WARNING!

This article contains stories that most ‘church people’ don’t want to address. So, if you are one of those living in denial and covering up crap going on in the church, this is where you should stop reading. Thanks for stopping by.

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Now, for the rest of us, please sit down and switch on your open mind. I want to talk about something I have kept bottled up inside for longer than necessary. I have also decided to use real names, as my defense for any accusation of slander is justification. I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. However, feel free to throw your doubt around but know that I am past the shaming game (where victims of abuse are shot down by blame) I am no longer a victim but a survivor who is sharing her experience to help others caught in same web of abuse, guilt and shame. We only get to live once right? So here, it goes…

I recently came to know this event too was abuse (recently here means about 6 months ago). It has literally been eating me up having to drive by another billboard advertising preachers, or hearing his name, or even trying to ask about the validity of the entire salvation story and whether or not there is a God that truly watches over his people. That being said, I’m just going to say it as it is. This is a recap of my affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA (Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly) Abuja chapter. This affair I have come to know as a form of abuse as you would see the different elements of abuse very present.

I met Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo many years ago. I was getting bored of the church I was attending and someone suggested COZA. At the time, I had never heard about it. My friend said, go there, I’m sure you would enjoy the word. But he also gave me a strong warning. He said he would advice that I remain a member only and not join the workforce. I agreed. The first time I attended COZA, I felt it was my church and decided I was going to plant my ass there. About eleven months had gone by and I was still attending the services quietly and faithfully. I really did like the church. One day a worker in the church approached me that the senior pastor wanted to see me.

Me? I thought. Why would the senior pastor want to see me? Not the second man but the head nigga in charge? Ok na! I started to think my sin was oozing so bad the pastor could tell I needed Jesus. (Poor old me.) I saw him at the end of the second service (they had two services at the time) and he said to me that he would like me to work with him. I knew I had no intentions of becoming a pastor so I had to ask in what capacity. He said he’d like for me to join a department, preferably the Pastoral Care Unit (PCU).

A few weeks later, against my friend’s advice not to join the workforce, I was a PCU member. All of a sudden, I had some status in church. I was ‘somebody.’ Dress had to be on point, hair, shoes and what not… As workers, we were literally trying to outshine each other or so it seemed. Anyways, I felt like I was a privileged member of an elite circle. Hehehe. (It did feel good though, for the most part.)

About a year after joining the workforce, I was on my way to London for a Masters degree program that would last two years. As was the rule for workers travelling, I wrote to say I would be away for 2 years and Pastor Biodun Fotoyinbo asked that I keep in touch by sending him my number and email when I had settled in London so he “makes sure I continue in the faith” because according to him, people loose their faith when they leave home and he wanted to make sure I didn’t. So, on that note, as soon as I got a phone line in London, I was sure to call ‘my pastor’ to say I arrived safe, had settled in and also gave my phone number.

We had spoken a few times especially when COZA started to stream online. I always watched and would give feedback on quality of production and share a little bit on the challenges I faced settling in a new land. One evening, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo called me that he was coming to London and needed me to help him make some hotel bookings as the person who was meant to do it couldn’t get it done (this was rather strange as I had never been involved in his travel itinerary) Later that day, he said it had been sorted and my help would not be required but that he would like me to arrange a cab to pick him up from Heathrow. I was happy to help my pastor from Nigeria and even saw it as a privilege. (I would later come to learn that all of this was a calculated attempt to hatch a plan that I suspect was set in motion when I was asked to join the workforce.)

The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn’t accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London) About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room.

“Care for a drink?” Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.

“No sir,” I said.

“You don’t have to be shy Ese, even if it’s alcohol, feel free and order what you want.” I wasn’t sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, “I’d have henny and coke please.” He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn’t while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suit and had a connecting door to the roof.

While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn’t fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said ‘feel free Ese.’ And asked again, that I kiss him.

A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!

