We alread had 3, two girls and a boy.

She thinks we need one more but am ok with 3.

We have discussed and discussed but she is not giving in.

How else can I convince her?

i'm tempted to say you should be the one to give in but it depends on your reasons. its usually the other way round shaa, ie the woman asking to stop while the hubby is asking for more. if i were in your position, i'd be eager to add one more in hope of getting another male child. maybe you should reconsider

kay-one:
i'm tempted to say you should be the one to give in but it depends on your reasons. its usually the other way round shaa, ie the woman asking to stop while the hubby is asking for more. if i were in your position, i'd be eager to add one more in hope of getting another male child. maybe you should reconsider

SMH! Like you'll support him in their welfare abi?
"He who wears the shoe, knows where it hurts"

Let her realised the situation of the economy and how much U have intention of nurturing those on ground to greatness with God's help !!!

Tell her how much U love her and the kids, let her realised where U people are coming from, where U are and where you are going to ...... And the family plans and other targets ..... Tell her, how U wished to achieved all your plans and the Impact of the 3Kids in the overall plan !!!


If she still say No which is typical of a woman, always wishing to have their way,Don't Distract your family with Just an uncoming lucky boy..... Bros, abeg just give her just this one..... I pray, tis gonna be a Guy sha !!!


Three Guys three Girls make a Good VolleyBall team ...... !!!

its very hard to atually stop espeially if u r the fertile type.

am also thinking of having one more but my car can only a seven seater and we already a family of six. d motor go too tight

bebe2: its very hard to atually stop espeially if u r the fertile type.

am also thinking of having one more but my car can only a seven seater and we already a family of six. d motor go too tight

women hardly have seven seater motor and after what I assumed to be four kids, how could the motor be Tight !!!

Na Joke oooo !!!

hrmkz: We alread had 3, two girls and a boy.

She thinks we need one more but am ok with 3.

We have discussed and discussed but she is not giving in.

How else can I convince her?

Bro, many would love to be in your shoes, myself included.
She does you don't, what to do?

Be the leader you are. Is your wife physically capable? Any previous health issues that could make child-bearing risky? Can you have another child without anything more than marginal discomfort? Especially financially. Will you be able to provide for all 4 children and the both of you adequately without overburdening yourselves?

If you have positive answers for all of the above, please indulge your wife. Consider the new life a blessing. Your wife will be overjoyed, your kids happy, God honored and your tents enlarged. If not, speak lovingly with your spouse.

Enjoy the passion if you accept the mission.

Best to you and your family

TV

This is a very delicate issue that should be handled maturedly between couples.

My advice: communicate with her. Women are usually the ones who tell a man when it is enough with child bearing. Hard to tell what would work best for you guys.

Cheers.

@DukeNija, abeg free me jor. i know you deliberately refused to see where i said 'if i were in his position'


@Poster, pls tell us your reasons as well as hers. maybe it'll help . . . even though TV01 seems to have capped everything in that fabulous contribution of his.

Get vasectomy

dayokanu: Get vasectomy

Wicked bros...

donroxy: Let her realised the situation of the economy and how much U have intention of nurturing those on ground to greatness with God's help !!!

Tell her how much U love her and the kids, let her realised where U people are coming from, where U are and where you are going to ...... And the family plans and other targets ..... Tell her, how U wished to achieved all your plans and the Impact of the 3Kids in the overall plan !!!


If she still say No which is typical of a woman, always wishing to have their way,Don't Distract your family with Just an uncoming lucky boy..... Bros, abeg just give her just this one..... I pray, tis gonna be a Guy sha !!!


Three Guys three Girls make a Good VolleyBall team ...... !!!

What if the next preg is more than one... Say 4 plus 3 before.
Gbege be dat ooo.

hrmkz:

What if the next preg is more than one... Say 4 plus 3 before.
Gbege be dat ooo.

I think you should stop at the three but you will need to do a lot of communication with your wife to convince her.It's not just about the finances but being there for each child.The more they are, the greater the task.
I know a family where the wife kept saying one more and they ended up having twins.My guy no find am funny.Children are a blessing but family planning is important.

So many questions to ask.
1.Does she contribute meaningfully to the family financially?
2. Are you a middle class family or higher?
3. Do you own a house of your own or pay rent?
4. Does she have a job or is she a house wife?
If you can afford to give the kids you have now the best care, education, support, time, etc that they need and still have time to spare for yourselves ,without working yourselves to death then why not? But personally, i think three is enough.
Abi she wan make am round number?

