A man may be able to put across a great
image, but it could simply be a cover for
hidden shortcomings, or he could just be
totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’Here are some
ways to know if you’ve struck gold:
1) A real man values more than just your
looks.
Is every compliment from him about a
different body part? It doesn’t matter how
creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on
how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a
red flag. A real man will value your
personality, your kindness, your intelligence,
and who you are as a person, in general.
The things he makes you feel good about
will be things that you control, not just
results of getting lucky in the gene pool.
relationships
2) A real man will never be intimidated by
your motivation.
A man who has goals for himself, will want
to be with a woman who has goals for her
own life, too. He will never feel intimidated
or threatened by a woman who goes after
what she wants. He will want to be part of a
power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be
mindful of anyone who tries to keep you
from pursuing your dreams.
3) A real man will have more interests
than just you.
I don’t mean this in a negative way. You
should, of course, be a priority in his life —
but he needs to have a life as well. Interests,
friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works
his entire life around you, it’s another red
flag — relationships should be a great part
of your life, but not encompass your whole
life.
4) A real man will give you answers.
No matter how awkward or uncomfortable
a situation is, a real man will approach it,
and you, with respect. I have always felt that
a mark of a man is how he handles conflict,
criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A
man will not dance around answers or
make excuses. If there is something you two
need to talk about, he will talk about it.
5) A real man is direct.
In addition to the last point — there will be
no mind games or manipulation in your
relationship. A man will be direct, to the
point, and honest with you… but with
kindness.
6) A real man will trust you.
As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a
man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around
invading your privacy to make sure you’re
not doing anything bad. He will have
confidence in your relationship. A boy will
project his own insecurities onto you, and
like termites in a house, will eat away at the
foundation of what you’ve built.
7) A real man is cool, calm, and collected.
It should be understood that part of what
comes with the territory of having a
girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on.
If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out
with her friends, it goes without saying that
your girlfriend will get hit on every once in
awhile.
Instead of letting his primate instincts
prevail and beating his chest like an angry
gorilla to scare off competition, a confident
man will calmly make his position known,
and understand that you’re still going home
with him at the end of the night.
A real man will show you respect.
Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man
more than someone who disrespects
women, animals, or children. A real man will
treat you with the respect that you deserve,
never force you to do anything you’re
uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you.
Be honest enough with yourself to walk
away from any situation that is dangerous
to you, physically or emotionally.
9) A real man will put effort into your
relationship.
Boys are generally apathetic and just look
for one thing from a woman. A man, will do
what it takes to make you happy, both
inside and outside of the bedroom. Your
happiness, is his reward.
10) A real man will make you want to be
the best version of yourself, without
changing who you really are.
A man will empower those around him. He
will strive for greatness and therefore
inspire others to strive for it as well. This not
only includes friends and co-workers, but
also significant others.

;DI tink I found 1

Sounds cool and interesting, though no man will have all this at once, you grow into some of these traits over time. The list is more like the ideal man than a real man. A real man should have most of the traits you listed above though

Dats d perfect man u jst listed up there, young lady!!!

OP do adjsut the tiltle of thread, I no somebody who won't like the term "real man" LOL

Now how about THE REAL WOMAN

in summary, such a man does not exist

11.. A man is not real if he has those 10qualities but cant satisfy you in bed!!

I'm so scared now cos I possess all these qualities. Does it mean that nl ladies will start chasing me now?

[quote
author=EmmanuelIbeh]I'm so scared now cos I possess all these
qualities. Does it mean that nl ladies will start chasing me
now?[/quote] He-goat keep dreaming

good one.

tpia@:
good one.

Yes, yes,yes

Kslib: 11.. A man is not real if he has those 10qualities but cant satisfy you in bed!!

yes yes yes

I possess all the above qualities. Thank God things.

wow that sums me up, especially to pint number 3, i have too much interest in other stuffs, i feel fake people live their life around a girl; what happens when she says no. but Point 3 can be disadvantageous to some point, because my intense interest for Programming is overwhelming that i can spend days reading without thought for other things, its a mixed thing good and bad. nice post.