I can hear somebody’s mind thinking, ‘well, you weren’t raped.” And I remember a pastor I opened up to when I couldn’t take all the mind games asking if I seduced him. No, I didn’t seduce him and no, I wasn’t raped but I felt trapped in this affair. Come to think of it, how could I have seduced him when I wanted nothing from him? I mean, I was too busy minding my business in London trying to get through with my masters program and I was overly comfortable. And even if I wanted to seduce anyone, it wouldn’t be a married man, not to mention a married pastor.

What I couldn’t reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it.

At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand.” My mind couldn’t fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my ‘badness’ through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority.

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo also said to me that he had a dream where I exposed what was happening to the media. Said it was all over the place and that people were calling me the girl that caused chaos in COZA. He also said I should remember the bible said to “touch not God’s anointed.” I immediately started to rebuke the devil and said I could never do anything like that. I was almost swearing with my entire family as I thought really I had touched God’s anointed by submitting my body to be used. Little did I know at the time that all of these were ways to mess with my mind and even manipulate my thoughts.

Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn’t comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn’t help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn’t pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn’t talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn’t move forward.

I felt I had to talk to someone and I decided to speak to my then good friend, Ernest Akale but unfortunately for me, Mr. Ernest did not have the capacity to hold what I said to him. He broke down completely the days that followed and I found myself having to pause how I was feeling and what I was struggling with to help my friend be strong. After a while, he withdrew from not just me but his then fiancé and friends. I had to then tell the fiancé what had caused it (she suspected we were having an affair so I had to clear the air) To my surprise she was a lot stronger than her man and told me to suck it up (I’m paraphrasing). She said if she were me, she wouldn’t leave the church but stay to torment Pastor Biodun and collect money from him. Ok! That sounded extreme for me, as my intention was not to blackmail but to heal my broken self. Anyways, I finally found the courage to speak to my then unit head who said he was going to talk to Pastor Biodun but didn’t have the liver to do so. Before long, the story was spreading and naturally getting twisted.

I went to a new church and it seemed like the COZA bug had chased me there. The pastor would always refer to COZA as some example and each time that was done, it seemed like a spear was thrust through my chest. One day, I broke down in the service and started crying uncontrollably, as I couldn’t take another mention of COZA and the pictures it painted in my head.

Very long, boring story cut short, for the last 5 months I gave the whole church thing a big space and break. I wasn’t sure I believed in God. I wasn’t sure I understood what it meant when people said ‘Jesus saves” and I definitely wasn’t sure how to deal with the mental torture that was affecting not just me but my relationships with family and friends. I was very unstable, fearful and worst of all guilty. I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me. Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had ‘talked’ about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated. I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church. Come to think of it, maybe he meant if I wanted something monetary or material (as someone had suggested when I opened up to her) but the truth is, I never wanted his money (or is it the church member’s money.) All I wanted was to meet with him and have him accept that he misled me, betrayed his wife and the church he pastors. I wasn’t the only lady in COZA who had been a victim of his sexcapades and manipulative patterns but I was the one who could come back after months of struggle with not just my faith but also my affair with him. And I wanted to set things right. I wanted to talk to Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo maybe for closure and I felt like I needed an apology because he played the “touch not my anointed” card to keep me locked in guilt, shame and fear when all along it was a calculated plan and I dare say, it started when he asked me to join the workforce.

Not to mention the audacity to talk about teaching me a level of grace I didn’t understand. I had no intention of understanding a grace that would permit me to go on doing things that were wrong and what’s worse having to carry the burden for almost a year.

