joangirl: My ex boy friend who was very wicked to me,beat me,insulted me at every given instance and even threw me out Unclad at the middle of the night is getting married this saturday and everybody is congratulating him and wishing him the best.I feel so so angry right now. I dont want him back cos I called it off when it got to a point I couldn't bear it any longer.I just feel bitter that a man who was wicked to me is happy smiling(saw the engagement pics on fb)and everybody is congratulating him.I think this is the most traumatic experience of my life cos I can't sleep,have been so irritated since he personally called me to invite me for the wedding.he lives close to the house so[b] [size=14pt]everybody would know about the wedding very soon.and me I can't boast of a boyfriend[/size][/b].feeling so bad,father lord pls c me thru

Why would anyone be sad that someone else is getting married that they are happy and everyone is wishing them well

I ask if this girl has supernatural powers what would she have done to the guy.

She claims she was the one who dumped the guy so what else do you want, You dump someone and you are sad to see him happy. Ok carry gun and kill him You dumped him and you still want him to be dejected for life and come begging you everyday? Get real jare

All those beat me, insulted me throw me out might be true but those might just be normal sentiments women use. e.g "After all I have suffered with him he did this to me", or mens "After all I have spent on her she did this"

The bottom line is the guy looks happy and the girl is sad because she wants the guy to suffer for leaving her

baby_123:

Have you ever treated a woman or anyone like an animal? Wouldnt you be ashamed of yourself enough to even try to disown that the relationship ever happened. If she reached out to him for friendship then it is different. Not all relationships end on a happy note. And not all ex's remain friends.

Baby you de shę mi oh ( you dey offend me o )..... the fact that the guy called her made OP's claim not credible don't you think?.... or she must've dated a riff raff in the first place .....then it's her fault then .

Most broken relationship doesn't end up all dandy ( course you know that).....but that didn't mean we should keep grudge forever ...that's the type of relationship we are talking about.... so I don't see what's wrong calling her

This kain OP if her ex becomes rich and has kids she can even waylay the children and kidnap them just to get even with the guy

What happened to MOVEON.org ??

Ujujoan: Did you repetadly beat them and humiliate them by chasing them our in the middle of the house NAK3D I think not!

Obviously, poster and her ex are NOT friends. I bet him calling her to tell her about the wedding was the first time he called her since their break up.

It's obvious what his intention was!

Thinking of trying to hurt an ex with your upcoming wedding can only mean one thing . . .

So assuming there was an EX, who stole my money, beat up my family and sent me to jail and whatever evil happened

When I see her getting married and she is happy the next thing for me is to be sad and wish evil on them? or go there and scatter the place or splash acid on her and her groom?

OP relax it is well, like most people have said, you should be glad you are not the one he's marrying, your own man will come.

@Dayo, its obvious you don't know what a bitter break up looks like.

Ujujoan:

Did you repetadly beat them and humiliate them by chasing them our in the middle of the house NAK3D I think not!

Obviously, poster and her ex are NOT friends. I bet him calling her to tell her about the wedding was the first time he called her since their break up.

It's obvious what his intention was!

Thinking of trying to hurt an ex with your upcoming wedding can only mean one thing . . .

This was exactly what we are discussing in another thread..... So a supposedly sane man will just start beating his girlfriend and she would just be looking like a mumu ?.... and he'll call her again?? Cos that's the way you're making it look like Uju.

Let OP come here and say the TRUTH bout the claimed abuse ....

jidegirl12:

Baby you de shę mi oh ( you dey offend me o )..... the fact that the guy called her made OP's claim not credible don't you think?.... or she must've dated a riff raff in the first place .....then it's her fault then .

Most broken relationship doesn't end up all dandy ( course you know that).....but that didn't mean we should keep grudge forever ...that's the type of relationship we are talking about.... so I don't see what's wrong calling her

No, really. I have an ex i mistreated (secondary school) out of childishness and i guess its a good thing i have a conscience. I avoided the guy till he reached out to me. I still avoid and watch him guiltily. I feel bad about my behavior and i have apologised and cant apologise enough. I can imagine whqat i turned him to in uni, and he told me i made him really bad with girls. I wouldnt have done what the ex did. I assume she trying to be the bigger one may have accepted to take that call. Its obvious she was and is still crazy about him, and he knows it. You know why? Its obvious she has not moved on after all that time.

dayokanu: This kain OP if her ex becomes rich and has kids she can even waylay the children and kidnap them just to get even with the guy

What happened to MOVEON.org ??

