jbrodaly:

Please,where are they?!!

Rapmoney:

I am here! I will stop Dangote from building that Tomato factory in Edo State. I be wizard in level 25!!!

2legit2qwt: I’m bringing this up because a friend of mine recently lost the opportunity of securing a job and I only got to know after the fact, meanwhile, I could have easily helped him considering that I’m a good friend to the recruiter.

This friend (the one who didn’t get the job) had previously asked me some questions earlier in the week that suggested he was up to something, he just never told me why he asked and I never bothered to ask. This is just one of many cases of how secretive a lot of Nigerians/Africans are. In this case, someone missed a chance of getting a good job and there are several cases like that.

I’m not sure if it’s a cultural attribute of Nigerians or Africans but my biggest guess to why this exists is the strong belief in the existence of witchcraft. This friend of mine seem to think that I’m a wizard with some spiritual power or something to stop him from getting the job, I wish

A lot of Nigerians have a problem with self-disclosure, they only tell after the fact, some don’t even tell at all. They call you a friend but you don’t know when they’re about to buy a new car, move to a new house, get a new job, travel abroad, pass a test or are graduated from school.
The only thing I know they’re quick to tell is when they’re getting married, not sure why but other than that, you only get to find out about most things only after the fact.

How can you call someone a friend when you never get to experience their success but they’re quick to tell about their failure?

2legit2qwt: I’m bringing this up because a friend of mine recently lost the opportunity of securing a job and I only got to know after the fact, meanwhile, I could have easily helped him considering that I’m a good friend to the recruiter.

This friend (the one who didn’t get the job) had previously asked me some questions earlier in the week that suggested he was up to something, he just never told me why he asked and I never bothered to ask. This is just one of many cases of how secretive a lot of Nigerians/Africans are. In this case, someone missed a chance of getting a good job and there are several cases like that.

I’m not sure if it’s a cultural attribute of Nigerians or Africans but my biggest guess to why this exists is the strong belief in the existence of witchcraft. This friend of mine seem to think that I’m a wizard with some spiritual power or something to stop him from getting the job, I wish

A lot of Nigerians have a problem with self-disclosure, they only tell after the fact, some don’t even tell at all. They call you a friend but you don’t know when they’re about to buy a new car, move to a new house, get a new job, travel abroad, pass a test or are graduated from school.
The only thing I know they’re quick to tell is when they’re getting married, not sure why but other than that, you only get to find out about most things only after the fact.

How can you call someone a friend when you never get to experience their success but they’re quick to tell about their failure?

speedyboi: Me? Tell nigerians my problems? Tufiakwa! I'd rather tell my Dog.

@op, i can say for a fact that if he had told you, you won't help him. You are just another hypocrite like the average nigerian.

Didnt you know that your friend is jobless before? The recruiter is a close pal of yours, and he never told you he was recruiting? What are you telling me?! he definitely must had mentioned it to you, if you are indeed that close. But you didnt bother to tell your jobless friend to apply (he would have voiced out that he already did and you would've been able to get him the job), now you come here and you start saying bs, abeg bundle yourself out of my sight! bloody typical nigerian hypocrite! Mtcheew

Aggrippa: bros you are right even in the west it happens, the case of Thomas Edison and Nilkon Tesla comes to mind very painful , i keep on asking this question, are blackmen cursed? there is still gross primitiveness in African societies

Boyoorisha: I used to be very open! But each time I tell my plans to anyone, it won't work out. So, I noticed this after several occurrences and stopped. Now, I always keep my plans to myself and things are working in the right direction!

speedyboi: Me? Tell nigerians my problems? Tufiakwa! I'd rather tell my Dog.

@op, i can say for a fact that if he had told you, you won't help him. You are just another hypocrite like the average nigerian.

Didnt you know that your friend is jobless before? The recruiter is a close pal of yours, and he never told you he was recruiting? What are you telling me?! he definitely must had mentioned it to you, if you are indeed that close. But you didnt bother to tell your jobless friend to apply (he would have voiced out that he already did and you would've been able to get him the job), now you come here and you start saying bs, abeg bundle yourself out of my sight! bloody typical nigerian hypocrite! Mtcheew

2legit2qwt: I’m bringing this up because a friend of mine recently lost the opportunity of securing a job and I only got to know after the fact, meanwhile, I could have easily helped him considering that I’m a good friend to the recruiter.

