Hello Nairalanders, a friend came to me with this issue so I decided to share it with you guys so as to get more candid advise.

I have two men in my life, I started dating one who has been a friend for a long time, he has been so great even before we started dating, I said yes to dating him cos I was so lonely and like him a lot therefore I thought everything would be alright.

Two months into the relationship, a guy I know who actually lives close to my house started paying mﻉ compliments and saying he liked me, it all started like a joke and I didn't take him serious as I thought it all a thing of play, as time went by I noticed he was serious and before I knew it I fell in love with him.

Its been eight months since I started dating the 2nd guy without ending it with the 1st guy who has also been great, though I don't see him(first guy) often and have tried breaking up with him 3 times, he just wouldn't let go, the 2nd guy knows about the 1st guy but he said at first that he doesn't mind but now he's so jealous and wants me to choose, he says its okay if I decide to be with the 1st guy but that he loves me still (which is obvious), though it would hurt him but he'll survive.

Now I'm having a difficult time choosing especially since the first guy did nothing wrong instead he is even loving me more, though he doesn't know there's a 2nd guy. I haven't slept with the 1st guy but have with the 2nd , I'm sure I Lo√e the 2nd guy more but I also like the 1st, I just don't know how ‎​ to break up with the 1st one without hurting him and sometimes I get so confused cos the 1st one is more caring,handsome, soft hearted and more financially buoyant than the 2nd one, the 2nd has anger issues and it seems like the world will end when he gets angry plus he likes to revenge yet he is still loving. I have a problem that requires money, I and the 2nd guy can't shoulder it alone, I want to ask the 1st guy to help and its making it harder to break up with him coupled with the truth that I don't wanna hurt him but I really need the money .

The 1st guy is always talking about the future and marriage, initially the 2nd one made it clear that he just wanted to date me cos he likes me ‎ now he sounds a lot like the 1st guy as regards the future and marriage, he says with the way he feels now about ‎​​me, he'd marry me ‎right away if everything was in place.

P.S I know I shouldn't be double dating but I just can't explain how ‎​it got this far, I thought I'd end it with one before it gets complicated now I don't know what to do as both men are really crazy about me.

No comment.

Babe this your wahala eh! Two guys, finances, emotions. In my innermost church mind I sincerely think you should have a 3-sum

sexkillz: Aesop's fables. . . (BABE! 2013)

You don dey find BABE trouble o .

The story could be true for all we know, or you don't think people fall into these kinda things?

Is this the best you guys can offer? Please this is a real life issue

jessybarbie: Is this the best you guys can offer? Please this is a real life issue

But this one pass me na

Mynd_44:
But this one pass me na

As in my brother, the matter serious gan.

i knw u want d second guy which is stup!d of u, bt u still want him sha,
trust me d 1st guy seems lik d guy fr u! bt i knw u ll go fr d second and am sure u ll regret t. xo jus go fr d 2nd hu is ur hrt desire.

She's chasing 2 games, she wud rather lose both

freecocoa: As in my brother, the matter serious gan.

Even my keypad no gree type

Mynd_44:
Even my keypad no gree type

Seriously though, I know people who have been in this kinda situations.

Its really a hard one, I'm still thinking of what to advice .

freecocoa: Seriously though, I know people who have been in this kinda situations.

Its really a hard one, I'm still thinking of what to advice .

My advice is gonna be wicked if I give it and she might not like it

baibijay@yahoo.:
i knw u want d second guy which is stup!d of u, bt u still want him sha,
trust me d 1st guy seems lik d guy fr u! bt i knw u ll go fr d second and am sure u ll regret t. xo jus go fr d 2nd hu is ur hrt desire.

How do you mean she will regret it? Please explain bera

Mynd_44:
My advice is gonna be wicked if I give it and she might not like it

Since when do you care if a poster likes your advice or not?

Abeg drop it like its hot joor.

#ifitgetcluefromyousef

jesse, tell your friend i said shes a bastarddd!!!

Idowuogbo: jesse, tell your friend i said shes a bastarddd!!!

Wucked girl .

am calm now... time for advice.

