A friend of mine met a guy on tagged site, they are both in different countries, few months later the guy moved to our base and they started living together. Before my friend met the guy I was a bit biased because she doesn't know any relation/friends and coupled with the first day I saw his picture I told her the guy has a child,upon his arrival he told my friend he has a child but dint marry the mother cos she was rude..... I think they are moving too fast and it's scary,I see this as desperation on the part of my friend. Is this normal?

They met on a site and are already living together a few months later?
As long as your friend knows what she's getting herself into!

Yield: They met on a site and are already living together a few months later?
As long as your friend knows what she's getting herself into!

People met on site are also human.Give them a chance.

Kirinwa:

People met on site are also human.Give them a chance.

I know . I just think they're moving too fast, 'tis all.
There isn't much she can do, all she can do is tell her to be cautious.
At the end of the day, it's her life (the friend) and her choices.

sort your own problems out and let them be.

I am not concerned abt them meeting on a website,i am concerned abt the fact that she doesn't know anything abt this guy,families or friends and I am also worried my inner spirit told me the guy has a child and upon seeing my friend he confessed dumping a lady wit his child simply because she became rude and arrogant. Moving in together,i fear the guy can leave one day and we can't even trace him, I have not aired how I feel to my friend cos am the type that thinks over an issue b4 airing it.. Quote author=Kirinwa]

People met on site are also human.Give them a chance. [/quote]

You're right but there's nothing you can do.

Just keep your mouth shut, as long as her life isn't in danger. At times, people just have to learn for themselves, if you do too much she might start seeing you as "enemy of her perceived progress".

The is truth is that you are not concerned about them...... You are just jealous cos they are moving on

Thanks, I have not even said anything to her, I am used to the way ladies think, seeing sincere advice as some1 dat doesn't wish them well, but deep down I am troubled. The guy even tried hitting her once in my presence, it's scary.

Wu Zetian: You're right but there's nothing you can do.

Just keep your mouth shut, as long as her life isn't in danger. At times, people just have to learn for themselves, if you do too much she might start seeing you as "enemy of her perceived progress".

Lionbite: The is truth is that you are not concerned about them...... You are just jealous cos they are moving on

Exactly my thoughts.

Lmao,I am sure that's a joke..

Lionbite: The is truth is that you are not concerned about them...... You are just jealous cos they are moving on

That's why I have kept quiet but I am worried about her,and don't even know the best way to go about it..

djeezy: @op, all you can do is talk to your friend about your worry and fears and make her see reasons with you. Remember she still has to make her own choice. Be careful how you go about it or it'll be so apparent to your friend that you're jealous. I'm sure you don't want that.

I'd say you should sit your friend down and explain how you feel with all sense of understanding and sensitivity towards your friends feeling for the man. Hear her view and let her make the decision. *i'm d last person to tlk abt this though*

Bootylicious: I am not concerned abt them meeting on a website,i am concerned abt the fact that she doesn't know anything abt this guy,families or friends and I am also worried my inner spirit told me the guy has a child and upon seeing my friend he confessed dumping a lady wit his child simply because she became rude and arrogant. Moving in together,i fear the guy can leave one day and we can't even trace him, I have not aired how I feel to my friend cos am the type that thinks over an issue b4 airing it.. Quote author=Kirinwa]

You are right. Why must she allow someone she does not have any form of knowledge just move in with him. She must investigate the guy, he could be serial killer, kill her and mover out the next day. Or he is a wanted criminal on parole.
You are right here and people should stop countering your fear for your friend.

Talk to your friend, make sure she realizes d enormity of what she's doing, d guy guy is a high security risk, just present logical arguments and ask her to think about it, dont try to force d issue.don't mind d ppl here calling u jealous or otherstuff, d measure of a true friend is one who will fight for d other even @ d cost of dier friendship, whose conscience will be heavy if things go wrong and u know u might av helped.

Talk to your friend, make sure she realizes d enormity of what she's doing, d guy guy is a high security risk, just present logical arguments and ask her to think about it, dont try to force d issue.don't mind d ppl here calling u jealous or otherstuff, d measure of a true friend sumtimes is one who will fight for d other even @ d cost of dier friendship, whose conscience will be heavy if things go wrong and u know u might av helped.

Your friend is an adult and taking risks is just as part of life as drinking water every day. Even people we knew from childhood still turn around and hurt us so so badly. Doesn't matter where and how long. If shez cool with the guy, let her enjoy it while it lasts. Just wish her well.

Discuss your concerns with her, tell her what you feel and so be it.

It makes no sense bringing another's personal life to the public domain and without her consent too.

However it goes with her, she will come out wiser and stronger

I think you should advice her as a freind, and try to make her reason with you, and if she insist, let her be! After all life is a risk!

OP, I think you are just jealous and lonely because the said guy has come and taken all the attention of your only friend.
You shouldn't have any problem getting you own boyfriend if you truly are bootylicious.

Bootylicious: A friend of mine met a guy on tagged site, they are both in different countries, few months later the guy moved to our base and they started living together. Before my friend met the guy I was a bit biased because she doesn't know any relation/friends and coupled with the first day I saw his picture I told her the guy has a child,upon his arrival he told my friend he has a child but dint marry the mother cos she was rude..... I think they are moving too fast and it's scary,I see this as desperation on the part of my friend. Is this normal?

Mind your own business!