This friend (the one who didn’t get the job) had previously asked me some questions earlier in the week that suggested he was up to something, he just never told me why he asked and I never bothered to ask. This is just one of many cases of how secretive a lot of Nigerians/Africans are. In this case, someone missed a chance of getting a good job and there are several cases like that.

I’m not sure if it’s a cultural attribute of Nigerians or Africans but my biggest guess to why this exists is the strong belief in the existence of witchcraft. This friend of mine seem to think that I’m a wizard with some spiritual power or something to stop him from getting the job, I wish

A lot of Nigerians have a problem with self-disclosure, they only tell after the fact, some don’t even tell at all. They call you a friend but you don’t know when they’re about to buy a new car, move to a new house, get a new job, travel abroad, pass a test or are graduated from school.
The only thing I know they’re quick to tell is when they’re getting married, not sure why but other than that, you only get to find out about most things only after the fact.

How can you call someone a friend when you never get to experience their success but they’re quick to tell about their failure?

Rapmoney:

I am here! I will stop Dangote from building that Tomato factory in Edo State. I be wizard in level 25!!!

Syenite: I think in the general sense it is an African mentality. People rarely disclose their plans or achievements. It is not only about wicthcraft.Take for instance, you land a very good job and start disclosing to all family and friends, u are inviting every1 to come and eat. Or you are building a big house and you inform everybody, you are telling them u have too much money thereby inviting them to come and pester on you. Besides that we compete alot in Africa, you fear that if u tell ur friend abt a future plan he might equally do same and outshine you.

speedyboi: Me? Tell nigerians my problems? Tufiakwa! I'd rather tell my Dog.

@op, i can say for a fact that if he had told you, you won't help him. You are just another hypocrite like the average nigerian.

Didnt you know that your friend is jobless before? The recruiter is a close pal of yours, and he never told you he was recruiting? What are you telling me?! he definitely must had mentioned it to you, if you are indeed that close. But you didnt bother to tell your jobless friend to apply (he would have voiced out that he already did and you would've been able to get him the job), now you come here and you start saying bs, abeg bundle yourself out of my sight! bloody typical nigerian hypocrite! Mtcheew

Sisi_Kill:
Na wa oh! This ya logic is a bit one kain. . .how will OP know his friend does not have a Job if the friend doesn't tell him, is OP clairvoyant?

How is the recruiter supposed to know one of his applicants is OP friends. . .abi are the winchy winchy powers so easy to get that you just assume everyone has it?!!

How will OP's friend know if OP is capable of helping him if he never tells him anything or should OP just start automatically asking questions...Do you need food today? Do you have money in your account? Have you lost your job? Do you need a place to rest your head at night? He should ask all that so the friend will think he is wishing him ill ko?

Instead of admitting what OP is saying is true, you attempt to turn it around and blame him for the paranoia EVERYBODY knows is embedded in our blood because of superstitious belief. . .that is just sooo typical Naija - Don't do things or act the right way , when called out on it, blame someone else preferably the person doing the calling out for it.

We sure have a long-a-ways to go!!

jbrodaly: [b]I for one I am very open-very open.But I noticed that even those you consider close friends aren't-So,it is like you're making a fool of yourself when you do since they are not(even those you are helping).[/b]I think it boils down to superstitious belief.Over the time I decided to be open to those that are open to me.I discovered that just talking about a particular thing with a reliable person I get ideals not necessarily from the person but as i speak something comes up.Bingo!A lot of times you hear the "big men" saying they are gonna buy a particular co. or make some kinda investment..The whole world get to know about it and yet they succeed in doing it.For me I am never scared of any witch or wizard !

Sisi_Kill:
Na wa oh! This ya logic is a bit one kain. . .how will OP know his friend does not have a Job if the friend doesn't tell him, is OP clairvoyant?

How is the recruiter supposed to know one of his applicants is OP friends. . .abi are the winchy winchy powers so easy to get that you just assume everyone has it?!!

