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@op pls advise ur hubby to keep his job and keep praying and u too keep assisting him in d best way u can he needs u more now that he is feeling this way. As for going to america my sista nothing they that place the place is worse now than before no jobs there and I bet if he goes there he will start life from the scratch as from from zero and all they live for there is paying Bills , Bills and more bills everyday no savings infact both of you will work like donkey for oyinbo man in d name of I am in america is that the life both of u want to live nigeria is still better no place like home he who has ear let him hear and u need two or three jobs to survive there and as for his certificate those piece of paper he got from nigeria is worthless there and since u mentioned he has been to the U.S before he needs to be told about what obtains there it is really not his fault the nigerian factor has gotten into him especially wat nigerian as a country as generated to a country were nothing works.

Well it think he should begin to network with his friends during little time in the weekends for alternatives.cos leaving the country should not be u guys priority;the future is bright here in naija!

Hmmmmmmm, If he leaves his job and come to US as an illegal immigrant then his trouble has just started ! experience is the best teacher !!!!! if he comes in as a Legal Immigrant then your life may be better but nothing less.

If you can settle abroad legally and with the right papers, I would give it a shot. . . . . and yes, you can be very happy in a foreign land, especially the US. You just have to make sure you research the state, job opportunities, state taxes, cost of living, etc. A quality middle class life in Oyinbo land is a lot more achievable than you might think. First step is to research legal means of getting out and don't be roped into any harebrained schemes that mean you can't live well because you don't have tbe right papers.

Ask him how he plans to reach the US and what he plans to do there. Knowing people in the US does not equal visa, job, work etc. He should concentrate on finding a job with better pay so he can afford accomodation closer to where he works. Living abroad now is tough for most with the ongoing recession. Nigeria is even growing. Omo, don't be roped into any day dream o. If he wants to go to the US, let a multinational from Nigeria take him. He should go and find job with the oil companies. You guys should do things with caution and sense.

Is the problem lack of job satisfaction or are there other factors causing him to be stressing?

If he can't handle the stress of living in Nigeria as a citizen, i doubt if he can endure the living in the US as an immigrant (legal or worse case, as an illegal)

Save up and start a business or endure it while he seeks another job, travelling to america will not resolve his problem (not anymore)

Your fiance needs to understand the place of a job by asking himself certain questions about the job, to know if it is dream job or something to help him get another one. Read here


http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/03/job-offer-questions-to-ask-yourself.html



secondly he needs to find what he wants to do in life apart from that job and start working towards it even while on this job this doesn't necessarily mean changing location , he should first discover himself and when that is done he would be able to take a meaningful next step. Moving abroad might not be the solution.

@OP
i fully understand why your partner wants to try his hands at something else, since he is miserable in his place of work...... but i suggest you sit him down and ask very important questions such as:
- is the problem your job OR being in 9ja?!
- tell me more about what you expect us to do there OR how you expect us to live there.
- do you know how difficult it is to get a job abroad (especially in these difficult economic times)?
- what job do you expect to get there that will be better (emotionally) than what you got today?
- if the US was so great, why didnt you stay there the first time around?
- should we get married BEFORE or AFTER moving there?

i think you should open your mind about Nigerians living abroad........but one thing is certain, there is no way you can raise a happy family in the condition you guys are in at the moment

MRbrownJAY: @OP
i fully understand why your partner wants to try his hands at something else, since he is miserable in his place of work...... but i suggest you sit him down and ask very important questions such as:
- is the problem your job OR being in 9ja?!
- tell me more about what you expect us to do there OR how you expect us to live there.
- do you know how difficult it is to get a job abroad (especially in these difficult economic times)?
- what job do you expect to get there that will be better (emotionally) than what you got today?
- if the US was so great, why didnt you stay there the first time around?
- should we get married BEFORE or AFTER moving there?

i think you should open your mind about Nigerians living abroad........but one thing is certain, there is no way you can raise a happy family in the condition you guys are in at the moment

thanks MBJ, you've just help them to analyze their problems and profer solution, if they can understand your post.

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" Op: Please run with Mr Brownjay's post.
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