zoe.seeker:
I will pardon your ignorance, seems you are still a kid, we are not talking of some flings or sassy girlfriends here, we are talking about someone you are thinking of wifying(give full access to your life) who was presenting a different front and you have reasons to doubt, my dear please if you find yourself in such a situation do all it takes to confirm the truth b4 u fall into greater trap, there is nothing insecure about it...I have been with other women and didnt have to put myself thru such stress, simply cos I knew it's fun all the way...The funny thing is I used to think like you until I began to see life as a more serious endeavor, she initially said this nonsense you are saying too, not until I reminded her that I'm doing a background check simply cos I have plans for her and BTW the findings was worth the stress

zoe.seeker:
Just to help us all understand the sequence of events so we can give valuable contributions

All the access to information and her major confessions happened February 2013 (after some spiritual consultations triggered by an unguarded statement she made) and she confirmed her pregnancy in March 2013..

dayspringcollge: Our people use to say that 'fowl that sleeps on the roof's top, will always sleep on roof top no matter where she goes'' My brother thank God this story is not your marriage story, i'm very happy for you because it's just a relationship afterall. Marriage is for better for worse. The question you should ask yourself is, what if this whole episode you told was a marriage sceenario? Are you really ready to live your life in mesery? Just think about it!!! I can't really judge her just yet, but from the story you told, she can't change, and even if she change, can you ever trust her to always be there for you should you travel for a six month bizness trip abroad? Just think and what you think is right and most importantly pray to God for direction for He alone knows your destiny. Take care and God bless you.

zoe.seeker:
Just to help us all understand the sequence of events so we can give valuable contributions

All the access to information and her major confessions happened February 2013 (after some spiritual consultations triggered by an unguarded statement she made) and she confirmed her pregnancy in March 2013..

Before this time her only known undoing to me, was cheating with her ex in April 2010(with which I broke up with her and made up much much later on the premise that it was a one-off mistake as she said and considering it was a long-distance rel and I also had my faults then and my focusing on her other good attributes)


Infact as at the time she called in pregnant, I had already broken up with her....

A question pls...........

Deep down in u can u marry her as ur WIFE, even if d child is urs?
d decision is left to u, u knw better dan we here...... if u can cope with her, its ur choice.




Sincerely I'm sticking in here for the child(just in case it's mine) and all I'm trying to do is to ensure I have a wonderful relationship with her so she doesnt become like her mother.

How to calmly achieve this without bn with this woman is what I maturedly seek

zoe.seeker:


I know we have different views about life but I am very spiritual(pardon me if you dont believe) and even the process that led to getting her mischiefs was started by a spiritual inquisition on my part.

Lovetinz: I read your post three times to make sure I get a clear idea of the sequence of events.
Your Woman is an unrepentant cheat.
Get a DNA test asap to verify your paternity.
Cut her loose and count your loses.
Unfortunately, I don't subscribe to 'spiritual' advisers.

Ralphlauren:

shattap there.

you are very spritual yet you are fornicating with a girl you are not married to and to make it even worse, you are not wearing a condom and this same girl is bunking other men at the same time. no GENUINE ''SPIRITUAL MAN'' does that. it seems you are hooked on the punny and you have lost all your sense of reason.

visiting ''onifa'', ''alfas'', ''white garment prophets'' and diviners, etc to have them spiritually check out your love interest, future,the paternity of your child (how dumb is that... when did alfas become lab technicians specialising in DNA testing) , etc does NOT make you spiritual.