what did they discover? she stole the crown jewels of the royal family?

lol,or mayb she had a nice affair with his dad n grandf

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you need to take time out and analyse the situation well,marriage is 4 life remember.
If u tell us what she did,we(the elders ) will help u out

what exactly is the revelation? We need to know that before we can make any comments.

If you do feel its baseless. . .make this clear to your parents and let them understand.

What exactly was the revelation?

@Spoilt

Yoruba parents and all that nonsense.

what was the revelation

Wey the guy na?tell us the revelation.You only told us the GENESIS.,,,,dont you think we deserve to know the Revelation?Hey where are you now?

The revelations are: she has done this, that and this and that!

michelin89:

The revelations are: she has done this, that and this and that!

An this and that and that and this!! (story! story!!)

maybe u shuld just tell us the revelation 1st,then we advise u on wht to do, aiight
     

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i no sabi your question. i no get answer 4 you

i no sabi your question. i no get answer 4 you

@Ariscopy
This is what the power of love can do to you, you don't care what she's done in the past. You have to convince your parents that this is the girl of your dreams and that your decision is final.

Sweet T:

@Spoilt

Or may be they found out she's had a boyfriend before. Yoruba parents and all that nonsense. I fell for that crap and all i have left is regret for losing the love of my life of 9 years.

please! since when did having a previous boyfriend become an unpardonable offence?

while i wholeheartedly support the fact that parents shld be involved in the marital decisions of their kids . . . you shld strive to maintain your independence in that regard.
I once allowed mine to dictate to me and i'm still regreting it today 4yrs after. I lost the first and only woman so far i ever saw myself marrying.

@4him

I bet your parents are Yorubas. A very selfish culture.

michelin89:

The revelations are: she has done this, that and this and that!

lmao

Lmao @ she has a previous bf. Only immature morons would allow that to bother them/allow his parents to use that as a reaspon for him to leav ethe person. So much for "love" Awon ode

"Iwadi" is important to Yorubas however, you have to know what exactly is it that is "seen" that bothers you. They do it in my family. Saved my aunt actually who was dating this guy and she was so bent on marrying him. He had alot of money too, anyway before martial arrangements were done. my grandmother decided to look into it, apparently they saw that he'd soon be arrested as his source of money was in the line of embezzlement, my aunt gave up, year later married someone else, ironically the first dude is now in jail in Lagos for embezzlement

Now I personally wouldnt care unless the so called revelation involves

-Said guy has a child outside
-" " is known for domestic abuse

yada yada. stuff I know will hurt me in the future, everything else is irrelevant for the most part

iwadi ko oshodi ni. As long as she is not into illegal activities and has the ability to change for good, there are no amounts of iwadi that can change my mind.am allergic to yoruba culture. Imagine an excuse like " She's had a boyfriend b/4". Who cares if she's had 10,000 aristole b/4. ^{Just kidding about that one.}

Oh so you knew that such a revelation was stupid yet YOU still ended the relationship over it abi?

In other words, blame for yourself for your immature idiocy, not Yorubas.

Or better yetsome parents will say " They said she talks in her sleep" or "she sleeps with her leg on the wall" or "she doesn't come to see us regularly" etec.

@D-reloaded


You wouldn't know hot it feels to be a man. would you?

@poster

Please, take a time out and let this thing blow over.  Your emotional state is highly questionable at this time, hardly one you want to get married with.  I really do not care to know what the deal is and what they dug up since everyone has a past.  Even if you go get another "girl" now without any past to dig up--her future might be worse than this one's past. Talk to your "gal" and let her be upfront with you.

You need to sit down and really sort out what your feelings are.  If you can forgive and try to forget whatever the heck it is--then you may want to win your parents over. If not--please call it quits.

If all else fails, toss a coin and stick to the winning side!

Life is a game of chance ma dear--fear of the unknown never made it any better or worse!  Still a game of chance we must all take.

You must follow what your heart tells you to do. That way your mistakes are yours and your regrets are yours alone.

Goodluck!

almondjoy:

@poster

Please, take a time out and let this thing blow over. Your emotional state is highly questionable at this time, hardly one you want to get married with. I really do not care to know what the deal is and what they dug up since everyone has a past. Even if you go get another "girl" now without any past to dig up--her future might be worse than this one's past. Talk to your "girl" and let her be upfront with you.

You need to sit down and really sort out what your feelings are. If you can forgive and try to forget whatever the heck it is--then you may want to win your parents over. If not--please call it quits.

If all else fails, toss a coin and stick to the winning side!

Life is a game of chance ma dear--fear of the unknown never made it any better or worse! Still a game of chance we must all take.

You must follow what your heart tells you to do. That way your mistakes are yours and your regrets are yours alone.

Goodluck!

AJ am just loving you.at times you can be so so sour yet sweet,very few times yet,you can be so angelic and a little darling.good advice here.
@poster,you have been given it all.be wise and goodluck dear.

Sweet T:

@D-reloaded

sThe hardest part was the love that was strong enough to withstand a hurricane.

Obviously it wsnt else you wouldnt have allowed such a foolish revelation to get in the way of "true love"

Only a BOY would allow the fact that his "girl" has been in previous relationships affect his current relationship. So bloody selfish.

D-reloaded:

Obviously it wsnt else you wouldnt have allowed such a foolish revelation to get in the way of "true love"

Only a BOY would allow the fact that his "girl" has been in previous relationships affect his current relationship. So bloody selfish.

So you know already!!!!

How is it that in this day and age parents are still able to manipulate their kids?
I dont get it. its different if your parents find out something earth shattering about your intended but i dont understand how they can demand you end a relationship based on her age, her tribe, her looks or some other ridiculous flimsy reason. Dudes have to stand up and severe that umbilical cord and have a mind of their own. We all know that sometimes parents have their own selfish agendas and desperately try to relive their lives through their kids. I took my husband home to my parents after we had already decided to get married. Even if my folks didnt like him i was going to do it anyway. He wasnt from my tribe, and according to some he was too young and too good looking!!  
Luckily for them they loved him right away. I would have married him without them being there if i had to.  

too young in general or for you? were they expecting Moses?

@D-reloaded

Whatever, what would you know about love anyways.