Just when I thought I found a nice man who is so in love with me' who isn't so keen abt sex' ready to wait after marriage. Just few dayz after meeting his mother and family. I learn the bitter truth. He masturbates to keep himself satisfied... I don't feel so safe with this' and he says he would stop. But I m still worried. Is dis normal of young men? What do I do?

chi2012: Just when I thought I found a nice man who is so in love with me' who isn't so keen abt sex' ready to wait after marriage. Just few dayz after meeting his mother and family. I learn the bitter truth. He masturbates to keep himself satisfied... I don't feel so safe with this' and he says he would stop. But I m still worried. Is dis normal of young men? What do I do?

Ask yourself why he self services...then ask yourself if you're giving him sexual satisfaction.

Anyway would you prefer him to have sex with someone else or to masturbate?

if you have regular sex with a guy I see no reason why the man would prefer his hands to the velvety interiors of ur cervix. a man who is accustomed to having regular sex will find an alternate means of satisfying his cravings when his needs are not being met. its either he masturbates or he has sex with other women or even prostitutes. so which would u prefer

chi2012: Just when I thought I found a nice man who is so in love with me' who isn't so keen abt sex' ready to wait after marriage. Just few dayz after meeting his mother and family. I learn the bitter truth. He masturbates to keep himself satisfied... I don't feel so safe with this' and he says he would stop. But I m still worried. Is dis normal of young men? What do I do?

You should be extremely grateful that ur man masturbates cos that goes to show in a large way that he may not be cheating on u.

If u have told him no sex before marriage, how else do u want him to satisfy his urges or do u think its easy for a man to 'lock up' as much as a woman?

Allow the guy self-service his rod while he awaits ur puny on the d-day

St_Pete:

You should be extremely grateful that ur man masturbates cos that goes to show in a large way that he may not be cheating on u.

If u have told him no sex before marriage, how else do u want him to satisfy his urges or do u think its easy for a man to 'lock up' as much as a woman?

Allow the guy self-service his rod while he awaits ur puny on the d-day

U are right dear. But I still feel its not worth it. This habit has its own side effects!

chi2012:

U are right dear. But I still feel its not worth it. This habit has its own side effects!

seriously? Wetin u dey fear, tell us.

Babe wetin be ur own self, nyansh u no wan give am, ok him no dey disturb dey help himself, na war, if him reason another woman na break up. Relax n marry the dude so u can help each other.

Women and their plenty wahala.

chi2012:

U are right dear. But I still feel its not worth it. This habit has its own side effects!

@bolded, you are absolutely right and you should be alarmed. His actions reduces libido (men's sexual drive) and once he's used to jerking off with his hands, it might lead to erectile disfunction and untimely ejaculation. Its a psych thing, once his d!ckk get used to getting erect once his fingers itches, it may be difficult for it to get erect when he's with you.

Do I have a solution?

No!

Mazi_Omenuko:

@bolded, you are absolutely right and you should be alarmed. His actions reduces libido (men's sexual drive) and once he's used to jerking off with his hands, it might lead to erectile disfunction and untimely ejaculation. Its a psych thing, once his d!ckk get used to getting erect once his fingers itches, it may be difficult for it to get erect when he's with you.

Do I have a solution?

No!

Ooh my God!!! this is one of my fears. Worst thing is he is addictied to this cos he prefers to be alone most times than hanging out with friends. I m not so sure I can put up with this!!!

chi2012:

Ooh my God!!! this is one of my fears. Worst thing is he is addictied to this cos he prefers to be alone most times than hanging out with friends. I m not so sure I can put up with this!!!

Then help him out by giving him hand job or mouth action cus body no be fire wood

Ucheosefoh: Then help him out by giving him hand job or mouth action cus body no be fire wood

You don't know a thing about habits. They are breed at the comfort of your closet but can't be ostracized therein.

OP, I wish I have a plausible solution to your dilemma. You'd be surprised he'll prefer his hands even when you strip naked in his presence. Just dot your 'I's' and cross your 'tee's'

Op,you need to help him out!

