Most marriages go through periods of
highs and lows. Therefore, it is pretty
common for a husband and wife to
differ on certain points. At times one
person becomes more dominant than
the other. If the husband enjoys making
his point heard, the wife would prefer to
let him have his say to maintain
calmness in their bond. Or, the wife may
disagree with her husband on different
topics and the husband might choose to
act as the peacemaker. Well, here are
some ways to handle your spouse’s
temper effectively.
1. Recognize the triggers
The first step is to recognize each
other’s temperament. Make it a point to
voice your feelings to one another in the
best possible way without being
condescending or judgmental. Once
both of you are aware of what acts as a
trigger for your respective anger issues,
you can deal with them more effectively.
It is common knowledge that ‘opposites
attract’, and so make sure that both of
you balance each other out and are
aware of what irks the other.
2. Take a step back
Secondly, it would be wise if you took a
step back to allow your partner to cool
down. Therefore, if you find your spouse
getting angry over something, do not
make things worse by tackling them or
reprimanding them for their actions
there and then. Instead, step aside and
allow them to calm down. In time, they
themselves will come back and
apologize for their outburst. The key
here is to give them their space so that
they can realize their folly on their own.
3. Keep your own attitude under check
Realize that at times it might be your
behavior and attitude that might cause
tempers to fly. If you fight fire with fire,
you will land up in a stalemate with the
problem still left unsolved. It is vital that
you manage your emotions well in order
to prevent any major outburst with your
temperamental spouse. So, if you know
that there are things that could cause an
emotional outburst; your reaction to it
could determine whether it has the
possibility of turning ugly or getting
resolved.
4. Dig into some patience
Fourthly, in order to really deal effectively
with your short-tempered spouse, you
will need to dig into your reserve of
patience. Sometimes you may
disapprove of your spouse’s outbursts
over trivial and petty issues. These may
cause you to wonder what you might
have done wrong. However, the key to
dealing with such outbursts over minor
issues is to have the patience to deal
with your partner calmly. Therefore,
avoid responding with equally nasty
comments that could rupture into
something major.
5. Encourage them towards change
Lastly, you could help encourage your
spouse to adopt certain tips to calm
down during an outburst. Deep
breathing and maybe some meditation
in the morning could prove to be the
right solutions to help your partner
control his/her temperament. Also, make
sure to inform your spouse about the ill-
effects of anger, namely how it can lead
to complications and affect their health
in the bargain.
These tips are sure to keep a check on
your spouse’s temper issues, thereby
ensuring that your marriage is stable
and happy.

point noted

Matildachinyere: point noted

very

Seconded

Op

So, in other words...become an unhappy dummy to your spouse just because they chose to be short tempered?

The best way to handle such people is to run for your life! Trust me, most of them never change.

80% of murder cases we hear of today were not originally planned. They were as a result of people angrily and violently reacting quickly and irrationally.

Nuzo':
Op

So, in other words...become an unhappy dummy to your spouse just because they chose to be short tempered?

The best way to handle such people is to run for your life! Trust me, most of them never change.

80% of murder cases we hear of today were not originally planned. They were as a result of people angrily and violently reacting quickly and irrationally.

like seriously? You don't have love then. Run is the worst you'd do to someone you love

darea18: like seriously? You don't have love then. Run is the worst you'd do to someone you love

And kill is what they will do to you.

Love is not enough!

Nuzo':


And kill is what they will do to you.

Love is not enough!

a question for you...... Can you die for love?

darea18: a question for you...... Can you die for love?

runnin away is not the solution my guy.

Nice post..... you know something ? Some ppl cant handle too much anger.... there are different degrees of anger. Everyone is capable of feeling and showing anger, and that is a normal thing, I guess when anger gets out of control & cant be contained then that ibecomes a real problem. That person can be a liabilty! A person like that I wouldn't feel safe with personally cos those are the types who can commit murder, or beat you or damage property. On the other hand the normal anger/short fuse can be dealt with nicely as you said here. Sometimes over time age will mellow such a person.I knew of a couple who the husband was very fiery in younger years and mellowed out considerably in his later years. His wife was always the cool one but she is now the one running a short fuse in her later years.

@OP you re right but its nt easy to to do all u suggested

darea18: a question for you...... Can you die for love?

Lol...tricky question huh.

Hell NO if dying for love is all about jumping off the bridge or allowing my partner kill me cos she's hot tempered.

Such decision is the kind we read in the murder column....and end up berating and condemning such illogical decision.

Is it even fair you asked me such a question?

oyinbogirl: Nice post..... you know something ? Some ppl cant handle too much anger.... there are different degrees of anger. Everyone is capable of feeling and showing anger, and that is a normal thing, I guess when anger gets out of control & cant be contained then that ibecomes a real problem. That person can be a liabilty! A person like that I wouldn't feel safe with personally cos those are the types who can commit murder, or beat you or damage property. On the other hand the normal anger/short fuse can be dealt with nicely as you said here. Sometimes over time age will mellow such a person.I knew of a couple who the husband was very fiery in younger years and mellowed out considerably in his later years. His wife was always the cool one but she is now the one running a short fuse in her later years.

yeah got similar story. Change is constant, I know.

Kezifils: @OP you re right but its nt easy to to do all u suggested

I know. Especially not you. Cos you sounds so straightforward

Nuzo':


Lol...tricky question huh.

Hell NO if dying for love is all about jumping off the bridge or allowing my partner kill me cos she's hot tempered.

Such decision is the kind we read in the murder column....and end up berating and condemning such illogical decision.

Is it even fair you asked me such a question?

you sounds beaten already. I only asked a question.

darea18: you sounds beaten already. I only asked a question.

Would you die for love?

Nuzo':


Would you die for love?

lemme think about it

darea18: a question for you...... Can you die for love?

hell no! Jesus did that! I'll run!

ireneidiva:
hell no! Jesus did that! I'll run!

really...

Nuzo1:
Op

So, in other words...become an unhappy dummy to your spouse just because they chose to be short tempered?

The best way to handle such people is to run for your life! Trust me, most of them never change.

80% of murder cases we hear of today were not originally planned. They were as a result of people angrily and violently reacting quickly and irrationally.

hmmm...point!

darea18:
like seriously? You don't have love then. Run is the worst you'd do to someone you love

yea...sometimes its really hard to run away from someone we deeply love

Please I need a practicable help in dealing with anger. I noticed that i am hot temper and this has been affecting my relationship with people. I have prayed over it, try to overcome it but still finding it a bit hard. it will flared and within few minutes, I will realized my self and felt bad that I was tempered again. I am tried of telling people that I am sorry or people walking away from me in a relationship because of my easily temper. Please I need a practiceable help.