ladies, what this guy said in this interview is absolutely true at least in my own case.

Men, have you ever experienced this too?

One-On-One w/ Brother X
Ebony S. Muhammad (EM): When a
man is ready to be serious in a
romantic relationship, and he has
never been in love before, what is
his approach and overall feeling
about that relationship?
Brother X (BX): I will start by
speaking generally. Falling in love is
something natural to human
beings; it has a purpose behind it.
It’s something that is taken with
no hesitation. It’s similar to a child
who plays; that child knows no
danger. It’s a beautiful thing.
They’re fearless in what they do.
They jump off of anything and they
play hard. So it’s the same naturally
with men that experience love for
the first time.
Personally speaking, the initial
feeling or experience is met with
excitement tapered with anxiety.
It’s exciting, because for me
personally growing up all
relationships for me was the door
the marriage. I looked forward to
getting married at a very young
age.
I think on that end as far as my
feelings of love, being young
without knowing hurt, that was
my overall view on relationships. I
was going to fall in love and we
were going to be together until I
got out of school and then after I
got out of school we were going
to get married.
EM: What do you think are the top
3 reasons or ways a man’s heart
can be broken? What are some
common mistakes women make or
details women do not consider
when it comes to the emotions of
a man?
BX: The male ego is so large;
therefore, most of what happens
that directly affects a man has to
do with how badly it affects the
male ego. Those three mystery
things:
A woman’s language that she uses,
especially to a man that is insecure
or new in love. This can be
crushing to a man in that situation.
Because of the large male ego
Minister Farrakhan refers to the
tongue as a sword and the female
has the sharpest sword.
A mistake/mis-step that women
make is being unsupportive. The
nature of a man is to be one of a
maintainer, a creator and of a
protector. Therefore, when a man
is doing those things and there is
not adequate support from the
number one person that he’s
doing it for then the man starts to
feel worthless. Once the man
begins to feel worthless then that
is the starting point of the death of
the relationship. If you have a
vehicle that needs to be
maintained and the maintainer is
feeling as if though what he is
doing is worthless, he starts to
slack in his duty, he starts to do
less and eventually gets to the
point where he not doing it at all
then the engine will start to
encounter major problems which
will lead to the complete seize of
the engine.
The way a man’s heart can be
broken is through betrayal.
Betrayal comes when there is a
boundary of trust, kind of like a
fence, and when a woman steps
out of that boundary, to us, that is
that betrayal. The betrayal can
come through many forms and
hurt different men at different
degrees. Something small to one
man might be enormous to the
other man. A lot of times this is
determined by childhood or
previous situations or incidents
that have not been cleared from
the reactive mind. Therefore,
regardless to what it is it has
restimulated something of hurt in
the man that ties back to
something in his past whether he
knows it or not. The bottom line is
betrayal hurts men, and men don’t
like to be hurt and especially don’t
like for others to know that he’s
hurt.
EM: What exactly happens to a man
emotionally, physically and
psychologically when he
experiences the pain of a broken
heart? What are some things most
men won’t admit when it comes to
the above?
BX: Emotionally, the initial pain that
a man experiences when he’s hurt
for the first time, I would relate it
to the new student in the Dojo that
gets hit in the chest really hard for
the first time. From a young boy’s
perspective, he wants to fall to the
ground in pain because of the
shock of the blow and the pain of
the strike. He wants to fall down
and cry, but his ego interferes with
that.
Psychologically that would become
what Scientology would refer to as
an Engram. It is that first Engram
that paves a road as it relates to
love and relationships for the rest
of his life unless it (the Engram) is
removed. It’s not just the pain but
the psychological effect that it
causes.
Physically, what happens to a man
or young man when he gets his
heart broken for the first time, I
would say that the first thing
would be withdrawal because
that’s what we do by nature when
pain is experienced. We withdraw
from it, because pain is not
favorable experience for anyone.
The second thing is anger
demonstrated or expressed in a lot
of ways. Physically, verbally or
inflicted upon himself. Anxiety is
also experienced.
EM: What is the recovery process
like? What do men do to regain
themselves and do they fully
recover from a broken heart?
BX: In my humble opinion, a man’s
way of recovering from a broken
heart is to go rent a tracker, dig a
50 ft hole and bury the emotional
hurt in the ground. Because of the
male’s ego it is extremely difficult
for him to face, confront and
resolve his emotional hurt. That’s
why it is easier for him to bury it
with the hope that it won’t arise
anymore. However, the reality of
the situation is that the pain is still,
there and while he might have
thought that he buried it 50 ft
below the surface a lot of times it’s
like 1 or 2 feet, and all that is
required to bring it back to
present time is a kick of the dirt.
The final solution to mending a
man’s broken heart is not the
burying of the emotional pain but
the dissolving of the pain. An
effective way of dissolving that
pain is through Dianetics. In a
process called Auditing the initial
hurt can be alleviated, otherwise,
by not addressing it this could be
the catalyst for the continuation of
the emotional pain.
Through prayer, faith and Dianetics
you can have a new man.
EM: Thank you for sharing so much
and for giving a great deal of
insight into the mind and heart of
a man.
BX: No problem sis, it is an honor

this is the link

http://hurt2healingmag.com/do-men-totally-recover-from-a-broken-heart/

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gst101: ladies, what this guy said in this interview is absolutely true at least in my own case.

