For over 2 years i have been married with no child.Even though i don't trouble my wife over this (tests done prove that her and not me have minor fertility issue) yet for over a year her attitude towards sex has been nothing to write home about.What i mean is that i practically have to beg her for sex.This terrible situation has caused several fights between us despite the fact that i have calmly had a chat with her on this matter on several occasions; trying to make her understand the temptations she is exposing me to of which she promised to change.Yet, she has repeatedly done otherwise; inspite of her initial promise/agreement not to deny me sex before we got married and uses any slightest disagreement,issue or excuse to frustrate my touch.
Apart from my job which i lost of recent,i hardly have any problem that a right thinking woman would complain of.I don't smoke,drink nor womanize and i help her in virtually everything domestic all in the name of love.
Now,my love for her is dwindling ; my patience over her childless state expiring and i am at the brink of searching for a mistress or more accommodating lady

KINDLY ADVICE ME COZ AM GOING NUTS HERE! I totally love sex.

Draft a fake sms on your phone about how you enjoyed s. ex with another woman...

"hi sweety, when do I see you again? I still want a feel of yesterday's *** *winks*"

All you need is another new sim... Keep exchanging provocative sms with the line and make sure the sim is safe..

Acidosis: Draft a fake sms on your phone about how you enjoyed s. ex with another woman...

"hi sweety, when do I see you again? I still want a feel of yesterday's *** *winks*"

All you need is another new sim... Keep exchanging provocative sms with the line and make sure the sim is safe..

Do you read the part the man said he lost his job.. Do you want the woman to send him out nakedly

seedord247:

Do you read the part the man said he lost his job.. Do you want the woman to send him out nakedly

I read that part... but Op needs that thing badly... Every action deserve an explanation. Op would have to explain to his wife, the reasons behind the sms..

btw, loosing a job is nothing to cry over... I'm sure he's working towards getting a better one..

Acidosis:


I read that part... but Op needs that thing badly... Every action deserve an explanation. Op would have to explain to his wife, the reasons behind the sms..

btw, loosing a job is nothing to cry over... I'm sure he's working towards getting a better one..

I dont think am gonna buy that idea....

Getting a job is not that easy it may take months for him get one unless he has a fast alternative, mind you, some women can send you to your early grave if you lost your job.

I'd rather advice the OP to leave the woman for now and look for this cheap local strumpet and excrete those akpwu out.

seedord247:

I dont think am gonna buy that idea....

Getting a job is not that easy it may take months for him get one unless he has a fast alternative, mind you, some women can send you to your early grave if you lost your job.

I'd rather advice the OP to leave the woman for now and look for this cheap local strumpet and excrete those akpwu out.

Not a good ideal. Acidosis just give the perfect solution. Trust me I am a woman that will work perfectly. As soon she gets to know somebody else is doing what shes not doing, she will step up her game asap!!

@poster, if you have a female friend even perfect have her play this game with you.

rokiatu:

Not a good ideal. Acidosis just give the perfect solution. Trust me I am a woman that will work perfectly. As soon she gets to know somebody else is doing what shes not doing, she will step up her game asap!!

@poster, if you have a female friend even perfect have her play this game with you.

Play which games??..Too much of vivica fox movies is disturbing you.

Cant you read in btw the lines that the said woman is tired of the hopeless marriage.

Bcus ....

1. He cant make her a mother.

2. He's jobless.

Those are the 2 things that count you as a man in your marriage and since the OP cant meet the requirement of those 2 things, the woman is ready to be the chief controler of the marriage.

@op, i really sympathise with you, its not an easy thing for a man to be denied of intimacy.......for almost a year........chai.....it can drive married guys mad....i tell you.
However, i want to ask you some questions.............
Has d fertility problem you said you have is from your own side or your wife's side.?
If its from your own side, have you treated it, is it preventing you from getting your wife pregnant?
If it your wife's side, has she been treated, can it prevent her from getting pregnant for you!
If any of d questions above is affirmatively answered, then your wife is depressed and frustrated, as well as tired of childless marriage.

