I have notice something between man and woman,they have hatred for each other internally. If not for the sake of sex and bearing kids i think this two creature by God would have been great enemy internally n emotionally. They would have been war between the both, but physical appearance ie one is stronger physically than the other, one cant confront the other physically.I praise God for the different in strenght if not hmm. If you see were men gather they gossip about women negatively except when they re, when you see women gather their own even worse. I asked a married man the other same question he said if not for children he prefers not have married n i asked a married woman also same reply.
So i thought of coming to nairaland because i believe there re some psychologist in this forum or rather intellectuals.
Please fellow nairalanders kindy tell me your main reason why male and female have hatred for each other,? Why there is dispute?,why we re always free when we re with our fellows but immediately opposite gender come into our gathering,our mood n behaviour changes?.

Talk about yourself, do you hate the other gender? If yes, then, that you are like that and some very few people you asked are like that does not mean everybody is like that.

As for me, i don't have hatred for anyone, regardless of the gender, but one fact that is certain is, respect begets respect, anyone who does not respect me can not earn my respect, if you want to be respected by everyone, whether male or female, respect everyone, be it male or famale, and no opposite gender will hate you.

As for those you asked question from, who claimed to get married, because of kids, i think or guess, both of them are yet to understand what marriage is really is.

May God help us all.

greatgod2012: Talk about yourself, do you hate the other gender? If yes, then, that you are like that and some very few people you asked are like that does not mean everybody is like that.

As for me, i don't have hatred for anyone, regardless of the gender, but one fact that is certain is, respect begets respect, anyone who does not respect me can not earn my respect, if you want to be respected by everyone, whether male or female, respect everyone, be it male or famale, and no opposite gender will hate you.

As for those you asked question from, who claimed to get married, because of kids, i think or guess, both of them are yet to understand what marriage is really is.

May God help us all.

i understand ur view this hatred is general n internal one, i know u know what am talkng about. The hatred is not physical its secretive thats y u hardly notice it...thanks for sharing ur thought.

Hmmm another e.war in the making.na another de beavoir versus tingyz,coogar versus ileobatojo etc.abeggggg o!

LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE :*

lets have a fulfillling and rewarding break.all the male versus female e.war from january to december 2013 don do 8-)

That's not Hatred, Hatred is is very strong word . That's just Gender equality tussle.

I love my husband and my sons. I love my father and my brothers. They are all men.
I think what you are talking about is the concious/subconcious war of the sexes and the never ending war for gender equality.
It happens a lot on these boards but I am sure most of those battles end here.
Trust me when I say most of the posters are different around the opposite sex in real time.

Op wat uv just said this evening is exactly wat av bn pondering on recently. And truthfully my recent frnds whom are married , do av series of complaints afterwards.. And I ask, wats d hullaballo about am getting married, am getting married..ITs sad when I hear guys talk very negative about women and women, well they tend to be diplomatic on how they feel inwards.. But its just too bad.. Thank God, I av wat makes me happy @ d end of each day.. If not mehn, I. Won't mind staying single.. I dey tell u

^^ But that's not 'Hatred'.

Hatred: the feeling of one who hates; intense dislike or extreme aversion or hostility.

It's ordained from time immemorial

The biblical curse

It's just the natural way of associating with your group and tryna favour people that u av something in common! The same reason why Nigerians fight Chinese, Ibos fight Yoruba etc...it takes maturity nd common sense to know that our differences are supposed to unite us, nt create a gulf between us!

That being said, i love men diooooeeeeee

I mean that in a holy way

Amelian: Op wat uv just said this evening is exactly wat av bn pondering on recently. And truthfully my recent frnds whom are married , do av series of complaints afterwards.. And I ask, wats d hullaballo about am getting married, am getting married..ITs sad when I hear guys talk very negative about women and women, well they tend to be diplomatic on how they feel inwards.. But its just too bad.. Thank God, I av wat makes me happy @ d end of each day.. If not mehn, I. Won't mind staying single.. I dey tell u

thi is what am saying,it happens in d home,school,et al n i just say i should ask here cos i no people disagree cos here is a forum but inside them, they no what am saying is true.

