kofsy: I just feel like asking this question from married folks cos these days, marriage scares the hell out of me. From stories about infidelity, physical/emotional abuse to incompatibility and family issues. I'm starting to feel it doesn't worth it. That institution called marriage looks overrated to me.

If you are married and you are reading this, in sincerity, are you enjoying your marriage? Do you think you'd pick the same partner if given the chance to start over. Are there lessons you feel unmarried folks should learn from your experience?

kofsy:

Responding to the last part of your post. Pls that's not my intention. I don't expect folks to come here and say their marriage is hell. That was why I said I wanted them to share their experience. What they feel they missed when they were single and what to-be brides should look out for or avoid. Experience is everything in life... That's what learning entails but I don't necessarily have to get there before I learn. I want to learn from people that have been there. I just need people to allay my fears about marriage. Whatever people say here will not stop me from getting married(I must get married) but I need to acquire knowledge before taking that huge step. It scares me

bellong:

Why not start by reading and listening to good stories.... There are millions of successful marriages across the world, you only chose to listen to the bad ones.
We are what we listen to or attract. Change your perception, read good books, undertake a personal study of people who are in a successful and blissful union, then you will have good stories to share.

The creator of marriage knew we wouldn't be complete without it. Yes, it's one of the best gifts we can get from Him. Bad marriages are results of failures of the parties involved beginning from when they were still singles till when they got married.

Amefrica: What is doing you is called GAMOPHOBIA... But you have no other choice than getting married

God2man: Yes.

This is a complex topic.

I wish to talk more on this later.

Have a nice day.


God bless you
God2man.

kofsy:
LoooooooooooL I need systematic desensitization or flooding therapy

Amefrica:

Hahahahaha! Only me I don die.. U wan use grammar throw me off balance

But on a seriouse note. Tho' i'm too young 'to advice' and have no experience abt marriage ..
Firstly, you have to know marriage is not a thing to rush into, take ur time well well.

I also wish to let you know that marriage comes with challenges. You need word of God and allotta patience..

I want you to write off that u people wouldn't argue.. Argument(s) would surely come up maybe once in a while. When ur hubby talks (normally in a high pitch) what you needa do is keep calm, don't talk, don't look him in the face and when he finishes *para'ing*, sit him down and talk to him. #i swear he would feel guilty#. Don't report him to his parent(s) and never compare him to ur friends' hubbies like 'can't u see, iya bola's hubby' blah blah. We guys hate that

Let him know he's the best and you wouldnt trade him.. Kiss him, hug him and rest on his 'broad' shoulder.

No marriage is perfect but if u can do all these, you sure gonna have peace of mind and lastly DO NOT ARGUE IN THE PRENSENCE OF UR KID(S)

Wishing you all the best in ur future and marriage.
Cheers!

lertee: I am not married yet but I have heard and seen a lot in marriage life.
So many people got married for different reasons and it is these reasons that define their marriage life eventually.
No marriage is a bed of roses,there must be financial to emotional to social challenges and many more. If every married individual begins to give you the tale of their marriages you would find out they are different.
You can never know the experience until you are married then you can write your own story.

kofsy:
Loool thanks Amefrica! I can't believe this is coming from you... You sure made a lot of sense, and I'd hold on to them. Thanks once again

How far with your re_application? I've not been visiting the visa thread lately, don't mind me. Been busy!

kofsy: I just feel like asking this question from married folks cos these days, marriage scares the hell out of me. From stories about infidelity, physical/emotional abuse to incompatibility and family issues. I'm starting to feel it doesn't worth it. That institution called marriage looks overrated to me.

If you are married and you are reading this, in sincerity, are you enjoying your marriage? Do you think you'd pick the same partner if given the chance to start over. Are there lessons you feel unmarried folks should learn from your experience?

Amefrica:

You are welcome, my sister.

I've paid anoda fee and booked ending of this month.. I hope God grants me this time!

How's it going with yours too ? I hope we give testimony soon..

kofsy: I just feel like asking this question from married folks cos these days, marriage scares the hell out of me. From stories about infidelity, physical/emotional abuse to incompatibility and family issues. I'm starting to feel it doesn't worth it. That institution called marriage looks overrated to me.

If you are married and you are reading this, in sincerity, are you enjoying your marriage? Do you think you'd pick the same partner if given the chance to start over. Are there lessons you feel unmarried folks should learn from your experience?

bellong:

Why not start by reading and listening to good stories.... There are millions of successful marriages across the world, you only chose to listen to the bad ones.
We are what we listen to or attract. Change your perception, read good books, undertake a personal study of people who are in a successful and blissful union, then you will have good stories to share.

The creator of marriage knew we wouldn't be complete without it. Yes, it's one of the best gifts we can get from Him. Bad marriages are results of failures of the parties involved beginning from when they were still singles till they got married.

Between, you expect people to come here and tell you that their marriages are hell? Really!!!!!!

Gabriel_sylar: Ure looking for someome to share in ur paranoia

LesbianBoy: .

#busted! Space keeper! Oya come back and modify ur post.