Different surprising advises came up in the weeks that followed the rumour making rounds. I was told to hush because Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo had been a cultist in the past and could send people to shut me up. All my so-called friends in COZA withdrew from me and treated me like I had the plaque. What was worse was Pastor Flo finally saw my then pastor to ‘talk’ about what had happened with Pastor Biodun and lied that it happened once and was a mistake. My question then became, ‘do these people even care how broken I had become?’ ’do they care about the emotional and spiritual welfare of the people they were pastoring?’ The sad answer was NO. Most of us old members of COZA kept leaving but they couldn’t care less. What was important was to keep growing the church and having more and more cars with stickers that read “More than enough.” Back then, I always felt horrible when I saw another car drive past me with the sticker. I was breaking, I was struggling but no one could help. All they could do was ask me to hide so Pastor Biodun’s goons don’t hurt me. And then the interesting one was if I had evidence to prove my claim. Let me just say here that, it isn’t a claim, it’s a confession to free me from all of the guilt and shame I have had to live with for no reason at all. (That being said, I have evidence to prove all I have said here, the latest being a 58 minutes recording of my meeting with Pastor Flo a few months back)

This is my confession and I cannot begin to describe how much weight has been lifted off of my shoulders just pouring the truth out about what went down. So, to all my ex COZA friends gossiping about me, get your facts right. To those who said they’d help me deal with the pain but didn’t, I forgive you, I have learnt how to deal with it and I am doing just fine. To those who fear for my safety saying Pastor Biodun would send people to shut me up, I really have gone past fearing for my life. To live is gain and to die is Christ (or how does Paul say it again?) And to the only person who ever supported me through it all, thank you, I am learning to be brave. Please don’t think I am perfect in all of this but in line with living my authentic life and putting all forms of abuse behind me, this is where I press the stop button and stop the bleeding. This is where I break the silence and call the church to stand up for what it has been commissioned to do. If you will not enter the Kingdom, please don’t stop others who are trying to enter.

I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence? I am satisfied setting the record straight. I am ready for any shaming or bashing that would follow because the truth is, because of what I have suffered and come through, I am really not moved by what people say or think about me anymore. I am a stronger woman and a damn abuse survivor seeking to connect with other victims of abuse to show them how to deal with the shame, hurt and guilt and how to come out stronger. Turning their mess into their message.

I am Ese Walter and I have gone through all forms of abuse from family, boyfriends, my ex pastor and some strangers not to break me, but so I stand and so I qualify to help victims. My scars have qualified me and when all is said and done, I will still be standing. I AM WOMAN, I BEND, I DON’T BREAK!

Cheers to the freaking weekend!!!

Source: [url]esewalter./2013/08/22/my-affair-with-pastor-biodun-fatoyinbo-of-coza/[/url]

Ok, funny story.

I skimmed through and noticed the pastor offered alcohol, asked you to sit on his laps, etc etc all leading up to a few hours later when you were romping in the sheets.

Any good fiction would have had the innocent lady picking race after sighting the first two things mentioned, and then not hanging around long enough for the "hours" to become romps.

As it is, we dont know if you were persuaded by the alcohol, the pastor or your own konji.

So, try to rewrite this work of fiction and do it better next time.

Include more direct conversations also, "said pastor sheets" should be followed by something like " oh i nor sabi wetin you dey talk, pastor, i'm not that kind of girl' ".

You know, spice it up so we can relate to the pure damsel who's being defiled by the greedy pastor wey no dey see woman for im vicinity.

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In my opinion,u brought this upon yourself. You went to the hotel,entered the room alone,sat on his lap & enjoyed the smooching + the tin. And you also indulged in these several times. For people to believe your story and also the only help u can give yourself & others in such situations is to make all evidences public,call logs,voice recordings,anything you can lay your hands on, cos if this your claim is true, he has to be exposed for good & for Christianity.

zeelo2014: In my opinion,u brought this upon yourself. You went to the hotel,entered the room alone,sat on his lap & enjoyed the smooching + the tin. And you also indulged in these several times. For people to believe your story and also the only help u can give yourself & others in such situations is to make all evidences public,call logs,voice recordings,anything you can lay your hands on, cos if this your claim is true, he has to be exposed for good & for Christianity.

At first I had thesame opinion as you... then after a second thought and seeing how some so called christians worship pastors... they will actually do anything... I mean anything.... as long as it is coming from their celebrity pastor. However I do not put all the blame on the girl nor the pastor....but the attitude of the church to this matter as claimed by Ese is disgraceful.... I hope it is not true but if true such evils should be exposed.