Maybe you should use another term to suitably justify your description you've been having ill luck to convey to people.


I don't see why I should hate anybody because I don't agree with them, yes I do not like rude people in any way because respect beget respect. and Prefer to give them their long yardstick of personal space.

it takes a whole lot of adversity/pain afflicted on you by other party before you can conclusively call it Hatred ( assassin , Shindlers list ish etc God forbid ) . But that's just me.

Nigerians in general often nonchalantly use words they hardly mean anyway; obsessed ( Love), Abuse ( name calling such as 'stupid'), Hate ( dislike, jealous ), Mentally disabled ( mad woman under the bridge), thunderstorm ( sango) etc etc

It is called THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES!

@OP: I thought it was the other way round i.e. women dislike women and vice versa

Yes. U are right poster. People dnt want to admit it but its painfully true. Both sexes have what they are always diplomatic about. Its an on going tussle and i think as long as we have to relate with one another, men and women will continue to have issues. Sometimes i ask myself, why get married anyway?? Why MUST two people come together when they would eventually habor intense hate for each other? Singleness is not a bad idea because of the peace of mind and freedom u will get.

@ poster you are partially right because this does not really happen to everyone per se. Some people possess the ability to control their emotions and put them in check. This particular hatred is peculiar to those who have been betrayed before, those who are passing through heart breaks, those whom are passing through hard times in their marriages or those who have lost love or happiness in their homes or even those whose marriages lapsed after some moment of troubles etc. Ofcourse is natural to hate someone that brought a thorough pain into your life but the ability to ignore, forgive, overlook, let go, is key and necessary because such hatred will always affect the most sensitive part of us which is our heart and also our ways of relating with the opposite gender. The two genders cannot survive without each other.

That makes a lot of sense @PrincessZoe

I don't hate women, but i respecu, defend, assist and protect them. We need them you know,

for those of you saying is not hatred and giving it another name, let me ask u this question, have u not seen husband killed his wife?,wife poison husband?,boyfriend gang up with his friends to rape his girlfriend? girlfriend bath her guy with acid?, and so many news like this. so define hatred and tell if all these things named above is not classify as one.

Those are extreme cases that often make headlines or you see on Nancy Grace and not everyday occurrence like you made it look. Abi how many days in a year do you hear bout those examples you listed up there?

Ewuro707: ^^ But that's not 'Hatred'.

then tell me have you not seen husband kill his wife, wife poison her husband, boyfriend gang up with his friend to rape his girlfriend, and girlfriend bath her guy with acid. with your definition of hatred, is there any deference?

hensben: then tell me have you not seen husband kill his wife, wife poison her husband, boyfriend gang up with his friend to rape his girlfriend, and girlfriend bath her guy with acid. with your definition of hatred, is there any deference?

Read my last response.

Amelian: Op wat uv just said this evening is exactly wat av bn pondering on recently. And truthfully my recent frnds whom are married , do av series of complaints afterwards.. And I ask, wats d hullaballo about am getting married, am getting married..ITs sad when I hear guys talk very negative about women and women, well they tend to be diplomatic on how they feel inwards.. But its just too bad.. Thank God, I av wat makes me happy @ d end of each day.. If not mehn, I. Won't mind staying single.. I dey tell u

abi my sister, this thing happen everyday but people are living in pretends

Ewuro707:

Read my last response.

you dont expect it to happen everyday, but each day that passsess by men n women concieve hatred in their waiting for the right time to strike or living in pretends.

Poster how can you use the word hatred. On the other hand I think some men are crazy about women and vice versa. Some men just cant get enough of women and that is why some marry four wives and have ten concubines. Some young ladies sef have husband, boyfriend, and aristo by the side. There is nothing like hatred.

