Pls nairalander i've been dating this girl for 2 and 1/2years now.....she's 24 and I'm 25yrs we've been thru so many things together, but since we started dating we hardly spent 2months together in the same city or state......she travels alot and i was also schooling in a different state where are parent lives but we never lack communication for a single day.........
To be honest i believe this girl love me...maybe for any odd reason am not sure.....and she's so generous and had also assisted me even when i was in school........at first i fell in love with her when i knew she's from my hometown and i grew to love her more due to her character .
But the problem now is that anytime she feels bad about anything, she would not give a chance to talk over it or give a complaint....she would rather get angry and start misbehaving but no matter what, i would still calm her down and never let her go in her anger....but i know i cannot continue doing this........and even when we are apart she finds it so difficult to xpress her feelings on the phone or even thru chats.........
Instead she would comes up with silly talks and keep telling me she knew i do not love her and it seems she's the one dating me and that she's not fully assured of our relationship (If i meant to marry her)........and because she doesn't talk that much, I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO TEST HER INTELLIGENCE THAT MUCH because this very important for me BUT i knew she's not too sound academically and sometimes she would speak broken english to communicate or even chat wit me.....but to be honest this not a problem...though i want something better especially because of my kids.
Pls nairalanders right now am thinking of how to breakup because yesterday we had an arguement on ''I miss u, u don't miss me'' and this getting to much for me.....I love her but to be honest i cannot live with a girl who can assist my life with her intelligence or talk deeply with me.......i want to marry a wife and not just a woman.....
Pls advise me peepz....

Pele tie

Bitter truth: The girl is not mature enough and she feels insecure, afraid and doubtful (signs of a relationship that will surely crash). Being sound academically or intelligent doesn't necessarily translate to maturity, which can be built by experience.

Break up now or you'll live to regret it. You shouldn't even be thinking of how to, just do it anyhow even if hard feelings arise but I must add that you may need some prayers especially if she decides to revenge.

Lyk aLomo....d truth z bitter....u and ya Gf ar #Legend0fAttentionSeekerz......u dig?

Wow......true talk brother.....i remember she had once mentioned stuff like that

obi4eze: Bitter truth: The girl is not mature enough and she feels insecure, afraid and doubtful (signs of a relationship that will surely crash). Being sound academically or intelligent doesn't necessarily translate to maturity, which can be built by experience.
Break up now or you'll live to regret it. You shouldn't even be thinking of how to, just do it anyhow even if hard feelings arise but I must add that you may need some prayers especially if she decides to revenge.

As we all knw, distance is a barrier in any relationship. So it brings up doubt in it. Bt since she loves traveling nd cant shear her innermost feelings nt 2talk of secret, den she doesnt trust u. Nd u guys lack communication skills. Bt some people dnt knw hw 2 expres dia feelings 2ru phones bt where by she's rude on phone and dnt even show little love in her voice, my guy carry your 2legs run dey go. No look back.

Cykik: As we all knw, distance is a barrier in any relationship. So it brings up doubt in it. Bt since she loves traveling nd cant shear her innermost feelings nt 2talk of secret, den she doesnt trust u. Nd u guys lack communication skills. Bt some people dnt knw hw 2 expres dia feelings 2ru phones bt where by she's rude on phone and dnt even show little love in her voice, my guy carry your 2legs run dey go. No look back.

cum again plz

Let me get this straight, are you asking for advise on how to go about breaking up with your girl or how to make things better for you two?

Whatever the case may be, you don't go into a relationship without having the flexibility to embrace and accept your partner's flaws.

D topic does not relate to your post


a relationship you intend to take to the next level should have some very vital elments. Communication, maturity and trust are amongst what I personally consider vital.

in other words,absence of those elements mentioned above in your relationship means you two have got nothing deep. Inshort, you guyz are jez playing.I won't tell you to call it quitz buh atleast you should deduce meaning from my post

So are the rest of us. You are not alone on that.

Mmmmmm.....sigh.....i called her attention seeker because she would get angry at every little things because she knew that's what i do nt like.......I think i need to remain single forever sef.

Nice! Watz ur twitter handle?

thareta: D topic does not relate to your post


a relationship you intend to take to the next level should have some very vital elments. Communication, maturity and trust are amongst what I personally consider vital.

in other words,absence of those elements mentioned above in your relationship means you two have got nothing deep. Inshort, you guyz are jez playing.I won't tell you to call it quitz buh atleast you should deduce meaning from my post

give her attention

The summary of the whole thing is u aren't compatible with her and u knw it. So find someone u can connect with. Period!

Gbam.....well God help me....

pasqal09: The summary of the whole thing is u aren't compatible with her and u knw it. So find someone u can connect with. Period!