Eeja Nla01: Op,you need to help him out!

How else would I help him nah? I have decided to put into prayer and probably talk to his a mum about it. Since he travels a lot, his defence is' do I prefer him sleeping wit a girl or does he stick to his habit?

Mazi_Omenuko:

You don't know a thing about habits. They are breed at the comfort of your closet but can't be ostracized therein.

OP, I wish I have a plausible solution to your dilemma. You'd be surprised he'll prefer his hands even when you strip naked in his presence. Just dot your 'I's' and cross your 'tee's'

maaaaaaaaaziiii

You already know what you want to say

no need to run reverse psych on her

just say it













BTW
how is ugly ?

chi2012:


How else would I help him nah? I have decided to put into prayer and probably talk to his a mum about it. Since he travels a lot, his defence is' do I prefer him sleeping wit a girl or does he stick to his habit?

Put him in prayers; nice. Talk to his mum; disaster waiting to happen. You don't wanna do that, trust me.

Imanuelle:


maaaaaaaaaziiii

You already know what you want to say

And that would be

Imanuelle:

just say it

I just did.

Imanuelle:

BTW
how is ugly ?

Dunno. Probably sipping his alomo bitters and pounding the next chic he comes across with.

How is the big house?

Front page pls!!!
She needs good advice.

ijeoma100:

Ask yourself why he self services...then ask yourself if you're giving him sexual satisfaction.

Anyway would you prefer him to have sex with someone else or to masturbate?

Ur so on point. Kudos brov!!!

tellwisdom: Please, what is self service?? He works for himself?? Where??

This place is meant for adults.
Go back to bed...

chi2012:

Ooh my God!!! this is one of my fears. Worst thing is he is addictied to this cos he prefers to be alone most times than hanging out with friends. I m not so sure I can put up with this!!!

He is not begging you to marry him, so, continue with your search, you may be lucky to find a rich Alhaji and become wife number six. NONSENSE, if the guy cheats, you scream, now he is self-servicing, you are still whining. Go to the net, there is no side effect and no effect on the side of self-servicing, just you ladies psychologically implied effects.

chi2012:


How else would I help him nah? I have decided to put into prayer and probably talk to his a mum about it. Since he travels a lot, his defence is' do I prefer him sleeping wit a girl or does he stick to his habit?

At the bolded, Are you serious at all?

Tell his mum that what?

How old are you? Like 15?

Don't even think of it not to talk of trying it.

OCTAVO: Front page pls!!!
She needs good advice.

front page for wat

simpleseyi:

He is not begging you to marry him, so, continue with your search, you may be lucky to find a rich Alhaji and become wife number six. NONSENSE, if the guy cheats, you scream, now he is self-servicing, you are still whining. Go to the net, there is no side effect and no effect on the side of self-servicing, just you ladies psychologically implied effects.

Brilliant, especially the bolded.

Where in the world do people come up with this side effects of masturbation?SMH

Its so funny that 97% of people have or still masturbate while the remaining 3% are not telling the truth. Na who una dey deceive?

@op, As d case is, he has 3 options.
Masturbate, cheat on u or u give him d satisfaction he desires.
Pls choose for him.

tell his mum? I c say bomb de ur head!

Thank U all for ur advice' I guess its entirely up to me. @ Mazi' U r the best.

chi2012: Thank U all for ur advice' I guess its entirely up to me. @ Mazi' U r the best.

Its like you don't know how a man's body function on this matter, its up to you o, don't punish him and never tell his mum

You can even help him with your hand

op sound so childish to me give am punny she no gree, give am bj or hand job she no gree, leave am make anoda gal help am out she no gree, leave am make he self service she de hala @op wetin be ur own sef nawa oh u wan tell his mother say her son de self service u are not mentally mature for marriage BTW how old are u

I know a guy like that.
His own side effect is that a woman never satisfies him.
He can last for a very long time and not come until he self service.

Dunno what to say to you though.

@op I support you tell his mum, dad, sisters and his pastor also. Everybody should be involved in helping your BF stop the devilish act on himself.
I will help you pray!