The simple truth is that men often misunderstand women and women often misunderstand men. Men and women were not created the same and both sexes have to just accept that. Men and women think differently most times and get emotional/excited over different things. The duty of people getting married is to understand this and work around it. I promised my wife that this Christmas we were going to have two weekends of family outings and shopping. After the first weekend, I had to back out and apologise. Of course she was disappointed but me I don try. I just cant go through another 7 hours of shopping next weekend. Lailai. Shopping is just not my thing and for most guys its the same. But that should not be interpreted to be hatred.

And please ignore the gender warriors here especially those that just attack men without even reading the posts. They say things like Nigerian men are all useless, unromantic, cheats etc, but they will be very quick to tell you their husbands are the exception. They will abuse all the men but claim their husband and father are but the few exceptions. There is no hatred in marriage and love, and even those is bad marriages that are in unhappy are looking for a way to rekindle the love flame. Perfect love casts out any fear so the word hatred is completely inappropriate. The simple issue is that men and women are created differently and we just need to accept is and find a way to be happy. Most men cannot do without women and vice versa.

Nashville: Poster how can you use the word hatred. On the other hand I think some men are crazy about women and vice versa. Some men just cant get enough of women and that is why some marry four wives and have ten concubines. Some young ladies sef have husband, boyfriend, and aristo by the side. There is nothing like hatred.

The simple truth is that men often misunderstand women and women often misunderstand men. Men and women were not created the same and both sexes have to just accept that. Men and women think differently most times and get emotional/excited over different things. The duty of people getting married is to understand this and work around it. I promised my wife that this Christmas we were going to have two weekends of family outings and shopping. After the first weekend, I had to back out and apologise. Of course she was disappointed but me I don try. I just cant go through another 7 hours of shopping next weekend. Lailai. Shopping is just not my thing and for most guys its the same. But that should not be interpreted to be hatred.

And please ignore the gender warriors here especially those that just attack men without even reading the posts. They say things like Nigerian men are all useless, unromantic, cheats etc, but they will be very quick to tell you their husbands are the exception. They will abuse all the men but claim their husband and father are but the few exceptions. There is no hatred in marriage and love, and even those is bad marriages that are in unhappy are looking for a way to rekindle the love flame. Perfect love casts out any fear so the word hatred is completely inappropriate. The simple issue is that men and women are created differently and we just need to accept is and find a way to be happy. Most men cannot do without women and vice versa.

nashville read my post again were i stated that if not for sex and bearing of kids, that is what usually bring man n woman together but that dispute between both sexes is already there.

i know there is no way it can stop but we should try not kill or molest one another no matter what happened. why do you think there is FEMINISM in the world today? they are even here in nairaland, i dont want to call names.

Thank you oh Nash. Very bad sweeping generalization. OP you better stop that thinking and gnat on positives.

Do I have fracas with specific people including men? hell yes, do I hate them , absolutely not.

Ewuro707: Thank you oh Nash. Very bad sweeping generalization. OP you better stop that thinking and gnat on positives.

Do I have fracas with specific people including men? hell yes, do I hate them , absolutely not.

my guy is not what i do but what i see everyday, why do you think there is feminism in the world today?, even they are here on nairaland.

I give up on you then. Cheers

hensben:
Please fellow nairalanders kindy tell me your main reason why male and female have hatred for each other,? Why there is dispute?,why we re always free when we re with our fellows but immediately opposite gender come into our gathering,our mood n behaviour changes?.

Please, kindly tell us the main reason why you hate females.

ileobatojo:

Please, kindly tell us the main reason why you hate females.

in tu face voice hypocritical, as if ur mood dont change when you see opposite sex

ileobatojo:

??

I don't see an answer to the question.

Why do you hate females?

where do you see where i wrote i hate females? wise up my guy, them tell u say i nor get fiancee. you do this thing everyday to opposite sex but come here they form saint.