MRbrownJAY: @OP
the answer to your question is very simple: GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN, and stop hanging on to this fake r/ship that is taking you nowhere. the problem is that he got you when you were still a kid and groomed you into being what you are today, you dont know any better than what he provides for you, and thats why you kinda feel the need to be with him, like children needing their daddy.

i do pity the man who will end up with you because you cannot be trusted around this married guy......you will be his sex slave forever. the minute he snaps his fingers, you will appear ready to please his every wishes. its called THE ART OF PIMPING!

i dont need to write anymore am just absorbing peoples comments theres no point in me responding im just reading them. but this comment isn't a very nice thing to say and is quite hurtful u can't help who you love

lrguru: OP why not relocate for good

yes

he is using you to satisfy his sexual urge, wait until his wife find out about you he will dump you and go back to his wife and try to save his marriage this happens all the time then he will take you like shit that wants to ruin his life and marriage , so he loves his wife but you are not lovable, you are a sex tool believe me by the time he is tired of having sex with you or his wife find out about you he will regret his actions and beg his wife and you will become an old story

femishosho@gmai:

i dont need to write anymore am just absorbing peoples comments theres no point in me responding im just reading them. but this comment isn't a very nice thing to say and is quite hurtful u can't help who you love

i am just being real with you, and i certainly wont sugarcoat my words. you've been honest with us, and i need to be honest with you in return. if you came to NL expecting to receive "nice words" or stuff that would cheer you up from the miserable situation you find yourself into, then i am sorry about that.

MRbrownJAY:

i am just being real with you, and i certainly wont sugarcoat my words. you've been honest with us, and i need to be honest with you in return. if you came to NL expecting to receive "nice words" or stuff that would cheer you up from the miserable situation you find yourself into, then i am sorry about that.

ok i understand what you are saying .but i wasnt groomed tho i wanted to do things with him and we did other stuff together . anyways i get wat you and everyone is saying . i think the conclusion is im going to save money and move away because its too hard living in the same area as him .


thankyou for everyones comments and taking the time .. but no more please is just depressing now.

femishosho@gmai:

ok i understand what you are saying .but i wasnt groomed tho i wanted to do things with him and we did other stuff together . anyways i get wat you and everyone is saying . i think the conclusion is im going to save money and move away because its too hard living in the same area as him .


thankyou for everyones comments and taking the time .. but no more please is just depressing now.

remember that most groomed people dont have a clue they were being groomed. you were 16, and obviously (and probably still) clueless about life. why would you settle for a man who had kids AND about 10yrs older than you, at such young age, if you had any clues about life?
this man has absolutely nothing to offer you yet you are still here hanging around, for what? only you know.

The truth sometimes hurts. What MRbrownJAY said is absolutely correct. He just gave it to you straight, no chaser. Like drinking 151 straight or pouring alcohol directly on an open wound it stings.

You just received the perspective of a grown man. You can choose to stay in denial or take his advice and that of others who have told you to run fast and far away from this dude.

Mynd_44:
Seconded

Thirded

Mynd_44:
Seconded

Thirded

@OP, am so happy for you that all those that contributed on this are the nice guys on NL and they wholeheartedly told you the truth. No one insulted you or made jest of you. On a very different day, NL that I know would have given you somuch words that u will go home with more problems than you came with. Anyway, am still not convinced if those that advised you here will not come back to demand for consultation fees for the quality advise they gave. All consultation are really great. Thank you all guys, at least una represent well.

And for the poster, your conclusion is fine but u don't really have to wait till you save money to move out before you end this stuff because, I can bet you,the money won't be complete easilly. Its a thing of the mind, from this moment, start regarding him as one you are done with and done with for good!!!

All the best

femishoshogmai:
WHAT SHOULD I DO. ive been having an affair with a man sinse i was 16 yrs. im now 20 nearly 21 .he is 30yrs now and he has been with the same women for 10 years. and last year they got married , they have 3 children together.
before they got married (but already had their children) he wanted to marry me , but i said no , we were going to run away together when he went to university for 3 yrs so know one would know us. but i was young then and didn't care about that stuff so we never did it but we continued sleeping together.
we see each other at least twice a week we call it fun but we both know theres something between us as he does not like me talking or seeing other guys. but he says he loves his wife . our sex is unbelievable and i love him , i don't mind not being able to have him to myself , i just love he fun we have together and the thrill .

during our years of sleeping together when i was 18 we had a 7 month break as i entered a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend but we spilt up , (the only proper boyfriend ive had) after my break up with my boyfriend i started sleeping with the "MAN" again .and sinse then we havnt spent longer then a few days apart after we sleep together.i don't WANT to stop but im starting to feel bad for his wife she doesn't know me but we live in the same town and when she's on holiday withe kids ive eslept in her marital bed more the 6 times.
i myself am a christian but the 'MAN' is a devote christian and sometimes he does struggle with the adultery label to our relationship . but we've never stopped. I've even tried and changed my number but somehow we always end up back in bed with each other. and its not even once in a while it can be up to 4 times a week . and hell ring his wife and make an excuse as i have my own place now so its easier for us to make arrangements. like i sed i dont WANT to stop but i think i NEED to stop . becos how long is this going to go on for , and its stopping me from getting into a 'normal' relationship. himself and his wife are nigerian and he's really family orientated man , i am not nigerian . and we live in the UK has anyone got any advice for me because its like an addiction

you are DICKMATIZED...nothing else.