Anybody can fall into any sin but trying to cover it up in the name of bigmanism in the christian church should not be condoned. I remember some years ago when Rev. Wale Oke fell into a similar sin and he confessed publicly at Adamasingba stadium in Ibadan. Although shameful he was humble enough to do the right thing and so shamed the devil

Which brings us to the same conclusion,expose him!!!. So many church goers worship their pastors not Christ. Expose him simple.

@OP, your handling of the whole issue was immature. I ain't gonna condemn anyone here, who am I to do that. But the truth is every man's got a weakness and lemme remind u dat d man of God didn't fall from heaven, he's human. So don't bring him and his ministry down just because u feel u were battered or molested. A sin is a sin before God and a lair is as guilty as a murderer. You were both guilty, so ask God for forgiveness, and maintain a reasonable distance from anything dat might remind you of him or his ministry, and move on wit ur life. May I remind u dat GOD might not abandon his plan and purpose in the life and ministry of d said pastor just because u want to free ur conscience. Life goes on, so move on. We're all sinners, only HIS mercies keeps us. I bet there are some element of sense in my post. My one cent.

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Hebunn: @OP, your handling of the whole issue was immature. I ain't gonna condemn anyone here, who am I to do that. But the truth is every man's got a weakness and lemme remind u dat d man of God didn't fall from heaven, he's human. So don't bring him and his ministry down just because u feel u were battered or molested. A sin is a sin before God and a lair is as guilty as a murderer. You were both guilty, so ask God for forgiveness, and maintain a reasonable distance from anything dat might remind you of him or his ministry, and move on wit ur life. May I remind u dat GOD might not abandon his plan and purpose in the life and ministry of d said pastor just because u want to free ur conscience. Life goes on, so move on. We're all sinners, only HIS mercies keeps us. I bet there are some element of sense in my post. My one cent.

Hebunn your one cent is noted. We are talking about the church here headed by Christ.... it has nothing to do with COZA or bringing the ministry down.... Jimmy Swaggart, Francis Wale Oke etc have fallen for similar sins before... that doesnt stop God from using them. Infact it was reported that Late Obadare told Rev Wale Oke then that he must confess to his wife and church...Wale Oke stopped preaching in church for some times.... it is not about pride or ego or whether a man cannot fall but the attitude of the Pastors in Lagos and Abuja and subsequently the church in general has no sembalnce to that of other brethren in the church headed by Jesus Christ. That is the point.... if Ese s claims are true.

The church of Jesus Christ belongs to no man but the Lord himself... you are either under the Lords headship or you are running a business centre.

Each time I see stories like this, one thing comes to my mind... The devil wants to discourage people from going to church. I don't worship pastors, and I'm nt a church fanatic... But no matter the scandals, God will forever remain God, and He's forever faithful. So the earlier people know this, the better for us all. Anytime I walk by a news stand and I see all those soft sell magazines that claim to expose church scandals, I quickly take my eyes off them. I'm not denying the fact that these scandals truly occur, but I don't wanna be discouraged. I've experienced God, and I BELIEVE in Him, so I won't be deterred by such negative stuffs. Opinions are mine, pls... God helps us all.

Hebunn:

If he were to be your father, will you still maintain dis your "expose him" stand? If you've not walked in someone's shoe, you can't know how it feels.

...I'm sure you r not in support of covering up d cases of some catholic priests molesting kids....that applies here too. Let's b rational here..

belabela:

I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence?

Source:https://esewalter./2013/08/22/my-affair-with-pastor-biodun-fatoyinbo-of-coza/

Eh you should have done that so your story can be a little bit convincing. You could be sued for libel or defamation or something like that you know. That's if this Ese character is real.

madam, i think if you're alone with a man and he brings out a bottle of beer or johnny walker, do you assume he wants to pray?

tpia@:
madam, i think if you're alone with a man and he brings out a bottle of beer or johnny walker, do you assume he wants to pray?

maybe he brought out a bottle of schnapp gin.... I remember elders in my home town used to pray wt schnapps o.