Men, have you ever experienced this too?

One-On-One w/ Brother X
Ebony S. Muhammad (EM): When a
man is ready to be serious in a
romantic relationship, and he has
never been in love before, what is
his approach and overall feeling
about that relationship?
Brother X (BX): I will start by
speaking generally. Falling in love is
something natural to human
beings; it has a purpose behind it.
It’s something that is taken with
no hesitation. It’s similar to a child
who plays; that child knows no
danger. It’s a beautiful thing.
They’re fearless in what they do.
They jump off of anything and they
play hard. So it’s the same naturally
with men that experience love for
the first time.
Personally speaking, the initial
feeling or experience is met with
excitement tapered with anxiety.
It’s exciting, because for me
personally growing up all
relationships for me was the door
the marriage. I looked forward to
getting married at a very young
age.
I think on that end as far as my
feelings of love, being young
without knowing hurt, that was
my overall view on relationships. I
was going to fall in love and we
were going to be together until I
got out of school and then after I
got out of school we were going
to get married.
EM: What do you think are the top
3 reasons or ways a man’s heart
can be broken? What are some
common mistakes women make or
details women do not consider
when it comes to the emotions of
a man?
BX: The male ego is so large;
therefore, most of what happens
that directly affects a man has to
do with how badly it affects the
male ego. Those three mystery
things:
A woman’s language that she uses,
especially to a man that is insecure
or new in love. This can be
crushing to a man in that situation.
Because of the large male ego
Minister Farrakhan refers to the
tongue as a sword and the female
has the sharpest sword.
A mistake/mis-step that women
make is being unsupportive. The
nature of a man is to be one of a
maintainer, a creator and of a
protector. Therefore, when a man
is doing those things and there is
not adequate support from the
number one person that he’s
doing it for then the man starts to
feel worthless. Once the man
begins to feel worthless then that
is the starting point of the death of
the relationship. If you have a
vehicle that needs to be
maintained and the maintainer is
feeling as if though what he is
doing is worthless, he starts to
slack in his duty, he starts to do
less and eventually gets to the
point where he not doing it at all
then the engine will start to
encounter major problems which
will lead to the complete seize of
the engine.
The way a man’s heart can be
broken is through betrayal.
Betrayal comes when there is a
boundary of trust, kind of like a
fence, and when a woman steps
out of that boundary, to us, that is
that betrayal. The betrayal can
come through many forms and
hurt different men at different
degrees. Something small to one
man might be enormous to the
other man. A lot of times this is
determined by childhood or
previous situations or incidents
that have not been cleared from
the reactive mind. Therefore,
regardless to what it is it has
restimulated something of hurt in
the man that ties back to
something in his past whether he
knows it or not. The bottom line is
betrayal hurts men, and men don’t
like to be hurt and especially don’t
like for others to know that he’s
hurt.
EM: What exactly happens to a man
emotionally, physically and
psychologically when he
experiences the pain of a broken
heart? What are some things most
men won’t admit when it comes to
the above?
BX: Emotionally, the initial pain that
a man experiences when he’s hurt
for the first time, I would relate it
to the new student in the Dojo that
gets hit in the chest really hard for
the first time. From a young boy’s
perspective, he wants to fall to the
ground in pain because of the
shock of the blow and the pain of
the strike. He wants to fall down
and cry, but his ego interferes with
that.
Psychologically that would become
what Scientology would refer to as
an Engram. It is that first Engram
that paves a road as it relates to
love and relationships for the rest
of his life unless it (the Engram) is
removed. It’s not just the pain but
the psychological effect that it
causes.
Physically, what happens to a man
or young man when he gets his
heart broken for the first time, I
would say that the first thing
would be withdrawal because
that’s what we do by nature when
pain is experienced. We withdraw
from it, because pain is not
favorable experience for anyone.
The second thing is anger
demonstrated or expressed in a lot
of ways. Physically, verbally or
inflicted upon himself. Anxiety is
also experienced.
EM: What is the recovery process
like? What do men do to regain
themselves and do they fully
recover from a broken heart?
BX: In my humble opinion, a man’s
way of recovering from a broken
heart is to go rent a tracker, dig a
50 ft hole and bury the emotional
hurt in the ground. Because of the
male’s ego it is extremely difficult
for him to face, confront and
resolve his emotional hurt. That’s
why it is easier for him to bury it
with the hope that it won’t arise
anymore. However, the reality of
the situation is that the pain is still,
there and while he might have
thought that he buried it 50 ft
below the surface a lot of times it’s
like 1 or 2 feet, and all that is
required to bring it back to
present time is a kick of the dirt.
The final solution to mending a
man’s broken heart is not the
burying of the emotional pain but
the dissolving of the pain. An
effective way of dissolving that
pain is through Dianetics. In a
process called Auditing the initial
hurt can be alleviated, otherwise,
by not addressing it this could be
the catalyst for the continuation of
the emotional pain.
Through prayer, faith and Dianetics
you can have a new man.
EM: Thank you for sharing so much
and for giving a great deal of
insight into the mind and heart of
a man.
BX: No problem sis, it is an honor

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