On another angle, about d job you lost recently, what are you doing presently?......are you always at home from morning till evening? If so, look for something to do, no matter how petty it is, so that you wont be seen as a liability by your wife, just have something to engage yourself while also looking for jobs.....hopefully, you will get another job very soon.

Finally, talk with your wife, she is your wife, not a stranger, tell her how she is hurting you both mentally and physically, invite God into your marriage, i didnt say call pastors o, i said, God..... He will restore your marriage with every joy you both deserve.....pray together, family that prays together stays together.
May God help us all.

All of you unmarried people here are yarning balls.

Only a married person can advice thia fella. And here is the advice:

OP, the best way to get her attention is to treat her ecactly the way she treats you. Ignore her and don't beg her for sex or anything. Act nonchallantly. You will see results after a week or 2.

Please remember to say thank you.

pDude: All of you unmarried people here are yarning balls.

Only a married person can advice thia fella. And here is the advice:

OP, the best way to get her attention is to treat her ecactly the way she treats you. Ignore her and don't beg her for sex or anything. Act nonchallantly. You will see results after a week or 2.

Please remember to say thank you.

And you married if i'm rightt.

seedord247:

And you married if i'm rightt.

Didn't you know

With pikin sef

You think say I be ya mate

pDude:

Didn't you know

With pikin sef

You think say I be ya mate

No vex sir..

Hope you don collect your papers finish.

seedord247:

No vex sir..

Hope you don collect your papers finish.

What papers

First all ya married undeniable sex mode was actvated,yes. Secondly She's d one havin infertility issues abi? Thirdly, ya jobless, pity!
Solution: let her undastand dat d is notin bad like denyin ya husband his rite, dont starve him wit s*x least he founds pleasure in anodas eye:
2: do u knw dat d cud b a possibilty of u bein pregnant out of dis numerous s*x encounter miraculously,wen will u start makin babies?; cos it will b shameful to ya generation dat @ d age of 65yrs ya first child is on 5yrs ya name wil automatically change from daddy to papa or grandpa;
3: so pitiful ya jst jobless, u betta act fast as a man or ya honour will b deduce to useless,strive hard also to put smiles on her face by puttyn good for on d table may dis mit impress to start milkin children for u: cos d are some children who doesn't want to come or set dier foot on poverty ground,family or world as dis mite want to hinders ya child bearin: rememba marriage is for betta n for worse as children wre ment to b a blessin of marriage, as it's says "Go b fruitful n multiply" so of who will bear ya name wen ya Gone, take a decision as u act fast abt it: dis are ma advice tak it:

pDude:

What papers

USCIS will be of help...

And hope you are not plannin on leaving her after permanent

seedord247:

USCIS will be of help...

And hope you are not plannin on leaving her after permanent

See you mouth.

My wife na naija born and bred. Hardcore Igbo girl wey get sharp mouth and naija sense. We grew up together and schooled together in our early years. Her bro is my good friend.

So bruv, nor be visa runz o. This is for life

pDude:

See you mouth.

My wife na naija born and bred. Hardcore Igbo girl wey get sharp mouth and naija sense. We grew up together and schooled together in our early years. Her bro is my good friend.

So bruv, nor be visa runz o. This is for life

Ohh ok.

God bless your union.

seedord247:

Ohh ok.

God bless your union.

Bless you too bruv

pDude: All of you unmarried people here are yarning balls.

Only a married person can advice thia fella. And here is the advice:

OP, the best way to get her attention is to treat her ecactly the way she treats you. Ignore her and don't beg her for sex or anything. Act nonchallantly. You will see results after a week or 2.

Please remember to say thank you.

You are right. Make her believe you dont care a dime about her non-challance.

I wonder why some ladies are like this. Btw she started this behaviour before Op lost his job or the issue of childlessness came up.

seedord247:

No vex sir..

Hope you don collect your papers finish.

As in 'particulars' and 'change of ownership'. Hehehe.

