Most of the wedding I have attended in Yoruba land; including mine, why do wife's family return the bride price saying they are not selling their daughter. Is it right?

Biblically Bride price is compulsory; though most Yoruba family collect and return it immediately to groom's family.

cos dy bliv dat once u collet d bride price, u av jst sold out ur daughter. My dad also returned my sisters own.

in my family, we dont rturn to d groom/hs family. it is immediately handed ova to d bride in d presence of evry1. d bride is den advised to do sumthn worthwhile wf it as a sign of rmembrance. y i thnk it is always rturnd is mayb to b able to speak in future (case of crisis in d home) so d man won't thnk since he has paid d price, he can do anythn he so dsires wf d wyf

My sister; cousin, my wife and sister in law were returned..................

ardeywhunmmy: in my family, we dont rturn to d groom/hs family. it is immediately handed ova to d bride in d presence of evry1. d bride is den advised to do sumthn worthwhile wf it as a sign of rmembrance. y i thnk it is always rturnd is mayb to b able to speak in future (case of crisis in d home) so d man won't thnk since he has paid d price, he can do anythn he so dsires wf d wyf

Very interesting....Hearing this for the first time, it is always to the groom's family.

Omooba77:

Very interesting....Hearing this for the first time, it is always to the groom's family.

not at all, it is always to the bride

Seated in front of the auditorium,just in case we enter the frontpage

Ogbeni they must accept it when i giv them mine

Don famous: Ogbeni they must accept it when i giv them mine

my brother if you marry a yoruba lady;culture dictates it must be returned

Omooba77:
my brother if you marry a yoruba lady;culture dictates it must be returned

but i dont think it was like that b4.

The only reason why it is done is because they believe they are not selling their child

It is only the bride price other oh. Other money like owo babagbo; iyagbo; omode ile,arugbo ile..........And fruits,yam, rice, coke and things like that will be collected and shared by nuclear and extended families...............

If I hear say Igbo man return the money!!!!!! Yorubas do not sell their children unlike the igbos. From Yoruba weddings I have witnessed, the average bride price is around N10,000 coupled with yam, fruits and other little things.

My Igbo neighbor has 5 girls and he's always saying he's sending them to sch so that he can use their bride price to buy land and build a new house. The price range can be ridiculous at times.... so families even ask for cars and landed properties in choice areas. Marriage shd be a thing of joy, not a money making avenue

Chaleeee: If I hear say Igbo man return the money!!!!!! Yorubas do not sell their children unlike the igbos. From Yoruba weddings I have witnessed, the average bride price is around N10,000 coupled with yam, fruits and other little things.

My Igbo neighbor has 5 girls and he's always saying he's sending them to sch so that he can use their bride price to buy land and build a new house. The price range can be ridiculous at times.... so families even ask for cars and landed properties in choice areas. Marriage shd be a thing of joy, not a money making avenue

We need to respect other people's culture...No abuse please
Like in India,the bride's family even pay the bride price to the groom..........

cause the money is too small to be used for anything actually....















Before you start barking and biting; I am a yoruba gal

Retuning the bride price to the groom or groom's family is not a Yoruba culture, it's an individual decision.

Cos We Assume We Aren't Giving Out Our Daughter For Money.

But It Biblical To Accept Bride Price.

Omooba77:

We need to respect other people's culture...No abuse please
Like in India,the bride's family even pay the bride price to the groom..........

groom price

I like. It's the right thing to do. To check the 'excesses' of the grooms.

#teamreturnbrideprice#

Omooba77:

We need to respect other people's culture...No abuse please
Like in India,the bride's family even pay the bride price to the groom..........

Apt response, before tribal blood starts getting spilled on this thread.

I think the return of bride prices is a recent culture, it probably evolved as a result of grooms who treat their brides as a piece of property just because they paid a price

sexymoma: .

Busted! Freeze!

Emmyk:

Busted! Freeze!

Never liked d bride "price" idea

Mine was returned too. It's with my wife shaaa. Civilization is wiping away our tradition. Make we kukuma no do traditional wedding na, n face church straight..... Nonsense!

Because they will say 'we didnt sell our daughter to you o'

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Never heard about this.

It is better to return it because some grooms are fools and will start saying rubbish to the wife & brides family in the marriage thinking he has paid something that no one has paid before.Foolish grooms

My dad returned my sister's own... am gonna tell him not to return mine

If it actually means they are selling the bride, shey na that small amount of thousands naira be my value... abeg collect the money use am chop pepper soup jo

Omooba77: It is only the bride price other oh. Other money like owo babagbo; iyagbo; omode ile,arugbo ile..........And fruits,yam, rice, coke and things like that will be collected and shared by nuclear and extended families...............

Owo Aburo Iyawo.

I like!