Heart of un-forgiveness ! God help us all.

baby_123:

No, really. I have an ex i mistreated (secondary school) out of childishness and i guess its a good thing i have a conscience. I avoided the guy till he reached out to me. I still avoid and watch him guiltily. I feel bad about my behavior. I wouldnt have done what the ex did. I assume she trying to be the bigger one may have accepted to take that call. Its obvious she was crazy about him, and he knows it. You know why? Its obvious she has not moved on after all that time.

Assuming you live close to him and you are getting married the whole area is agog with activities You mean you wont even call him out of courtesy to inform him

dayokanu:

Assuming you live close to him and you are getting married the whole area is agog with activities You mean you wont even call him out of courtesy to inform him

No, i didnt. Some things are better left as hearsay or after the fact. He reached out to me. I wouldnt have had the mind to even reach out to him.

jidegirl12:

This was exactly what we are discussing in another thread..... So a supposedly sane man will just start beating his girlfriend and she would just be looking like a mumu ?.... and he'll call her again?? Cos that's the way you're making it look like Uju.

Let OP come here and say the TRUTH bout the claimed abuse ....

Like seriously?

Claimed abuse? Hmm I don't even know what to type right now but believe it or not, if you see where a woman is being abused, you won't call it claimed.

sweetcocoa: OP relax it is well, like most people have said, you should be glad you are not the one he's marrying, your own man will come.

@Dayo, its obvious you don't know what a bitter break up looks like.

A bitter breakup cant be worse than what I described below.

"So assuming there was an EX, who stole my money, beat up my family and sent me to jail and whatever evil happened

When I see her getting married and she is happy the next thing for me is to be sad and wish evil on them? or go there and scatter the place or splash acid on her and her groom?"

You mean I would now wish them evil for life and be sad they are doing well? If I cant even wish him well the worst is to be nonchallant but not to be sad that they are doing well.

There are some people who have done everyone in life bad at some point in time, Sweetcocoa Im sure some people too would claim you have done them bad one way or the other So should they wish you evil for life?

baby_123:

No, really. I have an ex i mistreated (secondary school) out of childishness and i guess its a good thing i have a conscience. I avoided the guy till he reached out to me. I still avoid and watch him guiltily. I feel bad about my behavior and i have apologised and cant apologise enough. I can imagine whqat i turned him to in uni, and he told me i made him really bad with girls. I wouldnt have done what the ex did. I assume she trying to be the bigger one may have accepted to take that call. Its obvious she was and is still crazy about him, and he knows it. You know why? Its obvious she has not moved on after all that time.

Well it's already done.... the show must go on.

Baby .... Kolo girl

jidegirl12:

Well it's already done.... the show must go on.

Baby .... Kolo girl

The guy get mind o. i would have been sweating and shaking when the priest said "ehm, who is against this marriage". ha!

sweetcocoa: Like seriously?

Claimed abuse? Hmm I don't even know what to type right now but believe it or not, if you see where a woman is being abused, you won't call it claimed.

Many jilted lovers come up with claims that are sometimes exaggerated Thats a well known fact.

baby_123:

No, i didnt. Some things are better left as hearsay or after the fact. He reached out to me. I wouldnt have had the mind to even reach out to him.

Assuming he lives on the same street as you nko?

jidegirl12:

This was exactly what we are discussing in another thread..... So a supposedly sane man will just start beating his girlfriend and she would just be looking like a mumu ?.... and he'll call her again?? Cos that's the way you're making it look like Uju.

Let OP come here and say the TRUTH bout the claimed abuse ....

So you are saying she's lying

Let me tell you something about these abusive men . . . they are not really sane. That's a fact!

dayokanu:

Many jilted lovers come up with claims that are sometimes exaggerated Thats a well known fact.



Assuming he lives on the same street as you nko?

No ex needs to know that information. Old things have passed away. .

