I have a relationship with this guy that is very tightfisted when it comes to money..he practically worships money and we disagree all the time over money issues..but he's intellectually advanced and I like that about him + his goodlooks..and there is this other guy that came along the line buh not as intellectually advanced as dis guy.he's been very supportive financially towards my career as opposed to the other guy. I am not a dependent person when it comes to relationships but I appreciate it when a guy knows his onions in a relationship. Both
of them are asking my hand in marriage and am really @ a crossroads on which road to take.


Your candid advice would be highly appreciated.

SINGLE men should go with SINGLE women only!!!!
MARRIED men should go with MARRIED women only!!!!!

Stick to your CLASS or RANK!

Simple!!! *

I don't think u got my question right,Kanwulia.the question was thrown out to single ladies out there if they were in my shoes, and to married ladies if they had that kinda situation or probably knw somebody that has had that situation in choosing who to marry..and mind you, the guys in question are SINGLE! Don't do MARRIED.


Thanks.

I don't get it-one is intelligent and good looking while the other is not so intelligent but assists financially.
Are these all the qualities you look out for in a relationship that might be altar bound?How about compatibility and more importantly,love?How well do you relate as friends?Money or no money,who gives you happiness more?
I wouldn't want to go on and on but I think there are a lot of other things to think about before you say I do,aside good looks,intelligence and money.

ECSpee: I don't think u got my question right,Kanwulia.the question was thrown out to single ladies out there if they were in my shoes, and to married ladies if they had that kinda situation or probably knw somebody that has had that situation in choosing who to marry..and mind you, the guys in question are SINGLE! Don't do MARRIED.


Thanks.

Unfortunately, the title of your thread is easier to understand than your first post!
I think only MARRIED ladies can really answer your question having experienced such a dilemma.
SINGLE ladies would only remain as confused.
You ALWAYS go with what ever option gives you the MOST SUPPORT AND PEACE OF MIND!!!!

You can't have EVERYTHING in one person.
I will have to choose #2

@ ifedun, we relate cordially as friends, there are oda compatibility issues dt I wouldn't like to base my decision on.. (He's not of my tribe, he's not of my denomination.) coupled with the issues that come along with marrrying someone whose language u don't understand. In-laws et al. but I do not rly want to base my decisions on that. As per d other guy, we get on pretty well as friends 2, he is of my tribe and dénomination. He regards my opinion to a large extent as per certain issues...buh dis oda guy can be a pain in the ass when I propose certain things to him.

@Op,is it the intelligent one that is of your tribe or the one who assists you financially?We have to be clear here.

Hmm! Sista, sista, sista, how many times have I called u? None of the qualities you listed are good reasons to marry a man (except a bit of #2), ask ur married aunties, they will tell you the same. You sounded like marrying a man because of his nice car. What happens if he loses the car?

Please stick with the man that believes in ur dreams & willing to support u to achieve ur life goals. The man u move along with better, who respects u, makes u laugh, laughs at ur jokes, plays with u like a kid, have less arguments and with more fatherly attributes (for the sake of ur kids). I don't care if the other is the CEO of 'water bottle bank', with seven fat bank accounts, and the intellect of Shakespeare & Einstein combined. Are u signing a contract with a business partner or looking for a man who can forfeit work sit by ur bed-side, feed u & bath u when u are sick & dirty? That's what a husband does to a wife he loves, not writing checks.

All the luck

Settle for the second guy.

Write out the innate qualities of the two guys, I will help you make a decision.

Meanwhile, can you explain what you mean by one is intellectually advanced than the other? What is your yardstick for measuring their intelligence? school work or how they solve problems?

Double dating is bad