Beautydiva: A man may be able to put across a great
image, but it could simply be a cover for
hidden shortcomings, or he could just be
totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’Here are some
ways to know if you’ve struck gold:
1) A real man values more than just your
looks.
Is every compliment from him about a
different body part? It doesn’t matter how
creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on
how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a
red flag. A real man will value your
personality, your kindness, your intelligence,
and who you are as a person, in general.
The things he makes you feel good about
will be things that you control, not just
results of getting lucky in the gene pool.
relationships
2) A real man will never be intimidated by
your motivation.
A man who has goals for himself, will want
to be with a woman who has goals for her
own life, too. He will never feel intimidated
or threatened by a woman who goes after
what she wants He will want to be part of a
power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be
mindful of anyone who tries to keep you
from pursuing your dreams.
3) A real man will have more interests
than just you.
I don’t mean this in a negative way. You
should, of course, be a priority in his life —
but he needs to have a life as well. Interests,
friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works
his entire life around you, it’s another red
flag — relationships should be a great part
of your life, but not encompass your whole
life.
4) A real man will give you answers.
No matter how awkward or uncomfortable
a situation is, a real man will approach it,
and you, with respect. I have always felt that
a mark of a man is how he handles conflict,
criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A
man will not dance around answers or
make excuses. If there is something you two
need to talk about, he will talk about it.
5) A real man is direct.
In addition to the last point — there will be
no mind games or manipulation in your
relationship. A man will be direct, to the
point, and honest with you… but with
kindness.
6) A real man will trust you.
As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a
man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around
invading your privacy to make sure you’re
not doing anything bad. He will have
confidence in your relationship. A boy will
project his own insecurities onto you, and
like termites in a house, will eat away at the
foundation of what you’ve built.
7) A real man is cool, calm, and collected.
It should be understood that part of what
comes with the territory of having a
girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on.
If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out
with her friends, it goes without saying that
your girlfriend will get hit on every once in
awhile.
Instead of letting his primate instincts
prevail and beating his chest like an angry
gorilla to scare off competition, a confident
man will calmly make his position known,
and understand that you’re still going home
with him at the end of the night.
A real man will show you respect.
Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man
more than someone who disrespects
women, animals, or children. A real man will
treat you with the respect that you deserve,
never force you to do anything you’re
uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you.
Be honest enough with yourself to walk
away from any situation that is dangerous
to you, physically or emotionally.
9) A real man will put effort into your
relationship.
Boys are generally apathetic and just look
for one thing from a woman. A man, will do
what it takes to make you happy, both
inside and outside of the bedroom. Your
happiness, is his reward.
10) A real man will make you want to be
the best version of yourself, without
changing who you really are.
A man will empower those around him. He
will strive for greatness and therefore
inspire others to strive for it as well. This not
only includes friends and co-workers, but
also significant others.

Which wan is power couple again?

This definitely is a red flag for the authour of this list and is a subtle pro-feminism!

A man is the head of the family is that a pill too hard to swallow?.

....what such blind femisnism don't understand is that being the Head is not even an enjoyable position and one will render account and assume full responsibilty for decision made!!! Moreover two captains cannot be in one ship!!!

What a REAL WOMAN must do is to NOT sacrifice the most important values in whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with for secondary ones!!! You can't have your cake and eat it

When you hunt for and get a Made-Man to marry you chances are that he will not be the listening type......yet every man will listen to his wife depending on how she presents it to him and even when he does not buy your input you have to support him as long as it is not something unlawful cos most times when a man is driven by selfless motives he percieves things in his spirit to take some decisions which you may not understand!