My friends ex attended her wedding, she did not tell him. Come and see commotion with my friend. And they were not enemies o. The girl almost collapsed at the high table. ROTFLMAO

dayokanu:

A bitter breakup cant be worse than what I described below.

"So assuming there was an EX, who stole my money, beat up my family and sent me to jail and whatever evil happened

When I see her getting married and she is happy the next thing for me is to be sad and wish evil on them? or go there and scatter the place or splash acid on her and her groom?"

You mean I would now wish them evil for life and be sad they are doing well? If I cant even wish him well the worst is to be nonchallant but not to be sad that they are doing well.

There are some people who have done everyone in life bad at some point in time, Sweetcocoa Im sure some people too would claim you have done them bad one way or the other So should they wish you evil for life?

Envy is only a human feeling . . you'll be a hypocrite if you claim you've NEVER felt it!
What's not cool is when it turns into dangerous jealousy . . .
All this poster needs is time to move on and let go. These things don't happen overnight!

sweetcocoa: Like seriously?

Claimed abuse? Hmm I don't even know what to type right now but believe it or not, if you see where a woman is being abused, you won't call it claimed.

Were you there? Instead of y'all to ask questions .. Y'all chastising the poor guy..... 'everybody's saying congrats to him' can you imagine?

.....You better think well before you hit that keyboard , very important.

jidegirl12:

Heart of un-forgiveness ! God help us all.

Saint Jide . .

dayokanu:

In every broken relationship someone would dump the other so its no big deal. Would it have been better if it was the GUY who dumped her?

You mean once a couple break up they should remain enemies for life or why would you be disappointed your fiancee contatcted his ex before your wedding?

It depends on what their contact was about. If its to fuuuck then its bad but just a "hey Nneka I am getting married by monthend" Whats wrong with the "Congrats Obinna, have a wonderful marriage"

I have exes and Theres none I'm fighting with. Those that I still have their contact we talk like 4 times a yr and we still talk about whats going on in each others life

That is why you cannot be my boyfriend.
Men can be so blinnnnnd honestly. You think women would readily hang around you if they don't still think you're a potential mate? If they had anything going for them I doubt they would pay you this much attention.

dayokanu:

A bitter breakup cant be worse than what I described below.

"So assuming there was an EX, who stole my money, beat up my family and sent me to jail and whatever evil happened

When I see her getting married and she is happy the next thing for me is to be sad and wish evil on them? or go there and scatter the place or splash acid on her and her groom?"

You mean I would now wish them evil for life and be sad they are doing well? If I cant even wish him well the worst is to be nonchallant but not to be sad that they are doing well.

There are some people who have done everyone in life bad at some point in time, Sweetcocoa Im sure some people too would claim you have done them bad one way or the other So should they wish you evil for life?

Before you type your next reply, do well to remember we are all human, think how it feels when you really feel hurt especially by someone whom you loved or love.

Now I'm not saying its okay to wish someone bad, I'm just saying try to understand how the OP feels, as for your question, you shouldn't be sad and wish them evil but you need to realize that the OP is still hurting, she's yet to let go and forgive.

I've been heartbroken before and I know how it feels so I understand.

Ujujoan:

Saint Jide . .

Abi it's 2013 ... I'm trying very hard to be a good member

.....accept Gawd as your lord and saviour Uju .

jidegirl12:

Were you there? Instead of y'all to ask questions .. Y'all chastising the poor guy..... 'everybody's saying congrats to him' can you imagine?

.....You better think well before you hit that keyboard , very important.

No I wasn't there but from the tone of OP's post, he must have really hurt her, her kind of story isn't the type to ask unnecessary questions, she obviously needed to talk to someone about how she feels and guess this is how she wants to do it.

I've been hurt and heartbroken by someone I really loved so I do know how it feels, by the time she let's go I'm sure she won't sound this way.

sweetcocoa: No I wasn't there but from the tone of OP's post, he must have really hurt her, her kind of story isn't the type to ask unnecessary questions, she obviously needed to talk to someone about how she feels and guess this is how she wants to do it.

I've been hurt and heartbroken by someone I really loved so I do know how it feels, by the time she let's go I'm sure she won't sound this way.

