An emotional bully may start of as your type of guy, sweet, caring , very articulate and fun to be with. Frankly, no one would blame any girl for falling for such qualities. But then, very slowly, he starts drifting more and more into his ugly persona. At that stage of the relationship when you have become really attached to him, he psychologically gets a grip of your mentality.
He conveniently makes you believe what he wants you to in very silent and usually untraceable ways. He constantly preys on your imperfections and vulnerabilities, makes you believe that your never going to be good enough, creates the mindset that he is doing you a favour by dating you and thus the reason why you must remain by his side no matter what he does to you (afterall, no one else wants you).

I don’t understand how ladies endure through this bitterness for even longer than 5 months (after he stops being sweet ofcourse). I mean, how long does it take to realize that for each minute you spend with him, several ounces of your self esteem find a way to escape from you right into his egotistical being? While your confidence levels depreciates, his appreciates because he clearly feeds off you.
In my opinion, whether or not he gets physical with you, that’s more than enough bullshit that a lady should take. Forget about your fears, if a man aint doing you right, then it aint right…and you definitely want what is right. Give up trying to change him because in reality, the only person you can change is you.
So, if he hasn’t put a ring on it, then my dear single ladies, it is definitely time to WALK. Making a mistake isn’t the mistake, choosing to remain in your mistake, is the mistake.
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