byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............Dying

byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............Dying

byvan: Who said only women are affected in the first place? or did you intend quoting another post and mistakenly quoted mine.

byvan: If a man will claim to be stressed out after his baby's arrival,the woman that passed through the actual hell can as well claim............Dying

Seun: Financial stress can be as distressing as physical stress!!!

chaircover: . . .but these same Naija men you talk about are the same men you now see in ASDA buying baby milk and carrying their babies in slings while they watch over the older kids playing in the park and the same men who attend coffee afternoons/parent evenings at their kids school, which suggests to me that everyman has that family instinct in them, its just a case of teasing it out of them.

If us as women keep on telling them that they are incapable of doing it or give them a chance to to it then sure they wont bother.

There is nothing as wonderful as bonding with your baby and I feel really sorry for men who are not given that chance/refuse to do it. They are really missing a lot.

Babe2sure: Fellow nairalanders, essential bonding thingy? *Lol* what do you think about it?

Acidosis: Yes.. for g. ay men

yellowpawpaw:
Men that want to bond with their newborn will def bond maternity leave or not.
What about traders? They shouldn't go to market again cos wifey put to bed.
A good man is always a good man and will always remain so.
In naija, we hv culture to thank.
I'm yet to c most men with that mentality. Until we can change the cultural perspective, I think that our men don't need it. Unless we don't want to say d truth.

chaircover:

My dear its not only the new baby that needs the time with his/her dad.

How about the wife that has just put to bed. If your wife has had a difficult birth and with a CS and you have other toddlers to be looked after, will that trader still go and do a full 14 hours in the market? Cant that wait for a few days until wifey is strong enough? Not everyone has a relative on hand who can help with things at home.

yellowpawpaw:
Men that want to bond with their newborn will def bond maternity leave or not. so would women
What about traders? They shouldn't go to market again cos wifey put to bed. there are many female traders, educate yourself
A good man is always a good man and will always remain so. what has a good man got to do with paternity leave? bad mothers do get maternity leave, isn't it?
In naija, we hv culture to thank.
I'm yet to c most men with that mentality. Until we can change the cultural perspective, I think that our men don't need it. Unless we don't want to say d truth. its because of that same "cultural perspective" that many men suffer in silence and take their anger and frustration on others

chaircover:

The paternity leave I am talking about is for the first 2 weeks.
In the first 2 weeks the baby is not always sleeping o! The baby is just eating eating eating and the mum is exhausted.
Dad can help by cooking a meal for his wife, Dad can help load the washing machine, dad can help to take the older kids to school . . . . . there are a lot of things that he can do during this period.

MRbrownJAY:

well if you "believe" we are BOTH affected by childbirth, then why shouldnt we BOTH deserve leave?!

chaircover:

The paternity leave I am talking about is for the first 2 weeks.
In the first 2 weeks the baby is not always sleeping o! The baby is just eating eating eating and the mum is exhausted.
Dad can help by cooking a meal for his wife, Dad can help load the washing machine, dad can help to take the older kids to school . . . . . there are a lot of things that he can do during this period.

jennykadry:
Lol evidence of men affected by child birth can be found in the labor room floor.......after a good faint

ileobatojo:

This dude must be on the wrong thread.

Lilimax: Men do go for paternity leave in my establishment here in Nigeria, but the period is very short when compare to women's mat. Leave.

Jbluv55:

The ish is not the stress before/ during/ after the baby's arrival but the planning & preparations & decisions that may nid to be made for the new baby.......the lady may not be able to take some decisions on her own n a newborn @tyms has complications that require the physical presence of the man to provide some emotional & psychological support for the lady.

Kanwulia: Like they will be useful around the house?

They would ALWAYS constitute MAJOR NUISANCEZZZZZ by picking unnecessary fights, make you SHOUT AND WEEP FOR MISTAKENLY BIRTHING ONE OF HIS TADPOLES/FROGS.

They will NEVER stay up to help you, but remind you how you wanna fake this and that to seek attention.

They will pass out on the couch before 8PM for sure!

THEY CAN'T EVEN RE-HEAT PIZZA SLICES!
Shebi to be disturbing the poor wives with such useless questions such as "THE BLOOD DON DEY DRY SMALL-SMALL? NNE ABEG I WAN PHOCK! TIME DON REASSSSSH O!"

No be NIGERIAN LAZY, "INCONSIDERATE BAGGAZZZZ"?

Of what use are they but to be phocking up and down every street alley. . . . Pinching the b00bzzz of all pure-water sellers in the neighborhood?

Mtcheeeeeew!!!

byvan: Pickabeau,atleast even the most irresponsible mother will spend some time with the baby during her leave or are you talking about"operation dump babies into trash cans"kind of irresponsibility?