Point is the key things you should look for is a man that you can respect because:

1. He is selfless
2. He is listening
3. He is astute in decision-making
4.He has a clear picture where he is headed for and is taking diligent and practical steps to get there.
5. He is not arrogant towards people

Headsship in a family falls on the man, make him more of that man by supporting and encouraging him and not demanding he must consult you before taking any decision; men will naturally consult their wives if they are comfortable with the way they present their opinions

EmmanuelIbeh: I'm so scared now cos I possess all these qualities. Does it mean that nl ladies will start chasing me now?

How deep is your wallet?

[size=4pt]Na joke o...[/size]

49cents: Which wan is power couple again?

This definitely is a red flag for the authour of this list and is a subtle pro-feminism!

A man is the head of the family is that a pill too hard to swallow?.

....what such blind femisnism don't understand is that being the Head is not even an enjoyable position and one will render account and assume full responsibilty for decision made!!! Moreover two captains cannot be in one ship!!!

What a REAL WOMAN must do is to NOT sacrifice the most important values in whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with for secondary ones!!! You can't have your cake and eat it

When you hunt for and get a Made-Man to marry you chances are that he will not be the listening type......yet every man will listen to his wife depending on how she presents it to him and even when he does not buy your input you have to support him as long as it is not something unlawful cos most times when a man is driven by selfless motives he percieves things in his spirit to take some decisions which you may not understand!

Point is the key things you should look for is a man that you can respect because:

1. He is selfless
2. He is listening
3. He is astute in decision-making
4.He has a clear picture where he is headed for and is taking diligent and practical steps to get there.
5. He is not arrogant towards people

Headsship in a family falls on the man, make him more of that man by supporting and encouraging him and not demanding he must consult you before taking any decision; men will naturally consult their wives if they are comfortable with the way they present their opinions

Where are the red flags?

I don't understand why whenever such threads arise, someone has to mention that a man is the head of the household. My question is, what's your point? Did the OP say otherwise? An article says "women, a man who trusts you, listens to you, and has his own goals is the right kind of man", and you're against that?
A man expressing concern or interest in his wife or girlfriend and her feelings or thoughts doesn't make him effeminate. Fact.

Just as age comes with wisdom, "real man" status comes with responsibility, determination, trustworthiness, and whatever else that makes a good man or husband. That's my personal opinion.

Some of the 5 points you listed are similar to what the OP listed by the way.

After putting on heavy make-up, brazillian hair, push up bra, bleaching ur skin, false behaviour and everything FAKE, you expect to nab a REAL man? Mmh, call me when your juju works.

A Real Man would send me a hundred thousand right nowww! Pm me 4 my account num 2 prove ur worth as a reall man dat u are

fruityjojo: A Real Man would send me a hundred thousand right nowww! Pm me 4 my account num 2 prove ur worth as a reall man dat u are

i would've given u but you've just shown dat u are not worth it.

49cents:
Which wan is power couple again?
This definitely is a red flag for the authour of this list and is a subtle pro-feminism!
A man is the head of the family is that a pill too hard to swallow?.
....what such blind femisnism don't understand is that being the Head is not even an enjoyable position and one will render account and assume full responsibilty for decision made!!! Moreover two captains cannot be in one ship!!!

What a REAL WOMAN must do is to NOT sacrifice the most important values in whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with for secondary ones!!! You can't have your cake and eat it

When you hunt for and get a Made-Man to marry you chances are that he will not be the listening type......yet every man will listen to his wife depending on how she presents it to him and even when he does not buy your input you have to support him as long as it is not something unlawful cos most times when a man is driven by selfless motives he percieves things in his spirit to take some decisions which you may not understand!
Point is the key things you should look for is a man that you can respect because:
1. He is selfless
2. He is listening
3. He is astute in decision-making
4.He has a clear picture where he is headed for and is taking diligent and practical steps to get there.
5. He is not arrogant towards people
Headsship in a family falls on the man, make him more of that man by supporting and encouraging him and not demanding he must consult you before taking any decision; men will naturally consult their wives if they are comfortable with the way they present their opinions

Wow....
What is wrong with asking for equality now? Must women always be under men?

