Nigerian men and their mentality sha!

A marriage of 7years and 3kids is on the verge of breakup cos the wife asked the husband if he had prepared a will.

What is really so wrong with that question, knowing the plight of widows and children in the event sometin happens to the man?

Now, the man refuses to eat his wife's food and has moved his things to the guest room.

Abeg nairalanders, was she wrong?

She is jus married to an idi.ot that's all. Did he ever for a second that it will be for the benefit of his family in case something happened to him. This is Africa and everyone has that greedy relative that's always ready to take what's not his/hers especially wen a person dies intestate

Like seriously? It gives d man d immpression that u r just waiting 4 him to exxx. u see nothing wrong with that?
Well we all see things diff sha buh me sef go rxt somhw tho she has a point.

Methinks it is the woman's manner of approach. Has she also prepared her own will? Or what makes her think he'll die b4 her? I don't blame the man at all. People should study their spouse and know when they're in the mood for some kind things.
Btw, its not a wrong question.

Hahahahaha, dis is hilarious

mondi_cheeks: She is jus married to an idi.ot that's all. Did he ever for a second that it will be for the benefit of his family in case something happened to him. This is Africa and everyone has that greedy relative that's always ready to take what's not his/hers especially wen a person dies intestate

na so u go talk until u knw say d man don prepare will, next question na to dey ask who and what dey inside. The next na to knw d lawyer handlin it. I'm sure u knw d end of the movie, we've both seen it. Y ask?

Its lyk she wants her husband dead already...av seen a situation wea d wife killd her husband so dia 1st son culd take charge of d family busines..may God help us

In principle, she did nothing wrong; but probably how she went about it may have lacked tact.
Death is not an easy prospect to contemplate, talk less of your own and coming from your spouse may be off putting; in this case even threatening.
The hubby has no doubt become suspicious of the wife for contemplating life after him and the possibility she could even have the potential of initiating it; his immediate reaction: not eating her food & moving into another room, speaks for itself - and who would blame him, considering stories of (human) black widow spiders.
She should have been more tactful and imaginative in her approach; now he is seeing her as potential murderer plotting to kill him for inheritance.

mondi_cheeks: She is jus married to an idi.ot that's all. Did he ever for a second that it will be for the benefit of his family in case something happened to him. This is Africa and everyone has that greedy relative that's always ready to take what's not his/hers especially wen a person dies intestate

Your comment, especially your first sentence is utterly abominable and disrespectful, how does calling someone else's husband whom u barely know and have barely met depict u as sensible, intelligent or mature? i doubt even the said wife would muster the courage to call him names, what more a stranger. u don't understand the undertones of their marriage yet u think insulting someone else's husband is wise..

Every man is particular about how he runs his home, such questions especially if he's affluent raises suspicions on his safety and who told u women do not have wills, i don't understand the dynamics of that marriage thus i would not make insinuations that might be false.

Lol... Time for everything. Time to be born and time to die.

Some men have serious mental issues. This is an bad case of him not being able to see the bigger picture.

Did she ask him to will everything to her? Silly man

There is more to this than what you wrote.
I think the man wants to divorce the wife for reasons other than the 'Will' issue.

Wow d woman lacks tact,u don't ask traditional Nigerian guy dat kind of question.For crying out loud this is a country where people believes behind every problem there is a witch behind it.

Paulipopor: Methinks it is the woman's manner of approach. Has she also prepared her own will? Or what makes her think he'll die b4 her? I don't blame the man at all. People should study their spouse and know when they're in the mood for some kind things.
Btw, its not a wrong question.

Gbam!

Will or no Will, that woman will end up killing the husband.

The way she approached it may have been significant catalyst here. The man is wise to watch his back. . Sometimes it is good you tell the man the plight of some widows and where the lack of a will has put a widow and the kids. It would have been wise if she looked for one of those nollywood English and Yoruba movies where such happened. Then after they have bth seen it, she uses tact to ask him about a will. She could also make her own will then use that as a point of asking him to make his. Approach, approach and tact is the key.

