Is it so bad becoming a mum witout being married?or should I say b4 marriage comes.ok let me explain,a lady meets a guy she thinks can be a good father 4 her baby,they are still dating nd she decides to have a baby.this is because she loves babies a lot and can't wait to have hers nd also won't want to get married to mr available just to have a baby.and yea,her bf has not popped d question.is this such a stupid idea?

Nothing is wrong with it.
It's just that Nigerians are mostly Christians/Muslims and so they believe that you must be married to have kids due to religious injunctions.

The practice you described in your post is very common in western countries where they are not so religious and judgmental so you can go there if that is what you want to do.

zeedward: Is it so bad becoming a mum witout being married?or should I say b4 marriage comes.ok let me explain,a lady meets a guy she thinks can be a good father 4 her baby,they are still dating nd she decides to have a baby.this is because she loves babies a lot and can't wait to have hers nd also won't want to get married to mr available just to have a baby.and yea,her bf has not popped d question.is this such a stupid idea?

There is nothing wrong with a single woman having a baby, as far as this is what she really wants and not a 'mistake'.

Raising a child can be very tasking and if she's not prepared for it, it may become frustrating.

First of all, she needs to be prepared to face the hypocrisy of the average Nigerian who will regard he as a LovePeddler for having a child while still single.

Secondly, since she did not discuss it with her bf, she needs to be ready to raise the child alone if her chickens out.

Above all, she needs to have a fairly decent source of income. Pamper dey add money everyday . . . .

Hmmm,thanks guys.its not easy being a nigerian lady afterall.I forgot to mention dat d bf in question is cool wit it

^ ^ Why really does she want a baby and NOT marriage ? Please don't tell me its cos "she loves babies"

Making and rearing babies is not making bread. There must be a valid,well thought out reason and well laid plans before one can embark on that journey, a young,single lady especially.

Does she REALLY know what she wants ?

ifyalways: ^ ^ Why really does she want a baby and NOT marriage ? Please don't tell me its cos "she loves babies"

Making and rearing babies is not making bread. There must be a valid,well thought out reason and well laid plans before one can embark on that journey, a young,single lady especially.

Does she REALLY know what she wants ?

+1

zeedward: Hmmm,thanks guys.its not easy being a nigerian lady afterall. I forgot to mention dat d bf in question is cool wit it

So the boyfriend wants to eat his cake and have it abi?

He wants to be getting the milk and not pay for the cow . . .

Constant knacking plus a child to go with it . . . . and no umunna wahala . . . sharp guy!

Hope your cousin knows what she's doing sha . . .

I'll rather raise my child alone as a single lady than have a man around who wants to be getting the milk and not pay for the cow . . .

If it makes you a good mom!
Before or after, no guarantee you will not quench before the child.
Or the you won't kill the child!
Or the child will not kill you!
Biology does not guarantee love.

Kanwulia: If it makes you a good mom!
Before or after, no guarantee you will be quench before the child.
Or the you won't kill the child!

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