I can't wait to see the day when all this oppression against women will end.

fruityjojo: A Real Man would send me a hundred thousand right nowww! Pm me 4 my account num 2 prove ur worth as a reall man dat u are

I just deposited 150k in your account. Acknowledge it please. Meanwhile, when you get this message, PM me your account number. Okay?

ogugua88:

Where are the red flags?

I don't understand why whenever such threads arise, someone has to mention that a man is the head of the household. My question is, what's your point? Did the OP say otherwise? An article says "women, a man who trusts you, listens to you, and has his own goals is the right kind of man", and you're against that?
A man expressing concern or interest in his wife or girlfriend and her feelings or thoughts doesn't make him effeminate. Fact.

Insecurity

They are trying hard to maintain their religiously imposed superiority over women.

ogugua88:

Where are the red flags?

I don't understand why whenever such threads arise, someone has to mention that a man is the head of the household. My question is, what's your point? Did the OP say otherwise? An article says "women, a man who trusts you, listens to you, and has his own goals is the right kind of man", and you're against that?
A man expressing concern or interest in his wife or girlfriend and her feelings or thoughts doesn't make him effeminate. Fact.

Just as age comes with wisdom, "real man" status comes with responsibility, determination, trustworthiness, and whatever else that makes a good man or husband. That's my personal opinion.

Some of the 5 points you listed are similar to what the OP listed by the way.

Redflag? I tried boldening but am mobile so I got it messed up yet my opening remak about power couple rather than dictatorship is what I was pointing at!

I never said a man expressing concern for his gf or wife makes him effeminate nor did I object to the entire list the OP put up! I ONLY harped on the power couple

What does power couple sharing mean in clear language?

dmcdad:
I just deposited 150k in your account. Acknowledge it please. Meanwhile, when you get this message, PM me your account number. Okay?

Hehehehe spiritual account I see. Fake men everywhere!

TribalEAST: i would've given u but you've just shown dat u are not worth it.

Neurocysticercosis detected in ur brain! U can't even regconise humour written in plain English!!!

is there real woman in Nigeria? I dnt
think there is. so, a real man is the
man that has enough money to buy
the fake love exhibit by nowadays
women.

As Ogugua don show face for this thread, e go soon land for FP! Who wan bet am with me?

Happy sunday NLanders

Beautydiva:
5) A real man is direct.
In addition to the last point — there will be
no mind games or manipulation in your
relationship. A man will be direct, to the
point, and honest with you… but with
kindness.
6) A real man will trust you.

smh.. If you are direct to a Nigerian girl then you are a big fool and she will term you one.. never be direct to a girl! never! always make her heart shake then she will never be bored in the relationship cuz u display new character everyday.. A real man never trust anybody apart from himself

fruityjojo:
Neurocysticercosis detected in ur brain! U can't even regconise humour written in plain English!!!

Hehehehehehe

49cents: Redflag? I tried boldening but am mobile so I got it messed up yet my opening remak about power couple rather than dictatorship is what I was pointing at!

I never said a man expressing concern for his gf or wife makes him effeminate nor did I object to the entire list the OP put up! I ONLY harped on the power couple

What does power couple sharing mean in clear language?

Ooh. I just saw it and emboldened it for you.

You didn't say it outright, but it was implied and I doubt I'm the only one who perceived it.

As for power couple, lol it doesn't have anything to do with power per se. A power couple is an influential couple. They're envied/admired, and appear to be perfect. Women in power couples are seen as strong, determined, and have minds of their own. Some examples are Barack and Michelle Obama, Duke William and Dutchess Katherine, David and Victoria Beckham, and Jay-Z and Beyoncé.

A woman doesn't have to inferior or a subordinate for a man to be the head of a household. The women in the aforementioned power couples still know who the man is.

I personally hate that phrase "real man". guys better be careful. whenever a lady says she needs a "real man", what she actually needs is a mugu.
I don talk my own sha