Tayeni: ...I'm sure you r not in support of covering up d cases of catholic priests molesting kids....that applies here too. Let's b rational here..

I'm not in support of molestation or covering up of scandals... The opinions are just personal... In as much as I'm also not perfect, I don't celebrate other's weakness in public. Cos I beliv wat goes around comes around. Dats my take.

Tayeni: maybe he brought out a bottle schnapp gin.... I remember elders in my home town used to pray wt schnapps o.

yes, they do that in public, but when a man and a woman are alone in a room and a bottle of henessey magically appears, i'm not sure why the woman should assume prayer is what will follow.

pastor or no pastor?

where is the pastors picture

God dey sha... I'll do my bit by prayin for them... It ain't easy though, but still... It is well.

Hebunn:

I'm not in support of molestation or covering up of scandals... The opinions are just personal... In as much as I'm also not perfect, I don't celebrate other's weakness in public. Cos I beliv wat goes around comes around. Dats my take.

its like saying that corrupt govt officials shud b covered up wen caught dipping their hands in d till. A leader is a leader whether in politics, church or mosque. He should own up to his mistakes if d allegations r true.......instead of covering a mistake wt anoda mistake(lying). The way pastors put themselves up on pedestals like they r superhumans makes it somewhat hard 4 pple 2 forgive them wen they do wrong like d rest of us..

tpia@:



yes, they do that in public, but when a man and a woman are alone in a room and a bottle of henessey magically appears, i'm not sure why the woman should assume prayer is what will follow.

pastor or no pastor?

why r you fixated on d lady and nt d pastor......nowadays, pastors r like rock stars adored by d members.....esp d lady folks. I think its just a case of a groupie falling for her favorite star....

If you're familiar with COZA or anyone that attends COZA then you wouldn't have a problem believing this girl's story at all. The pastor is literally worshiped by the church members and have this way of teaching that is manipulative in nature so you end up living your life to please your pastor and his teachings no matter what. Once knew a church worker there that sleeps on a mat at home, in a face 2 face room but had to dress to kill and live a fake life in church just to follow his pastor's teaching that they must be "shining" outside as church workers.

Ese Walters… I admire your courage you are indeed a brave woman.
I was a student of Religion for five years at OAU and had a about a dozen married clergy men in my class.some of them did all sorts from cheating on tests and exams, sleeping with girls on Campus and one of them told me that if push come to shove ,he saw nothing wrong with being fortified spiritually by his herbalist mother.

All i can say is that i have experienced so much hypocrisy in churches that a time i cringed at the thought of attending.Although i had to console myself with the story in Job where Satan was gathered with the sons of God. Nevertheles when someone is ramming religious lingo in my ears incessantly, i become wary of that person cause i have come to realise that they are the ones capable of committing the gravest atrocities without batting an eyelid.

I believe your story cause the truth in them is evident . Most christians have placed their pastors on a pedestal that simply does not exist. For me your pastor’s sin does not comprise in the adultery itself -cause anybody can fall into temptation but in his unwilliness to see it as sin, a total lack of guilt nor remorse for falling short of God’s will and his willingness to continue sleeping with you inspite of the pain and guilt that you were experiencing.

If only he knew the wieght of Jesus word “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, he would never have tried to take you to a ”higher level of grace”.

I am happy for you because confessing your sin before God and men will surely bring the required healing that you need. and that no matter how his followers, family and friends ostracise you, for wanting to “destroy him” as they choose to view it, rather than chide him for bieng a charlatan, there are some of us who have drawn strength from your desire to please your maker.

I would also plead with you to set him free in your heart because hating him will only eat you up.
One day you will find someone who will love you in spite of all that has happened and will be man enough to stand on the side of truth and damn the world.


THE CRUX OF THE MATTER
Someone has labelled this whole saga as foundless gossip and I beg to differ.

