What should I do as my wife and her mother takes turn in insulting me and my family.
There are a lot of things that had happened which I will share very soon but I really wish I can get advice on what I should do now

Where was this and what is ur mil doing in your house

How many kids do u have n how long is the marriage

Who gave ur wife out in marriage

Who is the major earner in the family

Who paid for the house you are living in....


Answers will determine my comment

pickabeau1: Where was this and what is ur mil doing in your house

How many kids do u have n how long is the marriage

Who gave ur wife out in marriage

Who is the major earner in the family

Who paid for the house you are living in....


Answers will determine my comment

i am based in united state of America.
we both have one child ( Emma Gold ) she is almost 3yrs old and our relationship is almost 4 yrs old as well.
My mum does not leave with us as well as her mum.
i am the bead winner of the home ( i provide for the home ) but she supports me.we both share the rent.
Her father Gave her out in marriage as we both did not go home for the traditional marriage.
please will this information help.

Initially I was wondering the mil lived with u compounded with the fact she , wifey was the bread winner or that you were jobless

In this case, this is not a young marriage as 4 years means you are past lovey dovey n now at the building friendship...

Is there any common theme to these insults

How did your mil get to insult you if not living with u

Is there anything particular she has been nagging you on

Before now i have never had an issue with her parent, but lately my wife is giving her parents wrong impression about me and that had lead to her insulting me and my family.

she tell them a lot of bad things and when i try to explain to her mum they take side and dont want to reason with me. for example:
i am a social smoker and i never smoke inside my house but she tell her mum that i smoke inside the lounge with the child seating with me.
when i was at the university in Nigeria and i joined a brotherhood ( cult) but that was long time ago and out of love i told her that this was who i used to be but i have changed and dont do those things again, But she went on to tell her parents that i said i would Kill her parents.

Her mum hearing that stated insulting me more and more, even when i swear with my future and my destiny that i never said that, but she would not believe me but rather believe her daughter.

i am not saying all this becos i want an excuse but i want a honest help.

I believe there is an issue that is disturbing ur wife n has not yet been resolved

Her dredging up the past which is behind you both and trying to get her parents on her side tells volumes

Were her parents fully supportive of your union Or did they have someone else n mind

using long distance call to abuse you then just hung up.
memorize the number and when you see it on your incoming call, don't pick up.

Be patient, if u know u love ur wife n kid stop smoking, make time to play n av fun with them, do sweet things u normally don't do before,let ur wife see that u av changed 4 good she wud definitely tell her mum about it and this would soften her mum's heart so when everyone is happy with u, u can now calmly ask ur wife why she lied(cos she is really angry with u to do such a thing) then tell her to spill to her mom d truth of wot actually happened.....

loveonfire: What should I do as my wife and her mother takes turn in insulting me and my family.
There are a lot of things that had happened which I will share very soon but I really wish I can get advice on what I should do now

Get used to it cos its the order of the day though women would love to deny it.

I'm being very serious: is your wife a nurse?

Wait o let me Understand you
Your MIL is insulting you over the phone all the way from Nigeria?
Why do you call her?
Stop calling her for a while and don't answer her calls either
You are the man in that house for heavens sake
Sounds to me that the girl and her mom are trying to control you
How dare you swear to anyone to convince them
Nonsense
Your word should be enough
You need to man up fast and put that broad and her mother in their right places


Next time she calls and you mistakenly pick up and she says anything insulting,tell her these words

"Mom,I have been very patient,I would like you not to insult me any longer when you call,take care"
Hang up that phone and keep her at arms length at least 6 months.

armyofone: using long distance call to abuse you then just hung up.
memorize the number and when you see it on your incoming call, don't pick up.

Simple!

kinna sad tho i hate hearing stories of young marriages being shaky