know. We have actually changed our culture in the negative direction. As a kid I witnessed about 2 burials of people in their 30s. They were solemn and no food or drink whatever. But in the same community today, a budget of 80K was made for food at the burial of someone younger than myself.
If U were patient enough to read through my post, U would have seen where I said U should entertain ya guest, but don't waste money. I am not surprise at ya attack, last time I checked, NLders are allergic to objective debates.

ok I concur, when young died, you don't celebrate, but the aged ones, It's normal to celebrate them. However, it depend on your financial capability.... If you don't have the means to, don't and if you do have, then feel free to honour your departs as you please, after all na my money I dey spend!

Islam gives some guidance concerning this:

1. the friends and neighbours of the bereaved should give food to the bereaved for three days.

2. there should be no other gathering whatsoever (talkless partying) after the deceased is interred. (and the deceased is to be interred as soon as a few hours after being certified dead)

3. the children / relatives of the deceased are encouraged to spend whatever they can afford to donate to a community project (a borehole, library stocking, scholarship, even tree planting, etc) in his/her name. For as long as living people benefit from this project, more peace is added to the soul of the deceased.

This is the recommendation of Islam.

It is however common to see many misguided and ignorant muslims also part-take in this despicable, shameful and wasteful so-called cultural practice.

just one of the african cultures that should be trashed, its all garbage. you cannot loose your parent and loose your money as well.

2nychymes: just one of the african cultures that should be trashed, its all garbage. you cannot loose your parent and loose your money as well.

Money can be replaced but you cant replace your parents,so hatever you do to celebrete their passing is for your passing is for your own lasting memories.As long as you didnt steall the money like the politicians in nigeria,their kind of people are the people africans use to bury in the evil forest for their evil deeds in their life time,i.e,obj.

But good men live forever in hard core endangered african societies.