A lady with a name comes out to say "you slept with me so you are not fit to condemn adultery while you are guilty of such until you deal with your flaws as a serial and remorseless adulterer.

She states clearly that she has evidence to prove that her claims are true and will only release such if you dare to deny it and label her a liar.

First, Pastor begs the question by neither confirming nor denying the allegation.His reason for this is because his mentors, government and security officials from the "vague" first world have advised him to keep quiet, forgetting that as an envoy of God as he claims the only important thing is what the God he represents,told him.

He then throws a red herring in our path by insinuating that its the handwork of enemies who are jealous of his new church site. That fish is tempting but I won't fall for it.

Rather than give us the simple YES or NO that will slake our thirst for the truth he promises us a more robust reply in the not clearly defined future.

I then compare Pastor's response to that of Prophet Samuel's who was sure of his uprightness as a Man of God that he could confidently say the following to the children of Israel.
" Behold, here I am: witness against me before the LORD, and before his anointed: whose ox have I taken? or whose ass have I taken? or whom have I defrauded? whom have I oppressed? or of whose hand have I received any bribe to blind mine eyes therewith? and I will restore it you." ...should a true servant of God not be able to say this when the occassion demands ? Is this too much to ask from our Men Of God ?

His follower and sympathizers abandon the crux of the matter:- "INTEGRITY " and start attacking the young woman.

I doubt if anyone can accuse D'banj the self acclaimed KOKOMASTER of womanising when it is consistent with his trade as a Secular musician and image as a Ladies man.

But if a Don Moen who is a gospel musician,falls into temptation,is found out,humble enough to own up,and begin afresh we can relate to the fact he is afterall flesh and blood like us all.

After all that is what grace is all about: unending mercy for the repentant sinner not the one who uses PR experts to dribble himself out of tight corner.

But if Don Moen starts sleeping with several of his band members for several years, then it is only normal that a right thinking person will recoil in horror because the life he lives is not in tandem with what he professes.

You cannot claim to be the annointed mouthpiece for a God who despises adultery,go ahead to warn others to avoid it and then revel in it yourself. That for me,is unacceptable and the crux of the matter on ground.

On our part when we leave the real issue and start chasing shadows its no wonder this country is the way it is. Religion has beclouded our sense of reasoning.

Good old Integrity,Uprightness,and Honesty are relegated to the back burner whereas that same bible that we carry up and down tells us that it is rieghtousness that shall exalt a nation and sin is a reproach to any people... And then we wonder why other countries treat us with utter disregard and suspicion.

Honestly We really deserve the leaders we have after all the are products of our society.

Chai!!! This is a very pathetic story and I feel for the sister. I wonder how many so called pastors and prophets are involved in this nonsense. If the story is true as she has said it, she deserves an unreserved apology from the pastor. See the spiritual, emotional and psychological trauma he has put her through. Doesn't he have a conscience? The man is wicked! God have mercy o!

But there are very important points and lessons from this story:

* Don't take men of God as God. They are humans and are fallible. '... Looking unto Jesus, the Author and Finisher of our faith...' (Hebrews 12:2). Some are fake, they teach and preach but don't do.

* Spiritual watchfulness, prayer and obedience to the word of God are all important to abstain from every form of immorality; God has given every Christian the grace to abstain from sin. We are still in this flesh and can fall into sin if we are not watchful.

* A leader's sin is the leading sin. Any well-known man of God who goes into a sin that can discourage others in the body of Christ and lead them to hell should come out and confess and tender apology to his followers or such a one will set an evil precedence.

* Not all counsels are from God. Someone can 'cancel' you instead of counseling you. Some counsels are manipulations to deceive and make your mind stray away without really knowing it. (He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand). It's like they say 'the more you look, the less you see.' It's a form of witchcraft control that makes one to believe a lie while the person is dying within.

