I'm just curious. I was on the other thread about the married man that is in love with another woman. Despite the general empathy shown the woman, some posters later started condemning the woman for an earlier thread she opened where she stated her love for intimacy gadgets. Now my question, is something ethically wrong in using intimacy gadgets in marriage? Should a married couple use it at all, isn't that akin to 'cheating' on your partner? Emphasis on married people. Mature advise please.

When the two of them are still alive and still sexually active, and also accessible to each other i thing its not needed/necessary.
May God help us all.

Nah that is nonsense

They should be allowed to do whatever and buy whatever. People think gadgets are only used when one is sex starved, or the other is unable to perform well, naaaa not true. People use them to spice up their sex life.

Stop acting like you are from my mothers generation, people.

Couples should be able to do whatever pleases them sexually,i won't spend a dime on a intimacy gadget but those it gives the hots should go for it.

Why not?is there any harm in them abi they were not made to be used.
Nawaa o!
Ok,I c it,only sx workers use dem.
In marriage ,there is no inhibition abeg.go wild anyhow u want with ur guy/woman cos its one life! Live it to d fullest!
What better way than inside marriage can one fullfil his/her fantasies.like one of my very good friend (a female pastor)said'its only God that know what happens behind closed door b/w her and her hubby.she can't even tell me but they lv it!

I sincerely believe a couple that uses toys does so because someone is lacking somewhere
Why would I need toys When the man himself is right there in all his glory?
There is no substitute for an engorged,pulsating man with the veins criss crossing like the tributaries into River Congo.
Unless his fingers are riddled with arthritis ,why would I want want any toys?
The man is more than enough biko,if he knows what he is doing and how it ought to be done

Turn on a a maxwell tape an do a little strip tease seductively while he grins from ear to ear
Start one way,change positions again and again ,you will both be screaming
Biko at what point do I open cupboard to bring out umu toys

Anyway
To each his own
Those who sell the gadgets need customers abi
Hehehehe


I had a friend who boasted about the wonders of toys
Na now after divorce we hear say bobo gbara small size

Hmmm. Divided opinion as I expected. I guess the world is moving on a fast pace, because I personally am finding it difficult to wrap my head around someone using a gadget to pleasure himself or herself, when the real thing dey there, lol. What if one of the partners objects nko? Would the other still go ahead to use it, knowing it's not by mutual consent? Anyway, I'm just learning, so opinions are welcome.

At Babyosisi, lol at your friend in denial.

"had a friend who boasted about the wonders of toys
Na now after divorce we hear say bobo gbara small size".



Chai!!umunnwanyi Na casting

chaircover: People hear the word sexx toy and automatically picture a woman with a huge viibrator doing her biz while hubby looks on bewildered.

Not so!! Sextoys could be anything . . .flavoured cd's, flavored lube, body paint, sleeves, rings, sexy lingerie . . .anything!

One of my naughtier and more vocal friends said the best xmas present he bought his wife was a rabbit. She was sitting there too with a grin on her naughty face.

IMO A married couple can do whatever they like in the privacy of their bedroom so long as they both are up for it and its not one just sided and the couple are both on the same page. I wouldnt condemn a couple who both decide to jazz up things in the bedroom if that what they both want to do. This is the one person you are "allowed" to have sexx with for the rest of your life, so they should do things that they both enjoy. Each to their own.

Well said on every point!!!!!!!

Whoopie: Hmmm. Divided opinion as I expected. I guess the world is moving on a fast pace, because I personally am finding it difficult to wrap my head around someone using a gadget to pleasure himself or herself, when the real thing dey there, lol. What if one of the partners objects nko? Would the other still go ahead to use it, knowing it's not by mutual consent? Anyway, I'm just learning, so opinions are welcome.

At Babyosisi, lol at your friend in denial.

If one objects that is the only time it is any issue. Both should go back to the drawing board and find out how to please the one that wanted the toys.

@Babyosisi
Lol @ veins criss crossing.
Toys are for variety. Adds new smells and sensations to the party. Edible panties, masks, handcuffs, blindfolds, vibrating rings for the dude, lotions, massage oils, ticklers etc. Lets just say my closet is interesting. The gadgets hardly come out though. You dont make those routine. Usually birthdays or those weekends when you just go wild.