Bludeville: So many questions to ask.
1.Does she contribute meaningfully to the family financially?
2. Are you a middle class family or higher?
3. Do you own a house of your own or pay rent?
4. Does she have a job or is she a house wife?
If you can afford to give the kids you have now the best care, education, support, time, etc that they need and still have time to spare for yourselves ,without working yourselves to death then why not? But personally, i think three is enough.
Abi she wan make am round number?

Thanks jare am ok wt 3.

Bludeville: So many questions to ask.
1.Does she contribute meaningfully to the family financially?
2. Are you a middle class family or higher?
3. Do you own a house of your own or pay rent?
4. Does she have a job or is she a house wife?
If you can afford to give the kids you have now the best care, education, support, time, etc that they need and still have time to spare for yourselves ,without working yourselves to death then why not? But personally, i think three is enough.
Abi she wan make am round number?

Tinkybabe: Just as bludeville as said..these are the things you guys should consider.

Try not to force your refusal down her throat..Make her see reasons,reveal the bigger picture- table the options/ consequences before her and jointly weigh them.

Your reason should go beyond" I'm okay with three".

@both, I agree with you but she actually know my financial strenght and thinks adding one more won't be a burden.

Yes, but I don't enjoy her when pregnant...she is usually weak and nags due to stress, and even the kids education suffers cos she is a 80% responsible while I sought for food.

Babes, am ok with 3 oooo.

donroxy: women hardly have seven seater motor and after what I assumed to be four kids, how could the motor be Tight !!!

Na Joke oooo !!!

Its a vauxhall zafira club.

If u put all seat up no booth.

Unless u wan buy me 8 seater

Tinkybabe: Just as bludeville as said..these are the things you guys should consider.

Try not to force your refusal down her throat..Make her see reasons,reveal the bigger picture- table the options/ consequences before her and jointly weigh them.

Your reason should go beyond" I'm okay with three".

.Even if u think your answer is right in the education section, you should still comply with simple instruction.

I hear say nig guys fear clipping pass going to war. So that one is outta the pix.
I will sue any guy who goes behind my back to clip it. I must agree or nada.
Drink more vodka and put laptop on your lap often.

WHEN A WOMEN IS ASKING FOR ONE MORE BABY AFTER 3 OR 4 KIDS.
BROS BE READY TO WELCOME A TWIN IN YOUR FAMILY.



That was what happened to ma mum.
she already had 6 kids then she wanted to round up with a male child
Lo and behold she welcomed a twin in her home ' Both Female'
Am one of her living testimony

Sexymoma,i like this your gist .no be small rounding up with a male child

@OP bludeville said it all.

sexymoma: WHEN A WOMEN IS ASKING FOR ONE MORE BABY AFTER 3 OR 4 KIDS.
BROS BE READY TO WELCOME A TWIN IN YOUR FAMILY.



That was what happened to ma mum.
she already had 6 kids then she wanted to round up with a male child
Lo and behold she welcomed a twin in her home ' Both Female'
Am one of her living testimony

Exactly.

dayokanu: Get vasectomy

my thought too, he has d final say no need to argue.

byvan: Sexymoma,i like this your gist .no be small rounding up with a male child

My sister No be Small

@op!give ur wife a gud baby making phuk or get her pregnant. B4 u end aving ur wife as an enemy!telling 4rm experience,trust me!

Please do come back and let us know how you resolve this.

hrmkz:
What if the next preg is more than one... Say 4 plus 3 before.
Gbege be dat ooo.

U be man No fear, Nothing dey come from Up wey Ground no dey take .... And Nothing dey new for earth ooo !!!

7Kids is a Blessing na

bebe2:
Unless u wan buy me 8 seater

ohh oh, this woman wan cause me kasala oooo , Buy U 8 Seater, where u go tell ur hubby say U get am .... Dem never beat me before ooo

@op I advice you give in to her request because one eye is indebted to blindness, secondly her mind will never be at rest and she will always be sad. I suggest she rather plan it well to have a male child. Try and bear with her this last time, it's just for 9 months.

donroxy: U be man No fear, Nothing dey come from Up wey Ground no dey take .... And Nothing dey new for earth ooo !!!

7Kids is a Blessing na

I will heed ur advice only if am taking after you.

cintia: @op I advice you give in to her request because one eye is indebted to blindness, secondly her mind will never be at rest and she will always be sad. I suggest she rather plan it well to have a male child. Try and bear with her this last time, it's just for 9 months.

My sister, there are a lot of number after 6 that is greater than 7.