I have known her since primary school days she has 3 guys 1 is workin in a notable mobile network and is paid well he is promisin her a good life in marriage he's 28 & she appreciates him alot. the 2nd is still in school in his 3rd year for a 4 year courseand is also promisin marriage he is very comfortable cos he's in biz and is only 22 she appreciates him too. the 3rd is her mate in school though some years older than she is he's 20 and the babe is 18 and wants to marry @ 19 who does she go for.

She is so down cast and wants to quit playin on them but she cant help it she loves them all with all her heart and doesn't want to let go. She is currently very much attached to the one in biz cos he's livin close to her and all that. while one is livin near her school the other is livin were she was livin be4 i told her that she was turnin out to be a playa but she said she is in a confused state and that she needs help and fast at most she wants to get married 20 and the 1st 2 guys are promisin her that.

One myth about marriage is that most people expect it to be a Prince Charming and Sleeping Beauty match -- which isn't the case.

Your friend is playing three men. Maybe what she has is infatuation. I suggest she drop all of them, and reflect on her preferences -- she can then decide which one she loves best.

Jumping into marriage at 19? She sounds as if it's a do-or-die affair to get married at 20. If she feels like marrying, good. If she wants to marry because she wants to meet her deadline of 20 years old, I pity her. Tell her to do some serious thinking.

D point is dat she loves one of them more.But she is sacred he might not b able2care for her financially.Dats why she still sticks to dat may be v mobile or mtn guy.She is not focused.Pls tell her2marry for love and not for money.We hav a lot of people who are married to professional carpenters and r just too happy in thier marriages.She is still holdin on to d three because she is a kid in a confused state.If really she wants to get marid next yr,den make she decide now.It pays to be happily married.

Well, i believe the lady just wants to seek comment and opinion, she don pick one b4 she dey seek opinion. you know ladies and insecurity, they always like to seek comment b4 they start a relationship or b4 they get married. Why do you think ladies would seek the consent of their freind to help them access guys before they finally come and say YES to you. Sori oo, they are never secured, they love sweet comment. Marry the three o jare, take the lead and be the first to marry three at differeent venue!

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Me too.

Please note: She can't be in love with three people at the same time. It's just not possible!

Thanks guys i really appreciate it. She truly is behavin like a kid.the main issue is that she is sacred of tellin any of them anythin because of there reactions or statements.

Zahymaka:

Your friend is playing three men. Maybe what she has is infatuation. I suggest she drop all of them, and reflect on her preferences -- she can then decide which one she loves best.

, Tell her to do some serious thinking.

That's just what she needs, Move away and literarily FORGET about the 3 of them for abt a yr to do serious thinking and reflections. There's maybe one of them (or none) that she REALLY likes most.

Marriage is for matured minds not child's play. she can't be truely in love with three people at the same time.it's either she loves them for different reasons; she might love 1 for his money, another for his looks and the other for only God knows what. anyway the point is if she cannot make up her mind now then she ain't ready to walk down the aisle yet.

She's got to take a time off all 3 of them and do a deep thinking.
There's no hurry 4 her @ 19! Otherwise she'll marry in haste and repent in leisure.

Hey i just called her right now and she really said she will stick to thelma's advice

Well,in dis case,she should go closer 2 her God de answer is right there waitiing 4 her.

Thanks bright that is one good one

This is a "love rectangle" or "love square".
It's a big problem and it's more complicated than stated but it's obvious that the only person that's ready now is the mobile network worker. She could apply herself to loving him. One thing I have learnt with men is that they are mostly better when they are older. Believe it or not she is 18 but if we want to look at her maturity level she's 25. This pronouncement rules out the other guys.The older guy makes better sense to me. It's the logical choice. But life is not about logic. Some times logic works other times it doesn't work. This is just me opinion.
I'll say she should follow her heart but sometimes our hearts follow our heads and our greed and longings. This is not good choice.
She should sit down and define what she wants. And then use the PMI techniques to do her analysis (Look up PMI technique on the web). This could help.
Above all she should really pray about it because we are talking about marriage here. It's only God that knows what's best for us.

let her choose one

Dudu thanks i think too that the mobile guy is the one who is readin and more understand also i learnt he is more christian like than the others

is this one polygamy or trigamy,

buttom line is dat it doesn't matter wat we say, itz up 2 her cuz itz her life

she's still in skool

Na wa o

anything for comfort- Gold diggerz

@ loverboi


Its true she is still in school but omo she gat to marry before she turn simbi 4 house

so all the gurls that are in uni @ simbi

she can keep da date but thinking of marruage now hmmm i think shes gonna get hurt inda long run

do u think the 28yr guy is gonna go to an office/official function with da lil gurl? naaa i dnt think so, he will get some more settled babe that looks da part probably one that has finished skool n working

but na naija we dey money = instant love

pure ashawo!

Trust me she can't be in love with 3 guys at thesame time,she needs to give herself some time and she needs to rethink.And besides,is it a must for her to get married @ 19?

Abi na you?Confess.Anyways,she is not in love she's only playing games with the fellas

heads.Sorry to say this,she's probably gold-digging or simply a playa(abi wetin I go call am

self)

She should add a fourth. The more the merrier

Can't d poster see that it's not love!

marry all

Na wa for that kind polyandry

I don't think she is wife material type. She is just gold-digger don't know what true love is.

Ok ooooo i will report