* Please flee immorality (I Corinthians 6:18) and abstain from every appearance of evil. Ungodly association with the opposite sex is a 'no-no.' Every relationship should have its boundary. Don't claim to be a 'superhuman' or have a special kind of grace or else you would be tempting the devil to tempt you. God bless.

Thank God he's been exposed. God is answering our prayer and more of them will be exposed since they have refused to repent. Nonsense!!!

rileest: If you're familiar with COZA or anyone that attends COZA then you wouldn't have a problem believing this girl's story at all. The pastor is literally worshiped by the church members and have this way of teaching that is manipulative in nature so you end up living your life to please your pastor and his teachings no matter what. Once knew a church worker there that sleeps on a mat at home, in a face 2 face room but had to dress to kill and live a fake life in church just to follow his pastor's teaching that they must be "shining" outside as church workers.

Even the name of the so called church is a turn off to me

Anyway, I believe Ese Walter's story..because I find it authentic after a brief confirmation, but I think she needs more people to read her story, and this can be achieved here on Nairaland.
The whole story was released yesterday.

So MODs act FAST.

We need to shame some Men of Church, who comes only to steal, to kill and to destroy.

Tayeni: why r you fixated on d lady and nt d pastor.......

bro, this is a "come and put mouth" thread, and i am putting mouth, not sure if maybe you dont know how to read or something . . . . . . .

Tayeni: nowadays, pastors r like rock stars adored by d members.....esp d lady folks. I think its just a case of a groupie falling for her favorite star....

more like paying for her favorite star's hotel room?

as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work

all on top sex?

buhahahahahahahahahahahhaha

Ese dear, why would you fall for such scam patchstore??

That one nor be church na.. kai all the Urhobo friends I have do not dull! Dem sharp pass anything.
Even Akpors wouldn't have fallen for this stuff..

I checked the facebook page of the church COZA and I found out the place is all about MONEY.. (money members can only dream of while they sleep in poultry houses)

Pastors Messages includes;

The Engineering of Money with Rev Biodun Fatoyinbo #Increasing greatness


Communion: The table tonight is unto "Supernatural wealth"



Ask God for instructions: "Lord what do you want me to sow this season".
# Pray about the things you have been using your money to do.
#Pray that God expands you. #PastorBiodun # EverIncreasingG reatness


When you have a seed in the ground raise up your shoulders.
# PastorBiodun # EverIncreaGsreatness

Your seed is the expression of your faith towards God.

Romans 6:16. The moment you are a slave to God you are a master over money.

Why would a Christian FALL for this social money crooks in the first place??

There is nothing close to HEAVEN or salvation, or sin on the "church" website. Its all about wealth (wealth they can only dream off while they sleep on mat and torn carpets)... Its all about Abuja Money...


If you fall for these sorts of MEN in your domain, city or anywhere you find yourself.... THEN, whatever you get is what you deserve.

As long as you keep running away from salvation and Jesus preaching church... Then you're not safe...

You are welcome to The Commonwealth of Zion Assembly





Commonwealth Assembly

How about, ECOWAS Assembly¿¿

Churches that makes million's of naira every service yet refuse to have a site rather prefered to worship in hotels halls....they dress as if they are going to nite clubs or beauty pergeant......i refused to be scammed by this new disco light edition churches mtcheeeeeew

wbankz: Churches that makes million's of naira every service yet refuse to have a site rather prefered to worship in hotels halls ....they dress as if they are going to nite clubs or beauty pergeant......i refused to be scammed by this new disco light edition churches mtcheeeeeew

Run far away from such...

The pastor can dissapear with all the fund anyday, any time..


They call them, Chop & Clean mouth

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I don't believe this ese and pastor bioduns story,maybe not entirely,she is sounding like a drug addict,just maybe.if they had an affair,sh just does not sound like she was exposing him out of guilt,but u re sounding like a girl who was dumped and is trying to get back at the man who dumped her.u made ur choice,some of these ladies sleep with big pastors,politicians etc just to reassure themselves and prove that they are pretty,ese!my take is...the world will take u seriously when you tell the whole truth.