For the past 6/7 sundays now, Pastor Tunde Bakare of Latter Rain Assembly Ogba-Lagos, has been talking about the inevitability of separation (Well... That's the church I attend whenever I'm in Lagos). That is, on your way of becoming what you are destined to be, some people will separate from you, whether you like it or not. Most times these separations can be hard to take but it must happen wanted or not. Well, the separation I'm talking about is not because the person changed location or something, I mean people walking out of your life (you get? Ok). Many of us have experienced a form of separation or the other, either from close friends, relatives, lovers or business partners etc, which we often find difficult to let them go. Well, what I learnt from the sermons of Pastor B (Pastor Tunde Bakare) is to let them go.
When people walk out of your life, they left because your destiny is not tied to theirs and they are done playing their own part, meaning you will better off without them. Don't make the mistake of trying to beg or convince them to stay, this may mar your destiny. You might beg them all you want and even if they stay they won't stay for your own well being. A typical example of separation can be found in Gen 13:1-18. Lot had requested for separation from Abraham, Abraham simply let Lot go and it was after letting him go that God blessed Abraham and his descendants. (Gen 13:14-18)
The second lesson I learnt is; when people walk out of your life, do not let your anger, fear, emotions push away those around you. There's a Yoruba saying that "No matter how bad a person is, there will be people around him" thus do not push away these people who are still with you because you are angry at what the other person did and then you get to generalise that every person could also leave you, this will be wrong for Yoruba people also say "if we close our eyes for the evil one to pass, the good one will pass and we won't know".
My conclusion is that, when people separate from us, we shouldn't be bitter/angry and become pessimistic about others around us, rather we should let those who left go and move on with our lives with the people around us and focus on things that lie ahead of us. So I'm saying to you LET THEM GO!

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