How will OP's friend know if OP is capable of helping him if he never tells him anything or should OP just start automatically asking questions...Do you need food today? Do you have money in your account? Have you lost your job? Do you need a place to rest your head at night? He should ask all that so the friend will think he is wishing him ill ko?

Instead of admitting what OP is saying is true, you attempt to turn it around and blame him for the paranoia EVERYBODY knows is embedded in our blood because of superstitious belief. . .that is just sooo typical Naija - Don't do things or act the right way , when called out on it, blame someone else preferably the person doing the calling out for it.

We sure have a long-a-ways to go!!

A lot of Nigerians have a problem with self-disclosure, they only tell after the fact, some don’t even tell at all. They call you a friend but you don’t know when they’re about to buy a new car, move to a new house, get a new job, travel abroad, pass a test or are graduated from school.
The only thing I know they’re quick to tell is when they’re getting married, not sure why but other than that, you only get to find out about most things only after the fact.

speedyboi:

okay, i think you should re-read my post.

I don't tell nigerians my problems not because of witch craft or whatever. They are just too hypocritical! They will act concerned, but they are not really bothered...so what's the point? I'm talking from experience.
When i'm happy no one will know, when i'm sad no one will know either.


On the other hand, if not for the nigerian silly ways of doing things and their typical nepotism; why must his friend know him to get job if he is qualified? Smh! Everybody on this thread just thinking awkwardly! Incase you don't know, some people are just introverts; i'm in this category, but the attitude of nigerians is my major reason.

Meanwhile, not telling people your issues isn't typical of nigerians. It happens in every society.....it wasn't invented in nigeria and it won't end in nigeria.

agabaI23: @op,

I submitted a contract proposal and told a few friends about my idea. After several back and forth drama, I noticed that one of those friends had already initiated the execution of my idea using my model.

If I do not tell a friend about another idea in the future, will you still convict of lack of disclosure?

warrior101:


I didn't read the rest of your life story but i thought i should give you this food for thought...

* Don't tell people your problems. 90% don't care the the remaining 10% are happy you got them.
* Life is to be shared. Nothing can thrive in Isolation.

Need more?

speedyboi:

okay, i think you should re-read my post.

I don't tell nigerians my problems not because of witch craft or whatever. They are just too hypocritical! They will act concerned, but they are not really bothered...so what's the point? I'm talking from experience.
When i'm happy no one will know, when i'm sad no one will know either.


On the other hand, if not for the nigerian silly ways of doing things and their typical nepotism; why must his friend know him to get job if he is qualified? Smh! Everybody on this thread just thinking awkwardly! Incase you don't know, some people are just introverts; i'm in this category, but the attitude of nigerians is my major reason.

Meanwhile, not telling people your issues isn't typical of nigerians. It happens in every society.....it wasn't invented in nigeria and it won't end in nigeria.

Dis Guy:


The travelling bit is the most common one i hear, I mean i know some people are jobless but it's not like they will leave everything they are doing to travel and hide on the highway just to rob or destroy your car

Why cant you tell someone you're travelling

so primitive

okpara ugo:

The wizard aspect aside, there is a stage you will reach, you wont fear to disclose anything to anyone. Not even tale-tell or bad wishes will stop your business.

Vanguard banner headline... ''Dangote to build a tomato plant in Edo state''.

Oya, where are the witches to stop him ?

tpia@:
Seriously though, if even your own relative is cautious about sharing information with you ( eg your nephew story), then that might mean they've been noticing some things which you might or might not be consciously aware of.

For example, maybe you really dont wish others well?

Some people are like that and its not a thing they can consciously control, its just their nature to be negative and anti-other people's progress.

Just saying.

It could also be they dont want certain others to get to know through you, meaning you might inadverdently inform some people who they'd rather didnt get involved.

okpara ugo:

The wizard aspect aside, there is a stage you will reach, you wont fear to disclose anything to anyone. Not even tale-tell or bad wishes will stop your business.

Vanguard banner headline... ''Dangote to build a tomato plant in Edo state''.

Oya, where are the witches to stop him ?