Maybe you should try asking her why she doesn't want to have sex with you, there maybe a reason behind it.

i like this, all the best @OP

greatgod2012: @op, i really sympathise with you, its not an easy thing for a man to be denied of intimacy.......for almost a year........chai.....it can drive married guys mad....i tell you.
However, i want to ask you some questions.............
Has d fertility problem you said you have is from your own side or your wife's side.?
If its from your own side, have you treated it, is it preventing you from getting your wife pregnant?
If it your wife's side, has she been treated, can it prevent her from getting pregnant for you!
If any of d questions above is affirmatively answered, then your wife is depressed and frustrated, as well as tired of childless marriage.

On another angle, about d job you lost recently, what are you doing presently?......are you always at home from morning till evening? If so, look for something to do, no matter how petty it is, so that you wont be seen as a liability by your wife, just have something to engage yourself while also looking for jobs.....hopefully, you will get another job very soon.

Finally, talk with your wife, she is your wife, not a stranger, tell her how she is hurting you both mentally and physically, invite God into your marriage, i didnt say call pastors o, i said, God..... He will restore your marriage with every joy you both deserve.....pray together, family that prays together stays together.
May God help us all.

Myne White: i like this, all the best @OP

The poster said his wife has the fertility problems.

Are you sure, she's not possessed? Her spiritual husband at work. She needs deliverance man. T.B Joshua can be of a help.

rokiatu:

Not a good ideal. Acidosis just give the perfect solution. Trust me I am a woman that will work perfectly. As soon she gets to know somebody else is doing what shes not doing, she will step up her game asap!!

@poster, if you have a female friend even perfect have her play this game with you.

wow!! Dt's if she wanna. I once knw a girl who has so much pride dt idea will make it worse!!!
I'm with seedord, and reason is: if the lady sees it nt detrimental to open his hubby to temptation, aint nothin bad in d hubby fallin into it.

pDude: All of you unmarried people here are yarning balls.

Only a married person can advice thia fella. And here is the advice:

OP, the best way to get her attention is to treat her ecactly the way she treats you. Ignore her and don't beg her for sex or anything. Act nonchallantly. You will see results after a week or 2.

Please remember to say thank you.

Thanks guys. i will go with this view.I guess i must have given her too much attention in the past.However, if she persists in her behavior, then i just might consider having a mistress or re-connecting with my ex-girl friend who suddenly called me of recent.And although i might be jobless at present but definitely not poor;at least i buy her clothes sometimes and pay the expensive house rent.

Combine pdude and acidosis' advice.#violence taketh it by force..

Le lei gidigan! Get yourself a mistress but first threaten her mildly with it.

Na wa o.

Do these things really happen? How can someone deny her hubby 5ex for that long?

OP you sef wan tell us say you never nack anybody since that time?

My man... U don't av to panic, u just av to sacrifice and endure but I av few questions to ask u:
1. Do u think she is not having extra marital affair?
2. Was dat her attitude b4 job is gone?
3. Are u really pressing towards getting a job?
4. Can u get a place where u can get food 4 a time?
Try to deny ur self, never ask her 4 sex again
Continue the help u render to her
Stop eating her Food and get d place to eat 4 nw as adviced
Relate with her with love but never accept anything she purchase 4 u whatsoever
Don't b a too much home man, get out of d house n find pple to relate with
Never go extra marital pls
If u even get a little money 4rm ur movement outside, buy a small gift and give her
Don't fight her wen she brings fight against u
Live in peace with her and reduce ur play with her
It is a matter of time, adopt this sacrifice and she will b broken. Though painful to adopt, endure to get ur home back.

My brother, the best way to fight fire is with fire. Abraham Lincoln told his son's teacher to "teach him to be gentle with gentle people, and tough with tough people".

If someone gives you bullshít, immediately return the bullshít 2X. Once people know you have the potential and capacity to return their nonsense - they sit up.

Once you're timid, supplicating and ball-less, certain kinds of people smell blood and go for the kill.

Don't pretend to have a mistress, get a mistress. Stop helping her with stuff. Live in the house but do not be in the house.

IMPORTANT: You are not doing any of these to get a reaction from her. You are not doing this for her to change. NO! you're just coming at it from the position of one 'door closes...another door opens'.

You have a díck, which by it's very nature must be poked into some dark places. Now, whether it's with her or with another party is entirely up to her.

NEVER beg for séx.

You might as well start helping yourself by