Now I understand where you are coming from..., but you're still unsure of the details of this story to generalize with your own experience .... it's not unnecessary questions ..... let her come and say the TRUTH in details what transpired him throwing her out na ked... people ask questions before you conclude.

..... I believe that's exactly what shed light to how the sister in the other thread was bleeding. OP came back to answer questions.

If my own brother throw a woman out na ked , she must've really rough handled and provoke him to the tangent before he can do that( not that I condone it)..... Lets stop overreacting when it comes to a lady in a story ..., she just posted once and y'all already going bonkers!

Ujujoan:

Envy is only a human feeling . . you'll be a hypocrite you claim you've NEVER felt it!
What's not cool is when it turns into dangerous jealousy . . .
All this poster needs is time to move on and let go. These things don't happen overnight!

When it's come to being sad cos someone is happy and being congratulated then it's dangerous.

Guy is getting married she is bitter. What should the guy do to please her shey make he kuku die to make her fullfilled

jidegirl12:

Now I understand where you are coming from..., but you're still unsure of the details of this story to generalize with your own experience .... it's not unnecessary questions ..... let her come and say the TRUTH in details what transpired him throwing her out na ked... people ask questions before you conclude.

..... I believe that's exactly what shed light to how the sister in the other thread was bleeding. OP came back to answer questions.

If my own brother throw a woman out na ked , she must've really rough handled and provoke him to the tangent before he can do that( not that I condone it)..... Lets stop overreacting when it comes to a lady in a story ..., she just posted once and y'all already going bonkers!

Oh well just like you said I shouldn't use my own experience to conclude on this story, do not use your brother to conclude on what must have led to the throwing out.

I quoted you cos from the tone of your posts, you seem believe whoever is abused must have caused whatever led to the abuse but its not always so, most of these men who abuse women are not sane, same goes for the women .

stillwater:

That is why you cannot be my boyfriend.
Men can be so blinnnnnd honestly. You think women would readily hang around you if they don't still think you're a potential mate? If they had anything going for them I doubt they would pay you this much attention.

You mean whenevr you ex says hello to you its because she wants to be back? Or you only talk to potential mates?

This one you are talking to me that must mean God don butter my bread

So its wrong to be on talking terms with ones ex?

This person I am talking about is already married o. Married 2011 December

sweetcocoa: Before you type your next reply, do well to remember we are all human, think how it feels when you really feel hurt especially by someone whom you loved or love.

Now I'm not saying its okay to wish someone bad, I'm just saying try to understand how the OP feels, as for your question, you shouldn't be sad and wish them evil but you need to realize that the OP is still hurting, she's yet to let go and forgive.

I've been heartbroken before and I know how it feels so I understand.

That means its everything to do with the OP the girl and nothing to do with the Ex. You cant say your ex shouldnt be happy again in his life just because it didnt work out between you two and OP was the one who broke up with him

dayokanu:

That means its everything to do with the OP the girl and nothing to do with the Ex. You cant say your ex shouldnt be happy again in his life just because it didnt work out between you two and OP was the one who broke up with him

That is why I said you should try and understand, she's still hurting, na human being she be na.

You guys are making it look like the OP should just lick her wounds.It's her story we av here but from the tone of it this guy must really have hurt her.Seems u guys don't know how some guys can be.....very irrational.She's really been hurt by a guy she gave her love to and seeing the guy's life move on while she's left lonely after her investment of love and time puts her in a bad state.
What she needs to do is get over the hurt and move on with her life.

dayokanu:

You mean whenevr you ex says hello to you its because she wants to be back? Or you only talk to potential mates?

This one you are talking to me that must mean God don butter my bread

So its wrong to be on talking terms with ones ex?

This person I am talking about is already married o. Married 2011 December

Yes ke. Seriously it doesn't automatically mean she wants to be back, but it doesn't rule out the fact that you can be a potential. . .Why on earth would she hang around you?
So? When did marriage stop lonely wives from speaking to a guy they like? You think women would keep riff raffs in their contact list? hehehe
Let me tell you now, when your exes contact you, either the husband has traveled, or he has done something wrong during that period. You are being used to fill the void. Which kain friendship, hehehe? I laugh in Dutch.