Beverly1: Gbam.....well God help me....

guy let me tell u the truth am having the same problem as yours,i have been dating my girlfnd for 10months now the last we see eachother was during xmas last yr,she always come up with one problem and another all the time,many times i tink about brk up but is not easy for me to do bcuz i believe she love me.so my advice is, try to show her the love and care and leave the rest to God and her,but distance relationship is not easy so always agree on what she said for peace to rain.tank u nd gudluk

Hmmm.....honestly u saw thru my mind ..i find it almost impossible to breakup for some reasons even though i so wish to....but judging with my other relationship, i think no girl has it all but do u think our problem is the distance?.......because whenever we are together, there's this joy in her heart even though she could not express it verbally...

Enegito: guy let me tell u the truth am having the same problem as yours,i have been dating my girlfnd for 10months now the last we see eachother was during xmas last yr,she always come up with one problem and another all the time,many times i tink about brk up but is not easy for me to do bcuz i believe she love me.so my advice is, try to show her the love and care and leave the rest to God and her,but distance relationship is not easy so always agree on what she said for peace to rain.tank u nd gudluk

Enegito: guy let me tell u the truth am having the same problem as yours,i have been dating my girlfnd for 10months now the last we see eachother was during xmas last yr,she always come up with one problem and another all the time,many times i tink about brk up but is not easy for me to do bcuz i believe she love me.so my advice is, try to show her the love and care and leave the rest to God and her,but distance relationship is not easy so always agree on what she said for peace to rain.tank u nd gudluk

She luvs u n u've wat for her? Pity?

chrisley024:

She luvs u n u've wat for her? Pity?

What a crazy world

She need attentin!
Giv 1 gud attentn to tink abt

@dyt whats that in ur profile pix......omg God have mercy

Dyt:
What a crazy world

Man u said it all....this my 7th time of reading ur comment

obi4eze: Bitter truth: The girl is not mature enough and she feels insecure, afraid and doubtful (signs of a relationship that will surely crash). Being sound academically or intelligent doesn't necessarily translate to maturity, which can be built by experience.
Break up now or you'll live to regret it. You shouldn't even be thinking of how to, just do it anyhow even if hard feelings arise but I must add that you may need some prayers especially if she decides to revenge.

Beverly1: @dyt whats that in ur profile pix......omg God have mercy

Don't even try sendin a PM

Beverly1: Hmmm.....honestly u saw thru my mind ..i find it almost impossible to breakup for some reasons even though i so wish to....but judging with my other relationship, i think no girl has it all but do u think our problem is the distance?.......because whenever we are together, there's this joy in her heart even though she could not express it verbally...

my girl friend own atimes is anger and distance but let me tell u the truth the 1st day i met her she told me about it,she told me that little things get her angry that i have to bear with her on that part but i have tried many times to brk up with her but is not easy for me,cus she's lovely anytime she's in good mood.it was'nt easy for us cus we have'nt seen eachother for past 10months now,but we always talk on phone more than five times a day so man be strong for her and be by her sdy if you love her so much.gudluk

chrisley024:

She luvs u n u've wat for her? Pity?

i also love and care for her.

Thanks man....nice talk ..i think ur girl and mine should be frnd.......are u sure we are not dating the same girl sha......lol

Enegito: my girl friend own atimes is anger and distance but let me tell u the truth the 1st day i met her she told me about it,she told me that little things get her angry that i have to bear with her on that part but i have tried many times to brk up with her but is not easy for me,cus she's lovely anytime she's in good mood.it was'nt easy for us cus we have'nt seen eachother for past 10months now,but we always talk on phone more than five times a day so man be strong for her and be by her sdy if you love her so much.gudluk

Beverly1: Man u said it all....this my 7th time of reading ur comment

don't brk up with her,from what you wrote you said that she loves you,it will be hard to find a good replacement.like i told u b4 you have the same problem as mine,my galfnd can go as long as calling me names but after all this things i will be the one to beg her to peace to rain,why is cus i know the anger is in her nd i will do ntin to change her rather than to show her the care and love. just show her more love.tnks

Beverly1: Thanks man....nice talk ..i think ur girl and mine should be frnd.......are u sure we are not dating the same girl sha......lol

my girlfrnd is staying at bayelsa while am staying at Enugu

When a supposed lover gets irritated at every little mistake you make, even when you suggest for an improved communication then trust me....her love for you is very questionable.

Love is a very powerful emotion. It makes hardened criminals, prostitutes, hot tempered folks and liars summit reasonably to the ones they love.

I wish to be wrong about your case but I would politely walk away now if I were you.