Jezebel u sure no karma is the biggest biatch rite? c'mon admit the truth, u dont love d first guy.U fight temptations to remain faithful to the ones you claim to love. So save yourself the bullshitos abeg! u is some loose money hungry hefer.blawddy public toilet! bia jesse., wetin u b advice dat ashana u call friend sef, i wan hia o! tell us biko!

I told her to follow the first guy but she is saying she loves the 2nd guy

jessybarbie:
Please tell me how. She is viewing this thread as a guest

huh? hahahahhaha! na u b chick joor! whoring dolapo! na me u wan play dat kian game wiv? lmao! dat 1 dey.

Blame Freecocoa for this ooo.

Your friend is a complete child who should not be in a relationship. When did humans begin to reason like they had no brains at all?

I got caught in an arguemeny like this earlier and the trith is that the girl is a cheat. Which makes her the wordt form of like on the planet (Bacteria is mover useful).

If she has an ounce of brain, she will realise that no man who wants to be serious with you will agree to share you another man. And for 11 months. She needs a brain transplant and fast.

This is why I will always say don't get into a relationship when you don't know what it entails. So now you and the second guy are having sex behind the first guy and you think all is well right? Smh at their silliness. What if it was the guy who was doing this you would have condemned such guy and say he is wicked.

Just breat up with the first guy and let him go. She does not deserve him. Not one bit.

When you love someone, you don't cheat on them
Ogugua 2012

She does love the guy, she just feels grateful to him for all he has done and nothing can make her love him.

Even if the second guy did not show up, she will go for someone else cos the guy is a friend to her and nothing else (Friendzone). But she also os losing cos the second guy too does not love her either, he is ust being a guy and the jealousy that comes with it and would soon dump her for a girl that will be with only him.

Break-up with the first guy and let him go. He deserves better and pray to whatever God you serve that the second guy does not pay you back in the same coin.

Mynd_44:

She does love the guy, she just feels grateful to him for all he has done and nothing can make her love him.

pardon? mi gbo?

Me, I'm in a love circle!

@op
What do you want to hear again? At this stage of your friend's reasoning, experience is going to be the best teacher for her case. Until then, she can even hop into a love hexagon if she likes!

Idowuogbo:
huh? hahahahhaha! na u b chick joor! whoring dolapo! na me u wan play dat kian game wiv? lmao! dat 1 dey.

Lol Even if its me what is needed is advise

Good one mynd .

Well OP as for me o, I think you should stick to the 2nd guy cos its obvious you love him.

I guess you see the 1st guy as a friend and feel indebted to him hence not being able to let him go but you'll be doing him a lot of good, like my padi has said, karma is a bi@tch ya know.

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Aunty good afternoon

jessybarbie:
Lol Even if its me what is needed is advise

i don advice u na! dey fire dey go na! u b happening babe joor! ur runz tite die.

Idowuogbo:
pardon? mi gbo?

She just dey use the guy as support and she still gets things from him jorh. If not money then support and advice and that is why she is still with him.

It is the biggest form of selfishness in the world

freecocoa: Good one mynd .

W[b]ell OP as for me o, I think you should stick to the 2nd guy cos its obvious you love him.[/b]

I guess you see the 1st guy as a friend and feel indebted to him hence not being able to let him go but you'll be doing him a lot of good, like my padi has said, karma is a bi@tch ya know.

oh no u didnt! bad move!

freecocoa: Good one mynd .

Well OP as for me o, I think you should stick to the 2nd guy cos its obvious you love him.

I guess you see the 1st guy as a friend and feel indebted to him hence not being able to let him go but you'll be doing him a lot of good, like my padi has said, karma is a bi@tch ya know.

And I love this form of Karma. It come quick and merciless

Op ur friend is greedy,heartless and stu.pid.She doesn't luv d first guy but she want to collect money frm him abi.
The earlier she break up with the first guy the better for him to find some1 else dat will luv him.By the way tell ur friend to get a job and stop be a nuisance.

Mynd_44:
She just dey use the guy as support and she still gets things from him jorh. If not money then support and advice and that is why she is still with him.

It is the biggest form of selfishness in the world

exactly!!! dats y i sed her runz neat mehn... use one stone kill 2 birds. dem kian tinz...

Jesse,Isalute!