a friend of mine is currently in a relationship wiv a man who has 2 kids wiv another woman,though dey re not 2geda anymore. my friend feels very uncomfortable weneva d man meets wiv d woman because of d children. she fears d woman might want 2 find her way back 2 d man's life but dis man has taken my friend 2 meet his family. but she knows d man really loves her. what do u think she can do about his ex dat might b usin d kids as excuse 2 call him n also try 2 meet him?

Your friend needs to consider how she is feeling now in regard to the relationship the man has with the mother of his children. These children are his blood. They are his responsibility. Weather she likes it or not, this woman will be in his life from now on. Even after the kids are grown. There will be graduations, birthdays, weddings, grandchildren, and any number of other things that may come up. If she is uncomfortable with his relationship with the mother, it will only get worse as the relationship continues. If she is going to stay with this man, she needs to come to terms with the fact that this woman will be a part of his life, and understand that she has a right to be. The children have a mother and a father. If she wants the relationship to work, she will need to accept that he will have to deal with the mother of his children whether she likes it or not. If she can not, it would be better for all involved to walk away.

latsholly: a friend of mine is currently in a relationship wiv a man who has 2 kids wiv another woman,though dey re not 2geda anymore. my friend feels very uncomfortable weneva d man meets wiv d woman because of d children. she fears d woman might want 2 find her way back 2 d man's life but dis man has taken my friend 2 meet his family. but she knows d man really loves her. what do u think she can do about his ex dat might b usin d kids as excuse 2 call him n also try 2 meet him?

Ur friend shud move on now,

Before she too add her own children.

Fact is, pple have diff level of tolerance. Some girls find out their hubby/boyfriend is cheating and they will say " am the one he comes home to" and those that also play second wife. But for some girls, they can't even bear the thot that their man has ever been wit another woman and ur friend falls into this category.

She better move one now.

Well!
I have always believed in the EQUAL YOKING PSYCHOLOGY. . .
It makes life less complicated.
Unfortunately, the only kind of men available for MOST single women are either the married or divorced!

As a single woman. . . she ought to be with a single man who has NEVER HAD KIDS(don't hold your saliva on that one please )

A divorced man with kids SHOULD ONLY LOOK FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DIVORCED WITH KIDS!
But that is not the case in this scenario. . . and there lies the albatross of conflicting interests!

To answer your question OP. . .SHE CAN DO NOTHING. . . for she should have thought of all that before getting with a MAN WHO HAS HAD HIS CAKE AND DIGESTED IT TOO!

The man and woman(exes) will ALWAYS use the kids as the puns to resurrect passionate nostalgic feelings of lust, anger, LOVE, SEXXX. . . and so on and so forth.

How can she control those. . . ? NEVER!!!
She has set herself up an UNEQUAL footing in this relationship. When the man has a basis of comparison with his previous marriiage, HE WILL REMIND HER ONE DAY. . .that her soup is not as sweet as the one his first wife cooked. . . .nor are her phocking abilities when her toto is no longer sweet!

He really loves her. . .? SURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE!!! He told his first wife all that too! Loving a man with kids comes with a price. . . HER ONLY PRIORITY IS SELF-PRESEVATION. . . .

[b]SHE MUST BE WISE AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER WOMAN LOOKS LIKE THE TROUBLE-MAKER ALWAYS! SHE MUST NOT ADD INSULT TO INJURY BY MAKING THE MAN HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HERSELF AND HIS KIDS AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT. . . especially as she is yet to have hers! SHE HAS NO UPPER-HAND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAS BORNE HIM 'FRUIT'!

She has to learn how to be a cohesive factor ON ALL FRONTS. . .WITH THE MAN'S CHILDREN AND HIS FAMILY. . .OR she becomes a BIANCA KE-KE OJUKWU. . . exiled from her husband's home. . . .hated by many. . .and with only his 'LOVE' as legacy. . . .SHE NEEDS TO BE DIPLOMATIC. . .AND NEVER SHOW HER NEGATIVE FEELINGS BY BRANDISHING THEM ON HER SLEEVE OR COLLAR. . . .EVEN WHEN SHE IS HURTING. . . . .HER JOURNEY WILL BE LONG AND TEDIOUS. . . .SHE HAS TOO MANY COMPETITORS!!!!

THE ONLY THING SHE MAY HAVE GOING FOR HER IN THIS RELATIONSHIP IS THE MAN'S LOVE. . .WHICH CAN CHANGE IN A NEW YORK SECOND!
SHE IS GOING TO BE THE UNDER-DOG FOR EVER. . . ALWAYS A SECOND BEST!!!!

EVEN WHEN SHE HAS HER OWN KIDS. . . THEY WILL BE SECOND HAND NEWS TOO! SHE AIN'T GONNA GIVE THE MAN NAAAATIN HE AIN'T GAT ALREADY. . . HE HAS THE UPPER-HAND. . . A BRAND NEW CHASSIS-WIFE! NA SHE LAND 'TOKUNBO-LOVE'!