Badt question!!

Marriage is too young for that crap!!!

Its true that anything can happen(esp if the man has leukaemia or sickle cell anaemia) but its also too early for that kind of question especially if the man is medically fit. This kinda lady will ask her husband to book his coffin and make his burial arrangement even before he is 60.

KINGwax: na so u go talk until u knw say d man don prepare will, next question na to dey ask who and what dey inside. The next na to knw d lawyer handlin it. I'm sure u knw d end of the movie, we've both seen it. Y ask?

kindly use proper english, I know a lil pidgin. thnk u

mondi_cheeks: kindly use proper english, I know a lil pidgin. thnk u

then learn cos u are Nigerian n we pushing for it to be our second national language

luvable sam: then learn cos u are Nigerian n we pushing for it to be our second national language

when did I change my nationality and why would u want to make it an official language

Yes, she was wrong. Her selfishness has cause thє man to be scarred for thє rest of his life. He feels like she's waiting for him to have α will bєfoяє she makes an attempt Oη his life.

If he had α will and wanted her to кηoω about it, he'd tell her. Also if α man truly loves you, he'd make sure your future is secure will or no will.

The man probably misinterpreted the question, bt then, most men would, nt becos dey r narrow-minded or not lookin at the big picture. A knowlegdeable, educated, God-fearing married man would definitely have the welfare of his family as priority over anytin else bt she, out of d blue explicitly asking if he has prepared a WILL, will definitely leave some questions in d man's mind to ponder esp if dere ws a misunderstanding b4 she popped d question. Besides, the marriage is too young for that

Mynd_44: Some men have serious mental issues. This is an bad case of him not being able to see the bigger picture.

Did she ask him to will everything to her? Silly man

You are talking as if you don't live in Nigeria. If you want to do things you have to consider the cultural and social norms, we all know what has been happening in Nigeria where wife kills husband and hubby kills wife all because of inheritance. What she should have done is advice her hubby, she should have put it inform of advice everything in life requires wisdom.
It is her right but with wisdom you will get it. By the way happy sunday to you all.

seunfly:
You are talking as if you don't live in Nigeria. If you want to do things you have to consider the cultural and social norms, we all know what has been happening in Nigeria where wife kills husband and hubby kills wife all because of inheritance. What she should have done is advice her hubby, she should have put it inform of advice everything in life requires wisdom.
It is her right but with wisdom you will get it. By the way happy sunday to you all.

Spouce killing one another happens everywhere in the world and as a matter of fact Nigeria is even low as far as that in concerned.

What is wrong in the woman asking that you put your house in order?

Mynd_44:
Spouce killing one another happens everywhere in the world and as a matter of fact Nigeria is even low as far as that in concerned.

What is wrong in the woman asking that you put your house in order?

my brother we are in a society that is cautious, insinuate, victitious and suspicious, even among brothers, families, spouse and society in general. with this put into consideration everything must done with wisdom.

seunfly:
my brother we are in a society that is cautious, insinuate, victitious and suspicious, even among brothers, families, spouse and society in general. with this put into consideration everything must done with wisdom.

Again, not exclusive to Nigeria.

Mynd_44:
Again, not exclusive to Nigeria.

Wisdom! Wisdom!! Wisdom!!! Is everything.

Abegi jor, d man over reacted. 7yrs is long enough for both parties to understand eachother.

With all the stories abound, d man should understand his wifes fear.

If she has plans to kill him, she would not make it so obvious. Most men associate writing of will with imminent death, which should not be.

I guess it has to do with her manner of approach. And I don't think one should for any reason just throw such question without any previous discussions which were similar to death blah blah blah.

Mehn!I would also watch my back if I was the man in question.....but I also think the woman didn't put in d question with d right manner

Mynd_44: Some men have serious mental issues. This is an bad case of him not being able to see the bigger picture.

Did she ask him to will everything to her? Silly man

i dont think you have a deep insight of the question. If not you wont call him a foolish man