My 35 old boyfriend usually often gives me cold shoulders for no reason. I would ask what the problem is and he won't be able to tell me a thing. most times he snaps back to normal when I threaten to walk out of the relationship.it has happened so many times without number.
This attitude is killing me,I have calmly talked to him to open up if I offend him so I will apologize instead of blanking me for days but no avail,our wedding is coming up november.I am really confused,how do I handle this. right now he isn't talking to me and is putting up different heartbreaking messages in his dp on bb.

your boyfriend is a baby...

What types of heartbreaking messages has he been posting?

ileobatojo: What types of heartbreaking messages has he been posting?

end of the road - boyz II men
water run dry - boyz II men
irreplaceable - beyonce
move bïtch - ludacris
kill you - eminem.

coogar:

end of the road - boyz II men
water run dry - boyz II men
irreplaceable - beyonce
move bïtch - ludacris
kill you - eminem.

Madt bad messages

coogar:

end of the road - boyz II men
water run dry - boyz II men
irreplaceable - beyonce
move bïtch - ludacris
kill you - eminem.

Lol! Lets hear from the horse's mouth jo!

ileobatojo:
Lol! Lets hear from the horse's mouth jo!

amebo!
this horse has no mouth.......

coogar:

amebo!
this horse has no mouth.......

“I hate the feeling dat I am not good enough”. “if u aren't sure of your feelings pls let me be” “a great relationship is about two tins 1.find out the similarities 2.respect out the differences”.“I may not be the best so if u can't accept me pls walk away”
To the best of my knowledge I haven't offended him and he didn't tell me I did .he just started putting Up this funny messages and stop calling.
I know if I threaten to call the relationship off he would start apologizing and would start behaving himself.
I have told him marriage isn't a do or die affair,if his is scared he can postpone it but he won't hear of dat.but he continues with this silly attitude.pls how best do I handle him

@op,Probably, your hubby-to-be has been hearing a lot of sad marriage stories, and the thing is scaring hell out of him.

If he has refused to talk to/with you and psting crazy messages, you can send message or e-mail to him to express your feelings, and if he doesnt change, you too can start posting crazy messages and facebook posts on your facebook wall, maybe, that will push him into asking questions, which will also serve as an opportunity to voice out your mind to him.
I wish you goodluck.

You are dealing with someone that likes unnecessary attention, and is most likely cheating. Maybe those messages are for the other girl. Will advice you to put the marriage on hold so you can figure out what is going on. You try sha. Give him space, don't call, don't beg, and approach his people to put things on hold. Do you see yourself playing such manipulating games for a lifetime? If he can't be mature at 35, then you both have a long way to go. Pray to God to give you someone sane, and on your maturity level. This guy is not stable.

fragancegel: “I hate the feeling dat I am not good enough”. “if u aren't sure of your feelings pls let me be” “a great relationship is about two tins 1.find out the similarities 2.respect out the differences”.“I may not be the best so if u can't accept me pls walk away”
To the best of my knowledge I haven't offended him and he didn't tell me I did .he just started putting Up this funny messages and stop calling.
I know if I threaten to call the relationship off he would start apologizing and would start behaving himself.
I have told him marriage isn't a do or die affair,if his is scared he can postpone it but he won't hear of dat.but he continues with this silly attitude.pls how best do I handle him

Could he be looking for a way out of the relationship but doesn't want to be the one to call it off? Sounds like it to me.

What can you do? Just try to get him to open up in a neutral and non threatening atmosphere and go from there. Don't nag or smother him though.

Are you sure is he not bipolar? Does he act stable when with you? Do you think you can continue being with this personality for life?

I assure you- he is going to be more moody in the marriage. Think very well babe. You seem to be the soft one here whose emotion is being toiled with.

Mayflowa: Are you sure is he not bipolar? Does he act stable when with you? Do you think you can continue being with this personality for life?

I assure you- he is going to be more moody in the marriage. Think very well babe. You seem to be the soft one here whose emotion is being toiled with.

My thoughts too...when he snaps out of it, does he feel bad about it or just sees it as normal?

Very hard to say but I think he is not into it again.develpd cold feet and want u to act first.unless u r desperate,give him gap jor! Headache so soon!never ignore d smallest negative sign in a r/ship. Still wish u luck

He is usually loving and a sweet person when he is normal.most times when I Threaten to walk out he cries begs and even promise not to repeat it,but three weeks later he starts up again and we go thru the same circle all over again.I have calmly told him if he wants a break I would give him.he is the one bringing up the marriage issue.I am not desperate in any way

One thing u should have at d back of ur mind is that his behaviour is childish and can only get worse wen u guys are married. IMO, take a long break frm d rship. Marriage no be beans o....

Then chill cos I tell u,marriage will bring out even yet something worst than dis!unless ur personalities match and u can handle dis cool,u can go ahead,but no dat he is not goin to change dis.if u can't,take a walk.its good to be real anyway.d best of luck

baby_123: You are dealing with someone that likes unnecessary attention, and is most likely cheating. Maybe those messages are for the other girl. Will advice you to put the marriage on hold so you can figure out what is going on. You try sha. Give him space, don't call, don't beg, and approach his people to put things on hold. Do you see yourself playing such manipulating games for a lifetime? If he can't be mature at 35, then you both have a long way to go. Pray to God to give you someone sane, and on your maturity level. This guy is not stable.

True talk.

A f00l @ 35 . . .