[/b]

O gal be 'SECOND HAND NEWS O'!!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3q_I_Y9l-E

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Ooooo dey 'ouse?
I don wake o. . . h-enemies PAWA don 'FAY'! I nor die for my sleep!
Muchechechechecheche

*4:30PM. . . .time for SHAWA, dinner and off to work! it is night #4 out of 4. . . . and it is gonna be a busy one. today is MOIN-DAY*

-------logging off my sweet azzze!-------WELCOME TO MANIC MONDAY!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbJ6Jsy0JfY

Kanwulia: Well!
I have always believed in the EQUAL YOKING PSYCHOLOGY. . .
It makes life less complicated.
Unfortunately, the only kind of men available for MOST single women are either the married or divorced!

As a single woman. . . she ought to be with a single man who has NEVER HAD KIDS(don't hold your saliva on that one please )

A divorced man with kids SHOULD ONLY LOOK FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DIVORCED WITH KIDS!
But that is not the case in this scenario. . . and there lies the albatross of conflicting interests!

To answer your question OP. . .SHE CAN DO NOTHING. . . for she should have thought of all that before getting with a MAN WHO HAS HAD HIS CAKE AND DIGESTED IT TOO!

The man and woman(exes) will ALWAYS use the kids as the puns to resurrect passionate nostalgic feelings of lust, anger, LOVE, SEXXX. . . and so on and so forth.

How can she control those. . . ? NEVER!!!
She has set herself up an UNEQUAL footing in this relationship. When the man has a basis of comparison with his previous marriiage, HE WILL REMIND HER ONE DAY. . .that her soup is not as sweet as the one his first wife cooked. . . .nor are her phocking abilities when her toto is no longer sweet!

He really loves her. . .? SURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE!!! He told his first wife all that too! Loving a man with kids comes with a price. . . HER ONLY PRIORITY IS SELF-PRESEVATION. . . .

[b]SHE MUST BE WISE AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER WOMAN LOOKS LIKE THE TROUBLE-MAKER ALWAYS! SHE MUST NOT ADD INSULT TO INJURY BY MAKING THE MAN HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HERSELF AND HIS KIDS AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT. . . especially as she is yet to have hers! SHE HAS NO UPPER-HAND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAS BORNE HIM 'FRUIT'!

She has to learn how to be a cohesive factor ON ALL FRONTS. . .WITH THE MAN'S CHILDREN AND HIS FAMILY. . .OR she becomes a BIANCA KE-KE OJUKWU. . . exiled from her husband's home. . . .hated by many. . .and with only his 'LOVE' as legacy. . . .SHE NEEDS TO BE DIPLOMATIC. . .AND NEVER SHOW HER NEGATIVE FEELINGS BY BRANDISHING THEM ON HER SLEEVE OR COLLAR. . . .EVEN WHEN SHE IS HURTING. . . . .HER JOURNEY WILL BE LONG AND TEDIOUS. . . .SHE HAS TOO MANY COMPETITORS!!!!

THE ONLY THING SHE MAY HAVE GOING FOR HER IN THIS RELATIONSHIP IS THE MAN'S LOVE. . .WHICH CAN CHANGE IN A NEW YORK SECOND!
SHE IS GOING TO BE THE UNDER-DOG FOR EVER. . . ALWAYS A SECOND BEST!!!!

EVEN WHEN SHE HAS HER OWN KIDS. . . THEY WILL BE SECOND HAND NEWS TOO! SHE AIN'T GONNA GIVE THE MAN NAAAATIN HE AIN'T GAT ALREADY. . . HE HAS THE UPPER-HAND. . . A BRAND NEW CHASSIS-WIFE! NA SHE LAND 'TOKUNBO-LOVE'!

[/b]

O gal be 'SECOND HAND NEWS O'!!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3q_I_Y9l-E

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Ooooo dey 'ouse?
I don wake o. . . h-enemies PAWA don 'FAY'! I nor die for my sleep!
Muchechechechecheche

*4:30PM. . . .time for SHAWA, dinner and off to work! it is night #4 out of 4. . . . and it is gonna be a busy one. today is MOIN-DAY*

-------logging off my sweet azzze!-------WELCOME TO MANIC MONDAY!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbJ6Jsy0JfY

gbam ! you have said it all

Callotti nailed it!

She deserves a standing ovation!

alutacontinua: Callotti nailed it!

She deserves a standing ovation!

i am telling you.



Me i am giving her a standing ovation



#standing up for mgbeketoto with claps#

why not? for two reasons: one- he wont bug me about having children. two- i have ready made helpers. and i can have him all to myself, without the worry of a lil one there nagging at my cnscience! moreover they are gron already. i dnt have to wait to show them off!

First time i'm seeing mgbeketoto making so much sense. Omo buruku lojo ti e.

jumzzy448: First time i'm seeing mgbeketoto making so much sense. Omo buruku lojo ti e.

She does make sense most times. . . In a weird way

Phema:

She does make sense most times. . . In a weird way

yes,true,but in a sarcastic way,not a weired way.by the way she is not omo buruku